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Retired **Do you dream of being owned? - keep dreaming.**


I am NOT LOOKING FOR ANYTHING..


you Must be nearby.

you must be a US citizen

or at least have a green card.

This is part of my everyday life not just

a whim of the moment.

No Online domination, No Phone play,

No Cam play, I do not accept chat requests.

Expect to meet in person (Face to face) within

2 weeks of first contact.

I live near Ithaca NY.


I am NOT a Pro!
I am married (open marriage-more later)
I have 2 teens in the home who are NOT aware. (slaves are introduced as "friends" who enjoy helping around the farm aka farm hands")
I have Rheumatoid Arthritis (it slows me down but doesn't stop me from enjoying my horses and farm and slaves)

IF you feel the need to defend Chief CheetoFace McLittleHands, please just stop reading and click on next profile.
? I will not chase down a sub or slave.
Questions that are not covered in my main profile are welcomed.
Because of my requirements I will not often make first contact.
If you think you are even close to what I describe in my profile - feel free to contact me.
I am not a service top.
? I do not do this for tribute, roses, money or any of the latest catch phrases that are being used for money or goods exchanged for services. ? *How I prefer to be addressed*
Please do NOT refer to me as "Mistress"
Anyone wishing to chat with me is welcome to address me as Ma'am, Mz Stormz, or simply Stormz.
Some of my favorite (but it's all fun) kink activities (That aren't on the check list):
Power, Protocols,
Rituals,
oral,
worship,
Foot fetishes,
anticipatory service, key holding,
Discipline,
Teaching, Finding ways to pervert regular everyday things, Violet wand, Cautery branding..

What I desire...
You Must be a US citizen or at least have a green card. male slave or submissive. (preferably over the age of 40) .
he must have Honor, Commitment, Dedication, Loyalty, Self worth, Humor, Imagination, a good working understanding of living REAL life and enjoying BDSM D/s M/s as the subtext of that life.
He needs to be serious about wanting to live the lifestyle and willing to excel in excellence of service through submission / slavery and education.
Attention to detail is a must.
He will want the possibility of belonging as part of our family as a slave in the near future.
I will relocate NO ONE That is all on you. A live in slave will be expected to pay their own way within the household as well as provide their own insurance. (I am not going to support you financially)
I will request a face to face meeting fairly quickly.
Setting up the travel is all on you.
Age, race, and muscle tone doesn't matter but maturity, manners, dedication, cleanliness and abilities do. If you expect my undivided attention - it's not going to happen. You will need to blend into the family atmosphere stay busy when not under high level protocol.

If you are seeking to simply experiment
I am not the right Dominant for you. That IS what pros are for.
If you are a weekly party hopper, lifestyle socialite
I am not the Dominant for you. We enjoy quiet evenings - you will have to as well.
Automatic Disqualifications
NO Velcro submissives: someone way overly clingy NO Drama kings: self explanatory NO Closet submissives: Listing as Dominant but wanting to submit NO Do me "submissives" someone that has a list of things that they expect to have done to them NO One trick ponies those who only want a limited type of play NO Toilet slaves If you have been one or wish to be one - I am not interested at all. NO "littles" or an adult babies Nothing wrong with you, but it's just not my thing NO CDs, Feminizing, TVs, sissies: Sorry gurls, I enjoy men as men No Energy Vampires ? Not tolerated in our household:
NO - Acts of Jealousy NO - lies NO - Bigots, NO - Heavy drinkers NO - Smokers NO - Illegal Drugs STDS are tested for before service starts. Testing is done regularly.

If your wife/girl friend does not approve of / support your playing outside of the relationship, Do NOT bother me. IF you avoid, omit or forget to tell me you are married right up front,I WILL consider it a LIE and end contact. IF they do approve, I will expect to talk to them face to face before we play. NO exceptions.
? About Our Household We enjoy a protocol, rules, and ritual, structured, hierarchy, D/s household. We enjoy our farm, and are somewhat homebodies. We do like to attend parties and lifestyle educational events from time to time. If you are my slave, you are slave only to me. My husband is not bi.
? About our marriage I am married open marriage His profile is Scarrab He has a profile on Fetlife that is listed on my profile there. You are welcome to contact him with questions. The difference between "cheating" and an "open marriage" is that we don't lie about what we are doing, where we are doing it, and who we are doing it with to each other or to those we are considering. We are both Dominants and enjoy the lifestyle by each having our own submissives /slaves. Neither of us are bi, nor are we swingers. My husband will not own a male.

About ME
If you seek a Barbie doll , eye candy, or a porno queen... click on the next profile. (I'm 52 years old, 5'8" and 210 lbs) I do enjoy leather, getting dressed up, but I don't care about designer labels, bar hopping or weekly parties. I am more comfortable working outside in muck boots than in front of the stove.

I am NOT a service Top.
I am not doing this for money so don't expect me to be like Burger King.
? I am a sensual, sadist, reactionist who enjoys many aspects of this lifestyle, With 20+ years of being out in the kink community - I have learned many techniques, from many amazing people, and I have an imagination to twist them into a style of my own. I can teach a man to give an amazing pedicure but attention to detail must come naturally.Be a gentleman and you will catch my attention. Once agreements are made, I expect a sub or slave to want and strive to please me; I also choose to earn a sub or slave's respect and trust over time rather than just expect it to simply be given.
This lifestyle can be done with subtlety to remind a sub or slave of his status even in the most vanilla of situations on a daily basis which is "living" the lifestyle not just "playing at it"
I see BDSM as being the spice, or undercurrent of the main course of life.

Over the years my husband and I have developed a fairly sizable toy closet but the toys and trappings of the lifestyle are simply the tools used to find the deeper aspects of connection and trust that guides the soul of a submissive or slave. ? I do not do things that cause bleeding (on purpose) such as cutting or needles. (just not my thing)
? I am clear about my situation and you know yours, if you think you could fit into our lives then you are welcome to contact me.

I have more information and photos on another free site:
FETLIFE Dot Com Then simply use the search box for MzticStormz

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? These were a few of my more popular journal entries. ? I am posting them here so that you do not have to dig through ? all of my daily ramblings to find them.
? ? ? My view on the difference between submissives and slaves
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? WARNING - Controversial subject matter. ? This topic has been debated and argued over and over. When asking 100 different people about this issue, you are likely to get ? 200 different opinions. Also keep in mind that many start as a ? submissive, but with trust and the building of the power exchange and ? relationship it moves into a Master or Mistress / slave situation by ? consent of both parties. ? I am not posting this as something that is to be argued. It is my view of ? what the difference between a submissive and a slave is to me. ? This is my opinion, and only my opinion. ?
? I wish to point out that these are the two extremes. There are many, ? many shades between the two which can all be sorted out with ? time and negotiations.
? A submissive is allowed many freedoms and are able to negotiate more of the terms when it comes to ownership of property, making of personal plans. In other words a submissive can be a live in or a live out. They pay their own bills. they can own their own home, and car etc... in general they can inform their Dominant that they have made some plans for hobbies, family or other aspects in their lives. A submissive's limits are honored, If it wasn't specifically negotiated - it is off-limits, They are their own person but have the right of refusal even if it is not a "hard limit". Their future within the lifestyle as well as other personal aspects are all negotiated and allowances often made so that they may maintain a fairly normal life without having to constantly ask permission. Often a safeword is allowed in case a submissive becomes too uncomfortable in whatever situation he is put in by his Dominant. Scenes can often be postponed or stopped completely until further discussions and negotiations can be attended to. During actual punishment I do not allow a safeword but I do remind a sub of this before he is in to deeply.

? A slave is much like a horse. A horse works hard, and earns his way but owns nothing and he has no choice in the matter. His earnings go to his owner. In turn the owner uses the earnings to maintain the horse's food, health, living quarters and training. The horse has no choice in where he is going to live, how he is treated, for whom he shall perform, no choice if he is to be lent or leased out or not, or how he will be used or by whom - this is all the owner's choice. A good owner can cherish the horse, and care for him, protect him, She can lavish him with love and treats, but also if the horse acts up she will administer punishment, again it is all the owner's choice. Often even if a horse doesn't want to do something, they may be forced to do as the owner desires. In my household a slave will be in a chastity device and have no right to privacy. With that being said, I do believe that a Human slave has a right to negotiated hard limits (at the beginning of the contract only) which as an owner I will honor, but in general for a slave, if it wasn't specifically negotiated then it is NOT off-limits and a slave is not allowed a safeword.













These are the two extreme sides of submission vs slavery as I see them. I also know that every relationship is different and there are so many levels between these two extremes. Details of each relationship are what negotiations are all about. This does not always mean that the slave is naked, doesn't have hobbies, and such.. Even Horses have to have breaks and given times of "fun" in order maintain a healthy mindset. The difference in this aspect for slave vs submissive is that the owner makes the choice what hobbies a slave will have or gives permission where as with a submissive it is planned by both owner and sub and agreed upon by both. Slaves in general have a contract that lines out a time periods, rights, and details on expectations.

Also, A submissive can sign up for short stents of slavery at times.. again, negotiations are the key. I see submissives and slaves as two very different aspects of this lifestyle. ? After reading this.. Do you view yourself primarily as submissive or slave? ? MzticStormz -- rewritten July 27th, 2011
? ***************************************************** But I have a job / kids/ life / etc.... Journal Entry by MzticStormz 2008

Being in the "lifestyle" does not mean you don't have kids, a job, etc... Being in the "lifestyle" means that there are undertones to all that you do. If you are sub and your Dominant asks for a drink (even in front of the kid) you can serve Him/her with nuances of the lifestyle (such as bringing her the drink with two hands - one placed under the bottom of the glass) or making sure that your Dominant has a coaster for the drink... That is one simple example of so many things that can be infused into daily living that makes it a "Lifestyle"
BDSM or D/s doesn't have to be something that makes living in the real world with real issues impossible. It is a dance - a balance - a constant reminder of the position that you have agreed to in a relationship. Jobs, medical issues, children, while not to be interrupted or included in the BDSM D/s they can co-exist without interfering with each other.
Rituals, rules, habits, and protocols all make this possible. Just like vanilla relationships - Sex is not had in front of the children or at work..does it mean it doesn't happen? NO. Does it mean that looks are not exchanged? No. Does it mean that the couple don't do things for one another that are acceptable in public? No. Vanilla relationships are often filled with much less subtle things than the BDSM D/s lifestyle. A sub is trained to see the smallest of cues from the Dominant, where as Vanilla interactions are off the cuff and not always done on purpose.
Vanilla example -
"honey will you get me a beer? Oh and could you put it in a mug please." spouse gets the beer, brings it to spouse, and sets it on table near the Dominant. life goes on...

D/s example- Dominant gives a discreet hand signal, submissive gets beer, brings it to the Dominant served in a mug because the submissive already is trained to know how the Dominant prefers it. The submissive makes sure there is a coaster on the table but when bringing the mug to the Dominant the submissive with both hands - the submissive hesitates ever so slightly as the mug is presented quietly to the Dominant. Both parties know just what happened.

It is not about being naked 24/7 or being beaten every hour upon the hour. So I write this rant for those of you who say in your profiles - "I can't live the lifestyle because I have job, child, family obligations... (Fill in your excuse here) " Rant off. ________________________________________________ ? Just for the record, just because you are asked about your tastes, likes, dislikes, fetishes etc... it doesn't mean that they will always be accommodated. The application process is simply the beginning of getting to know you and determining if you would be a possible good candidate to fit within our household dynamic.
Keywords: submissive, slave, CBT, NT, CFNM, Strap on, strapon, pain, torture, oral, fuck, lick , upstate NY, long term, LTR, Serious, Cages, pony, puppy, kitty, pussy, cunt, yoni, foot fetish, masturbation,

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2/16/2024 10:11:00 AM

I have tried to update my profile. Many many times. I always get errors I give up. 

I am 59 as of late 2023. I will consider local slaves. 


2/11/2024 2:31:43 AM

The weather has been amazing the last few days.  Catching up on farm work in February seems really odd but I'll take it.  


1/12/2024 4:14:21 PM

Are there no local slaves looking to offer a key? 

 

Mz Stormz


9/17/2023 7:05:00 PM

Out of retirement......... looking for a local slave. 


7/13/2023 10:37:20 AM

Sond thesom.

 

My view on the difference between submissives and slaves

 

WARNING - Controversial subject matter.

 

This topic has been debated and argued over and over.

When asking 100 different people about this issue, you are likely to get

 

200 different opinions. Also keep in mind that many start as a

 

submissive, but with trust and the building of the power exchange and

 

relationship it moves into a Master or Mistress / slave situation by

 

consent of both parties.

 

I am not posting this as something that is to be argued. It is my view of

 

what the difference between a submissive and a slave is to me.

 

This is my opinion, and only my opinion.

 

I wish to point out that these are the two extremes. There are many,

 

many shades between the two which can all be sorted out with

 

time and negotiations.


 

A submissive is allowed many freedoms and are able to negotiate more of the

terms when it comes to ownership of property, making of personal plans.

In other words a submissive can be a live in or a live out. They pay their

own bills. they can own their own home, and car etc... in general they can

inform their Dominant that they have made some plans for hobbies,

family or other aspects in their lives. A submissive's limits are honored,

If it wasn't specifically negotiated - it is off-limits,

They are their own person but have the right of refusal even if it is not

a "hard limit". Their future within the lifestyle as well as other personal

aspects are all negotiated and allowances often made so that they may

maintain a fairly normal life without having to constantly

ask permission. Often a safeword is allowed in case a submissive

becomes too uncomfortable in whatever situation


5/16/2023 9:21:21 AM

Farm and or house slave desired.  Yes Chastity will be required.  Location Location, Location as they say , is everything. Sex is not my priority. Now be a good boy, contact me.


4/18/2023 10:41:51 PM

Spring is nearly here, busy season.

 

Time to get the kink on.. male slaves that are ready for ownership feel free to contact me. make it more than just one line and personal .   If I think you haven't bothered to read at least part of my profile which tells how I prefer to be addressed I won't  bother to respond to you .

Be a good slave find your manors but show me your passion for slave life. Let me know why you think a a slave like you should be in service to me.

 

The first step is contacting me, second step is meeting face to face to talk over coffee.  Your life might change. 

 

Mz Stormz

 


12/7/2022 7:12:11 AM

Rain.  It should be snow.  Nothing like chilly rainy  weather.


10/23/2022 8:35:34 PM

Im near Ithaca and Binghamton  NY.  If you are more than an hour away, it is all on you to prove that the distance  is not an issue. 

 

Mz Stormz 


10/6/2022 7:10:07 AM

male house slave needed for small farm, 

Only to be seen and heard when service required. 

This is a great position for a bit of a loner who wishes to be in service. 

No Drama.  Chores will be listed, protocols will be in place.

 A real chastity device required. 

 Not likely to attend local bdsm clubs unless there are real topics that will be presented that are of interests. 

I've run two groups, I've belonged to groups and presented at groups in approximately  6 states. I did so as I learned and helped others learn.  Since covid I now prefer private service slaves. That understand its not just about corsets whips and heels, it's control and servitude. 

If you are MAGA anything..do not apply.  I'm progressive and liberal.  

Mz Stormz


9/10/2022 5:28:18 PM

Do you wish to be owned ?


8/6/2022 11:55:26 AM

Still looking for a LOCAL male, LOCAL (as in within approximately 60 miles 13743)

Pet

Foot fetisher

Skilled  in massage 

House keeper

Handy man

True moschist 

Pick any three of the above. 

 

Ignore the *Retired* in my profile. I'm Back, and ready to own someone again.


7/16/2022 3:26:26 PM

My books were collected before there were kindle readers.  Back then reading such books in public was risky at best.  Now... it gets the cops called unless they are on kindle...


5/7/2022 8:15:51 AM

No, I wont do a distance ...anything, and no, I wont travel to you.


5/5/2022 6:59:53 AM

 

Small farm slave desired. Handyman, massage and other skills will be considered a plus. Eventual possible live in 

If you see yourself as a possible slave within an hour of  zip:  14883,  let's talk.  No long distance.


4/6/2022 3:04:57 AM

I'm very glad Journals are back but I wish profile edits were more rapidly approved.  I don't edit because I don't want my profile to be down for 6 months .

 

 


4/6/2022 2:28:51 AM

So, you think you are a slave... 

I know from experience (as an owner) what the absolute hardest part of slavery for a slave is.... Do you?


1/5/2022 12:04:12 AM

I responded to an email today in which I wrote because ai realized I am done.   I figured I would post it here being as when I try to change my profile Collar space goes into spaz outs and threatens to lock me out.


"Due to yet another year of Covid, health issues of my own, and general life, I have decided that I can no longer be a responsible Owner The desire is still there but taking a slave is a huge responsibility and time sink

I have friends and history in the kink community that I stay in touch with, which I dont delete my profiles here and on FetLife. 


So there it is folks.  Have a kinky happy life. 


~~ Mz Stormz


11/29/2021 5:45:24 AM

I need to get back into writing .   

A few things to list... 

  If you are into Q, tRump, or basically Republican, we are not likely to get along.

If you are not fully vaccinated don't bother me.

 

We are settled and doing well near Ithaca NY.  It's  a beautiful area.   We have a small hobby farm and Enjoy trying to grow things.   

Kink is a natural order of daily living add the spice. 

 

 

~~ Mz Stormz


10/22/2021 12:44:00 PM

So are journals actually back?  I've missed it.

So many things have changed since the start of covid.  I'm still not comfortable going to groups where peope are not verified as vaccinated, but I will perhaps meet in person in an outdoor setting. 

 

For the record, I still can not update my profile. 

I am seeking a farmhouse slave male. 

 

~~ Mz Stormz


12/24/2017 6:31:33 AM
Merry Christmas and Happy Beatings to y'all.

12/7/2017 1:47:11 PM
Interesting lock. https://www.thegrommet.com/tapplock

9/4/2017 11:39:50 AM
So it seems that there comes a time that no matter the knowlege and years accumulated and the desires that were once there,,, can not over shadow the bullshit and drama. I am taking a break ..(again) in hopes that things will seem better later. (Although I sincerely doubt it)..... I am fed up with "no shows", "I want it my ways" and simply the dishonest assholes. . . . I will take someone special and willing to work his ass off to be a part of my life (No I will not compromise my way of living you will have to be the one to adjust.). . . . . In the mean time, my life is peaceful without the drama lama living on my doorstep.. . . . . Peace ~~~Mz Stormz ~~~

8/18/2017 5:51:52 PM
10 things that don't exist ... A good write up by a Dominatrix http://therumpus.net/2014/08/lessons-i-learned-as-a-dominatrix-10-things-that-dont-exist/

8/7/2017 9:16:21 AM
I will only be keeping my profile here in order to stay in contact when fetlife crashes from time to time. Good luck and be well all. Mz Stormz

7/16/2017 8:01:34 PM
I believe the hardest lesson a slave has to master is waiting. It sounds simple but waiting, quietly without fidgeting possibly for long periods of time. This tests even the most hard core slaves. ~~~~ Mz Stormz

7/8/2017 9:31:38 AM
As a slave /submissive, you will be expected to adjust and fit into my household. I will not adjust my household to fit you.

7/6/2017 6:39:10 AM
I do NOT expect tribute, money or gifts.. I expect something tremendously more valuable, your time. If you are not willing to dedicate your time.... Move along. ~~~ Mz Stormz

6/24/2017 5:09:38 AM
!!! ATTENTION ATTENTION !!! Potential submissive or slave read:

Are you local? Contact me. There is no need to read the rest of this entry.

Back to those who are at a distance:? you say you wish to be owned, but you currently live over 100 miles away.. ( I live near Ithaca Ny - google map )

your life is in for a big change... Are you ready??Seriously...Do you wish to live some of the fantasy,? Do you need to serve??

I will NOT move you directly into my home. If you are serious, you will visit for a coffee / discussion meeting.

If we choose to move forward, then you must relocate nearby within a month to 6 weeks.

you will be expected to become part of my household.
you must have a cell phone (preferably a smart phone)
you must own (for now) your own reliable transportation.

It takes 6 month to a year of consideration, training, and service before I will fully claim (officially collar)?a submissive or slave.

In that 6 months to a year he will be trained in the ways of our household, protocols, and general service. He will be gradually introduced/integrated into my home but he will need to have a place of his own during the consideration period. (He must actually earn his place among my household and to be called mine.)

During this time I will be the key holder of chastity device. (Metal device preferred)

- - - If you can't/won't do this, then don't waste either your time or mine.

?? This is an excellent opportunity for someone who is serious about becoming owned property, who has few family ties, who has enough of an income for his essetials. Prove you are serious. Words mean little if they are not backed by actions.

~~~ Mz Stormz

Someone really needs to develop a transporter so that distance can be a non-issue.



6/17/2017 7:00:00 PM
http://brian618.whyayh.com/mirror/bdsmlearningcenter/basics/nine_levels_of_submission.html

If I go by this rating system, then I am seeking at the least a level 7. A level 8 or 9 is preferred.


~~~ Mz Stormz

4/20/2017 9:21:21 AM
Rant warning:
I have met with many over the years.. Some have had the opportunity to meet my sadist non-public side.
A few have seen me angry and it is not a way to live life so I try to avoid "angry" but this twerp pissed me off.

I met with a man for just a coffee and a bit of chat. He contributed very little to the conversation and was very quiet. The meeting lasted less than an hour. He would not enter the building which I found odd but I chalked it up to nerves and or shyness.

After I got my coffee we walked across the street to a small but public park that runs along side of the road overlooking the river.

I told him how our family works, I told him of my own hard limits.
I told him that I believe in strict protocols that differ in public vs private.
As I said before he contributed little to nothing to the conversation.
The questions I asked were vanilla in nature other than his limits and fetishes.
(He had a few limits and claimed no real "fetishes")

I gave him time to process and followed up with him 2 days later he says, "Bad match" because you are "to nice" (Yes, this is where the rant really starts) Really!?! Fuck you.

   Why the hell do men think I should be a raving bitch on the first meeting? I get that may be a fantasy but this is reality not a fantasy on a first meeting! I am not going to walk up to you and demand anything, not a kneel, not a "drop dick" no kiss - nothing more than a possible hand shake from you at a first time public meeting. I use "please" and "Thank you" because it is in PUBLIC, I'm southern, and it is polite. (Even a please or thank you can be scary in private depending upon intent)

If you plan to meet me, know this up front:
1) there will be NO "play" on a first meeting -NONE I don't know you and you have not earned the right to see my sadist self...yet.
2) we are there to discuss possibilities.
3) I'm not the boss of you...yet
4) IF YOU EXPECT ME TO BE A BITCH ON THE FIRST MEETING .. DON'T FUCKING SET A MEET WITH ME. (THAT IS YOUR FANTASY NOT MINE) I will do as I please and take things at the rate I choose. You do not set the pace. If you disagree with that no meeting is needed.(how is that for "bitchy"?)

I am going to be "me" on a normal regular day as I am with friends, neighbors and even people I don't know. ~~~ Mz Stormz. ~~~

now to go eat some Chinese food and enjoy time with my kids. *peace*

4/10/2017 8:21:46 PM
The sweeter a southern woman sounds and the longer tone of her drawl is....more than likely equals the depth the hole you dug for yourself.

4/9/2017 6:06:59 AM
New term I heard the other day....


Hobosexual: Someone who gets into relationships to avoid homelessness.

4/4/2017 11:57:02 AM
While I do what I can to help those that are new, sometimes some of the simplistic and basic questions are asked out of laziness.

This post explains many frustrations of people who have been in doing this a while. https://fetlife.com/users/3768339/posts/4374653

4/3/2017 8:43:11 PM
If you have wondered what a collar means.. It's importance, read this...

https://fetlife.com/users/73973/posts/4374013#post_comment_18026761

3/20/2017 2:35:58 PM
Pet peeve alert: People, pay attention to the background in your photos. If you are a slob with dirty underwear and crap in the background do you REALLY think I am going to want that type of service in my home? If you are wearing a stained tee shirt do you REALLY think I want you to be taking care of my clothes? If you have a hairbrush full of hair or a dirty bathrrom sink in the foreground do you REALLY think that I want that as a sub/slave? The photos you share are to at least show Me and other Dominants something about you that is desirable. Sloppy, dirty, stained is NOT appealing! (socks that were once white but now mud colored - ewww !) Rant off.

3/10/2017 2:53:43 PM
I wrote this about 5 years ago. I feel like it just needs to be re-posted. Perhaps I will add it to the bottim of my profile as well. skipping on the surface....... Journal Entry- over 5 years ago In the past few days I have "spoken" (emailed) a couple of folks and have had some very interesting discussions. One has had experience.. and the other is just starting on his journey. The conversations were vastly different.. the first - we talked of the depth, cravings and subspace the need to serve and give of himself.. the second was asking me what I thought about a video which was of a couple of kink porn stars doing various acts. I am not trying to run off the newbie but after so many things being brought up that he wants.. his ideas..his...his.. his.. I sort of went off on a rant but in a way that I hope that helps him to understand why my answers were short or non-committal in the past.. I ended up copying some of the conversation I had with the first.. into the rant with the second, so in the end it came through as an interesting email which caused me to work and think about it.. So I figured I would post it here...enjoy. Letter as follows: There are many many videos out there.. I have never found one that I enjoy. Learn from yes..enjoy not so much.. Most are done in a way that they seem ed to me. My style is such that it depends on many many factors... the sub, the experience of the sub, the mood I am in, the toys I have on hand, the safety equipment I have on hand. A scene can be so mild that it can be done in front of vanillas, or as extreme that men cross their legs and cringe. I do know that I could play in a way that you could handle it and I would find pleasure within the scene but I would be holding back and building you up over time.. it takes time.. I have been doing this for 18 years I have built up a lot of skills. What I don't care for is being given a laundry list of what a man wants to try, or have done to him. I also have no patience for those that are just getting into this who seek it as kinky sex. I am not saying that sex is not involved..but there is much more depth to be enjoyed from an almost spiritual aspect that is there for the discovering. I live my life in a way that incorporates the power structure and exchange. I have no way to describe subspace, power exchange, floating, and all of the depths of this to anyone that has not experienced it themselves. There are no words to explain all of the emotions that transpire. I can not tell you how many times that I have told people, The toys, the games the role-plays, the parties, the munches the clothes, boots etc... are not what we are striving for.. it is the depth of soul, emotion, and self. ..the rest are just the tools to find those. Subspace is what I seek for my sub or slave... I know well when a sub or slave is in that "starving" moment and for me, that is when he gives me (again for the lack of a better deion ) his soul. His power, his being. which is by far the best, deepest, most enduring part of the power exchange for me.. I in that moment am his world, and he is mine. He accepts and craves me ..even with all my perversions, or perhaps because of them.. I am able to share with him the side of myself that no one else sees because of that acceptance.. How could I not adore and crave him as much as he craves me because of that? I love the intensity of this exchange, want, need, cravings, adoration, and depth. I hope that this helps you to understand where I come from when I am trying to talk to you and help you understand some of the aspects of this lifestyle and why I don't talk about specific "acts" within the lifestyle.. You being so new are skipping a rock over the surface without considering what is involved in the depths .. I understand this..and if this is how you wish to remain ..More power to you.. But try to understand why I find it hard to talk about the surface when I am in the deep end and enjoying every moment of it. If you seek this knowledge be patient ..it will come if you seek to give of yourself rather than what is in it for you. Mz Stormz

3/9/2017 9:24:20 AM

*Sigh*  I think this needs to be repeated.   

