Life happens...............  Been on and off here for years and must say there are still some true slaves and masco's out here..But, when life throws you curve balls - this lifestyle gets put on the back burner..........

Looking for more than converesations........ meet and greet is expected here in Northern California.

5/1/23 updating Profile and pics .. I'm 57 - age did not update as I suspected it would . 

Been offline  for a long while .. and will continue to be off and on - lots of fake accounts and dudes that are full of shit .. lol 

Not here to waste my time or yours .. 

IF...... pics are NOT included in your initial email - consider it to be trashed 

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent by a guide above. 

Happy Valentine's Day my lovelys ..

Wishing you a day filled with love by those whom surround you ..

Hugs , bumps and grinds ..

Mzspanks ❤️

And another win for KC!  Super Bowl all the way .. 💛❤️💛❤️

End of 2021 !!! A lil note to say ... Thank you for all the funny, sweet, lewd, crude, caring , seductive and fucking outrageous .. emails, naughty pics and vid clips throughout this past year ..I've been truly entertained by some, moved by more than a few and heart strings tugged at a time or two ..  

May we all find what we seek ..

I discovered Collarme now Collarspace in my late 30's.. going into my mid 50's now and it's still an awesome site.. I've met some pretty amazing men and women ..online and lots offline too ! I've fallen in love, made mistakes and shed a tear or two for not taking a chance or not making an effort when I didn't feel the "timimg" ..

Ya know we never have enough time, there's that one day tho !! It's called regret ! 

So... whatever you identify as and whom ever it is you choose to please and for whatever your reasons .. do it all the way and the only way you know how .. by being you!! Authentcally u! Don't cheat yourself out of being that needle one the haystack..

Happy Kinky New Year ..

Hugs, bumps and grinds !

Ms. Eve 

Ha

Just a reminder:

There is an expiration date for all of us here! For us older women we lack youth, older men lack stamina and reach for those lil blue pills as we reach for the fountain of youth!  Don't let your fears overcome you and allow you to think you're less than or you'll never be good enough !  

At last the journal entries are up again !!  Wishing all my fellow Kinksters a Very Merry Christmas and Happy healthy 2022!  

Hugs, bumps and grinds my frenz 

Always,

Mz Spanks aka Eve 

Bay Area BBW 🙋🏼‍♀️

In need of a true MASOCHIST

In need of a Local  Male of Female MASO for training sessions with a New Domme.....

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Seeking a female sub/slave / maso for local training with a new Domme ..  My fav - training a newbie !! 

How to be a good slave - For: BellaDom '")

Being a sub can take on many forms: being a sex slave, being owned, being told what to do, crawling around on hands and knees at a master or mistress's feet, being kept on a leash, feeding from a bowl, dressing as a pony and being ridden around, and, of course, being punished when naughty, rewarded when good. All of these scenarios stem from the same desire: the willing and joyful surrender of control. For a sub nothing can be more liberating than this-- to step out of the    "real world", relinquish responsibility, worries, everyday pressures, and hand over their life to another. But being a slave or sub is not a one-way exchange. It's not about being helpless, being a victim, being lazy, and expecting someone else to do everything for you; it's the eagerness to serve, to worship another, the willingness and desire to please. Submission is a ritualized role of surrender and devotion to another. And if there's one golden rule that reigns above all others in being a good sub, it's this: "THE DESIRE TO SERVE"

Expect nothing in return

If a dom/domme usually indulges a sub  with a particular pleasure at the end of play, and one time chooses not to, this  should be of no consequence to the sub. If the sub gets frustrated or annoyed,  they're forgetting their sole purpose: to serve.

Pay attention to detail

A good sub should be aware of how to  please a dom/domme in every way possible. If you discover that your master or  mistress has a weakness for chocolates, lavish them with the finest you can  find. If they've always wanted to see you dressed as a cheerleader then turn up  in the costume one day. While it's important that a sub sticks to rules and does  exactly as his or her owner tells them, surprises like this show that the sub  has been listening, is thinking of the dom/domme, and is trying to please.

When in role, stay in role

Unless it's literally a life-or-death  matter, no outside influences should be allowed to break the spell once both  dom/domme and sub are in role. There's nothing worse than a phone ringing in the  middle of play and a sub suddenly saying, "Oh crap, that's my sister calling me  from Detroit. Do you mind if I take it? It might be important." A good sub may  inwardly kick himself or herself (and be punished) for leaving it on but,  knowing their place, will ignore it. A really good sub wouldn't even give it a  moment's thought; he or she would be too lost in servitude.

Take care of yourself

Remember, as a slave you're someone  else's property and, as such, you should be well maintained. If your owner  prefers a trimmer figure, longer hair, or wishes you didn't smoke, it's your  duty to do your very best to fulfill these requirements. A good owner will want  their slave to be fit, strong, and groomed. A mistress or master who encourages  their slave to drink more, wash less, and grow a neck beard, however, isn't  worthy of being served.

Never complain or argue

Nothing will annoy a master or  mistress more than a whiny slave, complaining, being demanding, or trying to  tell their owner what to do. If, however, a sub is suffering in a way not  conducive to play-their bound legs hurting, for example- he or she should always  approach the issue in a tactful, apologetic manner. The slave should never tell  their owner how to rectify the problem; that's the owner's role, not theirs.  "Master, I'm sorry to bother you but I think my legs are getting pins and  needles", is much better than, "You need to untie me; these restraints are  hurting my legs".

Thanks malpet.. Interesting approach!!

Belt Security through Hypnosis, and more!

THANK YOU "MS. LOVELY"

Great write up for those curious about Cuckolding!!

I AM NOT MARRIED NOR DID I WRITE THIS!

Mzspanks!

Cuckolding, male chastity and female domination real life

I have been married to my wonderful husband for twenty-five years. We were married when I was twenty-five and he was twenty-six, so I'll let you do the math on how old we are. In our twenty-five year old marriage, my husband has been cuckolded now for fifteen years. We have been living a cuckoldry marriage now longer than we lived a traditional marriage.

The first six years of our marriage was very traditional and very vanilla. We were the perfect couple, we did everything together and we had great sex. About year six, we became involved in D&S. That is a long story in itself and I will not go into that here due to time. We were both switches for the first two years of our D&S life, as we rotated between being the Dom and the sub. About year eight of our marriage, we both came to the mutual realization and decision that I was a natural Dom and he was a natural sub. I have embraced my true and natural Dominant Persona and my husband has embraced his true and natural submissive Persona for the past 17 years.

Like most dominant women, once I discovered and embraced my dominant nature, there was no going back and I ran with it. These past 17 years have been the best of my life, especially in the area of my sexuality. Only a dominant woman who discovers and unleashes her dominant energy is capable of experiencing sex on this higher plain. I use to think I had good orgasms but once I discovered female domination and female supremacy, sex and orgasms moved into a whole new world of intensity and pleasure.

That brings me to the topic of cuckolding. Cuckolding is like dynamite, if used properly, it is a very powerful tool but if used incorrectly, it will blow your hand off. I have talked with and counseled a number of women over the years who really screwed up their lives and marriages because of cuckolding.

But as I would listen to the stories of unwanted pregnancies, venereal disease, and broken homes I wanted to scream out "You foolish girl, you have no one to blame but yourself". You don't hold a piece of dynamite with a lit fuse and expect not to be hurt. There are two absolutes I have learned about women. One, all women are superior to men. And two, not all women are equal in intelligence and common sense. You don't sleep with strange men and you always use a condom. Period, no exceptions. The safe sex rules of cuckolding are no different than the safe sex rules of dating for singles. It's a dangerous world out there so keep your wits about you and always use sound judgment and good old common sense.

Why cuckolding? The politically correct things to say within the cuckolding world are "I only cuckold my husband because I want to drive him into deeper submission to me" or "I only cuckold my husband because he enjoys it as well. If he didn't enjoy it, than I wouldn't do it to him." Both of these commonly used statements are correct and that should be a part of the process but I also cuckold my husband because I am a selfish bitch. I enjoy having sex with another man (and occasionally another woman) while I sexually deny and humiliate my husband. There, I admitted it. I like to date other men. I like the whole process from start to finish. I love my husband and I include him in on the cuckolding because I want him to be humiliated, I want to drive him into deeper submission to me, and I feel it is his husbandly duty in a female supremacist marriage. Cuckolding is an important part of who I am, what I believe and what I am all about. It is not just a D&S game or activity but it is a declaration and a lifestyle.

Like I said, I love the whole process. I love the flirting with an attractive man. I love asking a man out on a date. I love teasing my husband about it. I love making my husband prepare me for my dates. I love going on the date. I love meeting and experiencing a new man. I love the first kiss, the first touch, the fondling, the passion, and yes, I LOVE the sex. I love the tormenting and humiliating my husband during and after the sex. I love the power I feel and I love what it does to me as a dominant woman. And above all, I love what it does to my husband as a submissive man. You don't know control and power over a man until you have cuckolded him, especially if you incorporate orgasm denial along with the cuckolding.

Let me discuss the denial process and the importance of it as it relates to cuckolding. The whole cuckolding process is about Female liberation and male acceptance to the superiority of women. It is about a total and complete power exchange from the submissive husband to the superior wife. It is about humiliating the husband for the wife's sexual pleasure.

What cuckolding is not about is swinging or orgies. I may on rare occurrences allow my husband to serve me or even service me in some manner while my lover is having sex with me, but that is because it will further my pleasure and that is what I am in the mood for that night. However, my husband is never allowed to orgasm in the presence of my lover. My husband exists to serve me. He does not exist for his own selfish pleasure. It is all about my pleasure and my pleasure is enhanced by my knowledge that my husband is aroused, frustrated and denied.

As a female supremacist, I do not believe in the male orgasm and I do not sanction the male orgasm. I only allow my lover to orgasm because I know that it will add to my husband's humiliation. The same goes for intercourse. My husband is not permitted intercourse with me but I allow my lover the right to intercourse only because I know it will add to my husband's humiliation and shame. For some women, the same can be said for sucking a man's penis. Most female supremacists will never do that disgusting act to any man for any reason. But there are some women who on very rare occasions will make an exception and do it to their lover because they want to add to their husband's humiliation and frustration.

How often and for how long do I deny my husband? For the past fifteen years, my husband has had zero orgasms through intercourse. I allow my husband to enter me with his penis two or three times a year only because I don't want him to ever forget the pleasure that he is missing the other 362 days of the year. On those few days that I allow him to enter me, I am always on top and he is not permitted to move a muscle. I may just hold still to allow him to feel my warmth or I may even give him a few humps just to remind him what he is missing. But after a few very brief minutes, I pull off of him and back into frustration he goes. Also, the entire time I allow him to be inside of me, I am softly whispering to him to tease him about how my lovers are permitted this pleasure all the time but he will never be permitted to orgasm inside of me again. Like I said, I only allow my husband these brief encounters two or three times a year and only so he doesn't forget what he is missing when I am with my lover. It adds to the mind games and the mental domination.

Besides being denied intercourse with me, my husband is denied any type of orgasm most of the time. I tried to permanently deny my husband but we didn't quite make it. He could go about a month to six weeks but than he would have a wet dream or an accidental climax during our D&S sessions. Even if he was in a chastity device, he would on occasion orgasm when I was taking him with my strap-on. So, I decided that instead of wasting my valuable time in figuring out how to prevent this or going through the exhausting effort of giving him prostate milkings, I decided it was easier and more enjoyable to allow him one or two very humiliating orgasms per month. I talked this over with a few women and the consensus is that if a man's orgasm is permitted in a non-intimate and degrading way, that it still qualifies as permanent denial. What's the difference if he has it through a milking or via humiliation? Therefore, my husband only receives one or two supervised and very degrading orgasms per month. I enjoy this as a female supremacist because his rare orgasms become very entertaining for me. My favorite is to make him hump an inanimate object before another woman while I verbally degrade him. He will hump the floor, or a chair, or the bed, or the boots I am wearing, or whatever other nasty thing I think of.

