I can't even begin to answer emails on here. First of all, I can't remember who I have talked to and such, and if someone sends me a photo, I can't remember the user name, the photo, what we have talked about, and any number of other things at the same time. To be clear, this site is overwhelming. I get too much mail, and I'm not on here much.
If you are serious about wanting to be my sub, then a couple things will stand out.
*Have a picture on your profile. Yes, I know why you don't have one. Work, family, etc. But seriously I can't remember who is who.
*If you don't have a photo on your profile, send me a photo with every single correspondence on here, and in every email if you are one of the lucky ones who gets my personal email addy.
*If you live out of my area, I am sorry, but I can't even begin to answer you when I can't keep up with local people.
*If you are over 45, I'm afraid that's outside my preference for my ideal sub. Yes, I know you would be great and perfect and make me very happy if you had the chance but since this is my preference, please respect it. I'm more of a cougar, truth be told and I tend to like subs younger than me, or around my age.
*If you aren't willing to meet in person, get lost. I do not want to waste time on here. I don't have an abundance of time as it is.
*No one liner emails! One line, "hey how r u?" emails get ignored because of the amount of emails I get already.
That being said: If you really want a chance, here's how you can get one.
- Email me respectfully. Tell me what your experience is, what you want to do, whether or not you have been a boytoy for any other Mistress before.
- Send a photo with each and every correspondence between us until I tell you to no longer do that.
- In the email you should also tell me something about yourself other than bdsm. Tell me your hobbies, if you have pets, where you see yourself in 10 years, anything!
- Keep in mind: This isn't my life, which means I'm not a 24/7 lifestyle Mistress. I do it on the weekends, in my spare time, in random places, etc. Try to understand that if we have nothing in common besides bdsm, then any time we spend together will be very limited. I want to find someone who "gets it!"
- Give me your schedule! If you are always out of town on Tuesdays, let me know! If you spend most of your evenings free except Mondays, then tell me that.
- Tell me your limits, areas you would like to explore, and things that you love doing, but please don't be one of the "do me" guys.
- Tell me why you chose to write me. I don't even have personal pictures up, so I am always curious.
- If you do all these things and we meet and hit it off, then you can someday, not today tho, make it to: The Standby list: I keep in my phone a list of numbers that I can randomly call if I need someone to _______. That means, like for instance, if last night I found myself needing a sub, I would go through my list and call or text a few to see what they were doing, and then invite them to come hang out with me and some girlfriends of mine who might also participate. Yes, I'm serious. Some of my girls are sub too though so you might get tied to one of the girls!
Okay, so if you emailed me and I didn't write back, ask yourself if you missed something on here, and if so resend the email with all of the things I have asked of you. If you are unable to do this, then you won't be a good sub for me.
Talk soon maybe :)
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