If you learned about this lifestyle due to watching/reading Shades of Gray..  You know NOTHING of this lifestyle.

While I am on my bit of rant,  subs/slaves that are at a distance from me who think that I will just move you into my home without ever meeting you face to face.. You need to take your crazy helmet in for an adjustment!

My home is my sanctuary I will not risk some fool coming in here and blowing up the drama.
  It takes time to integrate the RIGHT person into a family situation and it has to be done gradually.  The sub/ slave has to prove that he is right for the position and he is basically applying for.

~~~ Mz Stormz


3/3/2017 9:18:00 AM
While this is not a news report on the lifestyle persay it is a good example of how a lady in charge (in this case The Queen herself) can signal subtly to those in her service that she wishes someting to be done. http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/style/how-the-queen-uses-her-handbag-to-send-secret-signals-to-her-staff/ar-AAnLjbb?ocid=ob-fb-enus-280

2/21/2017 4:57:59 PM
Consent, and what drves it. https://fetlife.com/users/17466/posts/4279712

2/21/2017 2:27:01 PM
Lately I have been asked how long I have been in the lifestyle.
That is difficult to answer.   The reason I say this is because at 16 I tied up an 18 year old playing around. We both had a great time as I teased and played.  A few days later he told all his buddies what had happened and I was the freak of the neighborhood.   I had no clue what I was doing or what I was.
 That didn't stop me.  I did things then that I know now were "wrong" (although I didn't do permanent damage that I know of)

In 1997 I stepped out into my first real munch.  I looked around at all the people that were freakier than me and thought "I'm home."   From that night forward I have learned from so many amazing people, about techniques, mental and physical aspects, about myself and the boys I adore.

17 years ago after dating for 3 years I married my Husband who is also a Dominant.  We figured out fairly quickly and a few bumps in the road that it would be best if we each had slaves of our own with open honest communications.  We have an amazing loving marriage and we enjoy (as well as love others too).

So, while I actually started Dominating at 16, I didn't start to understand until my fellow freaks showed me the ropes, chains, paddles, wax, whips, ........... The list goes on and on... *little wicked grin*

~~~ Mz Stormz



2/21/2017 11:40:37 AM
For the more extreme side of slavery, Google: Ms Ingrid Bellemare . While I understand it and appreciate her ideas, I agree with only parts of them.

2/17/2017 9:11:46 PM
http://www.leatherviews.com/ Once past the "warning be an adult" page, click on the kinky info tab and scroll down to all kinds of amazing info links. Such as this one: http://www.leatherviews.com/kinkyinfo/9634.htm This is an amazing collection of writings by a Leather man living the lifestyle. He is a gay male but if you pay attention there is so much to learn of the power exchange, general insights and emotion depth. Enjoy, ~~~ Mz Stormz

2/17/2017 3:59:19 PM

There are often times that I leave CS running in the background on my computer, and get distracted doing other things. In otherwords it might show that I am "online" when actually it is just my computer or phone getting it's rocks off While I am woking on other things.

If you send a message and I dont answer right away, don't get your panties all in a wad. I will answer when I have time. Be patient boy!

~~~ Mz Stormz

2/14/2017 3:41:41 PM
I find it interesting how many wish to be "owed". They wax poetic and say so many of the right things but when asked, "Are you seeking a potential RL, LT relationship?" The reply is, "oh I'm just looking for part time service." .... Next!

2/7/2017 11:45:22 AM
I have done my best to not speak of political issues here but today they confirmed a horrible person to head Education. Fuck with me I get annoyed, Fuck with the needs of my kids and kids all across America, I am Momma Bear pissed off. So I say this here and now, If you are any sort of a CheetoFace McLittleHands and BamBamObannon supporter... Just move on. I have no use for your dumb ass. Edit to add: After today and the reprehensible Repubs selectivity enforcing "rules" and putting $$ ahead of morals... If you still plan to vote for republicans (especially if you live in KY) GO SCREW YOURSELF. #RESIST ~~~ Mz Stormz

1/31/2017 3:31:51 PM
Interesting: a place to buy contracts F/m contract drawn up by an attorney. https://bdsmcontracts.org/mistress-slave-contract/?utm_source=Fetlife&utm_medium=Banner&utm_campaign=image8

1/31/2017 12:56:37 PM
Sometimes (more often than not) it is the small things in life that make me happy. Today after working outside a bit in the cold and snow I came in and took a long hot shower. Afterwards I had a fairly new egyptian cotton bath sheet. It is a huge towel and so soft and absorbent, and it occurred to me that it is the things that I use daily (like fine towels and nice sheets) that I find I enjoy. I don't wear jewelery much, and I don't dress up often (unless it is a lifestyle conference), and I'm not picky about cookwere or such. A big fluffy bathsheet (and I couldn't care less if it matches anything else) is my "diamond". Yah I know, a bit of an odd topic , but I am sure everyone has their small thing that they simply enjoy. ~~~Mz Stormz

1/30/2017 6:28:38 PM
A good link discussing rituals. They are wriiten M/f but use your imagination to modify for F/m. http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/02/rituals-work-practice/ This site has so much info... Enjoy. http://www.seekers.org.uk/index.html

1/27/2017 10:48:21 AM
So. There are days when I simply feel like my normal self. Relaxed and in charge. I often am told that I am "nice", "sweet" and even (though it is rare),"kind". Then there are other times when I feel like a hunttress on the prowl. During those times I seem to truly intimidate men. The hunttress is primal, cruel, out for her own causes which can cause men to cringe as they are the prey. The hunttress takes and uses until satified no amount of pleading or begging will penetrate until her desires are quelled.
Only a few have met the huntress as She is let out to play only when I know the slave is mine, for keeps.?

~~~ Mz Stormz

1/24/2017 3:21:49 PM
This would good for anyone who wished to serve http://www.asiabutleracademy.com/butler-service-training

1/23/2017 2:52:06 PM
Reflexology foot massage http://www.holistic-back-relief.com/reflexology-foot-massage.html I have different positions, some of these are not useful for men, but for those that are curious here ate some slave "positions" with photos. http://www.frugaldomme.com/esoteric/techni12.htm General bdsm collar meanings http://thebondedgiraffecom.ipage.com/traditional-meanings-of-various-collars/ Annnd for the more extreme (further into the relationship) Types of branding (I do not use strike method) http://www.bodyplay.com/bodyplay/online/

1/22/2017 6:29:17 PM
Basic pegging wesite. Good for beginners pn both sides of the slash. http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2011/10/reiteration-day/ 7 ways to worship the woman in a flr http://lovingflr.com/7-ways-to-worship-the-woman-you-love/ Sensual massage http://www.menprovement.com/how-to-give-a-sensual-massage/ How to eat pussy... Here ya go boys, no excuses not to know how. http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/eatpussy/

1/22/2017 5:58:49 PM
Becoming a slave is not where one "starts". Usually (once the formalities of getting to know each other a bit) a man offers his submission. Over time that submission becomes deeper with trust (on bot sides of the slash) and that is when the line between submission and slave become blurred. Both parties involved negotiate for success. Often the rules, protocols, and time for training are very similar. ~~~ Mz Stormz

1/18/2017 9:42:14 AM
A man travelled 4.5 hours to meet. He is delightful, and oh so sexy. We have a lot in common but some extreme polar opposite (political mostly) views on some important issues. Many may wonder why this is an issue at all. It is an issue if it is potentially a flashpoint in a longterm, daily living kind of way. Kink if lived with on a consistent basis is an under current of daily life. Major clashes of strong belief differences can cause resentments and even though a sub or slave may give up his views.. The point is he must make that choice before he is to sign up for the potential long term avoid such issues in the future. Not an easy thing to do. ~~~ Mz Stormz. I still seek a local submissive / slave.

1/17/2017 5:04:53 AM
I finally found a wonderful place to get a pedicure and nails done. Long story short, it has been a long time since I had them done professionally. To say I've missed it is an understatment. It was with great difficulty that I kept from making inappropreate noises! ~~~ Mz Stormz

1/11/2017 12:53:38 PM
I agree with most of these - 33 Things Every Submissive Man Needs to Know http://www.omisspearl.com/nonfiction/33-things-every-submissive-man-know/

1/9/2017 3:02:57 PM
This is a link to Scarrab's "about me" it tells of our household through his eyes. https://fetlife.com/users/67272/posts/506973

1/5/2017 1:58:02 PM
I had a coffee meeting today with a delightful sub/slave. What a charmer! Even if nothing comes of it I see at the very least an easy going friendship maybe more in the future. Thank you (you know who you are) ~~~ Mz Stormz

1/4/2017 8:13:34 PM
Bdsm slavery reality Here is an interesting read .. Written by a female slave but it can apply to slaves of any gender. http://bestslavetraining.com/articles-stories-poems/want-slavery/

12/31/2016 3:10:10 PM
Wishing you a Wonderfully Kinkfilled New Year! ~~~ Mz Stormz ~~~

12/30/2016 3:22:32 PM
I felt this was well written so I obtained permission to repost it. Thank you Roughgem. False Assumptions & Beliefs about Kink People, and tumblr and porn make assumptions about Kink, Femdom, and BDSM all the time. Here are the ones that drive me nuts. ( if you don?t agree.. rant on your own blog) 1. It?s not about sex, It?s all about sex.. .. It?s about service, it is about anticipating your dominants needs before they express it, its about sex, however, actually having it is solely at the Dominants discretion. It is about adoration, protection, and honoring your partner for what they give, and what you take.. 2, We all wear fetish clothes! We do not need to be dressed in Latex and leather to dominant someone, nor are we typically. Those outfits are typically uncomfortable, and not conducive to play, and reserved for parties and such. Being dominant and having a fetish for certain types of clothing are two different things and are mutually exclusive, and often don?t go together. 3. We all look like supermodels.. Hmph.. Really, have you been to a kinky party, club? Most of us are average looking folks with every body type under the sun. In fact the model images you see on Tumblr are rare to see in reality. 4. Everyone in Chasity, has a small dick, and never ever gets to fuck... BULLSHIT! They are at the beck and call of their owner to do whatever they want? and many get out to be fucked a hell of a lot. 5. You have to deny your submissive sex and have a side lover. C'mon folks.. many people are content with their primary partner, and many aren?t.. Who cares. This originates in the notion that being submissive is unmanly and undesirable, and it total rubbish. Submissive men make excellent lovers, because they take direction. If your not wanting to advocate and speak out for your own pleasure and enjoyment to them ladies, perhaps you are not that dominant. Men can?t read minds, tell them how you like it, if you don?t know.. experiment until you do! this leads to?? 6. That Mistresses should never be vulnerable or let their subs make love to them of fuck them. I do not understand why people chose to deny themselves pleasure and happiness. It is ok to be vulnerable, you are human, having/expressing emotions does not make you a submissive, anymore than fucking makes you dominant. 7. That all dominant women are male hating female supremacists, who need to micromanage all the little wanking men.. Fuck that!.. I love men?.. and most are good guys. If you feel that you have to micromanage and monitor someones activities of daily living.. I?m sorry, but they are not submissive. Female Superiority can be part of Domination but not the same 8. That men who cross-dress are gay, fags, and really want to be dominated by men, crave BBC and real women don?t consider them desirable, because they are not man enough?. BULLSHIT! Many women I know have husbands and lovers that cross-dress for the humiliation aspect of it, at the direction of their wives.. or for simply the fetishistic enjoyment of the clothes, or to be our lesbian lovers for the evening. They still have times when the are in boy mode, and/or girl mode.. it depends on the dominants mood. 9. That being a sadist means you have to leave a person looking like hamburger meat.. Please.. you can torment a consenting individual with just a thought, and a few well chosen words. One of my biggest gripes is the unsafe and unhealthy sadistic scenes I see depicted in images. This scares off the newbies, and make people question exploring kink. 10. That everyone can be kinky.. you can?t make someone kinky, Kink isn?t easy, in fact it is harder than most vanilla relationships, because it order for it to be good and work, you have to be able to compatible outside of the kink and within the kink. If you really want your needs to be met you have to focus on the other persons needs above your own.. at the same time you must be completely free to honestly express & communicate your own needs and desires.. If both people are doing so, and one take the leads and the other follows, you have a symbiotic relationship that is healthy. You should be able to laugh together, drink a cuppa tea, and cuddle,go out the dinner with friends, come home and fuck, peg, be locked up in chastity, teased and tormented, worshiped and adored. .. Is it easy? NO!.. It is hard enough to find compatibility outside of kink, let alone within in. Reposted with the permission of: Manatyrservice on fetlife

12/30/2016 2:01:55 PM
Going out tonight to a good place to watch the UFC 207 ! Update: Rousey's face was a punching bag.

12/29/2016 2:16:51 PM
Well, Saturday plans canceled. Boooo! I was looking forward to meeting him. Oh well. Thank you (you know who you are) for letting me know in advance. Maybe things will work out in the future.

12/25/2016 5:42:51 AM
One of my own writings (posted on Fetlife) https://fetlife.com/users/90177/posts/776881

12/25/2016 1:32:56 AM
A good write up on unrealistic expectations that subs develop. http://seekers.org.uk/Unrealistic%20Expectations.html

12/24/2016 10:13:55 AM
A good write up on protocols and rituals. http://bdsmthenakedtruth.com/bdsm-articles/protocols-rituals

12/23/2016 8:19:31 AM
Made slight changes to my profile today. Cleaned up as many of the diamnd question marks as I could. Cleaned up some of the repetitve statements. Made the search for a slave clearer.? I have posted this for the date stamp.

Mz Stormz

12/22/2016 4:08:36 AM
So, after several emails a man (who's basic experience is mostly sessions with pros) sent this: "I would love to experience a real domme ,not a pro . where every decision is not in my control, but I have to submit to my dommes every demand." I see this so often and I cringe (not in a good way). In real life a slave has to be able to think on his feet. Yes there is a control factor but a slave has choices (would the owner prefer jeans or a dress today?) The slave would need to know the activities scheduled for the day in order to may a proper choice. A slave who has to be micro-managed is not an asset to the owner. The only way a slave learns about the Mistress is spending time for training. In a slave's training, s/he is also encouraged to add to the service (be innovative in service) Example: the Owner is in the shower, slave can mindlessly stand at ready to towel owner off, or slave can run and warm the towel in the dryer. The cetch here is that slave had better be back in place by the time owner is ready to step out. An innovative slave would run toss a towel in the dryer, come back with another towel just in case the orginal towel is not ready in time. (I'm sure there are other solutions but that is not the point here) A slave would only know how long an owner's showers are due to experience and time spent getting to know these things about Owner. So when a person says "a real domme" and " where every decision is not in my control" it makes my skin crawl. I dont want or need a slave that is brainless or that has to be micro-managed. He is there to serve Me, not to be a pain in my ass. IMO, Reality vs FANTASY is the difference between someone who lives this vs someone who plays at it.

12/18/2016 7:42:18 PM
It seems that when answering e-mail here, while using my phone to do so, Collarspace drops all formatting. It is a bit annoying!.

12/2/2016 12:30:48 PM
Small rant warning:

Yes I am seeking a slave. NO I will NOT move a total stranger into my home. (That would be fucking stupid.)

If you seek slavery you will need to be near enough that I can get to know you and go through the steps of trust building. I love the serenity of my home / farm.

I will Not risk that by bringing in just anyone. You will have to prove yourself over time!


~~~ Mz Stormz ~~~

12/2/2016 6:25:01 AM
I have had several queries and comments on the subject of a recent journal entry. Just to be clear, the boy that I spoke of recently is NOT  "under consideration".

He is a delight and I enjoyed our play but he is so new to this that he has a lot to think about. He has to decide how deeply in this lifestyle pool he wishes to swim. He may simply want part time play or he may go deeper but until he is more sure of his own desires and goals and future path, he will not be offered a collar of mine (other than for temporary play / sceneing purposes).


Long story short, I am still seeking a potential slave.


~~~ Mz Stormz ~~~

11/27/2016 8:00:32 AM
Mmmmm a wonderful evening.

It felt really good to break out the toy bags and such a yummy sweet slutty sub to enjoy.

He is new so I put protocol to the side (in general) and delighted in exploring his edges. I believe he can and will go far. His natural submissiveness inspired my Dominace (such deliciousness) He needs direction, training and dicipline to fit into a future with me. His actions will over time will reveal his depth of devotion.

~~~ Mz Stormz ~~~ Time will tell.

11/16/2016 10:48:54 AM
Yesterday morning I met with a potential sub.  He was a breath of fresh air.  He is new so excited and for now I am trying not to overwhelm him with too much information to fast.   We will be taking things step by step (and it will be good for me to go back to some of the basics)  


 I am looking forward to the day when he may be kneeling at my feet.  Time will tell.


~~~  Mz Stormz ~~~


10/3/2016 12:52:55 PM
Wth, lately I have had several who write me asking questions then deleting their accounts before I have time to answer them? What is the purpose???

8/30/2016 9:05:41 PM
Due to my being busy with farm and family it sometimes takes me awhile to answer emails. Tonight I typed out a long answer to a person who has asked thought provoking questions several times over the last year or so. Once I finished and hit send, I found that he had blocked me. Perhaps it was a mistake or a CS glitch... I wont call him out as he has always in the past been respectful of my time. ~~~ Mz Stormz ~~~

5/13/2016 9:08:35 AM
This has taken me a few days to wrap my head around so that I could write about it. I had been "talking" to a "sub" male for about 2 weeks. He told me that he is in an open marriage and his wife is willing to meet with me to discuss his service as well as limits that she would wish to impose. We discuss many more things and I determine that we might be able to work things out even though the distance is a bit more than I desire. He is retired so could visit for a few days at a time. I am thinking "Great! Let's meet!" So the sub rents a suite at a local B&B and we set a date/ time. They have decided to visit the area and see some of the beautiful sites while here. I won't go into what safety measures I set up as the details don't matter here. I agreed to meet them at the B&B which is vanilla run and I knew there would be people around. Sooo. I show up at the B&B and the wife invites me in. She seems nervous but she is polite. After a few pleasantries of getting settled we talk about my farm, the area, their trip, their pets, etc... I am kind of waiting to see how his wife wants to approach the subject of her husband's service. The husband finally breaks the subject and starts to tell me how this is a part of his life that he needs. I quickly notice a huge change of body language of the wife, and I know something was not right. I let the husband ramble on for a while just so I could observe the interaction and to see what I'm dealing with. The husband takes a breath so I look at him and say, "I would like to hear your wife's thoughts on this now" "He only told me about this last night! After we arrived here!" [keep in mind that he has brought her 4 hours away from home, friends and family] He had only told her that it was a vacation before "he broke the truth" as to what the "vacation" really was. I ran the gambit of emotions from Anger (at him), pity for her. I normally would have gotten up and left at this time, but she was trying to understand why he did this to her (because he is a selfish prick, but that was beside the point) I told off the husband and made it quite clear that she deserved sssso much better. Then I turned to her and let her ask her questions. 2 hours later after answering many of what society perceives of what we do (the extremes and fears of the taboo) as well as some of the why do we do what we do. The conferences, years of seminars and experience helped me to help her to at least let her know that he is not as much a freak as she feared (He retained his selfish, lieing, manipulative, prick status) I explained how important consent is to our way of living. I then turned to him and explained (with her listening) how what he had done was not only disrepectful but he had actually taken away her consent in this matter. He hadn't considered his manipulation in this context. She had no choice as he had taken it from her. Yet she treated me with dignity and grace. I think she actually enjoyed it when I verbally mangled her husband. I hate that I was any part of the pain caused by the prick, but I hope that I was able to help her to understand that She is an amazing woman and I truely hope she leaves him. She deserves so much better. At the very least I hope that she insistes upon him treating her repectfully in the future. ~~~ Mz Stormz ~~~ It's not how we make mistakes , but how we correct them that defines us.[word porn]

4/9/2016 4:54:19 AM
I am loving upstate Ny! Our small hobby farm is gradually getting put together as I hoped. I am looking forward to kinking it up a bit perhaps with the help of a good slave or sub. (just to be clear I am still seeking a long term regular service slave or sub.) It seems that remodeling is second only to torturing a slave as stress relief. Life is good. Mz Stormz

7/1/2015 6:08:42 PM
The coop is mostly finished, just details left. The rain kind of drowned the garden..for now. We did get a fence built before the rains but still have a lot of old ones to fix. All in all life is quieting down a bit ...for now.

5/9/2015 4:17:24 AM
This is an extremely busy time of year, new garden, yard work, fences to build and mend, new chicks (the feathered kind), coop to build, as well as keeping up with daily chores. So if I don't respond as quickly as usual, be patient. ~~~ Mz Stormz ~~~

3/11/2015 8:29:45 AM
If you prefer city life or don't understand living simply on a small farm and the work it involves, please feel free not to contact me.

2/17/2015 11:36:05 AM
25 Facts About BDSM That You Wont Learn In Fifty Shades Of Grey.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?bffb&utm_term=4ldqpgy&s=mobile

2/14/2015 1:50:34 PM
IF YOU LEARNED ABOUT THE LIFESTYLE FROM SHADES OF GRAY, PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT ME.

7/26/2014 5:11:36 AM
We are finally moved into our new place. Unpacking is going slowly. Farm life agrees with me though, I finally feel like I can breathe again.

4/16/2014 8:28:14 AM
We finally have our plans in place and should be moving into our own home by mid July. (Yes it has all sorts of possibilities for dungeon space) and of course room for a garden or 3. I'm looking forward to getting back on track with life...and kink. Stormz

10/16/2013 6:52:19 AM

Topping from the bottom and just being pushy, self important and obnoxious are different animals.

 

Topping from the bottom implies that there was an agreement of power exchange between two people. The person on the bottom side of the equation has manipulated to get an advantage on the person of the top side of the equation.   This can be done on purpose or by accident and it is up to the top to either redirect the action or put a stop to it if it is done over and over again.

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Pushy, self important and obnoxious people are everywhere and think that they can get what they want simply but continually pinging upon their targeted person until they wear them down.  They are vampires of energy and a waste of time as far as I am concerned.


I don't allow people into my life that are energy vampires.  I simply don't have the desire to put up with them.

 

Mz Stormz


10/1/2013 9:40:17 AM

My life is busy.  I have my priorities in line.  I will not conform to a sub; he will have to find a way to fit into my life in a useful way.   I'm not about designer clothes or shoes,  so if your fetish is all about those things... more power to you but I neither need or want them so feel free to continue your search... 


7/26/2013 7:51:38 PM
Wow.. in the less than 5 minutes on the phone with a prospective.. I was called "Kiddo" ,"Smiley" and "dear". (The "Smiley"and "dear" came after I let him know that I didn't care for the "Kiddo") I called off the first meet due to all the nick names and the condesending tone ( "ask your husband. He will understand the nicknames" he said) The next morning I get a note telling me that he didn't know he was suppose to follow a D/s protocol since I am not his Mistress. Common courtesy is not D/s protocols. Stormz

7/23/2013 7:34:26 AM

Humnnn , 

 

I am on my deck (which is on the second floor),  feet propped up on the railing,   There is a soft warm rain, and two trees just across the yard within view.   It would sure be a nice addition to the view  to have a slave tied between them blindfolded with just the sound of nature around. 

I wonder how long I would enjoy sitting here watching him before I felt the urge to stroll down and "play"

 

 

   Stormz


7/15/2013 2:52:48 PM
I attended a party on Friday evening. For such a new venue it was a wonderful place and a beautiful drive getting there. The host was very kind and welcoming. The atmosphere of the fellow kinksters made it a delightful evening. I look forward to meeting more new friends and shareing many kinky adventures in the future. Thank you to all the folks who put in the hard work to make this such a wonderful event! Mz Stormz

7/4/2013 6:08:09 AM
Happy 4th of July weekend! The holiday where finding alternative uses for sparklers is a favorite game. *grin*

6/30/2013 9:25:19 AM

It has been a long while since I posted here. There have been many changes. A relocation, a new family member and my being much happier all around are just a few. I still am seeking a sub but now that life is settling down into wonderfullness (is that a word?) My search for a local sub man is back on. While I miss some of the people in Texas.. I don't miss the heat, humidity, fire ants or mosquitos at all! I am currently lounging on my deck in beautiful weather. Enjoying the sounds of nature around me. To my friends, this is an amazing area ...feel free to come visit. To potential subs/ slaves I have plenty of room for (approximatly 40 acres) for many kinds of play.


2/15/2013 11:24:32 AM
Finally starting to get settled into the new place. Loving it so far.

9/14/2012 10:42:46 AM

Due to family / personal obligations I am not going to be able to attend BR.


9/11/2012 10:28:42 AM

Only 24 Days Left Until BR 25! !


7/19/2012 9:17:41 AM

I am so looking forward to Black Rose XXV !    www.brevent.org

 


7/9/2012 9:29:33 PM

Due to personal family issues I have had my profile hidden recently.  I am turning it back on for now, but I may re- hide it in the near future.  The latest news is that I and my family are moving to upstate NY soon.   I am looking forward to real seasons, streams, waterfalls and wildlife.  I won't miss the heat for endless weeks, humidity, fire ants and massive swarms of mosquitoes.


6/11/2012 5:24:19 PM

You are not a submissive or slave to me until we BOTH agree to that sort of power dynamic.     I am not your Mistress, until I agree to be.  Until then I will do my best to be respectful, treat you as a fellow human and I will be as polite as possible. I do not believe that being a BITCH is the same thing as being a Dominant.

So if you expect me to be bossy, bitchy, not use please or thank you before we have come to such agreement....then please feel free to move along to the other profiles. While I have a dominant type personality I can do so and still be polite and Only a privileged few get to see the "Mistress" side of me. 


6/11/2012 12:33:06 PM

The heat wave has started ..already.  Heat indexes over 100 degrees are just ridiculous.   It makes one want to either do nothing but hide in the air conditioning or go swimming..  It is going to be a loooooooong summer.


5/31/2012 4:53:34 PM

The next large event I am attending is  http://www.brevent.org/


5/25/2012 7:26:26 PM

The History of Memorial Day :  http://www.usmemorialday.org/backgrnd.html


5/21/2012 5:56:36 AM

A weekend of mowing, doing odd jobs,  grilling out..  and hitting a movie.. not bad

 


5/9/2012 5:50:32 AM

Year end functions.  finishing up the spring cleaning.. getting things lined up to do over the summer with the kiddo.


5/8/2012 10:25:34 AM

spring cleaning!  


5/2/2012 12:09:42 PM

Much better finally!   Now to catch up on all the crap I put off while we we were all recuperating.


4/24/2012 5:39:33 AM

I tend to try to respond to notes quickly, but I have a nasty cold and now my family has also come down with it.  Please be patient I will answer when I am feeling better.   Thank  you


4/21/2012 8:41:37 AM

I am not so insecure that I feel the need to be a bitch, demanding, or cruel to those who have not agreed to that sort of dynamic with me. If we enter into an agreement I will then treat you as the sub or slave but not until then.    Until then you are just another human being that might simply be a friend and nothing more. 

  On that note I rarely make first contact with men.  I welcome and will respond to most anyone (unless you are blatantly and purposefully rude). 