My husband wears a chastity device most of the time so I know he isn't being a bad boy behind my back. We own three, the CB2000, the Chastity Tube and the Access Denied. I change them up for variety but he seems to be the most comfortable in the Access Denied. The CB2000 is best when traveling. Is it hard on him being frustrated and denied? You bet it is and I love it. What fun would it be for me if he loved being denied? It does make him more submissive toward me, so he loves that aspect of it but no man really enjoys being teased and denied all of the time. Well, mentally they do but sexually and physically they don't. His discomfort and frustration adds to my sexual excitement and sexual fulfillment.

Who do I cuckold my husband with? This is the most important part of the entire cuckolding process. Basically, I cuckold my husband with a man that I am very attracted to and one that I know my husband will be jealous of. What fun is there in cuckolding your husband with a man that he approves of? He has no right to question my choices and he must accept and yield to my choices. Who is the liberated wife? Who is the Dom here? Therefore my husband has no say or input on whom I date. If he doesn't struggle with at least a little jealousy and envy then he will not be humiliated and thus he will not slip into sub space. I want him to choose submission over his jealousy but I have to present the choice before he can choose.

I like to date young and good-looking men. I want my husband to feel threatened. I want him to double and triple his efforts in serving me and in making sure I am happy and the better looking my date, the more threatened my husband becomes and the more eager he is to please me. I told my husband at the start of all this that I would never leave him for another man and I meant that. There is not a man alive that I would rather be married to than my husband but I am not unaccustomed to using my husband's insecurities to get him to become a better servant and submissive. I still tell him that I love him and I will never leave him but then there are times that I will tease him mercilessly about how much better my lover is in bed than he ever was.

With that said, I look for a man that I am attracted to and sexually aroused by. I have never cuckolded my husband with a borderline man. I have always cuckolded my husband with a man that I found very sexy and a man that I wanted. I want a man that is younger than my husband, more muscular than my husband and if at all possible, better hung than my husband. If you are going to cuckold your husband, why do it with a little man with a puny cock? Do it with a stud with a stud's cock. Do it with a man that you want to fuck.

Where do I find my lovers? Let me begin by saying where I don't find them. Never date a man from work. Never pick a man up in a bar. Never date one of your husband's friends or co-workers. Never pretend that you are single when talking with a man. Always be honest about your marital status.

The majority of the men that I have found in recent years have been through my FemDom support group and the Internet. I have a personal ad on Alt.com and I get many replies but if the man doesn't follow my direction in the ad, I don't answer him. I want a picture and he has to be submissive who believes in female domination. When I answer an ad, I ask very direct and personal questions and I pull no punches. I say up front that I am happily married but that I am looking for a lover. I want him to be submissive but not passive. I want my husband to be passive, not my lover. I ask the man to give me his correct name, age, birth date, occupation, height, weight, build, and penis size measured from the top of the shaft to the tip of the penis, and sexual history. I have found two very good lovers through Alt.com but you must be extremely patient and you must have a thorough screening process.

The best way I have found lovers is through the FemDom group I help run. We are a small group of only five couples and I have no intention of growing. If one couple leaves, I add one couple to replace them. We started out with the intention of building a large support group but it has become a great ground for meeting and screening single submissive men. I have an obscure web site that can be only found through Alt.com and one other contact service. On my site, I talk about our group and how we are looking for a very few select single men to join in order to serve us superior females. I get quite a number of inquiries and I again make them go through my screening process before I invite them to a group function. I ask the same questions as above but I omit the questions about his penis size and sexual history. I definitely require a photo. If the man peaks my interest, I arrange a phone call. If he still peaks my interest, I invite him to a play party. There, I will get to examine his body as well as his personality. I have found the majority of my dates and lovers through our support group. The average party consists of us five couples and a select few single submissive men.

How do I keep the same single submissive men from coming to every party? I let them know up front that because we are a small group with limited space and because so many singles want to attend, they will only be invited to one initial party. Once a year we throw a big fetish bash at a very large commercial dungeon and I will invite all the selected men to that annual bash but not to another monthly party. Unless there is a single man that I or one of the other wives are interested in dating. Then the interested wife will call the man up and ask him on a date. If he becomes a lover to one of the wives, he is of course invited to the monthly parties. The key to my success rate is the screening process. I weed out most men before they ever get an invite to one of our parties.

How long do I date one of my lovers? Pretty much until I tire of him. I make sure the man I date knows up front that this relationship will only be for a season because I am a married woman. I am honest with the man. I tell him that I find him sexy and attractive but that my goal is to use him for my own selfish pleasure. If he is a submissive man, this kind of bold talk usually excites him. I have dated men for as short as two dates and I have dated men for as long as two years. My best cuckold ever lasted for two entire years.

Is it hard to end the relationship with the lover? No, not most of the time. Usually, the lover decides to move on before I do because he decides that he wants a full time relationship after he meets a single woman who can offer him a little more than I can. I like that the best because I hate to break it off with a man that becomes overly attached to me. Unfortunately that has happened a number of times and I never get use to doing it but it is a part of the process. A man usually knows that I am about ready to move on when I start encouraging him to date other single women.

Have I ever been hurt? Yes, the man I dated for two years became my best friend other than my husband and I became more attached to him than I had planned. I broke some of my steadfast rules with him, like taking vacations with him and allowing him to live with us for a few months. Both of those are bad ideas. The live in boyfriend is the fastest path to trouble. Three is definitely a crowd under one roof. The friction between him and my husband made me kick my boyfriend out and he never forgave me for that, so he ended the relationship. It hurt, but it was the correct thing to do. I had some great sex with that one and lots of pleasant memories. The great thing about being married is that your husband is there to cuddle with and to comfort you after a break-up. You are not alone and that makes it easy to get over it. However, the best advice is to keep your wits and do your best not to get too emotionally involved with your lovers. That is easier for some women to do than for others.

Do I have sex with all of the men I date? No, but that is the goal. I only date a man that I hope to take to bed with me. I rarely have sex with a man on my first date and there have been men that I was outwardly attracted to but after a couple of dates, I changed my mind. The great thing about being married is that it gives you an easy out for when you want to break things off after a few dates. You just say that you can't go through with it because of your husband. It always works like a charm.

Do I always have a boyfriend? No, but I am usually looking. Sometimes I want a break and I have gone as long as a year without having a boyfriend or lover. In the fifteen years that I have been doing this I would say that I have dated about fifteen men and about ten of those have been my lovers. So I have had many in between times with no boyfriend. I always tease my husband that I have dated more men and slept with more men since I have been married, then when I was single. Just another great thought to humiliate him with.

Now let me describe a typical date and a typical cuckold. Most husbands enjoy getting his wife ready for her dates and mine is no exception. That is so great for humiliating the husband and taking him to subspace. Without the pre-date activities, it would be much tougher on the husband. My pre-date routines vary. I might allow him to bathe me if we have the time but regardless, he will assist me in picking out my outfit and he will help to dress me. I add lots of humiliating comments and sling some verbal abuse on him about how excited I am about my date with my young stud. I will allow him to kiss and worship my body as he is dressing me. After I am dressed, I will allow him to worship my feet and stocking covered legs. I will always make him confess to me my right to date other men and he must always wish me a good time.

If my date picks me up at my house, I do not allow him to enter the house before the date. I don't want these men making eye contact. I have my date honk his car horn and I go outside to meet him. If you have nosey neighbors, it may be best to meet your date at a predetermined location. I usually give my husband some chores or errands to run while I am on my date. That adds to his humiliation and it also keeps his mind occupied. I usually make a few calls to my husband on my cell phone during my date and I take the opportunity to humiliate him by telling him what a marvelous time I am having and what a great conversationalist my date is. I might even tease how my date can't seem to keep is hands off of me. Some women prefer to put their husbands in bondage before they leave for their date so their husbands have to lay helpless to dwell on the fact that his wife is on a date with another man. That is a great thing to do the first few times but eventually I think the chores are better. I guess it depends on your husband's submissive nature and what has the best chance of keeping him in subspace.

I always inform my husband of the time I expect to be returning home. If I am going to be late, I will call to let him know. If I feel that I want sex from my date, I will make him remain in the car when he drives me home so I can prepare my husband. I will go in the house and order my husband to get in a submissive position and than I will inform him of my desire to take my date to bed with me. What I do with my husband depends on my mood. If it is the first or second time I have had sex with this man, I will usually take my husband to his bedroom and tie him to his bed. I may place a butt plug in him. He always has his chastity device on when I am on a date or cuckolding him. I will leave his door open so he can hear everything. I know some women have elaborate setups where they pipe the sounds from their bedroom into their dungeon or husband's bedroom but I just leave the doors open. After my husband is secure, I will motion for my date to come in. We may have some snacks or drinks but usually we get right into it. I am always dominant with my date but I give him some liberties. My husband must lay in his bed and listen to us having wild sex.

Once we are done, I see my lover to the door and he leaves. If I have the energy, I will go to my husband and I will dominate him and humiliate him. I will tease him about what a great lover my date was and what a big cock he had and such things. I almost always make my husband clean me out with his tongue and I'll make him worship my body. I may also whip him or even use my strap-on while I humiliate him.

After a few dates with my new lover, I may make my husband be present in the bedroom or playroom with us. I may tie him up and make him watch. If I do this, I forbid my husband to speak and I forbid my lover to make eye contact with my husband. My husband must watch another man fuck me and he must feel the shame and humiliation. I will usually make lots of eye contact with my husband while this is going on and I will usually say humiliating things to him. Of course I will make my moans as loud as I can for the added effect.

There have been times when I will make my husband assist. I may make him suck my nipples while my lover is licking my pussy. This is rare and only after my husband has proven that he can sit quietly and watch us a few times before I allow him to assist in pleasuring me. I never allow the two men to touch each other. My husband has no homosexual desires and I think it would be going too far to make him do this. I know of some women that do, but I don't. One of the women in my group will actually make her husband suck her lover's cock to warm him up before he fucks her. To each his own I guess. I think that would send my husband into the crazy house, so you need to know your husband and decide what is acceptable. I had a lover that actually asked me if he could have sex with my husband. I denied his request to my lover's disappointment and my husband's relief.

I have had sex back at my boyfriend's house as well. In these cases, I will call my husband on the phone and tell him what I am about to do. I have even made him listen over my phone while my boyfriend and I had sex. But most of the time I fill my husband in on the details when I get home and begin to tease him about it.

How often do I date? If I am in a relationship with a man, it is usually once a week. That keeps it distant enough so I don't become too attached and it gives me something to look forward to each week. I do not spend lots of time talking on the phone during the week with my boyfriend. I prefer to keep things to once a week. I have a career and a husband to tend to. The boyfriend is for my pleasure. Two full time relationships are too time consuming. I did it once and I will never do it again and I do not recommend it. I date to have fun, to have great sex and to express my female liberation. I am not looking for another long-term relationship. One is enough.

What are some of the highlights these past fifteen years? When I was forty-two, I dated a twenty-one year old stud that had a ten inch cock. My husband was very jealous and it was the most humiliated that I had ever seen him. I dated this kid for six months because of his cock. I had nothing in common with him and I didn't enjoy his company after the second date, but you can't pass up a cute boy with a ten-inch cock. Don't get angry with me but I actually sucked it a few times. It is the only one I have sucked in the past seventeen years but I had to make my husband watch me do it. And yes, I enjoyed myself.

I dated a black man that was built like a brick shit house and he had an eight-inch cock. The extra racial dimension also made my husband very jealous and humiliated. I only went out with him four times and had sex with him all four dates. I found out that he had other girlfriends and I ended it out of fear for my health. I have my rules and if a man does not follow them, then hit the road, Jack. By the way, if you use the Internet do not give your last name. You have the upper hand as the female so you must require their full name but never give them yours until you are certain that he is a keeper.