4/17/2012 7:05:05 AM

Saying that you can't be a submissive or slave 24/7  is like a Married man saying that he is only married  part time..  (okay this is not about married men who choose to cheat).  A slave can be a slave and still LIVE in the REAL world.  Just because a submissive or slave is not with their Dominant every minute of every day, doesn't mean that they are not still the Dominant's property.
   (rant off, stepping off my soap box)


4/16/2012 1:59:00 PM

Oh this is nice!  I have often wondered why a collar like this has not been available before..  http://kjcanes.com/shop/product_info.php?cPath=7&products_id=446&CDpath=1


4/16/2012 11:19:47 AM

Sometimes all it takes is a string as thin as dental floss......  if it is tied to the right things it can be quite powerful.


4/2/2012 2:01:09 PM

Here ya go boys,"How to Eat a Pussy"     http://www.houseboys.net/How-To-Eat-Pussy-19.html   A well written how to guide..


3/26/2012 10:45:19 AM

http://leathermusings.blogspot.com/2012/03/perfect-or-good.html  excellent blog on Fantasy vs Reality.


3/19/2012 3:02:52 PM

Yes - I am Still seeking a full time slave and / or a part time submissive.


3/19/2012 2:09:55 PM

- repost to bring back to top of journal.

Attention submissives improve your chances with FemDoms or improve for your Mistress: 
Make yourself more appealing by widening your skill set. One way to do this is to read. Every Dominant likes different things, but if you know the technical ways of doing  the basic, widely desired, most sought out, skills it will make you more desireable.  Rather than having to teach another newbie the same things they have taught others a Dominant will be able to start immediately teaching you thier own spin on your acquired skill set.
Perhaps you will even surprise, and delight her with your knowledge and a bit of your own "style".

Your profile - this is a good thread to help you with your profile. After all it is the first thing a Dominant sees - take your time with it and make the right impression. 
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm

 http://sweetsurrender.org/helpdomme.html

 General etiquette men part 1 
  (click on the little "no thanks" if you do not wish to sign up - it will allow you to read the article)
http://ca.askmen.com/money/successful/41_success.html


General etiquette men part 2
http://ca.askmen.com/money/successful_60/66_success.html


General etiquette men part 3

http://ca.askmen.com/money/successful_100/117_success.html

 

Care of property (aka your body care)

http://www.askmen.com/fashion/keywords/manscaping.html


http://www.groominglounge.com/grooming-advice.html?gclid=CNePpeKA6JwCFRkNDQod8kd2FA

 

Care and cleaning of toys
http://www.bdsm-education.com/toy_care.html

 
http://www.domsub.info/toysandrisk.shtml



Courting the Dominant Woman
http://lauragoodwin.org/court.htm



The Courage to Submit- The Guide for the Submissive Male Seeking a Dominant Woman
http://www.lulu.com/product/paperback/the-courage-to-submit-the-guide-for-the-submissive-male-seeking-a-dominant-woman/5968917

 

Household managment
http://www.mrsbeeton.com/

 
http://www.amazon.com/Butlers-Household-Managers-Century-Professionals/dp/1439209677/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1247983007&sr=8-1


Protocol site
http://highprotocol.com/

 
submissive /slave postions

http://www.masterzchicago.com/showlinks.?catid=61


http://www.angelfire.com/journal2/positions/

 
Manicures /pedicures
http://www.amazon.com/Miladys-Art-Science-Nail-Technology/dp/1562533266/ref=pd_sim_b_1


If this seems unreasonable - take another look,  If you as a sub know how to give a technically correct  manicure and pedicure then a FemDom doesn’t have to teach you the basics, she will be able to teach you the erotic spins upon the manicure /pedicure that she prefers.

videos series (yes more than one) for the basics of a good pedicure..
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wh8Qgs4YOV0


Foot Massage
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-7RXb9Eg6w


Foot reflexology
http://www.amazon.com/Feet-First-Guide-Foot-Reflexology/dp/0671634127/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241096116&sr=1-4


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-vS1eXllEM&feature=fvw





Erotic

Massage and Bath
http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Massage-Sensual-Pleasure-Extended/dp/1592332609/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095276&sr=1-6

 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLnpOnjBjaA


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjXdLNh9EBA


http://www.amazon.com/Art-Sensual-Massage-Gordon-Inkeles/dp/0974853526/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095451&sr=1-1

 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LnKcmFUszc&feature=PlayList&p=277469C0E7363DB3&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=2

 
Bathing rituals 
http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_150/154_love_tip.html


 http://www.amazon.com/Female-Dominance-Practices-Claudia-Varrin/dp/0806526599/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095535&sr=1-5


http://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Bathing-Healing-Rituals-Traditions/dp/1587611708/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095535&sr=1-1

 
Facials
http://www.amazon.com/Facial-Reflexology-Marie-France-Muller-Ph-D/dp/1594770131/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241096038&sr=1-3


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-V3rvWM2PI&feature=related

  
 An emergency tool that should be in everyone's bag
https://www.sworddemon.com/p-2350-asek-strapp-rescue-knife-restraint-cutter-multi-tool.aspx


Easy to use diary site
http://my-diary.org/


Butler school in USA
http://www.starkeyintl.com/


Resource books on home care
http://chestofbooks.com/society/Household-Companion/The-Home-Book-Of-Etiquette/index.html


http://chestofbooks.com/food/science/Domestic-Science-School/index.html


 
Warning, just reading the books and/or watching videos does not make you an expert, but having the general knowledge definitely gives you a head start.
   ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

 
 It has been over a month since I posted this, but since I have been asked by several and it gets buried in my journal, here is a repost to bring it back to the top.

 
 

General lifestyle type links. (Consolidated and updated) 
Kinky dictionary
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdglossary.html


Informational link that is still around after so long, If you scroll down on the left side in the purple box are tons of great links to articles on everything BDSM and more. 
http://www.fetishexchange.org/


Local Organizations and Contacts Worldwide
Book Store and Music Store
Huge Resources and Safety Sections
http://www.drkdesyre.com/

A good protocol site
http://highprotocol.com/


D/s teaching site excellant source of easy to read information
http://ds-arts.com/academy/index.html


Great article on the difference between subspace and slavespace.. interesting writing from a personal viewpoint of the writer.
http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/yieldingsubspace.htm

  
BDSM and the Law - why you should never talk to the police
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wXkI4t7nuc

  part one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08fZQWjDVKE

 part two
JOIN The NCSF... Your Rights... You Privacy... Your freedom!
http://ncsfreedom.org

 
The right to give up your rights
http://rlslavery.com/

 

Some more links  some are for fun, some are general information.

BDSM for the nice guy
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdniceguy.html


probably one of the BEST BDSM info sites
http://www.seekers.org.uk/

 
General information site
http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/

 
find a real life group near you
http://domsubfriends.com/a-wwwdir/org.shtml

 
Huge list of toy suppliers
http://dungeonnet.com/weblinks/Toys/


http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html

 don't know what something in the lifestyle is - this is the link you need
http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/

 allsorts of great info, for newbies, as well as refreshers for us oldies.
index of BDSM terminology
http://towerofbabel.com/sections/erotica/submittedforyourapproval/terminology/

 
This is a site just for Adult Lockable Toy bags.
http://www.foryournymphomation.com/collection.htm

 
how to make your own toys and other info.
http://www.frugaldomme.com/


one of my favorite stores
http://axovus.com/


single tails 
http://www.snakewhip.com/catalog1/index.html

 favorite
Male chastity devices
http://www.malechastitynow.com/index.html


http://www.keptforher.com/


BDSM written stories
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/stories/list.?pos=0&sortby1=average&arrange1=DESC

 
submissive and slave register
http://www.slaveregister.com/


Male submission artwork
http://malesubmissionart.com/


this is a common sense artical about Real life BDSM around family.
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenbdsmwithkids.htm


BDSM toys on the cheap.  Much of this is the same you would buy elsewhere under the BDSM lables, but they are from the orginal type sources so they are cheaper.
http://cheapbdsmtoys.com/index.html


http://storesense.megawebservers.com/HS1756/-strse-238/Fly-Wisk/Detail.bok

 
Central texas kink - group list with links
http://www.centraltexaskink.org/localgroups.htm


This is a great link for links to groups in Houston, Dallas, Austin and San Antonio
http://www.sasmtx.info/stateloc.html


Dallas Area Groups
http://www.dallasbdsm.com/


Houston group links
NLA-Houston


Elite Suite



SAF


Eros

, Every Saturday at roughly 1pm,
Eros hosts a one and a half hour class upstairs at:Rudyards Pub
2010 Waugh Street (between Westheimer & Memorial)
Houston Texas
HPEP

, NewComer's Meeting 7:30 pm - 9:30 pm
This event repeats every month on the first Saturday.

Location:  One's A Meal, 812 Westheimer, Houston, TX 77006,
713-523-8423 For an introduction to HPEP as well as good food and conversation. Have a great meal and meet some of our members. Ask questions, get involved or just be a fly on the wall. We hope anyone that is interested in joining HPEP or just curious about what we have to offer will come see us as well as our regular members. Bring your appetites. One's a meal is an award winning restaurant with great food and reasonable prices. You're sure to enjoy this evening.
HPEP Subversity SIG
This event repeats every month on the first Friday.

7:30 pm - 10:00 pm At Private Residence email haze_9@yahoo.com for information
A wide variety of topics are discussed, including guest speakers and demonstrations. The group is a safe haven if one wishes to discuss private personal issues receiving non judgmental, confidential feed back.
Everyone is asked to bring a small snack or dish to the meetings.
FYI…HPEP's Dominion is near by and many of the Dom's drop off their Subs and comeback for them later.
NO Doms/Tops/Masters or Toppy Behavior is allowed.
ALL Submissives/Slaves/Bottoms/Switches in bottom mode that are....
collared or uncollared, attached or not, (Single, Married, involved, ect ect) male, female, undecided, or however you choose to identify yourself. Any Sexual orientation, New to the life style, Seasoned in the life style are Allowed, Welcome and Encouraged to come join our meetings and group.
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Links provided by
msub4Domme

 

Male chastity

http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/

    stories plus external links to many manufacturers

http://www.steelwerksextreme.com/

    in Montreal.  Beautifully fabricated devices (One ClubFem member got one of their devices for Her sub/slave)

http://www.chastityportal.com/

    unique stories (not found elsewhere) plus devices and links to device manufacturers

BDSM Stories

http://www.grometsplaza.com/

    great stories but need to search for F/m specific stories since they also have M/f, F/f, and M/m.  Great fetish story collection.

http://www.utopiastories.com/

    same description as for “gromet” fits this site.  (sometimes they share stories)

Houston Group Link

http://www.clubfem.com/

    strictly Female Domme/male sub/slave  (excellent group although I acknowledge a favorable view of them)

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/femalesenslavingmales/

    access to ClubFem group only for those who have applied for membership and have been vetted.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Gulf_Coast_TOL/

    Based in League City.  An local affilate for Touch of Leather from Central Texas.  One also needs to be vetted by group for access.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/elitesuite/

    Some question as to viability of group.  Located around Tomball.  Some originators may have been from the late Safari Mike’s group and/or splinters from SAF.

Toy Supplier

http://www.meo.de/

  excellent quality.  i have been pleased with my purchases from them.


3/18/2012 6:15:31 PM

Last night I went to the Gulf Coast Touch of Leather.   Wonderful folks all around.

Today was a good day.  Cleared fence lines, powered the fire ant mounds with poison (4 lbs over 3 acres - so that tells you there were lots of fire ants..)
  For all the animals, treated scratches, ant bites, with ointments, treated the dogs and cats with the monthly flea/tick treatments, as well as the horse and donkeys for mosquito repellant,  Dumped scrubbed and cleaned water tanks...

I don't usually do all this in one day at one time so it doesn't seem like a lot, but when you do it all in one day... whew. 

  A good day.now if I could just get a new starter put on my riding mower... it would be Great!


3/17/2012 9:13:22 AM

I am going to be at the orientation and munch for Gulf Coast Touch of Leather this evening..Will see you there??


3/13/2012 7:59:17 AM

I find it funny that often I can tell more about the person by what is in the BACKGROUND of their photo (or even the forefront)  Than anything that they actually say to me.

for instance I get a note saying, "I love to keep house"  yet in the photo they apparently didn't notice that all the dirty laundry on the floor (usually mixed with trash)  .. Or the bathroom Mirror is so dirty that they don't actually have to blur their face.. lol

 

 

 


3/11/2012 6:49:18 PM

Oh my Goodness!  The Marketplace series  by Laura Antoniou

,  Is now on Kindle!   YAH... Nothing like reading such good lifestyle fiction in the middle of the most vanilla of situations !
 

 

I have had the paperbacks for years..but only reading at home tends to limit how often one can re-read them.

 

 


3/7/2012 12:20:41 PM

We checked in to the hotel among friends and fellow kinksters which crowded the lobby. It was a joy seeing some old friends checking out some that we in the past those that wished to cause harm.. and meeting new friends that I had talked to online or through other friends.
After getting settled in our room and finding out that our room had an adjoining door to the room next door AND that room belonged to what I now consider amazing new friends.. We made our way down to the hotel bar which was where everyone was having a “meet and greet.” I can now add the bar tender to the top of the list of the worst ever margaritas I have ever had made for me- But folks mingled and introduced themselves and it was a fun albeit disorganized way to meet folks that we would be spending the weekend with.
I did take a stroll around the dungeon just to check it out but it was still quiet when I did so. The layout was good.. in general .
Talyn made her way to the ABC store and picked up the fixings for a real margarita and I fixed one when we went back up to the room. We called it a night about midnight

Sat morning we woke in a whirlwind realizing that breakfast ended soon and classes started soon.
I can’t say enough good things about Sir Griffin and his slave ann; On both of their classes that I attended the presentation, humor and information was all very helpful and well organized. Thank you
Sir Dale was like a stage show gone horribly wrong in so many right ways. In his resistance play class which got everyone fanning themselves and then in the electrical play classes With all the flashing lights, evil laughs, and wonderfully witty victims -- I mean subs.. all of his classes are truly something I wish more people here in our great state of Texas could be witness to. Sir Dale is hugely entertaining as both a mad scientist nerdly dude, as well as a Col. Klink type character! Educational in all roles.
(Also Thank you Sir Dale for fixing the hotel’s lighting problem so we could attend the dinner on sat evening.)
The vendors we a joy and I saw many folks that I have met before as well as a few that were offering their items that I had not seen before. It is always fun to go shopping.

My one disappointment was when I realized I knew the keynote speaker, and though many may think she has changed her ways, she seems to be omitting portions of her beginnings. Much of her history was left out, an no credit was given to R.O.P.E a group which forged friendships and reciprocity among the Richmond leather groups as well as many of the groups on the east coast.

Unfortunately the honoree was not able to attend the dinner due to health reason (I wish him good health and recovery) It would have been a joy to see him and hear him speak. Some other awards were given out and heart felt speeches were given that brought tears to the eye and joy to the heart.
The rest of the dinner raffle prizes were given out, and the highlight for humor was when a lesbian won the “Pickle cage” aka cock cage. It gave everyone a good chuckle.

The dungeon on Sat evening was busy busy busy. Many forms of play were going on from Shabari to signal whips, body bag bondage to fire play and of course the electric chair of Sir Dale’s was getting a major work out. The DMs were a plenty.. Lots and lots of DMs… The security while doing their jobs seemed to be a bit zealous in their arm band checking.. but if that makes him feel important..more power to him (yes it was one person that knew me and the others I was with very well)

Sunday Morning breakfast was good. Eggs and bacon all around. And then a few more classes. There were classes I had wished to attend, but I had to make the choice among many. I ended the day with Sir Dale’s 201 class which was a joy to attend for the entertainment value as well as the additional information on electrical play.

To the folks that made Colonial Kink happen…All in all being as this was only the 2nd year.. I say bravo. I believe you have outgrown that hotel and I hope that you will consider another venue for next year. (a sign of just how good the event is IMO)
I saw many who were constantly working hard at making it a pleasure to attend.

To the new and not as new friends I met at this event..I hope to see you again in Oct when I attend BR.


3/2/2012 7:36:37 AM

Colonial Kink starts today..  Going to be Fun and interesting!


2/29/2012 6:07:07 PM

I made it to Virginia .. So good to see my Domme Sis in crime.  Let the FUN begin!
 Stormz


2/25/2012 10:18:40 PM

http://colonialkink.com/   March 2-4, 2012, Colonial Kink, Williamsburg, VA - I am bringing my cautery branding equipment so if you are Interested in a brand please let me know.. I am only doing a limited number so Hurry.


2/21/2012 4:06:21 PM

oh my...some amazing metal dungeon furniture...  http://www.sexandmetal.com/sex_and_metal_furniture.html


2/18/2012 6:28:59 PM

Well Yum!  http://www.vevo.com/watch/thirty-seconds-to-mars/hurricane-uncensored-directors-cut/USVI31000069


2/15/2012 10:17:30 AM

ok local folks,   Here is a good chance if you are new to the scene to get out, meet people and attend a party. 

HPEP NEWCOMERS MUNCH and PLAY PARTY

Saturday, February 18, 2012 · 7:30 PM – 1:00 AM

Location: Hunan Chef Chinese Restaurant

3805 Southwest Freeway, Houston, TX 77027

Dress code: Street legal until you hit the door at the party

This is a newbie friendly munch designed to introduce newcomers to HPEP and the Houston scene as a whole but everyone is welcome. Everyone who attends the munch is welcome to join us at the Play Party to follow.

Then follow us to the: Play Party

Held in a private home (address will be given upon RSVP)

from 9 PM to 1 AM, you can warm up your butt, then walk around smiling. Bring a snack or something yummy to share. $15 or $10 w/food

Please go to the Events section to RSVP or go to the following link:

https://.com/events/91430


2/14/2012 4:36:10 PM

Damn I am tired tonight.  One of the neighbor's horses broke out, ran through two sides of our fence.  I have spent half the day repairing the fence .. Thankfully my animals aren't wanting to leave ..even with the crazy horse running through, mine just stood back and watched. 

 Time for a shower and for me to get my feet up.

Thank you for all the Happy Vday wishes.  They were wonderful.

 Mz Stormz


2/12/2012 4:57:50 PM

I heard today that  they are down to 19 rooms at the main hotel.. for http://colonialkink.com/ It is going to be a blast! so the hotel is going to be all kinksters!
Drop me a note if you are going - I enjoy meeting new folks.


2/5/2012 7:12:33 PM

Controlling my intense kink drive seems more difficult than usual for the last few days.   I feel like a predator .... do you wish to be my prey?


1/31/2012 8:16:04 PM

A very good link to many of the local clubs, groups,  Kink.....    http://vanilla-not.com/bylocation/hounew.html


1/22/2012 2:24:50 PM

YAY!    I am Going to:   http://colonialkink.com/  I will be in Virginia Feb 28th - March 5th for Colonial Kink and of course to visit my Evil Sister!  Look out boys. ;)


1/20/2012 6:49:54 AM

    I am thinking about adding to my automatic disqualifications...     No limit slaves.. Because you are either an idiot or suicidal  if you are telling me that you have no limits even though you don't know me.        After knowing me, I would hope that your limits would adjust to mine but that you would still have some limits, or at the very least once you knew me then you could say, " no limits" because you know that I have my own that I will not cross.

    Yes most people have morals, and wouldn't sell off a slave's liver  ...  But those that have fewer scruples are here, and they are looking for those idiots that say "no limits" so that they can exploit that.....

    So if you are a "no limits" before you even know me... move along..you are too much of an idiot for me.

 

 


1/19/2012 4:18:19 PM

Remember, people will judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of gold - but so does a hard-boiled egg. ~Author Unknown


1/18/2012 4:51:18 PM

My back is better this evening.  I am moving fairly normally ...but still just being careful.

 

Thank you all for keeping tabs on me.

 

 Stormz


1/17/2012 1:28:42 PM

When I shut my mouth and turn to walk away, it doesn't mean you have won.  It simply means your stupid ass is not worth more of my time.

 

 

 

If you have recently been blocked ..this is for you.


1/16/2012 9:20:58 AM

Ouch, I pulled something in my back.. and have way to much to do - moving *as in movement*  (and breathing is interesting right now)

 

Since several people have written to ask where we are moving, I figured I had better edit the post ..

I pulled a muscle in my back while unloading horse feed ..and now Movement is being done with great care..

 

Thank you all who wrote to ask!  

 

Hugs.


1/6/2012 8:50:16 AM

I just posted examples submissive and slave applications to the bottom of my profile                    Feel free to use them or not, change them up or not ..it is up to you to make a good first impression.They are only SUGGESTIONS to help get started with.  For the record,  Just because I ask you a question about something, don't expect to get it.


12/31/2011 8:11:37 PM

Uploaded a new photo, .... yes I am flipping someone off ...lol


12/31/2011 4:31:27 PM

Happy, Kinky, Twisted, New Year to all my friends!


12/8/2011 8:39:54 AM

http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/25BHem/www.youtube.com/watch%253Fv%253DDOR9-FXdIm0   well done french condom add

and of course my favorite beer commercial   http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&v=4T6wlhVIOFg


12/2/2011 6:29:23 AM

I am looking forward to attending the H.E.A.T. party tonight.  Should be a lot of fun happening all around!   Hopefully I will be meeting a lot of new folks as well!

Update:  The event at H.E.A.T. was enjoyable. It was fun putting some faces to the profiles ... and finally meeting a couple of folks that I have spoken to here on collarme for years.

 

 


11/23/2011 11:54:03 PM

Fun little quiz (I posted my results in my photos)    http://quizfarm.com/quizzes/Sex/poeticthinker/do-you-have-an-inclination-for-bdsm/index.php#


11/23/2011 11:52:49 PM

Love this ! ! http://www.theinspiration.com/2011/09/carlsberg-stunt-in-cinema/


11/23/2011 3:06:54 PM

If we are talking about possibilites beyond a coffee date,

ALVIN TEXAS

 LOOK IT UP BEFORE CONTACTING ME AND DECIDE IF IT IS TOO FAR TO TRAVEL (AT LEAST) WEEKLY.

Yes Houston is a big town, the suburbs make it even bigger..it can be a long drive if you go from one side to the other.. TAKE THAT INTO ACCOUNT  *BEFORE* you offer your ass up for service.

  I will meet you part way for the first meeting but you will have to make the drive 90% of the time.

 

 


11/22/2011 3:26:16 PM

Just uploaded a photo of our cage..   if the sub is good they get padding and maybe it will be moved inside. 


11/21/2011 4:16:02 PM

Humnnn I can see this making good slave quarters

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AmbfqXM1xqM  

Of course some modifications might be needed ..a few bars .. bind points.. a lock on the outside,  perhaps a closed circuit camera so I could see what a slave was up to.

Due to a few emails, I feel the need to clarify that this is not  for a full time live in situation it just allows for a few more aspects of kink.

Update: 11-23-11    I find it interesting that I have gotten several emails about this post.  A couple I received said,  (paraphrased)  That they would not live in such a way..  but not so surprising were the letters ( that were the majority)  saying that the trailer was "too nice" to be a slave's quarters.   As I said before I would not leave it "stock"  but have many modifications in mind.  Yes ..it is nice for a camper.. slide out and all.. ...  for now.


11/19/2011 8:38:07 AM

Completely custom Chastity devices..  Made right here in Texas.

http://www.maturemetal.com/chastity-devices

http://www.maturemetal.com/faqs


11/17/2011 7:35:15 AM

This is NOT mine, nor my own beliefs,  but it is worth thinking about for someone that is trying to figure out who they are , or where they hope to be when it comes to submission /slavery  etc.... If I were to say what "numbers" I would be interested in as a Dominant... I would have to say... 7 and/or 8 even parts of 9, or a combination of the three.

Enjoy

Nine Levels of Submission by Diane Vera

Within the BDSM society, the meaning of a submissive means many different levels of acceptance of behavior. It also means that to one person saying i am a submissive, to another means they are a slave. Often times our understanding of what a submissive is or isn’t is confusing and will often lead to debates over the definition. Below i have listed my definitions of the levels of submission based upon my experience this could match yours or maybe it doesn’t but at least it is a starting point to understanding where i come from.

1. THE OUTRIGHT NON-SUBMISSIVE MASOCHIST or KINKY SENSUALIST

This type of person is someone who loves to be hurt exactly as they state don’t add anything or expect to derive personal pleasure or satisfaction for yourself if you are the one that is doing the hurting. This type of person only wants the things done that they request nothing more and nothing less. They get off merely from the pain no relationship is needed. There are No emotional ties, Nothing but pure pain. (Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist’s own terms and for the masochist’s own direct pleasure (i.e. turned on solely/mainly by one’s own bodily sensations rather than by being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism).

2. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE.

Prefers to only play in a script type environment. This is not something they do all the time only every once in a while. Often times they will set the scene up themselves putting all props into place and giving an accounting of what they want to their partner. But don’t dare to bring in any ideas of your own for this is their play and any actors or actresses needed will be supplied by them. No servitude at anytime is allowed from this person. (Not into even playing “slave,” but into other “submissive” role-playing, e.g. schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.)

3. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE.

Again one who prefers to write the script and have you follow the guidelines but likes to feel as if they are being used under certain scenarios. Usually this comes out within a certain fetish arena such as foot worship, cock sucking, etc., it is only for particular actions dictated by themselves. (Likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; may in some cases like to feel one is being “used” to gratify partner’s sadism; may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).

4. TRUE SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE.

This is a person who likes to give up control for limited times they agree to a scene and all it entails but is still the one who is directing in broad terms. They are not into this on a full time basis only for a specified time and scene. Is not interested in really giving up all control but does derive pleasure from serving another. (Really gives up control (only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seek mainly her/his own direct/pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).

5. TRUE SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE.

Temporarily gives up all control to selected partner does derive pleasure from serving the needs of the other rather then what is done. The pleasure comes from being used by another is not into pain necessarily and does not wish it to be every minute of their life but will submit for brief periods. (Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief “scenes” and within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving/being used by dominant-but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May/may not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys being the object of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.

6. UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE .

One who is committed to serving another but only when it suits their needs and desires still maintains control of when and where. And for how long. Is not particular about how necessarily but if it is not within their liking they will opt out of doing what is asked. Really gives up control (usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have long-term relationship with one’s Mistress, but, either way, the “slave” has the final say over when she will serve.

7. PART-TIME CONSENSUAL-BUT REAL SLAVE.

This person is into a committed relationship and does regard oneself as property. Derives their pleasure from the Dominants/Owners pleasure. But still has outside commitments that the Dominant/Owner is not in control of but other then those commitments is at the disposal of their Dominants/Owners first and foremost. (Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant’s property at all times. Wants to obey and please Dom (me) in all aspects of life-practical/non erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g. job) but Dom (me) has first pick of the slave’s free time.)

8. FULL-TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE.

This is a person who has given careful and through thought to giving up all responsibility to the outside world and has chosen to become 24/7 property of another to be used and treated as the other deems appropriate. This level of submission must be entered into fully conscience of the commitment entered into. By entering this arrangement you are giving all that you are and all that you have to another. The sole pleasure to this person is insuring beyond anything that their Owner’s happiness and comfort is first and foremost. Regardless of what is asked or demanded of them. There is a great deal of discussion necessary before undertaking this commitment. For even though the pleasure is derived from the Owner there is still the need and desire for recognition of being a human being. This is a mutually pleasing relationship if given the honesty and honor necessary to thrive. There are still limits but these are stated and understood by the Owner and the Owner has agreed to honor and protect and nourish their property to insure they’re well being. (Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/himself, as existing solely for the Dom (me)’s pleasure/well being. Slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially of the slave is male. Within the S/M world, a full time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.)

9. CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS.

Though i have read from others that this is possible i find that it is much more based upon a fantasy one that truly cannot exist with out some form of brainwashing or trauma. Being a slave without limits of any kind is a person who has no thought or care for themselves as a human being and they are merely biding their time on this planet the best way they can to survive. In my experience there is always what i consider limits in each person i have met. i do not know of anyone who truly wishes to own someone who does not think or act for themselves. To be totally responsible for another’s thinking and actions can be extremely fatiguing and it is not a pleasure. i am not saying that it doesn’t happen i just feel that if it is happening then their is a question of the other person being able to give consent and know what they are consenting to. A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the “consent” is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn’t fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you’re willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom (me), with no limits at all. I’ve met a few people who claimed to be no-limit slaves, but in all cases I have reason to doubt the claim.

“9 Levels of Submission” Copyright 1984 and 1988, Diane Vera


11/13/2011 5:11:54 PM

The classes today at FFF were good. It was good to see so many vendors with such an amazing array of quality gear... Made me drool.... in several ways :)


10/28/2011 7:40:38 AM

MEN who CHOOSE NOT to tell me that they are married,  FUCK OFF!

Wow, and he thinks he was in the "right" for going almost a month of us talking almost daily ...  before he confessed "I'm Married, wife doesn't want to know" (yup we all know what that means, don't we?)

This is not aimed at the married men who have been honest with me from day 1  and whom I continue to talk with.


10/13/2011 6:38:52 AM

Perfect weather for for riding!    Now you know what I am going to do today!


10/10/2011 5:10:52 PM

Rant Warning.   Dear "sub" / "slave" "kinky guy" "Guy visiting town" or "self title here",

  You wrote me with a "request" that I  do  (fill in blank) to you.  I suggested that you go to a pro, but you said, " I don't want to pay for it!"  

Well,  get this. I require commitment of your precious time and a relationship... No I don't ask for money. I do this because I enjoy the lifestyle.   "I only want a few sessions" you say.      So let me get this straight.. you want me to do what YOU want, and you want me to use my toys, supplies and equipment .  You want me to spend my time on you, but you want to come when it is convenient  for you to come, not when I need a little help around the place.  You want me do spend a few hours doing all these wonderful things to you "no strings attached",  you don't really have time to spend to get to know me, my needs, my desires, my kinks.  You don't bother ask me what I enjoy, nor do you come up with follow up questions because after all you only want ...(fill in the blank)

IF I were to do this, and after you leave,  I am left with cleaning up. Yes, I know, it doesn't sound like much,  but there is laundry, the ropes I used on you would need cleaning, the leather cleaning (which by the way is not something that can be sterilized so I am very picky about whom I use it on)  Sterilizing the latex and rubber items,  All the equipment wiped down, hung up, folded etc...   While you were here there was lube used, gloves, condoms , maybe Band-Aids.  You had water to drink,  you used my bathroom maybe even the shower  (so more laundry)

Not to mention that my toys that I have gathered over the years probably are worth several thousand dollars if I were to total them up.  I have attended workshops, donated my time to the community, I learned from some amazing people how to be safe and do wonderfully kinky things. I have gone to demos, I have amassed an extensive library of knowledge books about the kink lifestyle, I have  spent literately years learning exactly what you want for one or two hours.

Oh and for those that are visiting town "often"... Often is still on YOUR schedule, not mine... so you are asking me to allow you to serve only when it is convenient for YOU.. not for me.

Oh and I forgot to mention that I showered, dressed up , did my makeup, pulled on my thigh high boots (also not cheap)  which took me a good two hours, plus I made ready the equipment  (figure another hour) ...   and you want only to be here for a couple of hours .. then to walk out the door back into Vanilla world......

No I don't do this for pay, but I REFUSE to be used for as a wank princess for those of you who wish to just get your jollies and leave. 

 I do this for the subs or slaves that realize that this is a way of life,  to be  a part of my life, my rules, the power structure, and those people realize that this is NOT easy or just kinky sex..  It is about so VERY much more.   Protocols rituals, being the very best sub or slave as possible takes  TIME, Commitment, desire, and persistence, effort, and ability to invest in a friendship with me and my family.

So to sum this up you only want to spend a couple hours .. pay nothing,  have me do  (fill in blank)  to you,  your way.

Considering all this, You expect me to do this for you.... for a couple of hours of play for .....  (of course, no strings attached)

........................................... No Thank you.  


10/10/2011 6:29:13 AM

This is not mine but I have been given permission to share it.

By LC2412

Rant - long! Good luck.

Journal Entry 

Yes, this is a rant and because this is a rant it may not be nice or funny. You may see yourself in it, I know I sure found myself here and I am guilty of a few of these trespasses to some degree but I have learned better. Some people just never seem to learn and they astound me with the depths of their stupidity, what about you? I mean seriously, do you want to be the person in any one of the following points, if not, get a fucking life, read a book, stop badgering, dick measuring, and being obnoxious cum-dumpsters.

 

I’m going to simplify a few things right off the bat, bearing in mind the reading level of the audience to whom this is directed. D-type represents tops, dom/mes, masters, mistresses and slave-owners of both sexes. Generally read it as the one in control. S-type should be the obvious antonym, or the opposite. OK, I’ll spell it out for you, submissive, bottom, slave, server, and yes, even the counter-person at the fast food joint you frequent.

 

I’m going to answer some queries from the past couple of years of being in the local scene and respond with some vitriol to some of the numb-ass antics that go on in this lovely little back-water berg and frankly, to add the benefit of the doubt, this isn’t the only berg that sees this kind of thing, I have been out of this province before and I’ve been around for more than just a few months.

 

• NO, NO, NO – I am not going home with you to smoke up. I don’t care how you got it, how good it is or anything about it other then you have it near me and want me to participate. No, I will not smoke up with you anywhere under any circumstances and I really resent that you bring it to events and brag about it. I am even more offended by the fact that someone mentioned a gift of it at a private event in a thread that was thankfully sanitized. You wonder why we won’t go out, because you turned us into fucking targets. Jesus fucking Christ you’re a dumbass if you think that isn’t watched by someone somewhere in a police capacity.

 

• I do not go to events just so you can pull me aside and bitch to me for 20 minutes about someone else or about someone else commenting on your play style. As I said then, you got issues, go see the person you got issues with. Grow the fuck up and stop acting like I’m the teacher of a grade school playground. I really don’t give a fuck how you play or who you play with provided you are doing it with respect, consent and adequate negotiation. If you can’t do that then you are a flaming mother fucking dickwad.

 

• Just to reiterate, I don’t give a fuck if you don’t like me now, because chances are pretty good you really won’t like me when you are done reading, assuming that you can read this much material and comprehend any of it.

 

• I read, and if I don’t understand what I read, I get a translator. I look stuff up if it confuses me or requires further analysis. I don’t go bitching at the OP or the event organizer; I look up words and ask questions. You should try it sometime.

 

• Sock puppets are for wimps just so we are clear on that, and obviously for snooping around on the people that had the good sense to block you to start with.

 

• BLOCKING:You get blocked for 2 reasons, either fear or annoyance. So either way it’s a win since you were either scared off or pissed off, or you are so totally manipulated by your D-type that you will do anything that they say including block the people they find threatening. Either way that makes the S-type a douchebag too. I refuse to control my S-type to the point where I am making all the decisions, that’s a lot of fucking work and they are adults, which are why they are my S-types, I still like them with a brain that hasn’t been beat out of them.

 

• I don’t care if you don’t like me because chances are pretty good that you annoy me and are not worth my time, the very time that it takes to look you up and block you.

 

• I don’t con people, I don’t ego stroke, and I don’t expect you to like everything that I do in a scene. I am not doing the scene with you so your opinion isn’t worth shit anyway.

 

• Don’t call me Lady, Mistress or Miss! Call me by my name and if you don’t know it ask! Besides this is a consent thing that I happen to be into and it goes both ways and I did not consent to you calling me by an honorific. You are not my S-type and that is the only one with the privilege of using a title with me as negotiated for a scene.

 

• I am into consent and YOU DO NOT OWN MY ASS and I don’t own yours so you’ll get called whatever the fuck your name is, not Sir, not Miss and sure as fuck not Master. You can go fuck yourself and because this is not the military I will do it with prejudice and I won’t be doing it with any due respect to your self-appointed title.

 

• Nepotism in any organization is always the death of it, just saying.

 

• I do not need a dungeon in which to scene. It can create a nice mood and has some awesome perks, but I have an imagination and that works wonders for us.

 

• You are not a Lady, or a Sir when you exhibit zero self-control, spill your fucking booze everywhere, and grab a flogger after you’ve been drinking heavily and go and whack the first S-type that happens to look unattached and you do it without permission. No consent. You got that, you didn’t get consent and that makes you a fucking ass, not a lady or a sir.

 

• You are the still a mostly sober D-type and you’re swinging away at the drunk S-type, you’re no better. You’re still a fucking ass, but at least you know how hard you are hitting. That’s the only thing we can give you here, some awareness.

 

• You are not the punisher, controller, or manipulator of all S-types. They didn’t give you that control now fuck right the hell off and leave them alone unless they grant permission. And S-types that sit around looking for D-types to punish them by acting out and making naughty remarks, you are not my S-type, so fuck off, I’m not going to punish you. Consent works both ways and I didn’t accept your petition of submission and naughty comments are not a petition so stop bugging me with your shit and take it elsewhere.

 

• Sex is part of kink, and kinks and fetishes (yes there is a fucking difference, go look it up!) are a turn on, but sex is not the only kink. I don’t need to hear about your web cam exploits with Mr Wyoming or Ms Alberta. I do not need to know who you are doing now, how often or how big it is. For fuck’s sake, your dick or your partner’s dick is no interest to me, unless I can see a medical curiosity like some idiot that opted for bifurcation (again you can look it up). So if sex is your kink, remember it may not be someone else’s kink and sharing can be just plain annoying.

 

• Eating, eating and more fucking eating. Yes we need food and drink at events, but holy fuck do we need to become diabetic? Some you make amazing food, but a play party is not a god-damn cook-off and I’m not going to go broke trying to compete with you here. As for the others that I know that don’t know how to cook, get a cookbook, they’re cheap and they work and you can make far healthier food for yourself and your family than you can ever get by going to a restaurant. Learn about the Canada food-guide, it’s on the fucking internet and it’s government, and you pay taxes and they’ll send you the information for free. Read and learn a little about your body and nutrition and put the fucking remote down. So bottom line on this is that whining about your weight is not sexy!

 

• Kink is about Sexy too!!! Sexy is not a fucking always a wifebeater with your best jeans and a ballcap unless that really is what you are both into. Sexy is not about your street clothes, make a fucking effort here people. Define sexy for yourself and your partner and have at it.

 

• I just want to touch on the roots of the leather culture for a moment as a lot of BDSM comes from the leather men and ladies and we have adopted it and absconded with parts of it. One of the things that a lot of hetero-BDSM’ers didn’t seem to take form the culture though is RESPECT the other is CONSENT, but I’ll come back to that again. RESPECT, just have some fucking respect for others that are not in the lifestyle. Have some respect for the S-type counter guy (he’s there because he needs a paycheck not your domineering bullshit). Say “please” and “thank you”. Stop stumping your dicks with every other D-type that enters a building. Someone always comes up short in a dick-measuring contest. Stop assuming that just because you are bi-curious that every other woman in the room is too. They may not want to see your boobs even if they are big and pretty. Stop trying to scare everyone away from where you are sitting. If it’s a public place, others have just as much right to be there as you, so have some respect people.

 

• Lack of discretion is becoming a big thing for me. Try having a little of that too, It kind of goes with the whole respect thing. Maybe I just don’t want to be outted to my vanilla acquaintance that happens to have shown up somewhere the same time as all of the kinksters. Maybe getting outted to that person by your disrespectful behaviour could jeopardize my family relationships, or my career. Have you actually given any thought whatsoever to what it could do to someone if you accidentally out them? No, I didn’t think so. Idiot.

 

• Kids of any age at a coffee meet or munch really doesn’t bother me when they are still a suckling babe in arms. Mind you, swollen breast-feeding boobs are not that attractive to me even though I am bi-curious, but back to the point: I am not your fucking babysitter, so don’t leave the god-damned thing with me while you go for a smoke. Again, respect, ask, don’t assume that I am going to be comfortable with the germ and shit factory that you spawned. I am not nor will I ever be. I didn’t breed and I don’t really like children. Yes, you can hate me for this, again I don’t give a fuck.

 

• Back to being in public with some of you fucktards: Not only are you disrespectful and not discreet, but if anyone did ask why I am out with you, I can not come up with a good answer because I can’t say “they’re parents on my kid’s sports team”. That’s a fail cause I didn’t breed so my answer is that I volunteer with “special needs adults” I bet you’re proud of your behavior now.

 

• What is with people not wanting to get educated about the things they do every Saturday night? Why do you not want to understand your physiognomy? Why do you not want to know what is safe? Why do you not want to know the difference between SSC and RACK? Why are you not curious? What the fuck is wrong with you? Am I naïve to think that a little, preferably a lot, of education is a good thing? Which leads into the following:

• Rope, yes, I know enough not to kill my partner. I tend to use safe ties that don’t pull on joints and I try to remain aware of some pre-existing nerve damage so I am never going to treat my rope-bottom as if he is a nubile 20 year old gymnast that is so prlook it up).

• Blood-play. Yes, it’s cool and it takes practice to do some of the things you all do with needles and knives, but have you considered that you are doing it in a “public place”? Have you considered that blood can carry an infection or two and those droplets that we can not always see in mood-lit spaces can end up where we didn’t intend them? Have you also considered reminding the fainters that this is going to happen? Fuck, I don’t know which is worse, picking the dead-faint up off a concrete floor and taking them to hospital for head-stitches because they walked into a room at the wrong moment or having to take your S-type to ER because you slipped? Go do it, it is fun to play with knives, I like it, but I like it best in a controlled environment with no distractions and no fainters.

• Allergies, you’d be surprised who is allergic to what, including the awesome food that gets made. Anybody got an epi-pen, do you know who in your group needs one, for what and where it is? It’s a god-damn safety people. Explaining lolcurious related injuries to ER is not that fucking amusing, nor is explaining the expired anaphylactic shock victim on the dungeon floor to some cops. Think about it.

• First Aid kits – have you at least got some basics in your kit? Have you even got a kit? These things abound in drugstores for 30-50 bucks for a really decent kit that isn’t that heavy. Yes, you should add some stuff to it depending on your play style but you should have one. You do not want to depend on a first-aid kit that someone else has. You never know what supplies have been depleted, you may not be able to find what you need fast enough because you don’t know where to look, and you don’t know what has expired either.

 

• Back to education for a moment: you don’t line up for a scene, that’s a demo you moron. A scene is a negotiated event that has a beginning, middle and end. A scene is not when you ask anyone about the weight of the floggers they are using to Florentine the S-type. That really should be about the time you get hit with a stick, but since that wasn’t part of the negotiated scene, you’re just thought of as an ass.

 

• During the scene is not the time to start a “Hi, nice to see you” conversation because chances are pretty good that you are interrupting. You are not part of the scene, have some respect for the players. Jesus, do you really want to be responsible for distracting a D-type when they are trying to run a needle through someone’s tits and they miss because you were loud and obnoxiously calling their name? Really, do you want that to be you that caused an S-type kidney damage because you came over and slapped the D-type on the back in the middle of a flogger swing? Really, you are not a friend, you’re a freaking stupid sadist and you don’t even know it.

 

• Your opinion of your own self worth and mastery or level of submission is not necessarily shared by me, and now that I have either scared you or pissed you off, go ahead and block me. As I have said before I don’t give a fuck but if the shoe fits baby, and you see your behavior in here, maybe you can learn something even though this is not a fucking demo.

 

• Remember, you consented to reading this; I didn’t make you, you could have said “red” anytime and stopped. You could have made the appropriate hand-signal that would have called an end to this. I respect your choice to play in my sandbox today and I respect your choice to either continue to play with me or leave. Your choice, just hope you learned something besides the fact that I can be a harsh bitch some days.

 

Kind regards to all who share the ideals of consent and respect.


10/7/2011 11:13:40 AM

A wonderful resource for Dominants or submissives / slaves..

http://sweetsurrender.org/helpdomme.html


10/5/2011 7:06:18 AM

I am going to  enjoy the wonderful weather ... before it gets hot again..   Perhaps a ride. 


9/20/2011 10:37:04 AM

In the past few days I have "spoken" (emailed) some folks and have had some very interesting discussions. One has had experience.. and the other is just starting on his journey.   The conversations were vastly  different.. the first - we talked of the depth, cravings and subspace.. the second was asking me what I thought about a video which was of a couple of kink porn stars doing various acts.  I am not trying to run off the newbie but after so many things being brought up that he wants.. his ideas..his...his.. his.. I sort of went off on a rant but in a way that I hope that helps him to understand why my answers were short or non-committal in the past..  I ended up copying some of the conversation I had with the first.. into the rant with the second, so in the end it came through as an interesting email which caused me to work and think about it.. So I figured I would post it here...enjoy.

Letter as follows:There are many many videos out there.. I have never found one that I enjoy. Learn from yes..enjoy not so much.. Most are done in a way that they seem scripted to me.  My style is such that it depends on many many factors... the sub, the experience of the sub, the mood I am in, the toys I have on hand, the safety equipment I have on hand.   A scene can be so mild that it can be done in front of vanillas, or as extreme that men cross their legs and cringe.

     I do know that I could play in a way that you could handle it and I would find pleasure within the scene but I would be holding back and building you up over time.. it takes time.. I have been doing this for 18 years I have built up a lot of skills. What I don't care for is being given a laundry list of what a man wants to try, or have done to him.  I also have no patience for those that are just getting into this who seek it as kinky sex.   I am not saying that sex is not involved..but there is much more depth to be enjoyed from an almost spiritual aspect that is there for the discovering.

   I live my life in a way that incorporates the power structure and exchange. I have no way to describe subspace, power exchange, floating, and all of the depths of this to anyone that has not experienced it themselves. There are no words to explain all of the emotions that transpire.  I can not tell you how many times that I have told people, The toys, the games the role-plays, the parties, the munches the clothes, boots etc... are not what we are striving for.. it is the depth of soul,  emotion, and self. ..the rest are just the tools to find those.

Subspace is what I seek for my sub or  slave...

I know well when a sub or slave is in that "starving" moment and for me, that is when he gives me (again for the lack of a better description )  his soul.  His power, his being.  which is by far the best, deepest, most enduring part of the power exchange for me.. I in that moment am his world, and he is mine.  He accepts and craves me ..even with all my perversions, or perhaps because of them.. I am able to share with him the side of myself that no one else sees because of that acceptance..  How could I not adore and crave him as much as he craves me because of that? I love the intensity of this exchange, want, need, cravings, adoration, and depth.

    I hope that this helps you to understand where I come from when I am trying to talk to you and help you understand some of the aspects of this lifestyle and why I don't talk about specific "acts" within the lifestyle..

   You being so new are skipping a rock over the surface without considering what is involved in the depths .. I understand this..and if this is how you wish to remain ..More power to you.. But understand why I find it hard to talk about the surface when I am in the deep end and enjoying every moment of it. 

Mz Stormz


9/15/2011 3:38:06 PM

I enjoyed having family visit.   Now to pull the toys back out and get comfortable again..

 

Oh and ordered the new decal for my new auto.


9/12/2011 8:13:17 PM

Gave up traded in my car this weekend.. Now vanilla family visiting until Thursday. -

 

Nothing like hiding all the toys on the fly! 

 

 


9/5/2011 9:09:34 PM

How is it that a few odd jobs around the house turn into what seems like a full house remodel ??

 

fix a leaky  tub faucet = while there, change out the handles and spout, add insulation, fix floor, seal and fix the trim around the tub, move shelf cause tub looks too good to hide now..

 

Fix front door = replace door jam, add storm door, add insulation, seal with caulking,

 

fix leak in hallway due to air conditioner pan clogging up, = ripping a 2 x3 foot hole in the floor, running pvc down and out from under the house, discover a large portion of insulation missing.. (got frustrated on this one - will have to wait)  seal the compartment, vacuum out the whole area, change the odd sized filter that no one seems to carry so we had to find the "cut to fit" filters...   Replace floor, re-install flooring...

 

hang a new closet door (actually went mostly as planned)

 

Now I need a vacation from the labor day vacation!

 

Still don't have my freakin car back


9/3/2011 8:04:26 PM

Since Youtube decided that the knottyboys were too adult and they pulled their video account down from there.. here is the new site.. Enjoy http://cepemo.com/TKB.html


9/3/2011 4:59:58 PM

Well crap,  my car wouldn't start..Again.. same symptoms as before the fuel pump was replaced.   - Back to the shop it went.


8/27/2011 7:31:19 AM

Be safe East Coast friends.  My thoughts are with you.   I joined Twitter to keep up with a couple of friends that are in the direct path of Irene.   

 

Trying to figure out twitter, but at least I did get my MzticStormz name there as well.


8/25/2011 11:45:49 AM

http://www.sfgate.com/columnists/fiore/   HA!



8/22/2011 6:46:14 PM

This quote was taken from a conversation over on anther site speaking of expectations that people often have of the lifestyle as portrayed by the porno industry and then the fact that they try to label and force individuals to fit the Fantasy, rather than dealing with them as a person.

"People who are in this to interact as people with people will honor your reality and your uniqueness -even if that makes you a bad fit with them and it means that they politely end the interaction. People who are affronted by anything that indicates you are a real person weren't thinking of you as a person in the first place." 

~ Cowhideman on another site

 





8/19/2011 8:59:10 AM

I am planning on attending Beyond Vanilla in Dallas at the end of Sept. Here is the link to the event's webpage if anyone is interested and wishes to possibly join me for coffee at some point.

http://www.beyondvanilla.org/


8/16/2011 11:28:47 PM

Mistress Danni of Virginia ,  you will be missed, not forgotten.   A beautiful lady, inside and out, with grace, style, a wicked sense of humor and a nasty whip / cane hand.

Be at peace.

 

 

 


8/12/2011 7:22:45 AM

I am looking forward to being back into a sort of Routine soon as well as getting time to call my own again.   Soon the search for that special sub or slave to spend some of that time with in all the devious ways I can come up with will intensify again.   

 I am due some serious pampering and self indulgence while making full use of the right sub or slave.    :)


8/11/2011 10:21:07 AM

Just 11 more days!


7/29/2011 8:35:52 PM

well, I feel stood up.   Don was suppose to come and make me wet.. instead he went south ... (normally that would make me happy..but not this time)

 

(for people that just don't  get it,)  "Don" was a small hurricane that was suppose to break our drought.. The storm went to the south and fizzled out. 

 

I simply had fun with the play of words... nothing more.


7/25/2011 1:34:34 PM

If anyone happened to copy and keep my writings about my view of Slave vs Submissive, (I thought I had it saved somewhere ...but if I do I can't find it.)   If you could please send it  to me I would appreciate it.

Thank you

Stormz


7/25/2011 1:32:24 PM

Due to the recent profile hijackings..apparently Collarme won't let us post links any longer.. this is a re-posting of links that many find helpful.



 - repost to bring back to top of journal.

Attention submissives improve your chances with FemDoms or improve for your Mistress: 
Make yourself more appealing by widening your skill set. One way to do this is to read. Every Dominant likes different things, but if you know the technical ways of doing  the basic, widely desired, most sought out, skills it will make you more desireable.  Rather than having to teach another newbie the same things they have taught others a Dominant will be able to start immediately teaching you thier own spin on your acquired skill set.
Perhaps you will even surprise, and delight her with your knowledge and a bit of your own "style".


Your profile - this is a good thread to help you with your profile. After all it is the first thing a Dominant sees - take your time with it and make the right impression. 
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm

 

General etiquette men part 1 
  (click on the little "no thanks" if you do not wish to sign up - it will allow you to read the article)
http://ca.askmen.com/money/successful/41_success.html

 

General etiquette men part 2
http://ca.askmen.com/money/successful_60/66_success.html

 

General etiquette men part 3
http://ca.askmen.com/money/successful_100/117_success.html

 

Care of property (aka your body care)

http://www.askmen.com/fashion/keywords/manscaping.html


http://www.groominglounge.com/grooming-advice.html?gclid=CNePpeKA6JwCFRkNDQod8kd2FA

 

Care and cleaning of toys
http://www.bdsm-education.com/toy_care.html

 
http://www.domsub.info/toysandrisk.shtml



Courting the Dominant Woman
http://lauragoodwin.org/court.htm



The Courage to Submit- The Guide for the Submissive Male Seeking a Dominant Woman
http://www.lulu.com/product/paperback/the-courage-to-submit-the-guide-for-the-submissive-male-seeking-a-dominant-woman/5968917

 

Household managment
http://www.mrsbeeton.com/

 

http://www.amazon.com/Butlers-Household-Managers-Century-Professionals/dp/1439209677/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1247983007&sr=8-1



Protocol site
http://highprotocol.com/

 

submissive /slave postions

http://www.masterzchicago.com/showlinks.?catid=61


http://www.angelfire.com/journal2/positions/

 

Manicures /pedicures


http://www.amazon.com/Miladys-Art-Science-Nail-Technology/dp/1562533266/ref=pd_sim_b_1


If this seems unreasonable - take another look,  If you as a sub know how to give a technically correct  manicure and pedicure then a FemDom doesn’t have to teach you the basics, she will be able to teach you the erotic spins upon the manicure /pedicure that she prefers.

videos series (yes more than one) for the basics of a good pedicure..
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wh8Qgs4YOV0

 

Foot Massage
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-7RXb9Eg6w



Foot reflexology
http://www.amazon.com/Feet-First-Guide-Foot-Reflexology/dp/0671634127/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241096116&sr=1-4



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-vS1eXllEM&feature=fvw






Erotic


Massage and Bath
http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Massage-Sensual-Pleasure-Extended/dp/1592332609/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095276&sr=1-6

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLnpOnjBjaA



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjXdLNh9EBA



http://www.amazon.com/Art-Sensual-Massage-Gordon-Inkeles/dp/0974853526/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095451&sr=1-1

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LnKcmFUszc&feature=PlayList&p=277469C0E7363DB3&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=2

 
 
Bathing rituals 
http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_150/154_love_tip.html



 http://www.amazon.com/Female-Dominance-Practices-Claudia-Varrin/dp/0806526599/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095535&sr=1-5



http://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Bathing-Healing-Rituals-Traditions/dp/1587611708/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095535&sr=1-1

 

Facials
http://www.amazon.com/Facial-Reflexology-Marie-France-Muller-Ph-D/dp/1594770131/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241096038&sr=1-3



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-V3rvWM2PI&feature=related

  

 An emergency tool that should be in everyone's bag
https://www.sworddemon.com/p-2350-asek-strapp-rescue-knife-restraint-cutter-multi-tool.aspx



Easy to use diary site
http://my-diary.org/



Butler school in USA
http://www.starkeyintl.com/



Resource books on home care
http://chestofbooks.com/society/Household-Companion/The-Home-Book-Of-Etiquette/index.html



http://chestofbooks.com/food/science/Domestic-Science-School/index.html


 
Warning, just reading the books and/or watching videos does not make you an expert, but having the general knowledge definitely gives you a head start.