My husband and I went on a vacation one time and I ran into a man that I went to high school with. I was very attracted to him so I invited him to dinner with us. I flirted with him all night in front of my husband and later sent my husband to our room. I told my former classmate about my arrangement with my husband and I had the only one nightstand of my life. Oh, I forgot to include that one so that makes eleven men I have had sex with these past fifteen years.

I have experimented with bi-sexuality, as on two separate occasions I have had sex with another woman. I recommend it to every woman at least once. It is very erotic if you do it with the right woman. However, I think my husband enjoyed watching us a little too much.

Are my husband and I closer today than before the cuckolding? Yes, we are but it is a different intimacy. We have bonded on a higher D&S plain as I pretty much control his entire being. He is much more submissive today than he was before we started this lifestyle and I am more dominant. I will be honest and confess that I only see him as my husband to satisfy my female supremacist beliefs. He has to be my husband to stand in proxy for all husbands so I can control him and dominate him as a husband. But the truth is that our relationship is more of a Mistress and slave than the Wife and husband relationship of seventeen years ago. He does what I say and I do what I say. He still is allowed to orally please me on occasions and that combined with the D&S play, keeps us intimate on a special level. No other man enjoys that kind of special relationship with me.

In closing: Cuckolding is not for every FemDom couple. I agree with her how the Dominant Wife falls into one of three categories. But if you fall into that last category and you hunger to totally control your husband, then cuckolding is the way to go. If you love to humiliate your husband and if you love to express your liberation, dating other men or even other women is the way to go. Just be sure to include your hubby in all that you do and have fun with it.

Keeping a locked husband

Submitted by: Linda

My husband had adjusted quite well to his CB-3000 since I first started using it three years ago. We got it after I had asked him if his cock ever erected when he looked at other women. He admitted that it did, and I immediately thought it was a bad thing for my husbands cock to erect for any other woman, but me. I just think its best if my husband's cock can't be indiscriminately erecting for any impure thoughts or any sexy woman he happens to see.

We started as many couples do as a way to spice up our sex life, but having my husband kept locked up except when I decide for the past two years now has convinced me that I will never allow his little penis to be free again.

You might think this is cruel, but if you consider ancient Chinese religion, it says that a man has only so many orgasms and when he has expended them he will die, then I am just helping him to live longer. The Monk's practice having sex and not ejaculating to conserve their essence. Evidently while refraining from orgasm for the male is good for him, quite opposite is true for females. The more orgasms a woman has the longer and more fulfilled her life will is said be.

At first I would occasionally lock my husband up in the CB-3000 for short periods, but I liked the way he was so much more attentive and caring to me when I had him locked that I started to keep him locked up for longer and longer periods. I started to make up reasons to not unlock him and he seemed so helpless to do anything about it.

I kept him at two weeks of chastity for about three months. We played some of the chastity games like the dice game, the marble game and the key game for fun. All the games were fun and made me realize that maybe I should just keep my husbands little penis locked up all the time, and that's when we started the point system. He was getting very good at pleasing me orally and that's how he gets me off the best anyway.

The more we played these games and he would earn free time the more I disliked allowing his little penis to be free. After he was allowed to be free and to ejaculate he lost all of his good attributes. He would stop helping around the house and was a lot bitchier.

It was about six months when I started to only allow him out once a month as my new standard. Sure, he would beg me to allow him out and to allow his little penis to erect for at least some pleasure, promising me that he would not ejaculate and lose the desire I had locked up, but I usually denied him. If he was good I sometimes agreed to allow him out on the condition that his hands be handcuffed behind him and I would control what ever he got and then he had to go right back in.

He quickly agreed having already waited three weeks. He quickly stripped and stood before me. I told him to turn around and I locked a cheap pair of handcuffs on him. I then unlocked the cage of CB-3000 and removed it. His little four and half inch penis quickly rose to salute me and it throbbed in anticipation of anything I would offer it.

I reminded him that he promised me that he would not come and that if he did, he would not get out for at least two weeks. On top of that I made it clear to him that I would make him lick up his mistake by squeezing his balls until he complied. I put on an Angora glove (a stimulation his little peter loves) and I started to just lightly stroke his needy little cock. It became so excited it was throbbing at my every touch and was soon leaking pre-come. I wiped it off and had him lick it from my finger while I squeezed his balls to help him. The next time he leaked, I did the same and then it was time for my little toy to be put away.

Oh how he did beg me wanting more, but I was afraid he would lose control, after all men with smaller penises are not known for their stamina. I had to ice it down so it would be small enough to go back in its cage with a little baby oil to help. I also had to unlock one of his hands so he could help me get it back on, but I was careful and locked his other hand to the doorknob.

During the next three days he was even more attentive, caring and helpful than I could have ever imagined, so I asked him if he wanted something? He said he would love to be unlocked and stroked again. I asked him, "You want this even though you know I will not allow you to come?"

He said "Yes! Its funny but I really crave it."

So I did it the same way again until he had leaked twice. I only stroked him for about ten minutes before icing it down and locking its cage back on.

The next month he was begging me for it the first week after I had allowed him to release. He had been so good I told him, "If you are good, I will allow you a ten minute time to be unlocked and I will stroke you once a week!"

I just have to say that as good of a male behavior modifier as a chastity device is, adding the teasing/denial to the program is the ultimate way to modify your husband's behavior. Sure there have been a few times when I did not stop stroking him quickly enough and he started to ejaculate. But, its only a couple of squirts and not a full blown orgasm because I immediately stop and he knows that he has to perform the necessary clean up and then receive nothing for a few weeks. I always make sure he performs his clean up duty by encouraging him with some firm ball squeezing.

Something I thought I would never like is verbally teasing my husband every chance I get about his size or his predicament. It took me awhile to like doing it, but now I can't stop teasing him about his small size, or that I keep it locked up. I have even started to tease him about me getting another man just for sex, since he's so small and has to stay locked up all the time. I have been teasing him lately that if he doesn't earn sex with me in a six week period that I will go out on a date with another man. Boy does that get him going!

Good luck

Linda

http://chastity-links.com/   Enjoy......

A sub, or at least as someone with strong sub tendencies, would say it is the relationship itself that attracts one to a Domme. Huh,  I think W/we are both Domme and sub seeking real D/s "relationship".. If you're authentically real and true to yourself.. A is a sub is a sub and a Dom is a Dom is a Dom...

Be real...

Thanks..Lazy Domme - Blog!! Check her out! Great blog on male chastity.. :) My fav...

20 characteristics of a the ultimate man

1. A man treats women with respect. If you don’t respect women, you’re not a man. Period.

2. A man understands that greater happiness lies in helping others, not helping himself.

3. A man doesn’t stand still while the world passes him by, he continually pushes himself.

4. A man is a leader in at least one aspect of his life, whether this means his family, with his friends or just in general. But he can also follow. The world wouldn’t work if everyone was trying to lead in every aspect of life.

5. You can depend on a man. You can’t depend on a boy.

6. “You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself.” ~ Galileo Galilei

A man is proud, often to a fault. He doesn’t “change” but rather evolves. Ladies, don’t try and change your man, but let him evolve into the man he’s meant to be.

7. A man doesn’t need to be able to fight or to protect himself and his family physically. But it helps. He does however need to be willing

8. A man lives for something; a purpose beyond his own personal gains. This can come with time, and with family. It doesn’t always happen right away.

9. “Many of the greatest accomplishments of the world were accomplished by tired and discouraged men who kept on working.”

A man gets depressed, he gets sad, he thinks about quitting and folding, but he never does. He pushes through adversity.

10. “When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself.” ~ Louis Nizer

A man has faults. It’s important to understand this.

11. A man can laugh at himself.

12. A man takes pride in how he looks and lives his life. He’s not ashamed by who he is, what he does or how he looks, even if he’s trying to change one of the aforementioned.

13. “Young men want to be faithful, and are not; old men want to be faithless, and cannot.” ~ Oscar Wilde

Men learn what is truly important over time. If they’re lucky, they’ll have a sense of it early on.

14. “How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.” ~ Oscar Wilde

If a man finds someone special, he doesn’t treat her like she’s everyone else.

15. A man has fears, but he isn’t ruled by them.

16. A man learns from his mistakes. Although he might take a few cracks at it.

17. A man does what is necessary. Even if it’s the hardest decision, or the most unpopular one.

18. A man can appreciate the greatness that is ‘The Gladiator’.

19. A man thrives on competition.

20. “For a man to achieve all that is expected of him, he must regard himself greater than he is.” ~ Johann Wolfgang

BONUS - He never forgets to open every single door.. and Kiss her often, Reach for her hand!!

“Change is a welcomed friend...but only if it is invited.” - Shane Pendley

“Don't believe everything you read. Maybe I meant it though. People change... people don't change, they change their expectations.” - Olympia Dukakis

"As times change, people change.” - Janine Geske

“I don't know that love changes. People change. Circumstances change.” - Nicholas Sparks

“Some people change their ways when they see the light; others when they feel the heat” - they change too- Caroline Schoeder

“People change and forget to tell each other.” - Lillian Hellman


“That's a hard one because they change all the time. It's hard because people come and go, so it's tough to make good friends.” - Friends

“I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better.” - Plutarch

“We must become the change we want to see.” - Mahatma Gandhi

“The only thing constant in life is change” - François de la Rochefoucauld

“All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.” - Anatole France

“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” - Oprah Winfrey

“Change will never happen when people lack the ability and courage to see themselves for who they are.” - Bryant H. McGill

Spending time with parents and it is snowing!!!! Love it!!!

A Bad Dominant Demands...

A Good Dominant Request...
A Great Dominant Inspires

true plagerism!!!!

Now this is what I am talking about!!

Ms. Eve,
I have served as a houseboy and find great satisfaction in service.  i have been in service to a few Ladies and have yet find that deep emotional bond as Mistress and Slave.
While i do have a very active and fun Vanilla life (Christianity, activism, philanthropic endeavors, volunteerism) i have found i am able to maintain the dynamics of my submission initially in a more strict Mistress slave relationship.  Adherence to protocol, etiquette reenforced with strict discipline.

In a perfect world i see my self as a successful slave by being completely broken down of ego, controlled by chastity, discipline markings, latent public humiliation, servitude requirements and then brought back up to a combination of vanilla moving towards more of a loving female led relationship  With structured roles that allow both Mistress and slave to be real people within the context of our chosen lifestyle. Perhaps taking the role of a loving wife with out gender reversal.

While not conflicted internally by my lifestyle choice I do need an extremely strong women whom i respect, trust and sometime fear, who at times can control many aspects of my life to be able to enter that wonderful area of sub space and maintain that creative, frenzied energy of submission that can manifest into a spiritual awakening. 

FYI

I'm not up for playing cat and mouse with someone who isn't interested in a Lt D/s commitment that leads to a Female Lead Marriage TPE..

Yes..You all know how I love me some caged cock!

Get your clothes off!

Here is the key, get that cage off.

Good boy, rock hard cock the second you're freed, I love it!

Now just stand there in front of me naked, until you get soft, then put the cage back on for another month...

:)

Evil smile

What??!!!!

Of course that's it! What did you expect, an orgasm?!!!

And for that little outburst, guess what your chance of getting out next month for a milking or even an erection  is, well it has now changed to two more months!!

Deal with that!!!!

Next time, keep your mouth shut..

I love owning caged cock and all that cums with it!!

Enjoy your day..

Mz. Spanks!

As I've mentioned in my journal entry before.. Yes, I have found love off this very site before.. A number of years ago, but YES!!� We are still friends and have since moved on.

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I am too picky perhaps, and Yes I will remain so until I find the right one for me!! Being single is not the end of the world...

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If that is being rude.. Then so be it!� I will not do a "session" with you, go out with you, date you, or anthing with you .............. If I DO NOT SEE OR FEEL THE CHEMISTRY..

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So,�"F" me for being rude and picky! We all have a preference! C'mon now!!!!