 


2/8/2010 6:44:47 PM  HELPFUL LINKS  - and LINKS FOR GROUPS
 It has been over a month since I posted this, but since I have been asked by several and it gets buried in my journal, here is a repost to bring it back to the top.

General lifestyle type links. (Consolidated and updated)  

Kinky dictionary
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdglossary.html



Informational link that is still around after so long, If you scroll down on the left side in the purple box are tons of great links to articles on everything BDSM and more. 
http://www.fetishexchange.org/

 

Local Organizations and Contacts Worldwide
Book Store and Music Store
Huge Resources and Safety Sections
http://www.drkdesyre.com/


A good protocol site
http://highprotocol.com/



D/s teaching site excellant source of easy to read information
http://ds-arts.com/academy/index.html



Great article on the difference between subspace and slavespace.. interesting writing from a personal viewpoint of the writer.

http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/yieldingsubspace.htm

  

BDSM and the Law - why you should never talk to the police

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wXkI4t7nuc

  part one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08fZQWjDVKE

 part two

JOIN The NCSF... Your Rights... You Privacy... Your freedom
!
http://ncsfreedom.org

 

The right to give up your rights
http://rlslavery.com/

 


Some more links  some are for fun, some are general information.

BDSM for the nice guy
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdniceguy.html



probably one of the BEST BDSM info sites
http://www.seekers.org.uk/

 

General information site
http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/

 

find a real life group near you
http://domsubfriends.com/a-wwwdir/org.shtml

 

Huge list of toy suppliers
http://dungeonnet.com/weblinks/Toys/



http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html

 don't know what something in the lifestyle is - this is the link you need

http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/

 allsorts of great info, for newbies, as well as refreshers for us oldies.

index of BDSM terminology
http://towerofbabel.com/sections/erotica/submittedforyourapproval/terminology/

 
This is a site just for Adult Lockable Toy bags.
http://www.foryournymphomation.com/collection.htm

 

how to make your own toys and other info.
http://www.frugaldomme.com/



one of my favorite stores
http://axovus.com/



single tails 
http://www.snakewhip.com/catalog1/index.html

 favorite
Male chastity devices
http://www.malechastitynow.com/index.html


http://www.keptforher.com/



BDSM written stories
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/stories/list.?pos=0&sortby1=average&arrange1=DESC

 

submissive and slave register
http://www.slaveregister.com/



Male submission artwork
http://malesubmissionart.com/



this is a common sense artical about Real life BDSM around family.
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenbdsmwithkids.htm



BDSM toys on the cheap.  Much of this is the same you would buy elsewhere under the BDSM lables, but they are from the orginal type sources so they are cheaper.

http://cheapbdsmtoys.com/index.html



http://storesense.megawebservers.com/HS1756/-strse-238/Fly-Wisk/Detail.bok

 

Central texas kink - group list with links
http://www.centraltexaskink.org/localgroups.htm



This is a great link for links to groups in Houston, Dallas, Austin and San Antonio
http://www.sasmtx.info/stateloc.html



Dallas Area Groups
http://www.dallasbdsm.com/



Houston group links
NLA-Houston


Elite Suite



SAF



Eros

, Every Saturday at roughly 1pm,
Eros hosts a one and a half hour class upstairs at:Rudyards Pub
2010 Waugh Street (between Westheimer & Memorial)
Houston Texas

HPEP

, NewComer's Meeting 7:30 pm - 9:30 pm
This event repeats every month on the first Saturday.

Location:  One's A Meal, 812 Westheimer, Houston, TX 77006,
713-523-8423 For an introduction to HPEP as well as good food and conversation. Have a great meal and meet some of our members. Ask questions, get involved or just be a fly on the wall. We hope anyone that is interested in joining HPEP or just curious about what we have to offer will come see us as well as our regular members. Bring your appetites. One's a meal is an award winning restaurant with great food and reasonable prices. You're sure to enjoy this evening.

HPEP Subversity SIG
This event repeats every month on the first Friday.

7:30 pm - 10:00 pm At Private Residence email haze_9@yahoo.com for information
A wide variety of topics are discussed, including guest speakers and demonstrations. The group is a safe haven if one wishes to discuss private personal issues receiving non judgmental, confidential feed back.
Everyone is asked to bring a small snack or dish to the meetings.
FYI…HPEP's Dominion is near by and many of the Dom's drop off their Subs and comeback for them later.
NO Doms/Tops/Masters or Toppy Behavior is allowed.
ALL Submissives/Slaves/Bottoms/Switches in bottom mode that are....
collared or uncollared, attached or not, (Single, Married, involved, ect ect) male, female, undecided, or however you choose to identify yourself. Any Sexual orientation, New to the life style, Seasoned in the life style are Allowed, Welcome and Encouraged to come join our meetings and group.


Safari

Munches are held the 2nd Thursday at 7:30 pm and the 4th Sunday at 11:00 am. Munches are held at Wolfie's Restaurant and Sports Bar on I-45 in Spring. We meet in the party room and it's always lots of fun. We prefer that you RSVP to xidera@msn.com

 for each munch, but feel free to just show up if you decide to join us at the last minute. 

7/25/2011 11:44:09 AM

UPDATE.. COLLAR ME Support fixed the profile hi-jacking issue.   In the next few days I shall be carefully re-building my profile.


7/24/2011 1:36:15 PM

MY profile was hacked ... If you are redirected from COLLARME.. Report it!


7/20/2011 11:29:56 AM

start saving now...   http://www.fetishfairfleamarket.com/?p=279    just $15 at the door. For those that like my signal whip, OWhips is coming to this event .. you can hand pick one of your own. ....and here is their site..  http://www.owhips.com/


7/16/2011 10:26:55 AM

just when I thought it was going to be a rainy day... it stopped..   :(

 


7/12/2011 6:23:26 AM

Houston Kiddie Pool - For those that are 18 to 35 yo  is a TNG group (NOT a child play group)  General info

date: Sunday, July 17, 2011
time: 12:30 PM to 03:00 PM
where: Golden Island Buffet
address: 901-A N. Shepherd Drive, Houston, Texas 77008  map

cost: It's like $10
dress code: Vanilla

Description - Come meet Chaos and Amante and eat yummy Chinese food in the Heights at 11th and Shepherd.

to RSVP  go to F***E***T**L***I****F****E (dot)com(slash)events(slash)61367 

Remove the ****s  and replace the (words)   Collarme is censoring


7/12/2011 6:09:04 AM
Hpep - Newcomer's meeting
Date:   Saturday July 16, 2011
Time:   7:00 pm - 10:00 pm
Repeats:   This event repeats every month on the third Saturday.
Location:   to be announced
Notes:   Join us for an introduction to HPEP as well as good food and conversation. Have a great meal and meet some of our members. Ask questions, get involved or just be a fly on the wall. We hope anyone that is interested in joining HPEP or just curious about what we have to offer will come see us as well as our regular members. Bring your curiousity, your questions and your appetites! Please check the website or announcments for the NEW Location every month!  http://www.hpep.org/newbie_menu.htm

7/11/2011 6:33:03 AM

If this is how you are...Please Please don't waste my time.

http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/8325689/the-meeting


7/5/2011 5:37:10 PM

Many People,

There are many people that see submission as a game.. "beat me so I can show off my bruises" They say to me..

There are many people that are into this for the sensations.. "I'm a Top but I just want to see what it feels like" They say to me....

There are those that seek self satisfaction in anyway they can get it, "I am a bottom what can I do for you, if you will beat me" They say to me...

There are many people that think they wish to be a submissive, " I will give to you.. but I have these limits (which are quite many) , and you can only do that this way" They say to me...

There are those that think they wish to be submissive, but they rebel "I can submit but watch out for theses type of reactions which may hurt you," They say to me...

There are many people who dream of many forms of "submission" But what many people do NOT understand is that the soul is where submission comes from.

Many people have not felt those times of fear when they had to trust another to lead them even when every fiber of their being is in flight or fight mode.

Many people have not felt the extreme need just to be at their Dominant's feet simply for the comfort of knowing that they are wanted.

Many people have not felt the pride of a service done well, acknowledged by their Dominant's smile.

Many people have not felt the overwhelming sense that their heart is in the hands of their Dominant, the trust.

Many people do not understand that this is not about the toys, not the bruises, not the kinky acts.. these are but the tools that build the bridge in order for the submissive to learn to trust the Dominant with their heart and soul..

Many people do not understand that it is all about the heart and soul.

There are many people who say that submissives are weak willed, weak minded, or lacking... 

I say that a submissive everything but weak willed, weak minded or lacking.. They are also brave, ... do you know many people that are able to give so much so deeply?

I know a Very precious few that are so strong.


7/4/2011 4:46:09 PM

Yummy lyrics and driving beat.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cDYjP0uLiDU


7/4/2011 10:26:10 AM

Happy America's Birthday to everyone.. Happy  July 4th  wishes!


7/3/2011 8:32:39 AM

It was great seeing dear friends and wonderful to meet new ones.  An interesting party all the way around.. the equipment at the  stations was amazing.  There was everything going on,  Fire flogging, Spanks, giggles, screams, wet tees, foot massages and moans.

Thank you to the hosts!


7/2/2011 2:34:20 PM

Posted a picture of my nails  - Ready for the kinkster Red White and blue party tonight.


7/1/2011 9:16:27 AM

Looking forward to the local kinky, Red, White and Blue party tomorrow night, and getting back in touch with friends that I have sort of lost touch with in the last few months due to all the moving drama in my life.

Going to see what mischief I can cause :)

Let me know if you are going so perhaps we can meet there!

 See you all there!  Yay!


6/30/2011 8:32:29 PM

RANT WARNING!

People!    I PLAY FOR KEEPS! LONG TERM ONLY.   This means -  NO SESSIONS, NO LONG DISTANCE, NO ONLINE ONLY, NO "I AM IN TOWN FOR THE NIGHT, WEEKEND, WEEK...etc...

I don't do this for money, gifts, or anything that seems to be of monetary value traded for "services".

I am in this lifestyle because I enjoy it.   Period.

 

*steps off soap box and smooths her skirt*


6/27/2011 11:42:40 AM

A good website (FREE) that has many free kink lifestyle educational videos.

http://www.kinkacademy.com/home/


5/1/2011 6:55:19 AM

UPDATE:

We are NOT moving after all.

Well,  The parent company has swooped in and decided to delay our move... with no time frame given.   Needless to say, we are disappointed and in general pissed off about the way it went down   but with the economy We are we are a bit at the mercy of the Bigger wigs of the company..  We are grateful for at least having the income.. unlike so many who have been laid off.

 

So to be clear,  For now we are staying here. (Houston Texas area.)

 

I am glad that I didn't ship my horse early!

 

 


4/27/2011 8:23:25 AM

Update on the move.  We are cleaning, repairing, getting Doc appointments done..etc..

But still working on the details with the company for the move.. sooooo in other words... still no real progress....yet.    Hugs to all my friends that are keeping my spirits up and my feet on the ground- moving forward.


4/19/2011 10:03:07 AM

http://youtu.be/NB58B2Gn3CU   Interesting song


4/10/2011 7:51:30 AM

In case someone with an empty spot on their horse trailer is headed to the east coast..

We need a horse transported from Houston Tx, to North west NC (or close)  .. sometime in the month of May or early June.   I would gladly help with gas and expenses.


4/8/2011 7:18:07 PM

Well - It is official.   We are moving to the northwest corner of North Carolina by the end of June.   When the job says move... we start packing.


3/16/2011 1:44:13 PM

If your email comes through with the "Triggered spam mail" ...guess what.. I won't bother to read it and will block you as quickly as I delete the message.

Hint hint:

I put things in my profile / journal so that a sub may make comment on them.  It helps to separate those that can read from those that are simply wanking off on the pictures.


2/28/2011 6:49:57 AM

just posted a new picture of a cautery pen branding I had the honor to do this weekend.  Her design turned out well!   I love the sentimental aspects behind her choice as well. I  look forward to seeing it healed out.

 

Mz Stormz


2/23/2011 7:21:58 AM

for those north of Houston, who work on the weekends or such...

  elitesuite

 
Title:   Kinky Coffee Night owls
 
Date:   Tuesday
Time:   9:30 pm - 12:30 am
Repeats:   This event repeats every week.
Location:   IHOP (tomball Location)
Street:   22607 Tomball Parkway
City State Zip:   TOMBALL, TX 77375-7357
Phone:   281-655 4200
Notes:   Cost is whatever your food and drink cost you
 

1/23/2011 2:50:55 PM

Talk a walk on the wild side. - Lou Reed

oldie but a goodie

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nAHRAKQMfzA&feature=player_embedded#!


1/22/2011 3:04:31 PM

WARNING - OFF TOPIC RANT-    I never knew that getting a new kitten from a shelter was such an ordeal.   We went today and after filling out the form asking all sorts of questions, I was told that I wasn't a good home because I missed giving my cat a shot 2 years ago!   (I had actually taken him to one of those cheap rabies shot clinics and didn't keep the records) 

 

    This "shelter"  has many cats on the "Hurry now or they will be put to sleep" list.    I am just simply amazed how they consider that better than my home!   Way to go you idiots! 

 

 I have references, and many people who have visited my home and know the care of my animals.  If you know anyone who has a kitten that needs a good home in the Houston area.. Please let me know

 

 


1/13/2011 4:39:18 PM

Just posted a picture of my new coral snake colored Signal whip.   4ft, 16plat by Axel bought through OWhips.com  ...  I am loving it! *evil grin*

 

 


1/13/2011 11:39:24 AM

Ok folks,  in response to recent emails:

 

Yes I do enjoy doing Cautery branding,

No I will NOT do a non- consentual branding,

No I do NOT do strike brands

I will NOT brand someone that is obviously drunk or drug impaired.

I do not recommend getting a persons name branded on your body... will I do it.. Yes if that is what you wish.

No, I do not put "My Mark" on random strangers.  

I do designs of YOUR choice..just bring me the design and we will go from there. 

 

 

 

 


1/7/2011 5:51:52 PM

Today I went for a hands on teachings in Cautery branding.   My "Canvas" said that it hurt a little less than a tattoo.   I finally feel comfortable with the sanitary conditions and precautions,  the different aspects from design transfer all the way through the branding process,  after care instructions as well as I learned how different the brand looks when it is gone back over after a healing.

This form of branding is not like strike brands that spread or go into the muscle.  It is not as invasive / Brutal nor does the design spread and widen as a strike brand does..so details are not lost. It is an Body Modification art form.

Soooo Who's next?   Bring me your chosen designs and lets put it to skin!
 


1/2/2011 6:00:38 PM

My family and I arrived home from our Christmas vacation.  I am going to be trying to answer the emails that were not answered over our visit with our vanilla family within this week.   Please be patient.

 

 I hope everyone's new year started out with a bit of kink...or in some cases for some.. LOTS of Kink :)


12/17/2010 2:36:01 PM

Early Registration for South Plains Leatherfest Ends Dec 19

 

The Perfect Holiday Gift: South Plains Leatherfest!

Early registration ($99.00) ends December 19th!

PLEASE FORWARD AND CROSS-POST AS APPROPRIATE

South Plains Leatherfest -- International Master/slave Weekend
February 25-27, 2011 in Dallas, Texas
http://www.southplainsleatherfest.com



12/16/2010 9:24:14 PM
Update,  I have had someone with an excellent design for a cautery brand  step up and offer his shoulder as a canvas. 

Thank  you for all the emails.

12/15/2010 1:20:40 PM
Anyone local interested in a FREE  Cautery Pen Branding?


                                                                                                                                                           I am learning from someone who is amazing -  She did a Demo at the FFF Houston and I have signed up for a private class with her, but I need someone that wants a Cautery pen brand (of your own design and for free).  Her shop is in Huntsville Texas and this will take place January 7th at 2 pm and will take 2 to 3 hours..                                                                                                                            

                  If you want to see some pictures of her work let me know and I will send the link (I would put it here but Collarme is censoring the other site.
)
            

     If interested contact me for the details.



Mz Stormz

12/8/2010 2:07:16 PM
Another fun, old, kink, song -

Tom Lehrer - The Masochism Tango
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TytGOeiW0aE

12/7/2010 7:10:29 PM
Fun old Kinkster's song

Freakers Ball by Dr Hook

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uo9bKdIG_Yw

12/6/2010 3:44:48 PM
OMG.. Man named Cummings was arrested for ejaculating on a TSA officer during a "Pat down"

Here is the link to the acutal news story:

http://www.deadseriousnews.com/?p=573

12/3/2010 4:11:21 PM
This cracked me up so I thought I would share....

Crazy cow -  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VEIYMCv6B1Y&feature=player_embedded

11/16/2010 10:07:24 AM

A lot can be said for a slave's desire to serve.   He may not be the tallest or in the best of shape physically due to life and age, but if his desire to serve is strong it can make up for so much.

He kneels and I can almost see his soul settle as he takes a deep, cleansing breath to shake off the day of working out in the vanilla world.  His journey is just beginning, his cock locked away, he is feeling the effects of truly being owned for the first time in his life.

 His will is mine, to manipulate, use and enjoy as I see fit.  His fear that I see in brief flashes, is over-ridden by his trust in me, as I plan so many things to push him further and further into the life of slavery.     He will find depths of despair as well as extraordinary highs.  He is likely to be used by others  on  my whim perhaps even by a brother slave.. only time will tell.

 He will  suffer emotionally, physically and at times mentally for me.   He is mine to push, force, use,  guide and adore.  In this he shall find his strength and purpose.

 


11/16/2010 5:45:07 AM

You always have a choice.   It is the consequences  that you have to watch out for.


11/12/2010 10:59:13 PM

Had a wonderful evening at the FFF Houston tonight..   It was So great seeing old friends as well as meeting new ones..  Came home with several devious toys, leather and .... yummy stuff!


11/11/2010 1:25:28 PM

I can understand poor spelling in Private instant messenger type situations or even in chat rooms where you are typing on the fly... but in Profiles and journals?  -  Really?    

All you have to do is Google "Free spell checker"  (if you are not using firefox which checks it automatically  for you as you type) 

Those of you who  are trying to find someone and wishing to make a good impression,  if you don't wish to appear lazy - simply run a spell check!


11/3/2010 1:32:45 PM

With the burn ban lifted we are able to continue the cleaning up, and clearing out that we have been doing.  The sub /slaves quarters is now set up so that when visiting the subs or slaves are not in the house with us.   Next step is to clear out the building where we had started the work for a dungeon.  (after Ike we had used it for storage but now have a place in the barn for that) 

  Soon we can once again start work on the dungeon (our neighbors decided against moving -for now- so that dream of a second house is not in the near future)

Non the less things are looking good and gradually getting set up the way we want them.


10/12/2010 7:14:45 AM
I seriously need a vacation.  It would be good for me to attend an event somewhere and just get away from here for a week or so.

9/28/2010 12:42:11 PM
Top Ten ways to explain away your violet wand.

http://www.violetwand.com/using-a-vw/130-10-ways-to-explain-away-your-violet-wand.html

9/18/2010 6:42:18 PM

Actively seeking the right male slave or submissive for Me and my household.
 
** Must be LOCAL- Houston Texas area**


I seek one who is serious in wanting to live the lifestyle and is willing to excel in excellence of service through submission and education within the BDSM D/s lifestyle.

This is not simply a hobby.
 

Are you the "one"?

9/18/2010 10:58:28 AM
These are a riot  but good!  and the trailers at the end priceless!

http://www.countboogie.com/BDSM_Boogie

9/16/2010 2:29:48 PM

BDSM inclination quiz  (just for fun)


http://quizfarm.com/quizzes/Sex/poeticthinker/do-you-have-an-inclination-for-bdsm/


My results:

Sex is about power and you like to be powerful. It's nice to be in charge and get what you want. And being in a position where people will do what you say is exciting.

Dominant 96%
Experimental 86%
Sadist 79%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur 46%
Switch 39%
Bondage 36%
Degradation Lover 25%
Vanilla 7%
Submissive 4%
Masochist 0%


9/15/2010 2:50:55 PM
Mahahahaha .. this really appeals to the Sadist in me..

http://stockroom.com/product1.aspx?product_id=4350




9/8/2010 6:00:21 AM
Ok an official answer to the whole "over /under" question.

*Laughs* (and a way to frustrate the truly ocd subs.)

http://www.origami-resource-center.com/toilet-paper-origami.html

and add

Nothing like the details
[Napkins][http://www.amazon.com/Napkin-Origami-Creative-Ideas-Folding/dp/1402752954/ref=reg_hu-wl_list-recs]

Towels
http://www.amazon.com/Lost-Art-Towel-Origami/dp/0740755633/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_c

duct tape
http://www.amazon.com/Ductigami-Art-Tape-Joe-Wilson/dp/1550464299/ref=pd_sim_b_19

Naughty origami
http://www.amazon.com/Very-Naughty-Origami-Nick-Robinson/dp/0789312077/ref=pd_sim_b_22

pornogami
http://www.amazon.com/Pornogami-Guide-Ancient-Paper-Folding-Adults/dp/1931160287/ref=pd_sim_b_24

8/21/2010 10:08:35 AM

For those that keep up with me, (thank you for that)

Unfortunately the man that was in service to me failed to earn his place with me.  I am not surprised ... just disappointed.  I wish him well and a happy future.


8/12/2010 9:15:05 PM
I love working outside. 
  Of course I wait till the evenings or I make a point of getting up early.. I don't do heat well, and as a natural red head.. I don't do sunshine any more than I have to.

   The last few evenings have been spent trimming trees, clearing fence lines, and ended with a bonfire.  It is peaceful and enjoyable.  We have gathered animals over time that all get along, so we end up with chickens (free to roam at all times) following us picking at the bugs that the lawn mower stirs up,  the horses come to pick at the grass that we pull from under the fences (we have electric fences so we have to clear the line from time to time)    the dogs keep us company as well..
  Once it starts getting dark we light the fire, the chickens go to roost in the nearby trees, the dogs sprawl at our feet and the horses graze nearby.    

Our little farm is starting to look like we love it again.  

To those who think that only a submissive should be doing this work, just don't understand a country woman.   My submissive helps but I enjoy being a part of seeing the changes in the farm. I enjoy the calm and reflection that the work brings.
 

7/14/2010 8:01:22 AM
I am cutting back on the time that I spend on Collarme. 
 I have the same name on FzEzTzLzIzFzE (remove the z's)  as well as our House name "BurnishedHaven" if you seek more info about me or my family.

6/13/2010 5:17:44 PM

It is hard to believe how long it has been since I attended a play party. The Lyon's den was a great way to get back out into the community.  The atmosphere is wonderful, the people were welcoming and friendly. I look forward to getting more time to know everyone but it was great meeting you.   I took my violet wand (always a fun ice breaker).   Even though I have been away from the scene for a while, and I have never been to a party in Houston, it was as if I stepped right back in and picked up on the fun. What an amazing "family" of kinksters Houston has!    I am already looking forward to the next event! Thank you - You know who you are - for making me feel right at home!


6/11/2010 10:20:18 AM
I'm looking forward to the party at Lyon's Den tonight  (Houston).   It will be good to meet some new folks as well as to stirr up some evil with the ones I already know
 
- little wicked grin -


6/3/2010 4:27:00 PM

It's actually quite simple...

Don't make an appointment to meet someone if you are not actually intending to keep the appointment.

Yes, another one cancled. (one that I actually gave a second chance)The one good thing is that he let me know in time so that I didn't make the drive.

 Requiring a face to face meeting fairly quickly at least weeds out the gamers.


6/1/2010 9:32:14 AM

Rant Warning:

*This does not apply to the casual, once in a while, type players*

submissives and slaves:

   I know that people are busy, but if you have no time to commit to service why are you here seeking a LTR Dominant?

    My mind is a bit boggled by how many have claimed that they want an LTR submissive or slave position but when it comes to the rubber meeting the road they are not willing to give up or re-arrange their extracurricular activities.

   This is like anything else that you do. If it is important you make time for it.  It is not a 15 minute once a week thing.   It may cut into your other hobby, work out, drinking with the buddies, (fill in your "off" time consumer here).

Most of us have to work - that is understandable,  but if you are not willing to re-arrange your personal time for someone then how do you really expect to serve them?
 
     Am I missing something here?




5/29/2010 4:54:03 PM
Just a quiet evening home tonight.. going to have to figure out what to stir up for the next couple of days.


5/27/2010 5:03:04 PM

Just to be clear, yes - I'm still seeking a male submissive or slave.
 (Houston, Texas area)


5/25/2010 6:34:23 PM

Well, what a weekend!

I am not real sure where to start but to say it was simply amazing.   The venue was small, under 30 people.  The speaker was Jay Wiseman.  His presentations were a joy for beginners and old timers alike.  The Humor and the details were divine.  The glint his eye when talking about tying someone up and the bit of wickedness in his grin is infectious enough to make you feel like a groupie at rock concert with a coveted back stage pass.  Jay was able to remind us the important  things can still be fun and that safety and escalation is not exclusionary.

I have always been pretty much strictly a chains, lock, and leather type person because I have seen so much of the fancy rope work that I just felt that it took time away from my "play time"  but Jay was able to present simplified rope work that was very effective and you can bet that I will enjoy developing my rope skills in the near future. 

I have never been one for breath play and Jay presented many of the medical, and legal conditions that allowed those who attended to make the choice for themselves as to whether or not the risk factors were worth it for the individuals involved.  I saw no use of "scare tactics"  just simple medical and legal knowledge which he was able to share so that we could come to our own conclusions.  He never once said that people should "not do it"  just know the risk when making your choice.

The "bloopers" section of the weekend was a riot,  Most in the room were roaring with laughter as the presentation went over situations which were also learning opportunities but for the most part were FUNNY in how the people involved handled them.

I think my favorite part of the evening was when we were all able to relax, share stories of the lifestyle and shoot the shit.  Seeing and getting to know  and even flirt back and forth with Jay in a small relaxed  venue /setting will probably be one of my favorite memories as I continue to enjoy many years in this lifestyle.

  Thank you TIED for offering us such a wonderful chance to meet an icon of our lifestyle.

  If you don't already own SM101,  It should be one of the first books you should buy.   


5/25/2010 5:17:24 AM
I am back home.  It was an amazing vacation.   I will write more in the next few days as I am able to catch up with things here.

5/21/2010 4:15:38 AM

I am in Virginia, the flights were fairly uneventful. (other than being preached at and squished in like sardines.)

 It is so good to see my Sister Ms Talyn!  It really has been too long.  I am going to be meeting up with Ms June and Ms Wolf tonight at the event.   Today Ms Talyn and I are indulging a bit in pampering.

And I am going to get to hit the salad bar! (lol yeah I know sounds weird)   Houston has an amazing shortage of really good salad bars,  so it is something I have been looking foward to)



5/19/2010 6:37:33 AM

In 24 hours I will be Flying to VA Beach..