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I like a certain type, a certain look as if you don't..Yes, I have had several men off this site and the others that I'm on  too,  tell me I am not their type, to fat, to short,  to bossy, to much of this or to that.. And it is OKAY!!!  It is what it is...WE ALL HAVE PREFERENCES!

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Take your time, get to know someone, chat with them, talk, listen, learn, and try to understand what your partner needs, desires and wants - It is not all about "YOU" whether of not you're a Dom/Domme  or sub/slave  it does not matter - you need to do the above and it is certainally NOT all about the SEX - fucking is great, making love is better and being in love with your partner whether or not he or she is your cuckold, your sissy, your sub or your slave... You can't do this Lifestyle with out emotions and

feelings.. and without the other person.. You need each other - you can't do it alone!!

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You need to be open to change - it's not all about protocal - you make this lifestyle to suit you and your needs! Do what is best for you, be authentic, don't lie, double domme without telling her, don't send out introductions if you do ot have the time to get to know the other person. Have common courtesy for the other persons time, they too, may have a life outside of this one. As do I!!! If I do not respond to you immediatly, regardless if I've read it or not, do not expect anyting from me! I will respond only to those I feel have sent me somthing of subtance and a pic! Be REAL!

Yes, I've had my heart broken, I know what it feels like. Pain in very powerful, emotionally and physically!  I'd rather be the bitch that tell's you upfront and is honest with you from the get go...The TRUTH is so much easier... If I say "I'm not interested".. that's the TRUTH!!!! No need to ask me why!!! Give me a break..

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So, again..... Pardon me for being shallow.. I may not be all that, I do not claim to be...

I am worth all the 200 pounds I am to someone!!! As are you� - Good luck in your continued search...

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Remember - It takes time.. Don't give up ...It may even take years.. Trust me.. I have made many friends, talked to them for YEARS- a few for over 6 yrs and still have never ever met one face to face, seriously, I have never set eyes on one of the few I speak of other than a few pics..Just know there is an attraction of the mind, there in fun banter, there is something that keeps bringing them back to me...and me to them!

I enjoy getting to know you, all about you, getting to meet you, if I don't find an attraction, or If you decide you're not able to meet my needs or vice versa, it is not the end of the world.. We can still be friends... Just be real, be upfront, be HONEST!

You can make lasting friendships off this site too...It does not have to be all  about BDSM/D/s or nothing!! Believe me... I get compliments, asked question's daily and I do what I can and try to respond  to all regarless... UNLESS You're under 30, then I blcok you and if you send me nasty comments about being fat.. I DO NOT HIDE MY PICS, MY WEIGHT- I am on this site for a reason to find the ONE for me!

Just know,  there is someone for everyone! No matter what your size, big small, you get my point.... The key is to open your heart, be willing to sacrafice a litttle and make changes..... And remember sometimes, It's all a matter of timing and risking getting hurt...even if you feel like you've been wasting some of your precious time! It is what it is..You have to take risks! Step out of your own way, don't over think thingsor you might mind fuck yourself out of a possible D/s

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This lifstyle is what you make it...It does not define you!!!!

New experiences............ I am wanting more.

Profile has been updated !

The funny thing is men do very little work to win the girl over. Idle chit chat isn't gonna help....I'm doubting there are perma attentive slaves out there! That really want ownership, of cock. body, mind and sou! 

C'mon guys work it - work hard - she is worth it.....

 Your "HARD: limit is a cock cage and you've never worn one!! WTF!!!

Please do NOT waste my time if you're not ready to put a cage on your cock nor willing to work your ass off to prove yourself let alone worthy of MY time!!! Everything is a process, do NOT expect to be given the key to the city when you have NOT earned it in some way or another!!! 

Am confused..... Manhattan, Hermosa, Huntington, Redondo, Venice, Torrance, Long Beach...Marina Del Rey, Santa Monica.....Where are my freaky foot fetish boys!!  This place is full of sandal wearing women.. but, no FOOT BOYS?!!! 

HAPPY NEW YEAR FROM VEGAS......................

As you all know... I believe in a female led household, where my/your boyfriend/husband is and should be an alpha male in his work life, at home he is submissive and to me/you only. I strongly believe that every spanked male is a better man after being spanked, if he has willingly given permission to you his girlfriend/wife to use at your discretion (not at his discretion)Then take advantage of it! It relieves stress, puts an end to an argument that may have been happening, or would have happened if the girlfriend/wife had not been pro-active. It provides balance. Many males are quite willing and capable of doing better in everyday life. (With guidance, love and discipline from strong women that love them) Take charge!

I have spoken with many men, expressing how lucky my subs are, which I fully agree with, and asking advice how I might help them explain to their girlfriends or wives the benefits from being willing to spank them... This mental step of being willing to spank your boyfriend/husband is a very difficult step for most if not all  vanilla women. The benefits are huge!!

With that being said, I would like to set up a local group - a DWC - "Disciplinary wives club" in the Manhattan Beach area - I am interested in obtaining an educational, informative, hands on, couples group down the road adding single (sub) men looking for DWC Dommes and Dommes looking to meet  men(spankees) to meet and greet, share meals, exchange thoughts, ideas, and have an opportunity to express all opinions. I believe that many vanilla women are ashamed to ever discuss spanking, even with their closest friend. The thought of spanking their boyfriend/husband is totally foreign to all. But, some of us (Dommes) lucky enough, are willing to share this lifestyle, our secrets and successes for free..If this sounds like you, something you'd be interested in...I would love to chat with you and possibly meet further down the road.

Please remember: That we all have choices! Men that are "spanked" are all consenting adults over 18 years of age.

WOMEN: This is an opportunity to re-gain some of the lost control in your home, or to lighten the load that your husband bares in his everyday life.. He wants to submit to you, he wants you to be consistent, and he needs you to "discipline" him!!



Mzspanks

What a tragedy and sad day for the KC Chiefs...They haven't released a name, however in twitter they are saying LB Javon Belcher shot and killed his GF at the house and then drove to the Chiefs facility and in front of coaches he sat in his car and shot himself as they tried talking to him..  

May they rest in peace. Dear God please comfort their, families and friends.

Great question from Peetie;

a female colleague at work recently asked me if i was submissive. i was not aware that i was giving out signals...how did she know? can women i instinctively tell? do they have 'sub dar' thanks

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Nope, no sub dar...... She's just  a smart cookie.. It's your eyes...she is observant!

My opinion....If someone (guy or girl) is "intimidated" by you or shows signs of being "submissive" they will break eye contact and look away (usually to the floor) first. They usually then look back at your eyes after a second. She will notice this if she doesn't break eye contact. This is human nature, much like a submissive dog will put his tail between his legs. You've managed to show her your true self.. (Good for you!!)

Enjoy getting to know her... Please her then pleasure her if possible!

Good luck,

Ms. Eve

Good news.............. Relocating back to Southern Cali...  2013 !!

Thanks.. MrBBSpanker -

I would love to hear some of your thought's on how important "aftercare" is to you......

* The importance of AFTERCARE in a DD lifestyle relationship

by MrBBSpanker

Aftercare is one of the keys that lead to or define a Domestic Discipline lifestyle relationship. This is an area that can be pointed to when determining the unique differences between a Domestic Discipline relationship and some other alternative lifestyle choices, or the "play" scene.
An HoH is a caring and present participant in the relationship, not just a "Top" or "Dom". A strict punishment is not easy for a real HoH to give their TiH.
Aftercare is also an important time for the HoH to review the reason for the disciplinary action, reconnect and show forgiveness.

• How important is Aftercare in your DD relationship?
• What feelings do you feel during Aftercare?

MrBBS

WTH- They chocked in the 2nd half and now.... I'm the bitch..lol

The bet is due, my ass on the line!

What time is it? Almost game time!! Chargers baby! My friendly, sexy wager is in with my DTM.. Let's hope the Chargers come thru for me, since my Chiefs have let me down.. or else..... I'm about to be someones bitch for the night.. lol (Never!!) Chargers baby!

Way To Go.. SF GIANTS!!!...........  :)

Now.......fingers and toes crossed for a few of my fav's for Sunday's game's......

My Chiefs better kick some Tampa Bay ASS.. :) or I'll be spanking the whole team!! :)

49ers defense is to great for the NY Giants - just sayn all you Giants fans better start praying!!   :)

NOT happy with my CHIEFS!! WTH - Fumble after fumble and sacked WTH!!

Since we’re children, boys who become men are always taught to pursue anything; something, someone.  'Capturing what we desire' is what we learn to consider…“success”.  Whether it’s scoring a touchdown, acing a test, breaking a record, graduating with honors or getting the girl!!

Girl's that become Domme's are the same.. It's so much more than the “thrill of the hunt”. We want the guy too!  GET A CLUE - She is pursuing YOU!

Re-post -

Secrets of Being a Good Dom

Domineering
Many Dominants don't know the difference between being dominant and being domineering.

A domineering person thinks that it's all about being in charge. Domineering people are often overbearing, loud and tyrannical. They exercise control in an oppressive way.

They are unjust and severe in their treatment of the people around them. Their control is often enforced with threats of physical punishment and with no thought for anyone but themselves.

Dominant
A Dominant exercises complete control in a more subtle way, with influences and thoughts rather than threats and physical punishments. Dominants care about the people around them. They can be authoritarian and powerful but have the utmost respect for others:

-A Dominant loves and cares for his Submissive. Submission is a gift freely given and domination is the loving return of that gift.

-A Submissive responds to a Dominant if he shows himself worthy of respect. Compliance is wanting to please, not fear of punishment.

-To win a Sub's heart you first win her trust. Through honor, truthfulness and kindness.

-A Dominant takes full advantage of the power that's given and knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that gift.

-You must be in control of yourself first before you can exercise control over others.

-You understand the difference between sensation and pain and the gap between guidance and force.

-At the hint of a safe word or gesture you are quick to leave the roles behind and be a supportive and caring partner.

-You know that punishment and sensation play are different things and never raise a hand in anger.

-You show your guidance is worth following and your knowledge is deserving of her attention.

-The worst punishment for a Submissive comes in the form of the Dominant's displeasure.

-You understand the dangers in sensation play and assist if distress arises. The body and the mind are fragile and you are careful not to do serious harm.

-You use sensation to push the boundaries of pleasure. You can bring your Submissive to new heights of passion and then mould it into something akin to fire.

-You know communication is the most important aspect of the relationship. You always listen.

-You must know your Sub's mind and body and strive to know her soul.

-You have patience. Knowing that as her trust grows, so will the closeness of the relationship.

-You are courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Knowledgeable enough to know that there is always more to learn.

-Your tools are your mind, flesh, spirit, soul and love, with a little help from the flogger, paddle, cane, rope, cuff and blindfold.

-You are fully aware that you are not greater than your sub. You are equals, yet opposits

-Remember, you are not perfect and will make mistakes. Be humble enough to admit them.

-You understand that your greatest strength comes from being gentle.

-You praise in public but criticize in private

-Your word is your bond so be consistent

-"A good Master will not force his sub to do anything. He will make her desire to do everything." CP


Thanks for reading,

CL- Posting "R"

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Halloween Party for members of 

Sunday, October 21st from 5 to 9pm at The Destination! Mark your calendars now. :)

I am looking to expand my knowledge in the bondage realm.. Would love to know if anyone local is hosting any classes for me to join or watch/observe...

Experience the magic & The Merriment OF The Renaissance in Folsom, CA

October 20th & 21st, 2012
Folsom City Lions Park , Folsom, CA  / Sat: 10:00am - 6:00pm * Sun: 10:00am - 5:00pm

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Italy 2013............. :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sfz2n0fToQY&feature=related

Introduction

One of the questions that we are always getting asked is, "How do I meet someone in the scene?" After all, it is not the easiest of things to do.

You can not rely on people wearing a certain look - goth, fetish, bondage, collars, they are all becoming common fashion elements. A lot of people who are not interested in the scene as such still adopt the imagery for style, originality, or any one of dozens of personal reasons. Then there is the side that many genuine scene folk, or scene curious folk, do not fetishise - they don't have any reason to wear a particular look, or they choose not to to avoid the perceived problems.

Then you have the side that most scene interested folk are at least as nervous as you are about putting their feelings out in public and on the line. Two thoroughly kinky people may sit next to each other for hours, may even have known each other for years, yet neither one will mention their interests nor guess the other's.

Understandably meeting someone interested in the scene is hard enough and then finding someone who has the right match of kinks for you is even harder.

Ways To Meet People

"Vanilla" Friends

As shown in the example earlier, kinky people pass each other by every day without realising it. A commonly quoted figure (as always "there are lies, damned lies and statistics" and "98.7% of statistics are made up on the spot") is that one in ten people are gay. From experience, I'd guess that there is probably a similar number that are kinky - maybe more who are interested to a small degree, maybe less who are heavily interested. The point it that there really are large numbers of people interested in the scene and you're quite likely to work with them, hang out with them or sit next to them on the bus.

So, how do you go about meeting all of these people? How do you tell who has the dark kinky secrets just waiting to be freed and who really is vanilla?

When conversation turns to such matters, raise the scene, allude to an interest, even a knowledge about it. That is all that is needed. If the person you are talking with is not interested or finds the subject distasteful, let it drop - no one should have it forced upon them. In the same way, if they show interest, talk a little more, let them ask questions.

If you are "out" it makes things much easier, as you don't need to be so defensive about exposing yourself. It also makes it easier for other people to know that you definitely are interested and they are not misreading signals. Outing yourself doesn't have to be anything traumatic. You don't have to start dressing up in fetishwear, you don't have to force any confrontations with friends, families and employers. All it needs be is to simply make the decision that you are not going to deny anything about yourself and thus answer questions openly, honestly and intelligently. Both kitten and I have outed ourselves and it has actually been a remarkably painless experience - most people will respect, if not agree with, your choice if you can put it in well reasoned terms they can understand.

If you can offer information, offer a safe place to ask questions, offer someone they feel they can trust to expose their own feelings to, that really helps. Not everyone will respond straight away - they may want some time to think about how they feel before coming back to you, it may take several conversations. They may decide that, for all your honesty, you are simply not the person they want to discuss their innermost feelings with. Nonetheless, in a lot of cases, being honest and open gives people a chance to do the same themselves.

It is well worth noting that "not everyone is kinky" here. There is a real temptation to want someone to be and push them to the point where they are uncomfortable. Much as I hate to admit it, I have done exactly that myself in the past. You have to be very careful not to read in what you want to from their responses. Also remember that just because they enjoy the thought of a little light bondage once a month doesn't necessarily mean they're ever going to be interested in enemas and humiliation play.

Contact Listings

Contact listings can be a very direct way of meeting someone if that is what you want. They allow the advertiser to clearly set out what they are looking for and allow the person reading them to take the time to find someone who is likely to be compatible.

There are, unfortunately, a lot of downsides to using contact listings:

You can never rely on people being exactly who they claim to be. The "19 year-old, slim, Swedish model" is just as likely to be the 28 year-old, out of shape "but not fat as such" dyed blonde. The "Experienced Master" may even have read up to page 100 of the Story of O. To be fair, many people will be honest, but there are also going to be a great many whose ideas of being put in their best light is not the same as other people's idea of honesty or accuracy.

If you post an ad you are likely to either get very few responses or a huge number of responses, depending on who you are (more on that later) and how you phrase your ad. If you are lucky enough to be popular, the replies you will get will have all of the problems listed for replying to ads.

Whether advertising or responding, if you do decide to get in contact with someone you need to make sure you're safe. Consider whether or not you really want to be giving out home phone numbers, addresses and other personal information that could lead to a freak (in the least fun sense) not taking no for an answer. If you meet up somewhere neutral, is it somewhere safe, somewhere that you can back out of? Also, ensure you have some reason to call things off early if you decide you don't want to go any further, but will not be an issue if you want to continue on.

Chatrooms

Chatrooms are becoming more and more popular. As a chance to discuss and explore ideas anonymously, they are wonderful. You have the opportunity to meet a much wider range of people than you are likely to normally come across. You can share ideas, some people roleplay concepts, or you can make arrangements to move over to "Real Life".

Unfortunately, the very anonymity that makes it safe for you makes chatrooms safe for people who don't necessarily understand what the scene involves. As with contact listings, you need to be very careful that the person you are talking to really is who and what they say they are. We have sadly seen friends' behinds that have been beaten black and blue by "Experienced, sensitive, Doms" who turn out to simply be sadists (nothing wrong with being a sadist, so long as the person you're playing with knows before you beat them senseless).

As chatroom users need to keep their guards up, they are likely to be wary of newcomers. The best advice we can give is not to enter the room and start demanding everyone's asl (age/sex/location). Instead, participate in conversations, become a regular who is respected for your thoughts and ideas. When you are ready, when people have had a chance to form a good opinion of you and when you have met someone you would really like to get to know better, then ask them politely. You are much more likely to receive a positive response and find something more fulfilling from it that way, rather than by hitting on everything that moves until you "get lucky".

Fetish Clubs

Fetish clubs are a great place to go - if you want to go clubbing. They tend to have good music, played by big name DJs. They have a very easy going atmosphere - the aggressive drunks you get in most clubs are completely not tolerated, not to mention the fact that most aggressive drunks wouldn't have the nerve to turn up in costume anyway. Beyond all of the aspects of a well run club night, there are a lot of stunning people and costumes to look at and looking (looking, not touching) is usually positively encouraged - after all, there's nothing worse than going to a huge amount of trouble over your outfit and not getting noticed.

As with a regular club, it's probably not the best venue to meet people: The music's loud so you can not get to talk to people easily, and most people have come in groups or with partners. If you enjoy going to vanilla clubs to meet people, then this may not be a problem. For most people though, clubs are simply not a great place to meet others.

Fetish clubs are often very well run club nights. When you bring in the fact that fetishwear is becoming more mainstream fashion, there is no guarantee that the person you are speaking to is actually interested in the scene as opposed to a vanilla clubber who simply enjoys the atmosphere. If they are indulged in a scene then they're quite likely to be interested in the scene itself but equally likely to be with someone already.

Fetish clubs are great clubbing venues, with a lot to see and can be a lot of fun to attend. For the majority of people though, they are not the ideal place to meet others.

Munches

Munches really are probably the best places to meet people.

All of the attendees are going to be genuine scene folk (rather than say the vanilla clubbers who simply enjoy a fetish club's atmosphere). You'll have the chance to talk first to find out if you are compatible (a great advantage over personals) and you'll know that they are who they say they are (as opposed to chatrooms or personals). There is also the safety side that people who do abuse the scene will become well known for it and shunned.

Please do note that I said "meet," not "find a partner". Munches are generally relaxed environments and the organisers tend to be very protective of that atmosphere. A horny person running around trying to seduce everyone in sight, or unable to take no for an answer, is very likely to be asked to leave.

Just like a vanilla gathering, just because someone is there does not mean they are interested in a partner - or even if they are, that they are interested in you. If you would like to politely show interest that is usually fine. Just be prepared to accept "no" for an answer.

The best advice that can be given for a munch is to become known as a friendly, intelligent, knowledgeable regular. If you turn up at your first munch and proposition every other person there you'll quickly get a bad reputation. If you become a respected part of that community, those people you express an interest in are much more likely to reciprocate.

Male/Female, Dom/sub

Whether fair or not, different genders and D/s leanings do make a difference.

Gender

There tend to be more males than females involved with the scene. This may be a perception issue, as single males tend to be a lot more aggressive than single females (both Doms and subs) and so draw more attention to themselves. It may also be that it is less taboo for males to express these feelings in a lot of society. Whatever the reason, males will generally find it a little harder to meet others and have more of a negative stereotype to overcome. A good example of this are the many clubs and munches that will not permit single males to enter.

Dom/mes and subs

The balance of Dom/mes to subs is a more complex one. An inexperienced sub can generally play with a Dom/me of any level of experience where as an inexperienced Dom/me tends to be regarded as less appealing. For this reason there tend to be far fewer desirable Dom/mes to desirable submissives. Most experienced Dom/mes we know of tend to have a lot of different submissives expressing an interest.

Again, for whatever reason, there tend to be a lot more Doms around than Dommes. Those Dommes that there are tend to be more genuine, more experienced, and more monogamous, while a lot of Doms are very promiscuous and tend to over rate their experience, thus giving the impression of there being far more experienced Doms out there than experienced Dommes. Please note that these are tendencies we have observed and are by no means the rule for every Dom or Domme - there are plenty of very bad Dommes and wonderful Doms.

What This All Means

When you combine all of these issues you tend to find that there are far more male submissives than female Dommes and while there are roughly similar numbers of male Doms to female subs, the female subs that there are will tend to be wary of a lot of Doms until they feel the Doms are experienced enough to trust.

This all means that it is generally harder for males to meet females within the scene than vice-versa. It is also generally much harder for male submissives to meet female Dommes and a little harder for Doms to meet female subs.

I should take this opportunity to apologise to any homo- or bi- sexual readers. I have only covered the heterosexual angle for two reasons - it is the more common (though gay bdsm groups are certainly not uncommon) and also because I simply do not have the experience to give a fair discussion.

Conclusion

Every different method has its pros and cons. Of all of them, the one we would have to recommend would be going to munches - they are simply the most relaxed, open and honest of all of the options. If you do not feel comfortable with munches, the ones in your area are run badly, or you simply prefer another option, that is of course entirely up to you. Find whatever means works well for you.

Depending on your gender and your sexual leaning you are going to find meeting people easier or harder. This is not necessarily fair, but it is something you are likely to encounter. Realising this, you can do your best to counter it.

As I have found myself repeatedly mentioning, who you are and how you conduct yourself will make a huge difference, probably the largest one. Run around propositioning everyone and you may get lucky occasionally but you will also get a bad reputation. If you come across as being intelligent, thoughtful, and interesting, taking the time to establish a good reputation for yourself, you are far, far, more likely to meet someone. This especially holds true for male readers who are, for whatever reason, in a much more common group where you need to do more to distinguish yourself.

Coming across as intelligent and experienced really is very important. Fortunately there are ways to gain a degree of experience and come across as being intelligent. That you are taking the time to read about the scene implies you have already discovered one of the best approaches. Read all you can, be it through sites such as this or books such as SM101 or Screw The Roses. Discuss ideas with others and think about them yourself. While actual experience is always important, exploring the concepts and ideas and gaining an understanding first makes a huge difference.

Finally, be approachable within chatrooms, munches or clubs and with vanilla friends. If people feel they can talk to you about the scene they are much more likely to open up and turn to you with any interests, not to mention tell others about you.

Thank you!!! SoulThief...   :)

http://fatalfemmes.wordpress.com/2012/08/14/media-review-story-of-o/

Enter the world of the woman called O, and give up any thought of mercy. This is no coy rip-off, couched in the supernatural realm of fantasy. Here there are no excuses, and absolutely no safe words. This is a testament to the power of conditioning on the human brain. Also, it’s torture porn.  :)

http://www.benpadiah.com/otherstuff/elib/o.pdf

Neice (Aphroditegoddess) and I will be amused/entertained this morning by russ the cleaning slave!

We will be hosting a small get together next week; looking for a few service subs to be of service!! (service not SEXUAL service) Send me a current face and body pic if interested.

My sweet boy toygator is having some "binding" issues with the (our)cock cage he is wearing for me... Poor guy!!! Evil grin - very evil laugh to follow .. And no release for 17 days!!! Someone had to take "control " of his (now my cock)!! That's my boy .. Let the begging begin..

( For those that have asked)

Cock cage is: Queens Keep

by:Mature Metal

Enjoying spending time with my new pet toygator.... What a truly obedient and happy man! A trip to Oregon is on the horizon...