LOOK OUT VA! The 4 Dommes of the Apocolypse will be together again!
 
(insert maniacal laugh here)


5/17/2010 3:55:15 PM
Just a few days till I fly to VA for the weekend event and seeing friends Dominants and subs !   Can't wait!

Stormz

5/14/2010 10:15:42 PM

It is amazing to me at times that when I call their bluff and actually invite them to meet me over lunch coffee or such, (no expectations - just talk)  that so many seem to disappear.  Nothing like the prospect of actually stepping out from behind the computer screen to weed out the players vs those that are for real.


5/14/2010 11:56:13 AM
I am getting stir crazy!  Next week isn't getting here fast enough.  I so need to enjoy myself! 
  And I seriously need a Pedicure this weekend!

5/12/2010 11:18:21 AM

Simplified and categorized my profile..perhaps it will be easier to read now.

Counting down the days until my kinky vacation in VA.


5/10/2010 11:25:15 AM
We had a blast at the art car show, I survived the inlaws (actually enjoyed thier visit)  and now the house is quiet... VERY Quiet.   ahhhhhh

5/7/2010 9:48:29 PM
Husband and I are Loading up the kid, the inlaws, coolers and chairs... then heading out to the art car parade tomorrow.  Should be an interesting Vanilla (groan) Day in downtown Houston.

I am really needing to get my kink on.

5/5/2010 12:15:57 PM
AC update.. It's working!   It just took a few more threats, and new wiring. :)

5/4/2010 1:22:09 PM
uugh, I don't think our AC is going to make it much longer.. it doesn't seem to be responding to flogger or soft words anymore ...   time to write the obit.

5/3/2010 7:47:37 PM
Pretty good comparison video between birdlocked, Bon4 and CB6k

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tm9yNIhErw

5/3/2010 2:52:32 PM

Something to add to the wish list for "someday"

http://elasticaengineering.com/zencart/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=5&products_id=72

extra long and wide with neck and penis gasket 
*little wicked grin*
 
Just looks like too much fun!


4/30/2010 8:51:38 AM
Derby Day Tomorrow!

Ideas,
  Horse tail butt plugs,  and funny hats -  Need I say more?

4/29/2010 2:56:01 PM
Getting through the in-law visit is going to be a bit easier ..  I have found out that when I go back to Virginia that there will be quite a few folks that are going to go to the event that I have missed since moving to Houston. 

It is almost scary lol no telling what all trouble we will enjoy *insert evil laugh here*

I am looking forward to seeing all you Ladies, and boys!

Mz Stormz
 


4/28/2010 3:36:39 PM

I am seriously needing a reliable person into domestic service, who has home organizational skills.  male or female welcome to apply.

yup trying to vanilla-ize my home is driving me crazy.


4/27/2010 5:50:04 PM

Well Vegas is out, instead I am going to go to Virginia, see friends and attend a weekend event of classes and well known presenters. 

 May 21st, 22nd and 23rd   :)
 

It should be fun !


4/26/2010 2:08:34 PM
Nothing like having to vanilla-ize the house.  The in-laws are coming for a visit so to avoid any un-needed questions, all toys go to storage till they leave around the 10th,             

4/23/2010 2:30:37 PM
Coming up in Sept. in Dallas

http://beyondvanilla.org/home/ 

4/19/2010 11:38:11 PM
this looks interesting.. does anyone have any first hand experience with it?

http://www.bon4.co.uk/

http://bon4.com/products.html

4/18/2010 7:16:42 PM

Humnnnn  what an interesting day *wink*


4/17/2010 7:22:52 PM
It is soooooo good to be feeling well again!   Maybe a bit of trail riding tomorrow!

4/15/2010 12:20:58 PM
I think I am finally getting over my cold... Finally!

4/15/2010 7:26:26 AM
Thinking about a 3 day weekend vacation.  I have some credits with Southwest ... hhhumnnn what to do?

4/13/2010 2:02:06 AM

I can't seem to do anything "normally".   Most people get a cold when the weather is bad, wet, rainy, cold.   Not me, I wait till the weather is wonderfully sunny, warm and inviting.  (ok more like screaming for me to get out into it)     It is 4 am and have just been woken by a coughing fit that would make a walrus proud to use as a mating call.
   Usually, I fight going to the doctor,  but later this morning when the office opens - I am giving in and calling for an appointment.   This cold has been hanging on for a little over a week now and is driving me crazy from the lack of sleep, and all the aches and pains that come along with it.


4/11/2010 1:31:02 PM

"When a man is in love he endures more than at other times; he submits to everything."

Friedrich Nietzsche


4/9/2010 1:16:08 PM
This post stolen with permission.

M/s - D/s CODE OF HONOR:
 (feel free to adopt it)

WE LIVE UP TO OUR COMMITMENTS, DO WHAT WE SAY WE WILL DO, PAY OUR BILLS AND KEEP OUR PROMISES TO FRIENDS, FAMILY, AND ALL WE INTERACT WITH.

WHAT WE SAY IS THE TRUTH. WHEN OTHERS ARE NOT READY FOR THE TRUTH WE STOP TALKING AND MOVE ON.

WE TEACH THOSE WHO WANT TO LEARN, HELP THOSE IN NEED WHO ARE WILLING TO HELP THEMSELVES, AND PROTECT THOSE WHO NEED PROTECTION.

WE ARE TOLERANT OF THOSE WHO ARE DIFFERENT FROM US AS LONG AS THEY DO NOT IMPOSE THEIR WILL ON OTHERS.

WE STRIVE TO MASTER OUR CRAFT, DEVELOP OUR TALENTS AND DO OUR WORK WELL REGARDLESS OF WHAT RECOGNITION WE RECIEVE FOR IT.

WE ARE LOYAL TO OUR FRIENDS AND DO NOT BEFRIEND THOSE WHO ACT DISHONORABLY

WE TREAT OTHERS AS WE WANT TO BE TREATED AND DO NOT HOLD GRUDGES OR TRY TO GET EVEN.

WE DO NOT GOSSIP OR ENGAGE IN IN IDLE CHATER FOR IT DEPLETES OUR ENERGY.

WE AVOID CONFLICT WHEN WE CAN AND KNOW ARGUEING IS A WASTE OF ENERGY.

WE HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH EXPRESSING APPRECIATION, RESPECT OR AFFECTION, FOR THAT BUILDS ENERGY.

WE DO WHAT IS RIGHT, NOT WHAT SERVES OUR INTERESTS OR IS EASY.

(steal this post)


4/9/2010 12:04:11 PM

I have moved the list of links suggested for submissive improvement to the bottom of my profile.
   I didn't wish to keep reposting them in order to bring them to the top.  I do wish there was a way or place to sticky things that we find useful.


4/4/2010 3:16:43 PM
Just posted a picture on my profile of a little something that I decided to add to my car ;)

Do you think it might catch your eye?

Would you be brave enough to say something to me?


Yes the car is black.  I had just waxed it so the tree is a reflection.  (for those that seem a bit confused..)

4/4/2010 10:06:30 AM

Turned into a pretty day.. I am going to spend time outside washing my car, my horses and what ever else seems to need a good hosing off.

Enjoy your Easter everyone!


4/3/2010 7:09:29 PM
I just found out today that I may actually have some time to call my own, some evenings and some time on the weekends for the next couple of weeks... Perhaps set up a few meetings (real time)  with potential submissives or slaves - 

Interested?  if so, BE LOCAL contact me.

(this would not be for play - simply to meet and see if the potential is there for more)

3/28/2010 6:49:04 PM
Happy Easter everyone!
 
Twisted Easter Fun

Some may find this offensive due to it being a Christian holiday, but I see it as an opportunity to change up the games a bit.  So if you think you might be offended, Please use your right to click the red "x" in the top right corner now.

BDSM Easter games; 
   Dress up like a giant rabbit to flog your sub. If either of you can keep from giggling it will be an Easter miracle.

  Hide a remote control egg - you know where-  and every time you make it vibe have your sub announce clearly, " I found an egg!"   The vanillas will have no clue what he is going on about but no harm.  (can't go toooooooo crazy with this one)

  This is one of the few holidays that  you can put absurd colors such as pink on a man, and it be ok in public.. He may not like it, but he will be red when you are telling him he looks so good in Easter colors.

 Have him dress up as a bunny and hop around your yard early morning - never mind that you don't have kids, -  or eggs -   If neighbors ask, just tell them he is perpetuating the myth of the Easter Bunny.
  

  Dye each of his fingers a different color.  Have him hold up that finger each time the color is said in conversation this weekend.  – nothing like a weird reminder of who he belongs to-  try to time it so that his hands are busy and watch him scramble to hold up the finger before you can mentally count to 3.

More twisted Easter

Have him wear Easter grass in his hair,  or a bunny tail - if anyone gives him a funny look or asks him about it, His reply is simply to be "I have Easter fever with wabbit disease"
As a Dominant try not to laugh out loud when this happens to him.(a nearly impossible feat)
Have him carry a basket of colored eggs around and pass them out to adults and children.. singing (to the tune of happy birthday) Happy Easter to you!  Not only you the Dominant gets to laugh but everyone will enjoy laughing at him.

caution, I don't recommend having him do all these things at once..   Vanillas may show up with white coats.

Ok that’s a few ideas.. I look forward to hearing other people's bit of Easter celebration. *little wicked grin*  Even if you are unlikely to do them this is just for fun and ideas.
 


3/28/2010 6:39:50 PM
Goodness another beautiful day, and productive too.  The place is looking like it is loved again.  Stuff put up, trash picked up, mud almost all gone. Spring flowers have sprung up.  The horses are feeling good (almost too good- getting into trouble from time to time.) The riding mower is runing well so I was mowing around the big patches of wildflowers.  We are almost to the point we were before Ike hit us. 

3/27/2010 6:34:25 PM
It is so nice to have a string of good weather.  We worked outside, and got a lot done, cleaned up (it got behind during all the mud)  We were able to get some thing fixed and the place is starting to look loved again.

 Now I am blissfully tired .. A pedicure would be Grand right now.  I think I would turn into jello !  lol

3/26/2010 8:27:05 PM
Seeking a male slave or submissive 
Must live in the HOUSTON AREA

3/22/2010 1:15:40 PM
so, you want to be a slave...

This is written Male Dom / sub fem but I am sure you can get the general drift.  It is well written as things to think about.
http://www.thebdsmsite.org/KBAwant2bslave.htm


3/15/2010 1:55:11 PM

Being in the lifestyle does not mean you don't have kids, a job, etc...

 

Being in the lifestyle means that there are undertones to all that you do. If you are sub and your Dominant asks for a drink (even in front of the kid) you can serve Him/her with nuances of the lifestyle (such as bringing her the drink with two hands - one placed under the bottom of the glass)  or making sure that your Dominant has a coaster for the drink...   That is one simple example of so many things that can be infused into daily living that makes it a "Lifestyle"  

 

BDSM or D/s doesn't have to be something that makes living in the real  world with real issues impossible.   It is a dance - a balance - a constant reminder of the position that  you have agreed to in a relationship.   Jobs, medical issues, children, while not to be interrupted or included in the BDSM D/s they can co-exist  without interfering with each other.

 

Rituals, rules, habits, and protocols all make this possible.

 

Just like vanilla relationships - Sex is not had in front of the children or at work..does it mean it doesn't happen?  NO.  Does it mean that looks are not exchanged?  No.  Does it mean that the couple don't do things for one another that are acceptable in public?  No. 

 

Vanilla relationships are often filled with much less subtle things than the BDSM D/s lifestyle.  A sub is trained to see the smallest of cues from the Dominant, where as Vanilla interactions are off the cuff and not always done on purpose. 

 

Example -

 

Vanilla example:   "honey will you get me a beer? Oh and could you put it in a mug please."  spouse gets the beer, brings it to spouse, and sets it on table near the Dominant.

 

D/s  example:  Dominant gives a discreet hand signal.  submissive gets beer, brings it to the Dominant served in a mug because the submissive already is trained to know how the Dominant prefers it.  The submissive makes sure there is a coaster on the table but when bringing the mug to the Dominant the submissive with both hands - the submissive hesitates ever so slightly as the mug is presented quietly to the Dominant.

It is not about being naked 24/7 or being beaten every hour upon the hour.

 

So I write this rant for those of you who say in your profiles -  "I can't live the lifestyle because I have job, child, family obligations... (Fill in your excuse here) "

 


Rant off.


3/15/2010 10:41:55 AM

Several men have said they wished to meet, I set a date time,  over coffee in a public place.  Several have either just disappeared from online the day before, canceled at the last minute, or simply didn't bother to confirm the morning of or the night before as agreed upon.  

  If things come up I understand, but when you don't attempt to accommodate re-scheduling, then I know it was not likely the excuse that was originally given.

 I see no point or any gain of this other than wasting both of our time.  If you do not intend to Meet in Real life - face to face please do not waste my time.
  
Thank you.


3/9/2010 9:08:05 AM

mmm what a song.. !

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=llSUSFRG4CA 
James Morrison - Better man

edit add:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OayhO9K7LDs&feature=related 
James Morrison - You make it real for me

Both songs could be "submissive male" songs, love songs or both.  How ever you think of them the lyrics are yummy.

3/8/2010 3:26:58 PM

Some history

http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/olddays.htm 

http://www.leatherfaerieshaman.com/Origins/Title.html 

http://alt.xmission.com/~trevin/hanky.html 
rarely more than two were used at once.

Good Dominants are friendly, courteous, and open when dealing with other Dominants. They share their knowledge and skills with appropriate others. They respect relationships. They respect those with a different orientation than their own. Good Dominants tell potential partners what they are into and what to expect while leaving them room to back out before they start. Everything they do is consensual.

Then there are other "dominants" that cause trouble wherever they go. They try to top or be one up on other Dominants. They think all subs must submit to them in all ways. They are predators. Generally, they are viewed with disdain by experienced members of the lifestyle. They have very little success and soon drop out of the community if they do not learn to mend their ways.

Based on J. Wiseman SM101


2/28/2010 7:59:59 PM
I have been watching Solitary 4.0.  Val is a such a Domme  - sadistic bitch lol   

The show just makes me smile in a very wicked way...  Thanks Val for the ideas for the future     

I have already had some ask me what Solitary 4.0 is,   Basically, it is contestants that are kept in solitary "pods".  Val tortures them with treatments.  The people can give up or continue to take her tortures .. this season seems to be more Sadistic than previous seasons.

2/27/2010 4:26:33 PM
Such a pretty day today!   I finally was able to wash off my horses's legs and they seemed to appreciate it. (they have been muddy so long I nearly forgot that they have some white socks.

I was able to clean up some - the wind scattered things yesterday. Now if I could get my riding mower running again life would be really good.

2/22/2010 10:58:10 AM

A couple of blogs I have enjoyed recently

Reality vs. fiction in a M/s relationship http://www.edencafe.com/fantasy-vs-reality-in-ms/

 Kagel magic for men as well as women
 
http://andeatingit2.com/2010/01/24/kegel-magic-for-men-as-well-as-women/


2/14/2010 11:53:35 PM

Great household managment site.

http://www.mrsbeeton.com/


2/13/2010 11:01:44 AM
Information for those in the Dallas, Austin, San Antonio, and Houston areas.

This is a great link for links to groups in Houston, Dallas, Austin and San Antonio
http://www.sasmtx.info/stateloc.html

Dallas Area Groups
http://www.dallasbdsm.com/

Houston group links

NLA-Houston
Elite Suite

SAF

Eros, Every Saturday at roughly 1pm,
Eros hosts a one and a half hour class upstairs at:Rudyards Pub
2010 Waugh Street (between Westheimer & Memorial)
Houston Texas

HPEP
, NewComer's Meeting 7:30 pm - 9:30 pm
This event repeats every month on the first Saturday.

Location:  One's A Meal, 812 Westheimer,
Houston, TX 77006,
713-523-8423 For an introduction to HPEP as well as good food and conversation. Have a great meal and meet some of our members. Ask questions, get involved or just be a fly on the wall. We hope anyone that is interested in joining HPEP or just curious about what we have to offer will come see us as well as our regular members. Bring your appetites. One's a meal is an award winning restaurant with great food and reasonable prices. You're sure to enjoy this evening.

HPEP Subversity SIG
This event repeats every month on the first Friday.

7:30 pm - 10:00 pm At Private Residence email haze_9@yahoo.com for information
A wide variety of topics are discussed, including guest speakers and demonstrations. The group is a safe haven if one wishes to discuss private personal issues receiving non judgmental, confidential feed back.
Everyone is asked to bring a small snack or dish to the meetings.
FYI…HPEP's Dominion is near by and many of the Dom's drop off their Subs and comeback for them later.
NO Doms/Tops/Masters or Toppy Behavior is allowed.
ALL Submissives/Slaves/Bottoms/Switches in bottom mode that are....
collared or uncollared, attached or not, (Single, Married, involved, ect ect) male, female, undecided, or however you choose to identify yourself. Any Sexual orientation, New to the life style, Seasoned in the life style are Allowed, Welcome and Encouraged to come join our meetings and group.


SafariMunches are held the 2nd Thursday at 7:30 pm and the 4th Sunday at 11:00 am. Munches are held at Wolfie's Restaurant and Sports Bar on I-45 in Spring. We meet in the party room and it's always lots of fun. We prefer that you RSVP to xidera@msn.com for each munch, but feel free to just show up if you decide to join us at the last minute. 

2/12/2010 4:05:40 PM
Our son is home, doing well.  Thank you everyone for the well wishes and prayers!

2/9/2010 7:19:06 PM
My son's surgery is being bumped up to the end of this week.  I won't be near the computer as much as usual.

2/8/2010 4:46:33 PM
The other favorite of many,
 - repost to bring back to top of journal.

Attention submissives improve your chances with FemDoms or improve for your Mistress: 
Make yourself more appealing by widening your skill set. One way to do this is to read. Every Dominant likes different things, but if you know the technical ways of doing  the basic, widely desired, most sought out, skills it will make you more desireable.  Rather than having to teach another newbie the same things they have taught others a Dominant will be able to start immediately teaching you thier own spin on your acquired skill set.
Perhaps you will even surprise, and delight her with your knowledge and a bit of your own "style".


Your profile - this is a good thread to help you with your profile. After all it is the first thing a Dominant sees - take your time with it and make the right impression. 
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm 

General etiquette men part 1 
  (click on the little "no thanks" if you do not wish to sign up - it will allow you to read the article)
http://ca.askmen.com/money/successful/41_success.html 

General etiquette men part 2
http://ca.askmen.com/money/successful_60/66_success.html 

General etiquette men part 3
http://ca.askmen.com/money/successful_100/117_success.html 

Care of property (aka your body care)

http://www.askmen.com/fashion/keywords/manscaping.html
http://www.groominglounge.com/grooming-advice.html?gclid=CNePpeKA6JwCFRkNDQod8kd2FA 

Care and cleaning of toys
http://www.bdsm-education.com/toy_care.html 
http://www.domsub.info/toysandrisk.shtml

Courting the Dominant Woman
http://lauragoodwin.org/court.htm

The Courage to Submit- The Guide for the Submissive Male Seeking a Dominant Woman
http://www.lulu.com/product/paperback/the-courage-to-submit-the-guide-for-the-submissive-male-seeking-a-dominant-woman/5968917 

Household managment
http://www.mrsbeeton.com/ 

http://www.amazon.com/Butlers-Household-Managers-Century-Professionals/dp/1439209677/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1247983007&sr=8-1

Protocol site
http://highprotocol.com/ 

submissive /slave postions

http://www.masterzchicago.com/showlinks.php?catid=61
http://www.angelfire.com/journal2/positions/ 

Manicures /pedicures
http://www.amazon.com/Miladys-Art-Science-Nail-Technology/dp/1562533266/ref=pd_sim_b_1

I
f this seems unreasonable - take another look,  If you as a sub know how to give a technically correct  manicure and pedicure then a FemDom doesn’t have to teach you the basics, she will be able to teach you the erotic spins upon the manicure /pedicure that she prefers.

videos series (yes more than one) for the basics of a good pedicure..
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wh8Qgs4YOV0 

Foot Massage
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-7RXb9Eg6w

Foot reflexology
http://www.amazon.com/Feet-First-Guide-Foot-Reflexology/dp/0671634127/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241096116&sr=1-4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-vS1eXllEM&feature=fvw


Erotic
Massage and Bath
http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Massage-Sensual-Pleasure-Extended/dp/1592332609/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095276&sr=1-6 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLnpOnjBjaA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjXdLNh9EBA

http://www.amazon.com/Art-Sensual-Massage-Gordon-Inkeles/dp/0974853526/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095451&sr=1-1 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LnKcmFUszc&feature=PlayList&p=277469C0E7363DB3&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=2
 
 
Bathing rituals 
http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_150/154_love_tip.html

 
http://www.amazon.com/Female-Dominance-Practices-Claudia-Varrin/dp/0806526599/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095535&sr=1-5

http://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Bathing-Healing-Rituals-Traditions/dp/1587611708/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241095535&sr=1-1
 

Facials
http://www.amazon.com/Facial-Reflexology-Marie-France-Muller-Ph-D/dp/1594770131/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241096038&sr=1-3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-V3rvWM2PI&feature=related  

 An emergency tool that should be in everyone's bag
https://www.sworddemon.com/p-2350-asek-strapp-rescue-knife-restraint-cutter-multi-tool.aspx

Easy to use diary site
http://my-diary.org/


Butler school in USA
http://www.starkeyintl.com/

Resource books on home care
http://chestofbooks.com/society/Household-Companion/The-Home-Book-Of-Etiquette/index.html

http://chestofbooks.com/food/science/Domestic-Science-School/index.html
 
Warning, just reading the books and/or watching videos does not make you an expert, but having the general knowledge definitely gives you a head start.


2/8/2010 4:44:47 PM
 It has been over a month since I posted this, but since I have been asked by several and it gets buried in my journal, here is a repost to bring it back to the top.

General lifestyle type links. (Consolidated and updated)  

Kinky dictionary
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdglossary.html

Informational link that is still around after so long, If you scroll down on the left side in the purple box are tons of great links to articles on everything BDSM and more. 
http://www.fetishexchange.org/ 

Local Organizations and Contacts Worldwide
Book Store and Music Store
Huge Resources and Safety Sections
http://www.drkdesyre.com/


A good protocol site
http://highprotocol.com/

D/s teaching site excellant source of easy to read information
http://ds-arts.com/academy/index.html

Great article on the difference between subspace and slavespace.. interesting writing from a personal viewpoint of the writer.

http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/yieldingsubspace.htm  

BDSM and the Law - why you should never talk to the police

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wXkI4t7nuc  part one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08fZQWjDVKE 
part two

JOIN The NCSF... Your Rights... You Privacy... Your freedom
!
http://ncsfreedom.org 

The right to give up your rights
http://rlslavery.com/ 


Some more links  some are for fun, some are general information.

BDSM for the nice guy
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdniceguy.html

probably one of the BEST BDSM info sites

http://www.seekers.org.uk/ 

General information site
http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/ 

find a real life group near you
http://domsubfriends.com/a-wwwdir/org.shtml 

Huge list of toy suppliers
http://dungeonnet.com/weblinks/Toys/

http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html don't know what something in the lifestyle is - this is the link you need

http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/ allsorts of great info, for newbies, as well as refreshers for us oldies.

index of BDSM terminology
http://towerofbabel.com/sections/erotica/submittedforyourapproval/indexofterminology/ 
This is a site just for Adult Lockable Toy bags.
http://www.foryournymphomation.com/collection.htm 

how to make your own toys and other info.
http://www.frugaldomme.com/

one of my favorite stores
http://axovus.com/

single tails 
http://www.snakewhip.com/catalog1/index.html 
favorite
Male chastity devices
http://www.malechastitynow.com/index.html
http://www.keptforher.com/

BDSM written stories
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/stories/list.php?pos=0&sortby1=average&arrange1=DESC 

submissive and slave register
http://www.slaveregister.com/

Male submission artwork
http://malesubmissionart.com/

this is a common sense artical about Real life BDSM around family.
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenbdsmwithkids.htm

BDSM toys on the cheap.  Much of this is the same you would buy elsewhere under the BDSM lables, but they are from the orginal type sources so they are cheaper.

http://cheapbdsmtoys.com/index.html

http://storesense.megawebservers.com/HS1756/-strse-238/Fly-Wisk/Detail.bok 

Central texas kink - group list with links
http://www.centraltexaskink.org/localgroups.htm

This is a great link for links to groups in Houston, Dallas, Austin and San Antonio
http://www.sasmtx.info/stateloc.html

Dallas Area Groups
http://www.dallasbdsm.com/

Houston group links

NLA-Houston
Elite Suite

SAF

Eros, Every Saturday at roughly 1pm,
Eros hosts a one and a half hour class upstairs at:Rudyards Pub
2010 Waugh Street (between Westheimer & Memorial)
Houston Texas

HPEP
, NewComer's Meeting 7:30 pm - 9:30 pm
This event repeats every month on the first Saturday.

Location:  One's A Meal, 812 Westheimer,
Houston, TX 77006,
713-523-8423 For an introduction to HPEP as well as good food and conversation. Have a great meal and meet some of our members. Ask questions, get involved or just be a fly on the wall. We hope anyone that is interested in joining HPEP or just curious about what we have to offer will come see us as well as our regular members. Bring your appetites. One's a meal is an award winning restaurant with great food and reasonable prices. You're sure to enjoy this evening.

HPEP Subversity SIG
This event repeats every month on the first Friday.

7:30 pm - 10:00 pm At Private Residence email haze_9@yahoo.com for information
A wide variety of topics are discussed, including guest speakers and demonstrations. The group is a safe haven if one wishes to discuss private personal issues receiving non judgmental, confidential feed back.
Everyone is asked to bring a small snack or dish to the meetings.
FYI…HPEP's Dominion is near by and many of the Dom's drop off their Subs and comeback for them later.
NO Doms/Tops/Masters or Toppy Behavior is allowed.
ALL Submissives/Slaves/Bottoms/Switches in bottom mode that are....
collared or uncollared, attached or not, (Single, Married, involved, ect ect) male, female, undecided, or however you choose to identify yourself. Any Sexual orientation, New to the life style, Seasoned in the life style are Allowed, Welcome and Encouraged to come join our meetings and group.


SafariMunches are held the 2nd Thursday at 7:30 pm and the 4th Sunday at 11:00 am. Munches are held at Wolfie's Restaurant and Sports Bar on I-45 in Spring. We meet in the party room and it's always lots of fun. We prefer that you RSVP to xidera@msn.com for each munch, but feel free to just show up if you decide to join us at the last minute. 

*****************************************

2/6/2010 8:29:45 AM

Crazy week as usual,  found out my son is going to have to have surgery on his ears and Adnoids (sp?) - I need to do the research on all that next week to see what will be best -

Also found out that we are likely going to be buying the house next door.. which has me dreaming of turning it into a dungeon.. with one room with "house privileges" rented to a submissive -   It will take a while to for all this to happen, and it may fall through but for now the dreaming is fun.

Meanwhile we are going to be enjoying the sun today!..

 I just wish it would stay with us long enough to dry up the "lake" we call a horse pasture.  I think it is suppose to rain again Monday.  


2/5/2010 2:38:09 PM
Beat Me In St Louis is coming up folks! 

http://www.stl3.com/events/stl3Eventsindex.htm

1/31/2010 5:11:40 PM
Anyone have a Kindle 2 or Kindle dx that they wish to sell fairly cheaply?  will consider other types of e-readers also.

1/23/2010 5:48:44 PM
In the words spoken by Will Smith ---
I gotta get me one of these! 
http://www.slickco.net/  The movie of the latex vacuume cube on the site is Yummy!

1/22/2010 8:14:25 AM

Submissives tend to talk on their profiles of their limits, how they wish to be "pushed" or that they want to give so much of themselves.. 

Where are the specific skills?  Why not talk about what you have to offer?

Some Women do not like a submissive to list their "likes and dislikes" and when it comes to the lifestyle.. I understand that! As a Dominant I make those choices but honor limits.   It is the regular everyday vanilla activities I am speaking of.

Maybe this is old school but when I am looking at a potential submissive I want to know about him as a person, the type of things in vanilla life that he enjoys, his regular everyday skills as well as the things of a more special nature that would be a benefit in the not so vanilla situations.

A profile should be a bit more personal resume of a sub -  I am not saying to give out specifics like address, phone number, where you work or social security number PLEASE DO NOT PUT THESE ON YOUR PROFILE! -
  Make your profile or introduction a rounded verbal picture of the type of person you are, what you enjoy, your skills that may benefit a Mistress.   And if you don't have training, say so, but then list the books you are reading in order to prepare yourself for life as a submissive or slave.  

 I like many others Dommes I have spoken to  seek a sub that will be a part of all aspects of my life, not just a few breaths out of a day. So when I see that a man has made a true effort to prepare... I do take notice.


1/21/2010 6:37:59 AM

  This entry could be seen as controversial.  Everyone has different ways of doing things, their own reality, experiences etc... This entry does not apply to those that simply session rather than it being a part of their daily lives. It is long, may ramble and people may disagree with part or all.  That is your choice.

   Being as I am FemDom and enjoy male submission it shall be written in that vernacular.

   Every move you make speaks louder than any words.  Our lifestyle has a swirl of images of a submissive on the floor in front of the Dominant.  The porn industry has made this out to be a sexual fetish, and for some it is..   I am writing more on the deeper meanings and purposes of this type of posturing.    

Body talk.

   Body language is one of the most important things in this lifestyle. A Dominant should be aware of her sub and the training in that body language.  New submissives may not know or even be aware of their own body language.   Once taught it gives the submissive a "safe" place to be as well as allows a submissive to be non threatening, and humble even in the midst of an argument.  Yes I said argument.  Despite what fantasies dictate there will be disagreements and arguments.  With that said, there is a right way for a submissive to argue, or disagree and there is a wrong way.   

   Submission is a CHOICE.  It is a choice that is made on a constant basis with every situation that is involved in a relationship.  Please don't confuse this with the weather the person is a "submissive" or not.  A person can be a submissive but can choose to withdraw their choice of submission to someone at any time.  This is America after all and no still means no. (this writing is not about the old argument of slave vs. sub please don't become distracted)

    If a Dominant is obviously displeased  (not within a scene) and is in the process of telling a submissive of discretions:

At this point a submissive has a choice,  He can choose to be defiant or he can remember his place with her:

Defiant -  standing, staring, jaw set , hands clinched, body rigid, not saying a word or on the other hand screaming or speaking harshly.    This comes off as threatening, reactionary, and can quickly become a possibly dangerous situation.  He is his own man ...not hers at this moment.

  A Dominant must decide to or not to push a submissive at this point as it may become a battle of wills and reactions possibly physical in a bad way . It can quickly become escalated into an unmanageable situation.  A Dominant has to know when to control a situation by finding a way to cool off a possible confrontation by removing either themselves or the submissive or both then re-addressing the issues at a later "cooler" time.

   A submissive that chooses to remember his place with his Dominant will "stand down"  (if in a situation where hitting the floor, kneeling or pone is inappropriate)  He will drop his eyes, lower his voice , his jaw is relaxed his hands loose, shoulders down, body relaxed.  This signals to a Dominant that he is compliant, listening and he has chosen to remember his place.   If the venue is a safe place for the submissive to kneel or go prone then he should be.   from these positions a submissive may be given the chance to explain,  respectfully disagree or accept that he has been wrong.   By a submissive going into this mode he is less likely to compound the original issues which caused the distress of the Dominant in the first place. 

   I have said that submission is not easy.  In times of strife it is especially true.  Devotion, determination, loyalty to one's Dominant during times of strife is more important than ever to ensure that the trust is not broken.

Trust  -  how does this play into this particular writing?

If a submissive chooses to withdraw his submission during times of strife then is he true in his submission to her? Or is he simply submissive when it is convenient for him to be in order to get what he wants?    Perhaps he is a bottom rather than a submissive.  If he is choosing to not be "hers" in times of strife, is he truly "hers" at all?

All of these are thoughts that swirl through a Dominant's head when a submissive goes defiant.  Trust is one of the most essential aspects of our lifestyle and for a submissive to not be inconsistent in his service to her or it will put doubts and questions of him into her mind.  Her trust broken. Without trust in both the submissive as well as the Dominant, the lifestyle and relationship will not work.


12/15/2009 8:12:17 PM
Discussions like this one, 

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2938559/tm.htm 

keep me on CM.  What an interesting thread.

11/23/2009 8:40:51 PM

For those that are wondering -
I was known as WicdDragon for many years in the lifestyle community.  I took a break, had a child, moved etc.. true to form I could not stay away and did not wish to get completely away from the lifestyle and I took the name online of MzticStormz in order to be involved but not immersed as I once was.
  Now that my husband and I are feeling more settled in, we are re-establishing our household of WicdHaven
(pronounced Wicked Haven).  We have reclaimed the Wicd Names and we are gradually going to switch things to the Wicd household again.


11/16/2009 8:09:30 PM

I have a new violet wand - Posted a picture of the kit.. *big wicked grin*


11/5/2009 8:35:13 AM

I love my horses (no, not in that way).. but Hay is a non-consentual pain in the ass.


10/31/2009 9:32:41 PM

Rarely does one come across someone that can portray themselves from a point of beautiful as well as strength yet still articulate the essence of a submissive nature and represent their Master in a light that truly shines brightly simply by being someone of which portrays excellence.  I was honored converse in a few brief but amazing emails with photohound today.  With permission of her Master as well as her - I would urge others to see the beauty of her profile and embodiment that she was able to convey.  Thank you to them both for being who you are.


10/19/2009 10:30:54 AM
I have been getting a lot of people contacting me from outside of Texas.   Here is a link that will help you find a real life lifestyle group in your own state.
http://domsubfriends.com/a-wwwdir/org.shtml 

Please use it.

10/18/2009 7:00:11 PM
I very seldom offer second chances.  I actually don't remember ever allowing a "second chance"  But subtxmale has worked hard to prove that he deserves one.  I have met his wife - in person -(a wonderful woman) and everything has been put above board.  subtxmale has worked to learn the things I enjoy, as well as helped around our farm (He worked damn hard for me and asked for nothing in return). He has given of his time and efforts to  e a r n   this chance. 

  Only time will tell what the future holds.

9/26/2009 6:57:07 PM
Well shit.  A lie of omission is still a fucking lie.
Turns out he is married but didn't think to tell me.

People if you are seperated, but have not done the paperwork for the divorce..  You are still MARRIED.

9/9/2009 10:15:48 AM

A man that had never had nipple torture before, a little this, a little of that, some CBT, a little bit of Queening, a LOT of tease and yummy denial, maybe a few other "firsts" for him.   It was a very enjoyable weekend.


9/4/2009 12:48:04 PM
It's my BDay weekend.. I am soooooo going to have fun!

9/4/2009 9:55:25 AM
Because several have asked,
  I am doing great!  I have been back up on my horses, working around the farm and enjoying being able get around so much easier.   My hip replacement surgery was simply wonderful experience (never EVER thought I would say that about a surgery!)  The benefits is that I have my life back.   I still walk a little wierd and it will take time to get used to it enough to wear heels again..but I will get there boys.. don't you worry
 - wink -

Thank you for all those of you who have checked on me, wished me well and have celebrated my recovery steps with me.

8/23/2009 7:29:17 AM

The lifestyle community has suffered huge loss this week. 

Jack McG has passed.  
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_McGeorge

He was an icon, teacher, and he worked tirelessly for our lifestyle and is one of the founders of Black Rose.

You will be missed Jack, but never forgotten.
http://inmemoryofjackmcgeorge.com/

Information about Jack, services, etc can be found on the Black Rose website www.br.org


8/7/2009 7:16:27 AM

http://www.brevent.org/br09/index.php?option=com_frontpage&Itemid=1
Black Rose in D.C.  - One of the best events in the nation.


8/4/2009 10:57:39 PM

not to be another that is just complaining about the heat but looking out my window from my air conditioned home I see my horse sweating quietly under the shade of a tree.

  Twice today I had to hose him down, I am worried that he will have a heat stroke.  This heat is just getting way out of hand with no relief in site.

 Come on you crazy Yanks, and hillbillies, send at least some of that rain down here.


7/28/2009 7:48:31 AM

Yesterday was a day of house cleaning, fence fixing and just doing some general re-arranging.  I over did it and today I feel it!  It is good in a way as it is a process to building back up my strength, stamina and balance.  LOL but it sure makes me cranky this morning! Normally I would opt for a long soak in the tub in order to relieve some of the soreness, but as hot as it already is outside, the idea of a long hot bath is just revolting. 

I have procrastinated enough now it is just time to get moving again.
 


7/24/2009 8:45:53 PM
I Seriously hate house work..
I so need a male submissive wife. *grin*

7/19/2009 8:50:19 AM
I wish there was a way to sticky posts in my journal so that they would stay on top.

7/18/2009 9:01:48 PM

It just might be time to pick up a whip again *little wicked grin*   Needless to say I am feeling good.


7/9/2009 9:43:09 PM
6 week check up.. All is well ....except.... I strained my opposit knee from trying to compensate for my hip.. lol   so now I am limping on my other leg ...

It is minor but annoying ..lol
  

6/30/2009 5:27:06 PM
One month post surgery.   Off the cane, Still a bit of a limp but even that is nearly gone. I have to be careful for another 3 or 4 weeks to make sure I don't re-injure my hip but I am getting better.   The scar is a bit unsightly right now but even that is doing very well and will hardly be noticed once it ages a bit.   I am amazed at how much better I am able to move with the new hip already! 

Look out sub men - A Bionic Domina is in the house !  *wink*

6/15/2009 7:02:55 AM

update:  I am now on a cane, and feel younger already - amazing how old one can feel just using a walker even if for a short time.   Around the house I don't need a cane but going out anywhere I use it just because you never know what you run into.

  The staples came out without any trouble. People kept telling me how much it would hurt etc... but it didn't - mostly it was the fact that there were so many in such a small area - I had to have a breather about half way through but otherwise that was so much better than getting stitches removed. 


Thank you to everyone that has sent the "well wishes" It is always nice to know that there are those that keep up with what is going on with me.

    Stormz


6/10/2009 2:54:46 PM

-Boring entry alert-  If you don't know me and my situation then you likely would be bored reading this post. You are welcome to ignore it unless you wish to know my latest status.

Today is the 2 week mark since my surgery.  I had a bit of a delay due to a pain in my hip that isn’t quite normal when I put weight on it.. but apparently it is due to inflammation and as that subsides it seems to be getting better (Thankfully). I figured I would be on a cane by now but perhaps next week. 

 I go into see the Doc tomorrow to get the 28 staples out.  It is time.  My skin seems to be having a slight irritation reaction to them now … my body’s way to say enough is enough already I guess.  PT hasn’t been bad as far as pain goes, but the woman wears me out. I tend to crash after she leaves for a couple of hours of hard sleep.  I do my routine but I don’t do it all at once except for when she is here.

For the record: I think I would kill for a good pedicure right now - LOL  - since I am not allowed to bend enough to get to my feet (for now) I seem to notice them and the lack of attention they are getting  - poor tooties !


6/1/2009 8:59:08 PM
I really didn't realize how bad my hip was until it was replaced on the 27th.  I was basically off of pain meds on the first day.  I was able to go home on Friday afternoon because I was able to go down the hallway, climb up and down stairs and generally move around enough to be released from the hospital.  Since being home I am impatient to get back to my routine and find it difficult to "take it easy"  - I am,  but am trying to not take out my grumpiness on everyone when I can't do my usual stuff.

I am healing quickly and will be back to my sensual sadistic self in no time.

Thank you to all that have written me, and my husband to find out how I am doing. 

Talk to you soon,

  Mz Stormz

5/28/2009 6:53:58 AM
keeping this short sense I am typing on my phone... I am finished with surgery...doing excellantly... starting PT today. hugs to all that have sent messages..I will try to answer over the weekend when I am home and on a real computer.... be well. Mz Stormz

5/25/2009 3:55:04 PM
Wed 5/27/09 I become the Bionic Woman!

  Metal on metal hip replacement -  and just 6 months until I can get back on horses.  Even less time to get back my "hip action" 
*evil grin* 


5/12/2009 5:34:08 AM

I like the "recent Journals"  but I wish that Collarme had a semi- private journal as well,  Somethings would be best posted only for the folks that are local friends and followers of my journal.  It would be fairly simple to have a "Whisper" button.

We are thinking about converting a barn we have (30x30) into a "dungeon".  We are thinking about holding private parties from time to time that are focused on fun but with the flair of protocol expected.   The idea is just starting to jell and it will take time and money to get it going but by perhaps next summer we might have it up and running.  Sound damping, and a decent floor are going to be the two biggest parts of it.
  


5/11/2009 5:43:00 AM

Lifestyle

That word does not mean just submission behind closed doors.

It is a way of life; Nuances incorporated into the way we live, all the time.  

Be it the way a glass is set on the table, wearing things under the clothes, requesting things of the Dominant rather than demanding … so many little things.  Being owned or an owner is not “part time”.   It is a choice that a submissive or slave chooses when offering him/herself to a Dominant. 
Lifestyle means that you LIVE IT.


5/10/2009 12:25:15 PM

ohhh what a yummy article on how to beg properly it is written M/f  but with a little imagination it can be adjusted for a F/m


http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/how-to-beg-when-asked/

5/6/2009 1:57:53 PM
http://www.summersinfest.com/ 
Summer sinfest
Houston, TX

JULY 18th 2009

5/3/2009 9:28:50 AM
Do men with blank profiles really expect me to spend time with them because they sent me a one line email?  
Perhaps they are just wanting the humiliation of being turned down.

4/22/2009 10:18:37 AM
Ok here it is, 
  I am becoming the bionic woman as of the end of May.  The many years of horse training and arthritis has damaged my hip to the point of no return.  They have decided that I need the same hip as Marry Lou Retton.  It will allow me to get back up on horses with in the year.  So while I am a bit worried about the surgery, I am excited about being able to ride again, and above all else get back into shape. 
So the end of May and most of June I will be recouperating - but I will be back better than ever!

4/21/2009 5:28:58 AM

Submissive's in the oddest (or maybe not so odd) places.

This weekend found me busy and I tend to leave the TV running in the background. At one time I found myself drawn to the TV for a movie that I normally would not pay attention to.   It was The Princess Diaries - Yes, yes, I know, a teenager chick flick to the max. (as I said not one I normally would be drawn to) But there was on character that drew my attention.

Hector Elizondo was the character that was the service assistant to the Queen. I found him to be quite yummy.  As he moved about, did things for the queen (as well as princess Mia)   His posture, his manor, and his attention to details,  using all the qualities of a service submissive without him loosing his very sexy "Manliness".    The queen would give simple gestures, or with a glance Hector's character knew what was expected of him.  When he disagreed with the Queen he was able to tell her in a respectful manor that she was "too hard on her grand-daughter.

That side of what it is that we do, are the more tedious and hard to find qualities of men these days.  Finding the "spank me, Fuck me with a strap on, make me grovel for an hour" type of submissives seem to be a dime a dozen and not the type of submissive that have interested me. 

Hector would not be considered the sexiest man alive.. but I would take him over most of the ones that claim that title after seeing him in that role.


4/17/2009 7:51:08 PM

Yes a Submissive/slave can have a job...
Fantasy vs Reality


http://www.bdsm-education.com/submissive.html

http://www.cufsnorth.org/Old/subprimer.htm 

Your thoughts?

4/16/2009 10:20:04 AM
http://terminatorsalvation.warnerbros.com/ 
! ! Bring it on ! !

4/11/2009 10:05:35 PM
Happy Twisted Easter

4/11/2009 8:08:27 PM

So quickly when the tire hits the road, we find out if the engine that is driving the car is really working or not.

Honesty and communication are the number one and two things that can make or break a relationship. It doesn't matter if it is in our lifestyle or vanilla.  A submissive that doesn't stay in even mild contact with his Domme (even if it is a single text a day) is dooming the relationship to failure. 
 
It is up to the Domme to not get in the way of his work, but due to that she has to have input as to where he is, what he is thinking etc...   No Dominant is a mind reader - Despite what some submissives think.

If you as a reader has picked up on disappointment in this posting - you are right along with annoyance and irritation.  I am glad that I didn't put all into this sub, I enjoyed the little bit of play but it shall go no further.  A lack of honor is not something that can be pushed, punished, or persuaded into a person, and one of those things that can't be tested for until the "tire meets the road."


4/11/2009 3:25:16 PM
More twisted Easter

Have him wear easter grass in his hair,  or a bunny tail - if anyone gives him a funny look or asks him about it, His reply is simply to be "I have easter fever with wabbit disease"
As a Dominant try not to laugh out loud when this happens to him. (a nearly impossible feat)

Have him carry a basket of colored eggs around and pass them out to adults and children.. singing (to the tune of happy birthday) Happy Easter to you!  Not only you the Dominant gets to laugh but everyone will enjoy laughing at him.

caution, I don't reccomend having him do all these things at once.. (including the ones from the last post)  Vanillas may show up with white coats.


4/10/2009 9:14:15 AM

Some may find this offensive due to it being a Christian holiday, but I see it as an opportunity to change up the games a bit.  So if you think you might be offended, Please use your right to click the red "x" in the top right corner now.

BDSM Easter games; 
   Dress up like a giant rabbit to flog your sub. If either of you can keep from giggling it will be an Easter miracle.

  Hide a remote control egg - you know where-  and every time you make it vibe have your sub announce clearly, " I found an egg!"   The vanillas will have no clue what he is going on about but no harm.  (can't go toooooooo crazy with this one)

  This is one of the few holidays that  you can put absurd colors such as pink on a man, and it be ok in public.. He may not like it, but he will be red when you are telling him he looks so good in Easter colors.

   Have him dress up as a bunny and hop around your yard early morning - never mind that you don't have kids, -  or eggs -   If neighbors ask, just tell them he is perpetuating the myth of the Easter Bunny.  

 

  Dye each of his fingers a different color.  Have him hold up that finger each time the color is said in conversation this weekend.  – nothing like a weird reminder of who he belongs to-  try to time it so that his hands are busy and watch him scramble to hold up the finger before you can mentally count to 3.
 
Ok that’s a few ideas.. I look forward to hearing other people's bit of Easter celebration. *little wicked grin*  Even if you are unlikely to do them this is just for fun and ideas. 



4/8/2009 9:32:37 AM

Nothing like being inspired to update the protocol material. 

   I didn't realize that it had been so long since I felt the impulse to go through some of my advanced training documents.  I have been updating, revising and trying to get it all back into one place so that I can refer to it easily.   So many things have changed about this lifestyle that it was nice to see that some of the protocols still apply and it will be nice to teach them again.

All the toys, the sexual innuendo, the mental and physical play are all tools to find that depth that so many enjoy.  Now just to find the right person that wants to learn excellence of service.  I am not going to put everything into one person..right now..only time will tell.


4/7/2009 12:22:11 PM
This is a great link for links to groups in Houston, Dallas, Austin and San Antonio
http://www.sasmtx.info/stateloc.html

4/7/2009 9:04:49 AM

My weekend started out well with a nervous sub.  It took him a while to turn loose and give me the depth that I was looking for, but once I pushed him a little he started to give me unfiltered reactions.  For a first time as my play thing he did well.

It had been a some time since I had played so I may have pushed him harder than he expected me to do so even though I held back quite a bit (after all I didn't want a safeword called on the first time of playing with him). I held low protocol, and basically just enjoyed some of the basics of CBT, Anal, and nipple torture (poor thing had never had NT before *little wicked grin*). He was a good toy, but only time will tell to see if he can keep up with my dark desires or not.

Thank you *ssj* for your service on Friday night.

  On Saturday I cleaned and sterilized toys,  Then my family and I went to a local music festival.  Sunday I enjoyed working out in the yard (between wind gusts)  All in all a wonderful weekend.


4/6/2009 6:04:58 AM

***Warning - If you don't like Rants, Don't read this.***

What is with all the people that think 24/7 means that they can't hold jobs and have a life?!?

  Lifestyle doesn't mean dropping out of society.  It doesn't mean that you are going to be locked into a house never to be seen again.

  24/7 *generally* means that D/s BDSM are incorporated into your daily life.  A submissive going to work does his work with his Mistress in mind.  He conducts himself in a way that his Mistress is pleased. If he does his work well, treats others well, and honors her as he moves through his day then he is living the 24/7 lifestyle.   (some women have their men wear their underwear to work or something that no one but the two of them know of)   A collar is not something that is taken on and off at the door.   It can be anything, not just around his neck but perhaps locked around his ankle or wrist. 

   If you don't think you can do 24/7 due to job, what about your family, friends and other aspects of life.  Careful.. by those terms you can have no other aspects of your life other than drooling upon your Mistress' feet... oh but wait..that means SHE can't have a job either because she is at home beating you constantly, with wet feet !
*gets a towel and tosses it at the perceived 24/7 Mistress so she can dry her feet*  

The situation that is described by those that say "I have a job so can't..." would mean that all 24/7 people have turned into jobless, lifeless, friendless, drones with no family that have mush for brains.

  I just don't get the "I can't do 24/7 because I have a job" crowd.  

 COME ON PEOPLE -  USE THAT THING BETWEEN YOUR EARS!

Rant off

 *steps off soap box- smoothes her hair - regains her calm composure and returns to her own 24/7 "real"  life.*


4/5/2009 5:10:27 PM
An informational link that is still around after so long is http://www.fetishexchange.org/ 
If you scroll down on the left side in the purple box are tons of great links to articals on everything BDSM and more.

great artical on the difference between subspace and slavespace.. interesting writing from a personal viewpoint of the writer.

http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/yieldingsubspace.htm

4/4/2009 10:04:42 PM
"I believe there is difference between D/s and BDSM. D/s is the show or feel of Dominance and submission. There is service and outward respect and obedience shown. The BDSM part to me is the bondage, the playing, the pain, the S&M. so in their life the punishment and BDSM play is done behind closed doors. The D/s is constant. The Dominance and submission is evident but in a way that is unobtrusive. The D/s part can be shown without lots of people thinking much of it or noticing it."
  Author - unknown -

I have to say that I agree somewhat with this ...although I can see that at times bondage can be done under clothing and such while in public.  The SM can also be done in ways that are would not be noticed to those not within the lifestyle.  The key is to not involve those that are vanilla even if it is between my submissive and I.

4/1/2009 5:37:39 PM
Sometimes, like tonight, a mood hits that can be quite - compelling.  The desire to tease torture, and use a man can be so overwhelming.   It is such a YUMMY feeling of power.

3/26/2009 9:57:57 PM

Sometimes the most cynical topics can be informative.. This one had me chuckling.


Every sub man should read it.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2521564/mpage_1/tm.htm

3/26/2009 4:48:28 PM
It's good to be home, getting back into routine.   Back to seeking a LOCAL submissive. 

3/17/2009 8:13:56 PM
We had a wonderful family filled day of driving through a safari park with camels, zebras, Bison, Lamas and Emus all clammering to steal the feed buckets from inside the car.   Needless to say a car wash is order (after our showers to get the animal slobber off).

   It was great fun and the laughs were plenty. Corn beef topped the day off for us (Yummy!)   I think we will all  be sleeping early and well due to being completely and utterly worn out.  Memories are made on days like today, and this one will be one charished for years to come.

3/15/2009 8:55:31 PM
Suddenly, after years of having the same photo as my primary photo, Collarme has decided that the one of my legs was not suitable as a primary photo.  WTF !

So, since they have disallowed that one ..none of my other photos will show up until I can find one that they will accept.

3/8/2009 9:18:20 PM
Clearification for my entry from the 7th..

The first scenerio of a "pedicure" is called foot massage.. 

The second is a pedicure.  A pedicure includes a foot massage, but It seems that many do not know the difference.

Foot worship can include either one, both or none of the above.

3/7/2009 8:24:47 AM

A submissive is going to make mistakes.(So will the Dominant for that matter) That is just a given. I don't mind that at all- it is how we learn.. I do mind someone that shows no effort to correct them or to avoid repeating mistakes.  Some people seem to believe that the label "submissive" gives them the license to turn off their brain completely - mindlessly following orders all the time that they are with the Dominant; Aka doormat submissive.  