The Dominant Female

Above all else She cherishes Her submissive, in the knowledge that the gift he gives Her is the greatest of all. She is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to Her, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

She is in control of Herself first and foremost, so that She may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, She can cause Her sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, She will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive Friend and Partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring I/individuals. She is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. She would never ask a submissive to put Her before his career, or family, just to satisfy Her own pleasure.

To win Her submissive's mind, body and soul, She knows She must first win his trust. She will show Her submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. She must also show him that Her guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of his attention, that this is a Woman he can learn from, and trust Her direction.

She is romantic enough to be flattering and feminine. When called upon, She will protect Her mans' honor. She proves to him that She is Someone he can lean on, and depend on. Quick to point out the differences between T/them, She also knows there is no inferiority in those differences.

When it comes time to teach Her submissive his lessons of obedience, She is a strong and unyielding professor. She will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from Her student. Never does She use discipline without good reason. When She does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

She is a careful Guide, with safety always Her main concern. She knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure.

She is a Mentor who can bring him to the edges of his envelope, and gently show him the inner courage to reach new heights.

She is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear his wants and needs. She is patient, taking the time to learn his limits, and knowing that as his trust of Her grows, so will T/they. She never has to demand ritual behavior by him. he responds to Her out of the want of pleasing Her. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment.

She understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to Her.

She is secure enough to laugh at Herself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. Her tools are mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. She understands that each P/partner gains most from pleasuring the O/other. And B/both of T/them know that love is the only binding that truly holds.

New chapter of DWC - coming soon to Sac..  

Group will be open to F/m M/f M/m F/f

If interested - send an e-mail

Life is  good! Back from my  travels and loving  my weightloss journey... Who knew, getting healthy is really fun!!!! Meeting new people, eating new things and working out! Wow! Shedding pound after pound...  God is good!

If told  to "Fetch the Implement", I wonder what you'd bring me??

Looking forward to hearing from you naughty spankee's

Assume the position....

Sister's and I will be traveling.................. Next month - road trip!! From Cali to Kentucky....

Any suggestions on sights worth stopping to see????????? 

I must admit............ I love love love wearing knee highs/stockings and having my toes licked, and sucked on...Where are my FOOT LOVERS!!!????

For those that have asked... Go to Disciplinary Wives Club, it is a treasure chest full of ideas and methods for administering punishment to males.

Men need regular discipline and their wives/Mistress need to be in charge, go to disciplinary wives club and let Aunt Kay guide you.

Also go to Chastitytube.com  - Women get your men into a chastity device..

I hope all you Welcome "AphroditeGoddess".  She is my lovely niece. I hope you boy's behave or you will have me to deal with.. She's  a newbie... be nice!

Happy Birthday to me! It's gonna be a sweet day...

I'll be in and out of the Chico area for the next few month's.. Any ideas of what to do there, besides drinking and fishing??

DD - DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE -

Is so much more than just correcting mistakes. It brings a couple closer together, and it strengthens the foundation of any marriage or D/s. The foundation of trust, communication, support, and love. Even the smartest people in the world make mistakes, and even a strong marriage can get better and become much stronger.

Women ... Discipline your men!!!

"Are you domme?"

NO!!! "I am a control freak. I control my life and those in and around it. I am dominant by design."  Silly boy!

Sent from "goodboy"... Great read and I agree!!!

When I am dominant with my husband, its about my pleasure - physical and mental - and his second. He serves me, worships me, uses his body to pleasure me. Spanking and other forms of discipline are to reestablish our roles, which is accomplished through the right mix of control, humiliation, and pain. It really doesn't have to be very elaborate to accomplish this goal. In fact many times the activity is silent and I will watch TV or read etc. to show how matter-of-fact it is while he performs oral or is bent over before me waiting to be spanked on the bare bottom.
There is no greater honor for man than to be spanked to tears by a woman of authority, and then to be made to submit to her will. Closest thing to heaven there is. Girls should be taught this when they separate the boys and girls for sex ed.
I've always felt that girls should be taught this secret. A simple thing like spankings will help shape a man into a person that many a woman would love to be with.
The spankings should start during courtship. If he isn't willing to accept a spanking when he deserves it, then he isn't worth staying with.
A sore and red bottom should be the result of any spanking. Tears are a bonus. The day that a woman spanks her man until he cries real tears will mark a significant change in the relationship. Being reduced to a "crying naughty little boy" will produce REAL changes in a man.

HOW A MODERN spanking/whipping SHOULD BE GIVEN ~

Spankings/whippings can evoke many wonderful changes and help to fuel future behavioral changes.

If the husband is to be whipped, he is directed to go to his room and get ready for the punishment. He must obey without a word of complaint and without uttering a word of argument.

He should undress, then stretch out full length on the bed, face-downwards. He must wait in this position, until his wife enters the room -- whether she comes in immediately or keeps him waiting several minutes as some women do.

As soon as she enters the room, and without speaking, she begins whipping him. Her job is to whip him efficiently -- effectively -- but humanely. She must carefully observe all the rules, but she can, at the same time, make the session quite effective and truly beneficial.

Some women use a wooden paddle only. Others employ a strap. The great majority use both: the paddle first -- to warm up the skin good -- then the intelligent application of a leather strap. A man's belt is often used. Many wives require that the paddle and/or strap be placed ready for use when the man takes his whipping position.

A modern whipping does a man good for several reasons First of all, there is the beneficial humiliation it causes. It is an act of complete submission. Just to stretch out obediently and get ready for the punishment does him good. Before the paddle is applied a single time -- before a single stroke of the strap is delivered -- the discipline starts being effective and beneficial for this very reason! It is an act of surrender, and being a willing gesture of submission, it does more good than millions of spoken words would possibly do!

Don't think for a moment that modern women are not learning how to make their whippings effective, too! Just because they are using common sense rules that safe-guard the practice from assuming any aspect of brutality -- don t think for a single moment that they are administering "play whippings" or that they can't make the discipline something to be sincerely dreaded!

If the idea seems silly to you -- if you feel it is a foolish notion to believe that any woman could whip a man effectively-especially under the rules and regulations laid down by this Course -- you are in for a distinct surprise!

You do YOUR PART, and you can depend on it, SHE WILL DO HERS.

DOROTHY SPENCER

~ MODERN SPANKINGS ~

Just what is a modern spanking or whipping?

It is a product of today -- an act of discipline given under carefully defined and controlled conditions. Brutality is entirely foreign to the idea. Revenge, oppression, force, and violence are all frowned upon and do not enter into the Plan in any way. The idea of a modern spanking is to administer punishment when it is needed -- then make up and forget the whole incident.

In this way, every disagreement is effectively closed before it has time to ferment into serious discord -- to grow into hatred or an indifference which even a great crisis may not be able to heal. The couple that has every difference out when it arises is not likely to build up an antagonism that can be settled only in the divorce courts.

Also, should modern spankings and whippings be administered, they tend to improve dispositions, increase domestic happiness, create a much more desirable spirit of unselfishness, and eliminate much other unpleasantness.

The operation of the Plan calls for unselfish devotion to high ideals. It calls for willing submission, and loyal obedience to a cooperative system of beneficial discipline.

The levels of committment to FLR

Advantages/disadvantages at Low Key Female Leadership (Level 1)

     You likely are already here and have some idea of how decision are made. If you have charge of paying the bills, housework or some other aspect you know how work is distributed. Just making an agreement where the women takes responsibility and has limited or full authority to make decisions about that responsibility is the lowers level of female leadership in relationships. To get these advantages you must have acknowledgement of your responsibility, his support and the recognized authority to make decisions for the both of you.

• Advantage - Normal relationship (everyone knows about this and sees it as normal/average)
• Advantage - Some control over life processes
• Advantage - Well defined relationship roles (this is set by the culture you live in)
• Advantage - Potentially less tension and strife (because things are culturally normal)
• Disadvantage - Life direction is negotiated
• Disadvantage - Little or no difference in share responsibilities, you may still be the sole homemaker.
• Disadvantage - No increase in perks and benefits
• Disadvantage - There is no formal stability in roles, they are good for today and renegotiated tomorrow.
• Disadvantage - No progress from his perspective
• Disadvantage - Does not address his/your needs for communication and intimacy
• Challenge - Negotiation for shared and delegated areas may cause strife and division
• Challenge - Errant decisions and lack of meeting expectations cause strife
• Challenge - Failure to correct why he wants an FLR will cause stealth behavior
• Challenge - Communication issues must always be addresses as in a democracy

Advantages/disadvantages at Moderate Female Leadership (Level 2)

     As a moderate you are getting into more leadership and authority, some or most of the food groups belong in your purview. You have taken control and hopefully have the support of your man. You have realized some of the benefits of his interest in serving you.

• Advantage - Reasonable normal relationship
• Advantage - Potential but limited perks and benefits
• Advantage - More control over life processes
• Advantage - Well defined relationship roles
• Advantage - Simplified decision making processes
• Advantage - A sense of leadership
• Advantage - The ability to control change
• Advantage - He begins to feel like he is serving you
• Advantage - You can nurture him if you want
• Disadvantage - May not address his/your needs for communication and intimacy
• Disadvantage - Limited decision making
• Disadvantage - Negotiation for shared and delegated areas may cause strife and division
• Challenge - Men may need training/retraining as followers or as homemakers
• Challenge - Errant decisions and lack of meeting expectations cause strife
• Challenge - Passive aggressive behavior springs from lack of inclusion or lack of full support
• Challenge - Communication issues must always be addresses as in a democracy

Advantages/disadvantages at Formal Female Leadership (Level 3)

     This level is considered the sweet spot for both women and men living FLR. The decision making process is simple, the leader can delegate change and there is a real sense of modification between the woman and man. There is a sense of adventure.

• Advantage - There is open recognition of your leadership and authority
• Advantage - Unlimited perks and benefits
• Advantage - Full control over life processes
• Advantage - Well defined relationship roles
• Advantage - Simplified decision making processes
• Advantage - Full leadership
• Advantage - The ability to enact change
• Advantage - The ability correct and or discipline
• Advantage - The open option to nurture him if you want
• Advantage - Communication and intimacy are as good as you make it.
• Disadvantage - Takes work to set-up
• Challenge - Relationship is outside social norms
• Challenge - Men who are not fulfilled in at least a few of their kinks will lose interest
• Challenge - It requires deprogramming for the male and reprogramming for the female
• Challenge - Poor leadership may cause strife and division
• Challenge - Men may need training/retraining as followers or as homemakers
• Challenge - Errant decisions and lack of meeting expectations cause strife
• Challenge - Passive aggressive behavior springs from lack of inclusion or lack of full support

Advantages/disadvantages at Extreme Female Leadership (Level 4)

     At this level she has all control and he has surrendered his control to her. This is often referred to as �total power exchange'. This may happen from time to time in level 2 and 3 but here it is a lifestyle of service and goes way beyond the 5 food groups. It includes giving up control of sexuality, friends, family, inherent freedoms and any decision making a man may have had in level 3. It defiantly puts the relationship into the world of BSDM, D/s or however you choose to define when one member rules and the other must be obedient.

• Advantage - Everything in level 3
• Advantage - Unlimited kinks
• Advantage - Open obedience
• Disadvantage - More work to set-up
• Disadvantage - Potentially destructive to the relationship
• Disadvantage - Objectification is destructive to people
• Challenge - Micro managing is a lot of work
• Challenge - It is an alternate relationship
• Challenge - Will likely cause physical changes
• Challenge - Both members have to be outside social norms

Why women might not want FLR

     Fear of failure from added responsibility, fear of a failed relationship, fear of rejection if you don't do it perfectly and just plain fear often drive the other reasons. For the most part men are bigger than women and women may look to them for a sense of security and protection. Women may have exerted some control historically but to actually lead and be acknowledged for it is different. How many feminine, strong, authorities, loving leaders or women do you know and respect? Farther still from historic relationships is a man who outwardly serves a woman. Many women just don't want to have any relationship outside the cultural norm for any number of reasons. It is viewed as complicated, hard work, not what a women signed on for, opposite of their desires for a strong man and many believe that is not how it should be. The reasons go on and

  Low Key Female Leadership (Level 1)

     It is a guess but most likely more women would prefer to have an ideal relationship where she and her partner were relatively equal and they made decisions together, had common interests and a great sex life. Most women don't want the idea that she would control her man. The expression "I did not sign-up for that" might slip out her mouth or perhaps "wow, that is unusual" in response to her man asking her for some of the things men want from FLR. Many woman are willing to go a little ways down the path, taking more responsibility and control but are not willing to go all the way. These women likely have an interest because they love their man and not because they are interested in FLR or kink per say. So she allows him to take on more house work and pamper her a bit but the moderately to extreme kink and fantasy are left out making the experience satisfying for no one and often frustrating for all.