Example of submissive 1(brainless submissive) : When a Dominant tells him that she enjoys pedicures, he gets a bottle of lotion and says "ok, I am ready to worship your feet"


Example of submissive 2: When a Dominant tells him she enjoys pedicures, He researches proper techniques of pedicures, reads books, even perhaps goes to a spa to get a pedicure so he can see how it feels as well as paying attention to the details.  He may also take a class if he can find one available.
   After he has armed himself with knowledge, he gathers his supplies, the tools, the soaking tub, towels, scrubs, liniments, razors (one never knows how high the pedicure will lead him)  and finally a tube of lotion. 
  During his studies he looks for ways to add erotic touches, a glass of wine, candles, anything that his Dominant may enjoy.  Of course everyone's preferences are different but he will seek to learn hers and incorporate them into the pedicure. 
~~~~~~~~~
another easy example that can be used in a vanilla situation as to how a sub can serve without being "outted" in public:

Example of submissive 1(brainless submissive) : When his Dominant tells him that she would like to go to the movies, he waits to see what movie she picks or if she says "choose one you think I will like" he picks out one that he prefers or goes with the ones the critics pick.


Example of submissive 2:  When his Dominant tells him that she would like to go to the movies; If she says choose one that he thinks she will like, he considers her likes and dislikes and chooses three, He approaches her with those three for her final choice.  He at that time asks if they will be eating before the movie and what and where she would like to go or do before hand.  He then sets up reservations (if required - I am not going to go into all the dinner prep way of dress, what toys she might like him to pack etc...) He will go and pre-buy the movie tickets (after all his Dominant waiting in a line should be avoided for her comfort)  He sees her to their seats and then with permission he excuses himself to get her drink and snacks.

   Service or being a submissive is not just doing as you are told, but seeking to do as  told in an exceptional way in order to please his Dominant.  

  Life can bring opportunities for a submissive to better himself, his service, and techniques with every turn.

A submissive can not be "on at all times" any more than a Dominant can be, but when called upon he must strive to present himself well.


3/3/2009 3:48:32 PM

Unfortunately this needs to be repeated -  If you are not telling your spouse or girlfriend that you are a submissive..
 Please do not bother me. Honesty about yourself, to me and the important others in the closer people of your life are important. 

As stated in my profile, My husband will know about my submissive. That is what an open marriage is. Honesty, openess and being up front with all parties involved.

If it bothers you that you would be dating a married woman - then don't bother me, as I do not just keep this in the bedroom.  A sub shall be a part of my life not just a piece of it.


2/27/2009 5:37:33 PM

I know that some of the terms I will be using will put some folks off but I prefer them due to the teachings I have received over the years as well as .. ok the terms are habit to me.. so Please try not to miss my message or thoughts just because the terms are off putting.

Sometimes I think the lifestyle being out in the mainstream is a good thing as it brings more acceptances to it (to a point).  The concerns are less tangible.  Does it cheapen it to be so public?  Are people taking it more and more as just "kinky sex"?  Are protocols and forms from old being forgotten? Are the deeper emotions and meanings in the lifestyle being forgotten?

The main concern I have is the power exchange.  Light play, or short term play does not lend its self well to the true power exchange. (At least for me) 

I have found that I can play, enjoy, release some tensions, and appreciate the person willing to submit to me on a short term or few sessions but that is NOT my preference (Each To Their Own Kink). The power exchange comes with time, getting to know a person, knowing what his buttons are, his strengths and weaknesses, his desires, dreams and even his turn offs. I can use those to create scenes or even in daily life to play the mind, caress the soul, and torture or delight the body.. (not always in that order and sometimes all at once )

So to come full circle, the changes I have seen in the in the lifestyle leaves me wondering how so many can "play" and not have that spark behind their eyes or the energy in their heart that drives them.  That true desire, the craving.  I realized it's not just the submissives but also the Dominants that seem to be going through the motions.  The "It's kinky so it's cool" attitude that dances around on sites like this one, as well as with some of the people I have actually met. (I refuse to name names as that would be classless)  They have no clue what it is that they are missing. 

Interviewing is harder than it used to be. Sorting through those that seem to want to be kinky in order to be cool, and those that want sex- any kind of sex, and those that are just not sure what they want who are "exploring".   It's  the rare few that do something in a submissive tone, and the Dominant side of myself jumps to the forefront where I can hardly contain it, he catches it and I can see the spark behind his eyes that lights the way to his soul.

I know there are still those around.. but the sea is deeper and the search takes a lot more than it used to,  Thanks to the internet, and the "public acceptance" of our lifestyle.

If anyone cares to comment, Of course I look forward to your emails.


2/19/2009 9:21:05 PM

I finally have some time and a bit of a routine.  A bit more pampering and play is order ;)


1/29/2009 11:52:23 AM
Lately,  I have been getting emails that say how interested someone is in me, but they give a yahoo or hotmail..(insert any free email host here). 

It stinks of scam to me.  So - New rule -  I shall not email anyone off of collarme until I have exchanged several mailings here and there is an interest in each other.

Don't like Collarme?  Too bad. It works well enough to exchange a few emails.

1/4/2009 4:49:37 PM
There seems to be a newish website called .com - basically it is Facebook with Kink for us.  I am new on there (same name as here)

11/28/2008 6:49:19 PM
I am sad to report that a dear friend has passed.  She fought for over a year but cancer and the complications from the treatment claimed her.   EmeraldMaiden shall be missed. 

11/27/2008 6:48:07 PM

OMG my turkey actually was good!    Things went well, everyone is now in a turkey induced coma so it is likely to be an early night.

Happy Thanksgiving all!


11/26/2008 1:18:42 PM

If you don't like to read rants - don't read this entry. 

What is with the men that think writing one line in their profile, and then a simple "Hello Ma'am" in a note is going to get my attention?  Show at least a little bit of effort on your part. Introduce yourself, tell why you should be the one I talk to, show a little personality or tell me a joke.. Anything to let me know what sort of person you are.  It takes all I am to not just click "block this sender"  when I get those that are too lazy to put their better foot forward.

Rant off: You may now return to your regularly scheduled day dream of being trussed up turkey style.
*grin*


11/25/2008 5:48:49 PM

If the Indians had given the pilgrims a Donkey instead of a big juicy turkey..

Would we all be getting a nice piece of ass on Thanksgiving?


11/24/2008 7:27:19 PM
I wonder if I took a sub man all stuffed and bound like a turkey to the family dinner, if it would shock my vanilla family... Humnnnn

I wouldn't do it, but it sure is fun to think about.  *little wicked grin*

11/22/2008 8:25:45 PM
I have really been enjoying HBO's new series True Blood. The D/s undertones are wonderful.

I recognize the characters from the books but the rest has been changed so much that I am eager to see next season's shows.

Lately I am still fighting with the long distance thing. I just don't get how people can get involved with others that are so far away. Without the hands on, face to face - it just seems like a torture to me.

I pose these questions
 - Do you find you end up "talking" more (sharing more of your thought process etc..) with folks that are long distance because there is not a likely chance that things will progress? 

- On the flip side, Do you think that local connections tend to be more shallow because there are hopes and desires that things will work out with the person so you hold back more?

11/15/2008 6:15:24 PM

http://www.myspace.com/mzticstormz
  I have added art that folks from here will probably enjoy - This site has my play list on it

Or if you want to just listen to the music I enjoy...

http://www.playlist.com/MzticStormz
My Playlist..some of the songs are quite fun, others just enjoyable to listen to.


11/12/2008 10:40:54 PM
"Words without action say nothing"

I have found that folks within this lifestyle from all aspects have to prove themselves. Not just the submissives, not just the Dominants, and not just the switches - Everyone.

11/11/2008 10:12:04 PM
I've not been online as much in the last week. My son has been ill - nothing major but he is a man after all so ...everything when it comes to illness is major

   It has just been a nasty cold but I think he will be returning to school tomorrow.  (and Mom might just catch up on sleep)  Thursday and Friday I hope to catch up on all the things I have been putting off while taking special care of my son.

11/7/2008 5:28:42 PM
Wow, actually a quiet night.

Collarme is running so slowly tonight that I am not going to write much but thought I would share a bit more this site allows me music, and other fun stuff..but it is a bit more of my vanilla front.

site on myspace.

http://www.myspace.com/mzticstormz

11/5/2008 3:40:18 PM
following up on the 10-25 journal entry-

Ok a male wife on somedays, a handyman/yard man on others, a kinky male toy/pet any other time I wish. ;)

It's all about the mood of the moment with me.

11/2/2008 9:52:06 PM

A link with a phenomenal amount of information – BDSM related of course. http://www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm 
This link has been around for years, but I just happened back upon it today while looking for local Houston resources.


10/30/2008 4:02:19 PM
How is it that people that are located several states away from each other, make it work?  I personally don't see the point if it is unlikely that you are not going to get hands on more than a couple of times  a year!   But then again I don't tend to scene just to play.  I like to keep my boy toys up close and personal.

To be in that situation just seems like torture for not only the submissive but also the Dominant.. and I am so not a Masochist!

Mz Stormz

10/25/2008 8:08:59 AM

It Ain't Just the Boots!

It's not just the toys.
It's not just restraints.
It's not just the sex.
It's not just the fetishes.
It's not just the violence.
It's not just the service.
It's not just the clothes.
It's not just the barking of orders.
It's not just blindly following.

It's trust.
It's devotion.
It's being open.
It's being vulnerable.
It's give and take.
It's comfort.
It's belonging.
It's safety.
It's fear.
It's adoration.
It's mind.
It's soul.
It's heart.
It's power.
It's so much more.


10/24/2008 10:11:25 PM

   At times I think I seek a male housewife. No not a cross dressing maid type of man but more of a man that enjoys making a house a home, being part of the family and making it a home for himself as well.  I won't go into the kinkier side of things for now, because much of that is in my profile.  
 
    I don't want a man that is under foot 24/7 but one that is comfortable coming into my home, cooking, doing odd jobs, when the work is done and everyone is comfortable I want him comfortable enough with us to kick his feet up and watch TV from time to time.   He should enjoy just being a part of .... us, our routine, our family.  A family member that we know is a best friend, not blood related but he is there most of time and is considered a natural part of the family. (most “normal” families have them)

     I know it is possible. We have a female sub that is still a dear part of our family. She started out as a friend. We knew she was a sub. Gradually she came to know us, and to anticipate our quirks, our way of being and she filled a much needed role in our home and hearts.    Unfortunately she has obligations in another state for now and can not be with us for a while.  

   Is it a gender thing? 

Can a man not fill that role? -  I know that it is possible. It is just hard to find someone that is looking for this type of service / family rather than just a few *sessions*  per month.

This is not meant to be a rant but more of a "thinking out loud"  after all that is what journals are for.. aren't they?




10/15/2008 6:55:54 PM
Just to be clear, if I am sent invites to join a person's circle -  I do not accept or add a person unless I have met them personally.

10/9/2008 11:21:29 AM
Hurricane Education: What I've learned during our last hurricane . . .  (no this was not my orginal list.. it was passed to me by a neighbor)
 
 
1. Coffee and frozen pizzas can be made on  a  BBQ grill.

2. No matter how many times you flick the switch, lights don't work without electricity.

3. My car gets 23.21675 miles per gallon, EXACTLY (you can ask the people in line who helped me push it).

4. Kids can survive 10 days or longer without a video game controller in their hand.

5. Cats are even more irritating without power!!!!!!!!!!!!

6. He who has the biggest generator,  wins.

7. Women can actually survive without doing their hair- you just wish they weren't around you. (Baby wipes are a poor substitue if the water is out too)

8. A new method of non-lethal torture- showers without hot water.

9. There are a lot more stars in the sky than most people thought.

10. TV is an addiction and the withdrawal symptoms are painful.

11. A 7 lb bag of ice will chill 6-12 oz Budweiser's to a drinkable temperature in 11 minutes, and still keep a 14 lb. turkey frozen for 8 more hours.

12. There are a lot of dang trees around here.

13. Flood plane drawings on some mortgage documents were seriously wrong..

14. Aluminum siding, while aesthetically pleasing, is definitely not required.

15. Crickets can increase their volume to overcome the sound of 14 generators.

16. People will get into a line that has already formed without having any idea what the line is for.

17. When required, a Lincoln Continental will float, doesn't steer well but floats just the same.

18. Tele-marketers function no matter what the weather is doing.

19. Cell phones work when land lines are down, but only as long as the battery remains charged.

20. 27 of your neighbors are fed from a different transformer than you, and they are quick to point that out!

21. Hampers were not made to contain such a volume.

22. If my store sold only ice, chainsaws, gas and generators... I'd be rich.

23. Price of a can of soup rises 200% in a storm.

24. Your water front property can quickly become someone else's fishing hole.

25. Tree service companies are under appreciated.

26. I learned what happens when you make fun of another states' blackout.

27. MATH 101: 30 days in month, minus 6 days without power equals 30% higher electric bill ?????

28. Drywall is a compound word, take away the "dry" part and it's worthless.

10/3/2008 5:47:52 PM
Halloween is coming YEAH my favorite holiday..  Now if we can just get the downed trees cleaned up in time to put up decorations. (there are just so many!) 

The doors to the dungeon are wasted.. we are going to have to figure out how to build a whole new front onto the building. Our pool is trashed so we are probably not going to be able to save it (it was an above ground pool)  but oh well, we made out so much better than so many other people I don't feel it is worth complaining about..  this is just ramblings from my mind and letting my friends know that .. yes We are fine :)   Hugs.

9/20/2008 6:26:43 PM
1 week and 1 day with no power or water!   Now to spend a week in the shower   I can not tell anyone the joy of seeing your lights come on and hearing the air conditioning kick on after so long without it.  I feel for the folks that still are without.  

We had heard today that we were not getting power or water back on until Thursday.  We as of today hauled in water for our horses, and were making arrangements to haul more if needed.

We made it though IKE with minor damage to our home, our cars were undamaged but we lost our two biggest and oldest trees plus most of our other trees sustained damage as well.  (first estimate is 3k in tree damage alone) 

The doors were ripped off of our dungeon but it is nothing that we can't fix.  


9/4/2008 12:44:29 AM

 Well, reality has finally set in. Time is not a resource that I have enough of. I am one that believes that owning, enjoying, training and playing with a submissive takes quite a bit of time,especially when the relationship is new. I do not wish to take on someone then turn around and have them feel neglected while they wait for what little time I might have to give them.

I thought about removing my profile from collarme, but I have developed acquaintances and email buddies. I also enjoy some of the questions that give me reason to think from new and experienced submissives and slaves. I will try to keep up with the boards from time to time, and also add to my journal, but I
shall no longer seek a submissive.

This decision has come with a heavy heart, but determined mind, and a fair soul.Please respect my choice.

Thank you,
     Mz Stormz
 

7/10/2008 5:20:59 AM
Summer road trip time. I'm not likely to be on the computer much for the next week of adventure. 

6/25/2008 2:17:38 PM

I have been asked today (and several times before) what a "Velcro" submissive is.  I thought the term was fairly clear but to clear it up for those that don't get it...

 Velcro submissive -   are "submissives" who use being a submissive as an excuse to be co-dependent, overly needy, clingy and emotionally draining.   In turn they cause more stress than they relieve to those that are around them.


6/25/2008 4:58:30 AM
I have had a lot of responses to my question in my last journal. They have been a lot more diverse than I would have expected them to be.  Most felt that quiet control is better, some felt that that loud at times was a good way to make a point, and others (fewer than any) enjoy what I would lable "bitch Dominance".  I have learned a lot of valuable insight. 

 Thank you all.
      Mz Stormz

6/12/2008 7:10:40 PM
Which do you consider more "powerful"?

A lady that is loud and demanding so there is no doubt from across the room what her demands are...
or
A lady that speaks softly so that one has to lean in to hear her at which point you are within her reach?

I know my own thoughts on this.. and live by them, but just wondering how others see it.

6/10/2008 3:20:30 PM

Bravery is not being fearless; it is being afraid to do something but making it a point to do it anyway.

___________________________________

A proper apology has 4 parts:

The apology it's self - "I'm sorry"
The owning of responsibility -"It was my fault"
The correction - "What may I do to make it right"
The follow through - intent without action fixes nothing.


 


6/8/2008 1:08:17 PM
So, you wish to make a good impression... Start with good ole common courtesy. When you make an appointment to meet someone.. keep it.. If you can't keep the appointment.. Cancel at least 2 hours before (after all, by the time one showers, and drives to the place it would be about 2 hours or even more) If something comes up at the last second at least have a bit of respect and Call to let her know so she isn't sitting and getting angry while waiting.  Leaving an email 15 mins before the actual meeting time is not considered notification and is Just RUDE.

6/1/2008 11:44:05 AM

A diamond has many facets in order to sparkle and someone to polish, and care for it in order to maintain its shine. The sides are balanced so that one facet doesn’t outshine or dull the rest. A diamond that has never been cut, has no wisdom or spark. A diamond is hard and cold that can cut the hardest of obstacles, yet the shine and sparkle draw even the softest of breaths.  Her public persona, her tender side, her cruel side, her passion, her desires, all need tending  to have an outlet  in order to bring her to her brilliance.

 Are you a servant to your queen, your diamond?

 Will she need someone for each of her many facets? How does she maintain a balance? It is the servant that is the true star of the show. It is the unseen, the trained, the quiet confidence that makes the queen, but that is between the queen and the servant and only in the quiet privacy and time do the true placeholders find their places.


5/23/2008 10:11:11 PM

Collars


http://www.mjstoybox.biz/articles/id12.html

 


  in our lifestyle collars can have various meanings. Some folks use all of them in order as protocol requests, some do not. I found this article to be one of the better written, and it includes an example at the end of how someone can modify it to their own preferences. I hope you enjoy the read.  

5/23/2008 8:09:20 AM

 

I have been asked by several what a petition of service is;
A petition of service is simply a bit more formal, and personal way to offer one's self and services. It is put into writing what one has to offer, their special skills, their limits and some details about themselves.
I will not accept a laundry list of things that you want. Nor will I settle for a copy of your profile. If you are serious you will submit something that is tailored to your situation as well as mine..which means you must have some knowledge of me and have been talking to me via emails or IMs in order to make it a personal petition of service.

A petition submitted to me will automatically be turned down if you do not live in the Houston area.

 


Most often it is not offered until after at least the first meeting and is a prelude to a short term or temporary probation period or contract.

I hope this makes sense.. Feel free to write me and ask if you have any more questions.


5/22/2008 9:24:15 PM
Boston Legal has been a long time favorite show .. They have touched upon many taboo things (cross dressing, the *real* doll, so many things I can't list them all) under the guise of humor, and fiction. From time to time they touch on things that twang upon that thread that is attached to passion. (no, not just the sexual kind.. get your mind out of the gutter...err strike that.. keep it in the gutter it's so much more fun there)

This week they hit upon the topic of the Homeland security act. How quickly it was passed, and read by so few before it was passed.. well I shall try to stay way from the political aspects because this isn't the place for it.. Let's just say.. the show tugged a thread.


5/13/2008 9:07:04 AM

::: Rant on :::
Why is it that so many are afraid to meet? I am not talking in a back room in or in a dark alley.. I am talking about over coffee, ice cream or some place that is out in the public. Just two folks in normal relaxed type clothing,
(despite what some may think I don't parade around in Leather thigh highs, and 6 inch heels everywhere I go), Just talking, no obligations even with each of us paying our own ways!

.. Ok I understand if you are married and can't be seen out in public, but then you shouldn't be talking to me anyway if that is the case.

No I am not going to send a face picture to some stranger over the internet before we meet! It shouldn't matter what either of us look like, or if we are or are not "compatible",
(that is not determined on the first meet anyway!)
IT IS JUST TALKING,
(Sorry to disappoint you wankers out there but I am not pulling out a whip in the middle of the local eatery and demand you to your knees in front of everyone),
and seeing if there is even a remote possibility that we can enjoy each other's company, or if not, then we go on our merry ways and never speak again.. No harm, no foul! If you do decide to show up, be open friendly and respectful. There is no reason to be rude. None!

To end on a good note.. for the most part, folks that have said they were willing to meet did actually show up. A few I would like to see again to determine if things will progress to more.. at the very least I have made a few friends that also enjoy being able to talk about kink.

Get out and live people!

::: Rant off ::: You may now return to your regularly scheduled program.


3/24/2008 5:38:39 PM
Whew,  Spring break is over, visiting "vanilla"  relatives have gone home.. I can now break out the Leather again.  

3/10/2008 6:00:34 AM
symbols and codes of our lifestyle.

Some have asked me, (yes more than one person) about the symbols and codes of old guard when folks didn't have the internet and they used hankies to let others within the lifestyle what they were into.. It is used less often now but from time to time I have noticed some still using the "flagging".

There are other symbols represented on this page as well.

I found this webpage recently
http://www.cufsnorth.org/Old/bdsmflag.htm 


3/6/2008 12:39:57 PM

True Reactions..

At times I have been told by a "newbie" that I seem to be "too much" for them.  What they do not understand is that I a reactionist.  I adore true reactions.  This means even the simplest reaction such as goose bumps forming on the skin due to the light touch of my nails, or the stiffening of his nipple when I lick and blow across it with a cool breath..  his shiver or the sucking of his breath through his teeth can all send delightful shock waves of want and desire through me.

 I say "true reactions"  because these reactions are not exaggerated. They come from his soul, things he does without thinking.. like a blush when I lightly tease him.   
 
On the other note If I don't get reactions, if one tries to hide them from me then I do what I need to in order to find what I seek. sometimes that is pain, other times it is pleasure, sometime is a mixture that entices and enhances both.


2/26/2008 9:36:16 AM

    lately, it seems that so many male subs know the mantra but don't have the soul of our lifestyle.  -So far- none seem to have the desire to please that I once knew. An intense overwhelming desire that can be read when I look at them. They appear to be on the edge of coming unglued it is so raw, yet as a good submissive trying to make a good impression they hold on. I used to see it fairly often. Has the Internet turned them callous or caused them to give up the hope?


   At times I think perhaps my standards are too high, yet they are what made me who I am and to my delight brought me quality submissives in the past.  These days I seem to be getting a lot of "I want to try it" types writing to me and I have even met a few. They are missing that fire behind their eyes or they think that this is just kinky sex.
 

     Perhaps I am over-looking new talent but I seek one that knows what he is, and has such an intense desire to please that he is sure of what it is that drives him to please. 


    I seek one that has the intense need in his soul to be owned and controlled in the way I see fit and to know where his place is in the world.


   I am usually one that does not like the concept of a "slave" rather than a submissive but lately I have been considering it as I am tired of the lighter side of our lifestyle. I am willing to put my time, effort training and expectations on the line for a slave or submissive that is sure of the lifestyle choice he has made... Perhaps I shall consider a time contract because occasional weekend "play" is not doing it for me anymore.


  He may hold a job and appear "normal" to anyone not in the lifestyle but other lifestylers will see the hints and he will have reminders of who he belongs to at all times.


2/23/2008 11:17:33 AM

Dungeon on hold again for a while.. personal reasons. 
 ok after reviewing this posting ..or rather the rambleings that I posted after being awake almost 26 hours, I decided to delete it as it just didn't make sense!


1/9/2008 9:41:44 PM
Ok now we are waiting on Tax refund to fund our dungeon.  I am getting annoyed at having to wait between trips to Home Depot.  It is coming along as planned it is just me wanting it sooner.. ohhh to win the lottery!

1/9/2008 9:39:53 PM
I'm not too sure about this new "public friends" thing.. Don't be disappointed if I turn it down and we have never even met in RL.  I am going to take a wait and see approach to this for now.


1/8/2008 8:13:15 AM

Lately I have been noticing the "expert" tags next to the activities in people's profiles.  How does one consider themselves an expert in any of the activities?     I mean every time I think, "well perhaps I am an expert" in something, someone comes along and shows me a twist or kinky new way to do it which of course spawns so many more ideas, twists and kinks.  So, after so many years in the lifestyle I have a lot of knowledge, but I always feel that I am still learning.   I have chosen not to claim the title expert for those reasons.


12/8/2007 12:35:20 PM
A site I recently dug up out of my favorite's list  http://www.seekers.org.uk/     It has been a long while since I visited this site and they have really cleaned it up and added tons of content that has a huge range of topics.

12/6/2007 4:22:44 PM

Well, we are coming up on probably my least favorite time of year. I know I wasn't the original scrooge but I definitely aware of the feelings.   I try to remain positive about it but this is the time of year where I have to spend time with family (blood not chosen) and pretend to be something I am not. At times I wonder why I do it.  I think it boils down to putting on the vanilla once a year in order for them to leave me alone the rest of the year.  Ok, rant off.  I do love the decorations, I try to avoid the commercialism of it all, and in general manage to always get through to the New year's party or such. To me New years is more a celebration that I didn't harm a family member and that I can go back to being "Me"


11/17/2007 10:45:32 PM

Actually started running the electrical for our dungeon today.  It will be nice to enjoy our equipment again as it seems like a bunch it has been packed away for way too long. I think we will have a new and usable dungeon within 3 months or so, and finished within 6 months since we are doing most the work ourselves as time allows. 


10/3/2007 6:20:16 PM

ok I tend to get a lot of mails from people that are not even in Texas.  

Here is a site that will lead you to local groups around the world.    

http://domsubfriends.com/a-wwwdir/org.shtml 

Get out and meet folks.. ya never know, you might find the one for you.


9/29/2007 1:09:10 PM

Domination and/or submission is not just a physical act.  It is a deeply, intense emotional need.  Some would argue that it is a mostly physical need and I can understand this, but what actually drives that physical need is the need that comes from within. 
.

The toys, the rituals, the physical acts are all part of what it is that we do, but we play with the toys, do the rituals, and the physical acts to tap into something so much deeper that I do not have the words to put to paper (or computer screen) to describe it.  

.

Sometimes it is the most simple things that bring out these emotions, but it is at those brief moments that we live our every breath for.


9/27/2007 4:52:13 PM
Gotta love http://www.femdomradio.com/  .........  Click listen (on the left, then Listen live if you have DSL or Cable) .. chances are ..I am listening to it.   It's music from all over the world.. if you don't like the first song you hear.. just listen for a while. They tend to find something you will like.. it's amazing how many old songs there are that have context ...let alone the advertisments lol.

9/15/2007 9:41:26 AM

A sub of mine from long ago reminded me of some of the more silly and fun things we enjoyed about each other. It was a good conversation and I appreciate that he was able to get me laughing. It was what I needed in order to temper some of my other drives. Even though your life has moved on, your service even in the small ways meant and still means so much. I am so very glad to still have you as a friend.


Thank you R.


9/13/2007 6:17:32 AM

My sadist streak it is always there, but from time to time it becomes quite strong.  At times it is a pain in the proverbial butt, especially when I don’t have a submissive that has been in service to me for at least a bit of time. It is not something I can unleash upon some fantasizing newbie without doing harm.  I feel that even one with experience would have a rough time if he and I didn’t have a major connection and history.   So for now, I shall be keeping that part of me firmly packaged away other than a mention of it in a journal from time to time.

 

   I really do appreciate the offers of service that my previous journal entry has spawned but it is not something I choose to toss around. Only one that has proven himself to me over time could serve me so deeply.  


9/12/2007 10:42:18 AM

Some days I just want to be brutal.  It's a drive, a need and a burning.  I don't completely know what kicks this drive into high gear. It is not anger, but it definitely defines the word Sadist.  It is a day like today where I want to use and take a man until he is near broken. To see the fear that he will not be able to give me all that I want, perhaps the tears as he holds back the utterances of his safeword…. Only because it is for Me,for my need, and my desire that he does so…not because it is "fun" for him.
 Only then will my hunger and drive be satiated. Only then will I be able to hold him and adore him as mine. 

It is days like today that drives forward in my search for him.


9/9/2007 10:17:25 PM
The difference between play, and control; Play is fun, but control is something that comes from a deeper place. The play is but a tool, just as the toys of this lifestyle such as paddles, whips, and leather to maintain and substain and nurish the control.

6/16/2007 5:36:58 PM
Finally made my way to an EROS meeting today. It was nice to get back out into the scene and meet people again. I didn't realize how much I had missed being around fellow pervs.   Thank you to all that were at EROS for the warm welcome.


5/22/2007 4:34:32 PM
I am Not a PRO. I stated this in my profile but I am saying here again as it seems some have missed it.  This means that I do not Dominate for Money, Roses, Gifts, or anything else someone might call it.

I am a lifestyle Dominant, that enjoys the power play.

Period.

Mz Stormz

5/19/2007 7:39:18 PM
Time seems to be my problem, I don't have enough of it compared to the desires and cravings that I have been having lately.  Home life is going so well that I hesitate bringing in another relationship, but then there is that "craving".
 
I wish it were easy to find the sub that is a perfect fit for our family.

5/7/2007 9:32:52 PM
Just when you think life is slowing down, someone kicks a pebble up the hill and starts a landslide.

5/22/2005 9:43:17 AM
My thoughts on male Chastity:

CHASTITY DOES NOT EQUAL CELIBACY.

Chastity doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t allowed to cum. It’s often a tactic by which a Dom/me further controls when and how a sub cums.  Times out of chastity and Freedoms can be negotiated as long as permission is obtained in advance for cumming. 


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