Possible Perspectives: From the woman's perspective she is attempting to make things better but is not committed to the program. From the man's perspective he is moving her in the right direction.

Moderate Female Leadership (Level 2)

     Some women who take the request for leadership seriously indulge their man. These women may have several motivations such as "I am willing to try it", "I could use the help", "I am better with money then he is" and such. These rationale combined together make the experience worthy. Moderates indulge their men in service and kink to but often don't understand why someone who wants to serve must be indulged or punished. They cannot understand "the extreme things". They most often don't want anything to do with punishment or very kinky activities. This level shows a real interest in trying FLR and pleasing their partner. Men with obsessive behavior sometimes push the envelope trying for more and moderates back-off, giving less.

Possible Perspectives: From the woman's perspective she is trying to see if she can make things better and receive some benefits. She cares deeply for the wellbeing of her mate and is showing it. She is curious to see if it can work. From the man's perspective he is moving in the right direction and may be satisfied for some time. At some point he may require more especially if he has not divulged all of his desires.

Formal Female Leadership (Level 3)

     Formal FLR relationships are led by women who are sold out on the idea of leading and have a higher need for and understanding of control. Formals have digested the psychology of motivation for their men and weighed the benefits and risks of the various activities she could participate in or lead. Formals often have very servile mates who are indulged in many kinks and fantasies at what ever level the formal feels comfortable. The relationship likely looks like a reverse traditional relationship where the man is the submssive/supportive wife with the added features of male chastity, indulged kinks and servant like attention from the man to the woman. The woman likely still serves the man as well, providing a more motherly touch to him. Formals have taken charge of the 5 food groups

, those areas of life that men and women can negotiate successfully: 1. Free Time (how he spends it), 2 Finances, 3. Life Direction (where they are going as a couple/family), 4. Sex, and 5. Household Chores. Formals may have a few extreme elements in their program, things that she enjoys controlling.

Possible Perspectives: From the woman's perspective she is trying to see if she can make things better. She likes the idea of the benefits and some of the kinks. She cares deeply for her mate's wellbeing and is showing it. Motivated to make it work but understands she is in control, she must move her agenda forward. From the man's perspective he is content with the relationship and will be satisfied for some time. If he has not divulged all of his desires there may be pressure for more. This pressure is already under the control of the woman who could grant the addition or shut it down with little or no consequences.

Extreme Female Leadership (Level 4)

     Extreme female leadership is difficult to describe to an observer because it is so intense. Women who practice this likely have taken their man and made him into a servant, object, pet or slave. She likely enjoys elements of BSDM (Bondage, Sadomasochism, Dominance and His Masochism). Those in BSDM practice things most people don't want to know about or discuss. If you can imagine your man naked, wearing only a dog collar and a chastity device. Kneeling very still while his leader places a leash on him and trains him with a whip to obey her every word, you can visualize the extreme nature these relationships can take. I hope people will understand it's what these couples want and they should not have to deal outsiders creating feelings of guilt because it has been agreed upon. Understand as well, that we don't discuss BSDM much on this website.

Possible Perspectives: From the woman's perspective there may be several scenarios 1) she is indulging herself in dark dreams and desires for power, control, surrender and sex. 2) she is controlling her life so she can expand her agenda with other partners and cuckold him. 3) she has a desire to break him and rebuild such as a boot camp experience, so she gets a man she wants. From the man's perspective he has fallen into it and likely cannot think of anything else. He may or may not get everything he wants but he is on his way.

Q&A

Yes, I have met several subs/slaves from CM and even  fell in love with one and let him go.

Yes, I had a  personal web sight a few years ago.

Yes, I have had several screen names/profiles here for the last 6 yrs..

Yes, I am still looking - not for perfection.. just perfect for me.

Yes, I am only interested in "Men" not women.

No, it is not ok to walk up to me in "public" if I am with someone! E-mail me!!

No, I am not interested in "sissy men or black men" at this time.

No, I do not want or need you to move in with me!

No, I will not relocate you to me.

No, I am not interested in anyone under 35.. for LT or any type of RT.

Yes, I am open to relocation for the right sub/situation.

No, I do not "need" a sissy maid, I am a CLEAN FREAK...(That will eventually be a job for my subby -hubby) You can refer to my "want" list posted in an earlier journal entry!

No, I am not interested in seeing you "touch" yourself or seeing how small you are ONLINE..

Yes, I very much like to be touched, pleasured and more.. (wink)

I do not have a preference on "your" body.. I do like "beefy" boys/men!

I do love a "man" with chest hair!

I do like facial hair too. Nice , neat, trimmed.

I do want a man to be alpha by day and all mine by night.

I do/will spank the one I will love!

Really??? Some of these questions......way too personal!

Yes, my eye color is really green. 

Yes, I try to be a good "Christian", I am a really good kinky one tho!

And what is it??!!!............You want screen names of subs I've played with...OMG! Yeah!!Really!!!  

Am NOT seeking sissy men/ cross dressing men/ cuckold men/ black men or masochists!

Am seeking a D/s vanilla blend rt lt with a huge emphasis on sensuality and feet/shoe fetish!

Ok, no snow in San Fran today!!! Darn! Heading out to Bodega Head... Whale migration time..

Did you know; A Medium-sized gray whale reaches up to about 45 feet in length and about 75,000 pounds in weight. Their tongues alone weigh around 500 pounds..

Whew, now that is a tongue....

So the weather is wicked and the weather gal say's it is going to "snow in Frisco" sometime this weekend... Really? And I'm light as a freaking feather too!

Going to change the hair cut and color this weekend... Ugh oh!! hmmm, red head or brunette? Shoulder length or bob? huh!??? Pics to follow..

TY: miplsr...another literotica story

He stared up in rapt attention as she straddled him. Her knees pressing down with painful brutality on his shoulders, pinning him in place. That pain though was the furthest thing from his mind. All he could see was her perfect pussy inches above his face. Lips shaved bare, trimmed pubic hair framing her perfect pussy there displayed for him.

After 6 months of dedicated service, he had been granted a request. He was told he could request any privilege he wished, if the request was beyond what he had earned however, he would get nothing. It had taken him only seconds to know what he wanted. He just wanted a chance to see her beautiful, perfect pussy.

"Do you like it?" She asked.

"Oh yes Ma'am. . .it is beautiful Ma'am. Perfect in every way." He answered.

She lowered her pussy a little closer to his face. "You love my cunt bitch?"

"Yes, Ma'am."

"Well, this is as close as your worthless ass will ever come to it." She laughed a cruel and haughty laugh. He felt his face blush with shame. He knew he was not worthy of her pussy. Months of licking her boots clean, cleaning her house spotless, and various other domestic chores had only earned a peek for him. He had no illusions he would ever deserve to touch it.

"I know Ma'am. Thank you for showing it to me. It, like all of you, is perfect. Thank you so much."

"Oh take your tongue out of my ass please. Jesus bitch, must you always gush and babble?"

He went silent.

"Better." She reached down with her PVC clad hands and brushed against her lips. His cock responded and tried to get hard but the cock cage she had placed on him made that both painful and impossible. He winced as his cock pressed against the sharp barbs and softened again.

With her two index fingers she pressed down and made her lips part slightly. "I bet you think of shoving that piece of meat of yours into my cunt don't you?"

"No Ma'am." He lied.

She used two more fingers and spread herself wide open before his eyes. The sweet inner folds of her pussy glistening with arousal. "No? Liar!" A blast of hot piss erupted from her pussy and hit him in the face. He choked and gagged as it filled his mouth and went up his nose. His mouth full of the tinny salty flavor of her anger, his eye stung from it and he blinked trying to see clearly again.

"Do you fantasize about fucking me?" She asked again.

"Yes, Ma'am." He admitted.

"See? Honesty is the best policy." She allowed her lips to close again.

"Yes, Ma'am, I am sorry I tried to lie to you and deceive yo. . ." She pulled her lips apart again and another, longer blast of piss drowned him. He choked and coughed but said nothing.

"I said get your tongue out of my ass bitch." She laughed.

"I'm sorry."

A short blast of piss hit his face.

"Ma'am. I'm sorry Ma'am."

"Good bitch." She said and started to laugh.

The flavor of her piss filled his mouth, the scent his nose. He was covered in it and all he could think was, this was as close to heaven as he might ever get. To be drenched in her piss, that sweet piss that had come from her perfect pussy. He winced as his cock got hard and pressed again against the barbs.

"Now. . .since you think you are worthy of even thinking of my cunt.. . Tell me what you dream of."

He weighed his words carefully. "Licking you Ma'am. Just being allowed to please you." The shower of hot piss was expected this time. She pissed on him for almost 10 seconds and then cut it off just as quickly. "I dream of fucking you. Of stuffing you full of my cock and ram fucking you until you tell me to cum and then filling you with my cum and making you pregnant."

The last part made her stop short. She had not expected such honesty from him. She brushed his cheek with her finger, the PVC slippery with all the piss. He was vulnerable right now. He had opened up more then he expected.

" I dream of being allowed to suck my own worthless cum back out of your pussy, you dripping it on my face and making me eat it." Now that he had started, he found he couldn't stop telling her.

"I dream of you sitting on my face and pressing down until I can't breath." He was almost in tears from the force of his confessions. "I dream of being smothered in your sex. Your sweet cum dripping down my face."

She released the control on her bladder but didn't push hard. She allowed the rest of her piss to simply drain down and wash over his chest as he spoke. "Go on bitch." The hot liquid making the bed under him saturated. He was covered in her urine, his hair was wet and matted, his face shiny from a good coating of piss.

"I dream of being small enough you can stuff me into your pussy. To just be lost there." He paused and took a long breath. "I'm sorry to have had such thoughts without permission Ma'am. I know it was wrong."

"But you did very good in telling me, I am proud of you." Her words sunk into him and he looked up at her. She was so statuesque as she straddled him. So perfectly beautiful. "You did very well bitch." He smiled and she nodded. He felt as though he would burst.

"I have other fantasies. . ."He started.

"OK. . .don't go over board. . .time to shut the fuck up now." She said and thought for a moment. Then she smiled an evil smile and looked back down at him. "Hmmm. . .one fantasy did intrigue me. . .I must admit."

His cock once again pressed against the barbs and he tried not to show the agony in his face. She saw it though and enjoyed it. She reached down and began to play with her clit as she looked at him, knowing the show that close was driving him insane. He winced again and again as his cock tried to get hard. Laughing, she shoved two fingers into her cunt and began to fuck herself. He groaned in agony and the sound made her dripping wet. She so loved good suffering.

"OK. I've decided." She said as she fucked herself closer to cumming. "To try out a fantasy of yours but, I am going to do it my way." She bit her lip as her body started to shake. "Mmm I'm going to give you what you most want bitch. Lets see if you can handle it."

She shoved her fingers in deep and rubbed her clit, she felt the orgasm starting deep inside her and burning it's way out. She spread her pussy wide and fucked herself hard, knowing as he watched and got hard it hurt so wonderfully. That thought got her off, his pain, his agony. She started to cum hard and kept fucking herself until it intensified and she had to pause to allow it to rip through her.

Pulling her fingers out, she played with her cum on her finger tips for him to watch. Just as he was really getting into the show, she shifted and moved forward. Spreading her cunt wide open she shifted her weight and straddled his face. Pressing her pussy down, she took his nose and mouth into the wet slit entirely.

His eyes showed his surprise and she laughed. She allowed her weight to fall on him now, smothering him in her wet sloppy cunt. She couldn't breath, he couldn't move. He was trapped in her pussy and she laughed maniacally as the panic registered in his eyes.

"Ohhhh I wanna be a tongue slave. . .I wanna fuck you. . .I wanna be in your pussy." She laughed. "Then enjoy it bitch!" She pressed down harder to make sure he could get no air. "Enjoy my cunt!" She pressed hard and pissed out the last tiny bit of urine in her bladder.

He struggled, not against her, but his own panic. Without breath his mind became foggy. His thoughts abstract. He was in her cunt . . . lost in her pussy. After long seconds the panic of no breath faded and everything began to darken, he was passing out in her pussy.

"Mmmmmm. . .yes bitch. . .enjoy your prize. . .you earned it." She ground her pussy against him as she pressed down and as everything went black, he felt her cum on his face and one hand grabbed his hair and pushed his head harder into her pussy. He lost himself to her pussy, was consumed by it. The world went dark, only the smell and feel of her pussy . . . and then nothing

LITEROTICA: Thanks for the read...Sent by: peeonme

"I need to take a piss" she announced and started to climb off. I grabbed her thighs holding her close to my mouth "No! Please no, give it to me" I pleaded "use me as your toilet." She paused considering her decision. "Please I need it, I've been good, give me your piss – use me" I begged.

"No" she said, climbing off brushing aside my protests and grasps and headed to the toilet.

I followed her She settled on the toilet I lay (face up) directly in front off her I heard the golden stream begin, closed my eyes, opened my mouth and hoped.

The sound paused for a second; her hot wet pussy then touched my lips and the flow resumed. No gentle trickle this was full on, strong smelling, foul tasting piss. Piss filled my mouth I swallowed as hard as I could yet I was quickly overflowing piss pouring down both cheeks as I gulped. "You wanted it, you'd better take it all drink my piss you dirty bastard" She was really cursing me now. She grabbed my rock hard cock and started violently wanking it digging her nails in as she continued to abuse me.

Ready to explode, her piss had slowed to a mere dribble as I was cleaning and drinking as much as I could my balls erupted. Cum was now pouring out of me I let go of her cunt and enjoyed the moment.

We released, cleaned up, and went to bed where Katie told me all about her evening and what She was planning for the future.

The end.

Really??????????? 

LOVE MY NY BOYS!!!

MasterBordeaux wants to get together with BabyDomme, Miss Darleen, Waterdomme, and myself .....   Huh, I wonder if he wants to Dom or become a  sub?

"You're uneasy," the woman said. "You've been uneasy all evening." They sat in a quiet corner of the restaurant finishing their dinner. The woman was neatly dressed in a tailored blue suit a shade lighter than the man's suit. She was impeccably groomed, nearly fifty but still attractive, with short dark hair streaked with gray, fine skin, full lips painted a dark red color, and large dark eyes made even larger by mascara and eyeglasses. Her face was roundish, with high cheekbones and perfect porcelain skin. She wore small white pearls in her ears and a two-strand pearl necklace; a carved ivory bracelet circled her left wrist. Her wrists and hands were slender, with remarkably long feminine fingers. She was considerably older than the young man, nearly twenty years older; they were both attorneys. The young man was twenty-eight, with a lean athletic body, his hair neatly cut, his face still tan from a recent holiday. In addition to his dark blue suit, he wore a white shirt and a solid pale blue tie. He seemed diffident, even uncomfortable in the aura of energy projected by the woman. His name was Michael; the woman was Andrea, and she was a senior partner in the law firm where he was employed. Now Michael looked at Andrea, his eyes studying her face. He had to admit the attraction he felt for her, an attraction he had been aware of ever since his first sight of Andrea nearly four months ago. He found older sophisticated women like Andrea particularly attractive, and Andrea seemed to have sensed it. Whenever their eyes met, he had the feeling she understood him completely. Everything about her excited him. Get hold of yourself, he thought. Any liaison with her might be dangerous; she had a great deal of power over his career. He was uncertain how to treat her, and he felt thoroughly intimidated. This dinner engagement hadn't been his idea; it was Andrea who had suggested it. "I guess I'm not used to you," Michael said, not knowing what else to say in response to her statement that he was uneasy. "But we've worked together." "Yes, but this is the first time... this is the first time we've been alone together." Andrea chuckled. "You don't need to be afraid of me, Michael. I invited you to dinner because I wanted to get to know you better. Will you promise not to be uneasy about me?" Michael met Andrea's eyes. "All right, I promise." "Just relax. Forget about the office. Just think about this as a date. I know I'm much older than you, but my intuition tells me you don't mind that. Am I right?" "Yes." "Good. Now tell me more about yourself. You said you were not in a relationship at the moment. Have you known many women?" "Not very many." "You're good-looking and you ought to be successful with women. Are you shy?" He shrugged. "I don't know. Maybe sometimes I am." "Tell me about your last relationship. What was her name?" "Gloria." "How old was she?" "Forty, I think." Andrea smiled. "Interesting. Are they always older." He blushed. "Recently, yes." "How nice. You don't need to be embarrassed, you know. I prefer younger men, men your age, and I'm not embarrassed about it. Sometimes young men and older women fulfill certain needs for each other. Isn't that true?" "Yes." "And what was Gloria like? Did she have a profession?" He told Andrea about Gloria. Whenever he hesitated, Andrea prompted him, coaxed him to talk. He and Gloria had lived together two years. She was a high school physical education teacher, an athlete, strong-willed, sexually dominant. Andrea probed and questioned, getting him to reveal nearly everything about his relationship with Gloria. There was never a hint of judgment. When he explained how he and Gloria had split because she did not like his long hours as an attorney, Andrea nodded as if she understood everything. "And how was the sex?" Andrea said. "Was it good?" Michael blushed. "Yes, I think so." "Are you that doubtful?" "Well..." "All right, I won't press you. Not now, anyway. But you can be frank with me, Michael. You know you can. I don't like to date anyone at the office, but you're an exception. You're delicious." "Thanks." "I come on strong, don't I? But that's my nature, I guess." "I don't mind." Avoiding Andrea's eyes, Michael felt a deep uncertainty. Should he accept if she wanted to go to bed with him? He had been warned at the beginning that social involvements with female partners could be risky. * * * Andrea noted his hesitation. She wanted him. She'd had her eyes on him for months, watching him work, watching him move, watching his lovely little ass and his lean body. She had suspected from the first time she'd met him that he might fancy older women. It was something in his eyes, the way he moved, his diffidence. He seemed to be hungry for something. Was he aware of it? Probably not. She wished she could see him naked right now. Andrea had never married. She'd had lovers, many lovers, but she soon tired of them. Her career was her life. She wanted to be a federal judge. That was her objective, her priority. During the past few years, all her lovers had been younger men under thirty, some of them boys, really, inexperienced, easily managed. She had unusual sexual predilections with these young men. She was a woman of strong desires. What she liked best was fucking them, working their asses with a dildo that she wore attached to a harness. Some of her lovers were shocked by her sexual needs and bolted; others stayed and shared her games, her whims. Some of her young lovers had been bisexual before she met them; others had discovered their needs during their relationship. None of her relationships ever lasted; a few months, four or five months at most. So far she hadn't decided what she really wanted. She had no trouble finding lovers because she was as aggressive in seducing men as she was in her career. When she wanted a young man, she usually got him. Most of them were easy, pleased to have sex with a successful older woman, pleased to be wanted by her. Did she want a permanent relationship? Was it possible? She wasn't certain, and anyway at the moment none of that mattered. She thought she would succeed with Michael. She would have him as a lover, have fun with him, perhaps show him a side of himself he didn't know existed. Of course she would help him at the firm. She hadn't yet had any affairs with men at the firm, and if Michael knew how to be discreet, she would certainly help him in his career. She thought he was a darling, so good-looking he made her quiver. She suspected his body was perfect, smooth and graceful and admirably proportioned. She wondered what his cock and balls were like, the texture of his scrotum, the shape of his glans. Oh dear, thinking about him was exciting her. Too bad they were in a restaurant. "Come on," she said, "let's pay the check and go to my place." * * * As they left the table, Michael pulled his jacket down to hide his erection. They hurried out of the restaurant and into a taxi, where Andrea immediately leaned over and kissed him with passion. Michael was caught by surprise, but he quickly recovered. He kissed her back and their mouths and tongues worked, one at the other. Then Andrea slid her hand into his lap to find his cock. Her fingers carefully explored the head of his penis and the contours of the shaft through the cloth of his trousers. She gripped it and felt its warmth. "You're as hard as a rock," she whispered, her hand squeezing him. "And big too." "Please... let's wait." He was fearful she would make him come in the taxi. He would groan and the driver would hear it and he would be embarrassed by his loss of control. Andrea gave his penis a final squeeze and pulled away from him. "Yes, you're right." * * * When they arrived in her apartment, Andrea said: "Let's have white wine." Michael nodded. He felt strange, as though it were wrong for him to be here. But I'm definitely here, he thought. Andrea hadn't touched him again since the taxi, not even a kiss. She had larger breasts than Gloria. Whenever he imagined his hands and mouth on Andrea's breasts, it made him hot. He glanced at her legs, at her slender ankles and full calves sheathed in dark nylon. She had wide hips. He wondered if her buttocks were flabby. He didn't care. He liked women with mature bodies, ripe curves. Gloria had really been too athletic for him. Not enough flesh on her bones. Maybe that was why he hadn't minded so much when they'd ended it. Andrea's spacious apartment was pleasant, tidy, expensively furnished. Michael wondered why Andrea was without a partner, without a man. She made a great deal of money. Why was she alone? Had she recently split with a man? He tried to imagine Andrea naked with a partner, a younger man like himself. She'd said she preferred younger men. At work, Andrea could be as tough as she looked. She had a quick mind and a formidable memory. Sometimes she was like a legal machine. But she did have a soft side; she'd been pleasant to him ever since he'd started working at the firm. Andrea led him to one of the sofas in the large living room, then went to a small bar and returned with two glasses of white wine. "A toast," Andrea said. Michael nodded as he took the glass. "All right." "What should we toast to?" "Whatever you like." "To us." She smiled as she lifted her glass to her lips. Her eyes seemed enlarged behind her eyeglasses. Michael sipped the wine and found it delicious. Then he said: "I'm still not certain about this." Andrea removed her eyeglasses, placed them on the table at her end of the sofa, and looked at Michael. "What do you mean?" "I don't want it to affect our relationship at the firm. When I was hired, i was told to be careful with personal relationships. I don't want to lose my job." Andrea raised an eyebrow. "Oh, Michael, that's silly. You certainly won't lose your job. But if you think I'm going to force anything on you, you're wrong. You can leave, if you want to." "I don't want to leave." "Are you sure?" "Yes." She smiled and glanced at his lap. "Are you hard again? Yes you are, I can tell." He felt himself blushing. Andrea then took the initiative, leaned toward him and kissed him full on the mouth. He could taste her lipstick. But it was a short kiss and nothing more. Breaking the ice. Their first intimacy since the taxi. His penis twitched as he remembered how she'd clutched it in the taxi. He wanted her to touch him again. He ached for it, but she did nothing. "See, that's not too bad, is it?" "You're treating me like an idiot." She gazed into his eyes. "I don't want to treat you like an idiot. What I want to do is get your clothes off and play with you. We didn't come here just to talk, did we? Am I too bold? You're lovely, Michael, you really are." He did not know what to think any more. There was no way he could hide his fierce erection. He caught her glancing at his lap again, and when their eyes met, she seemed amused. "You're excited, aren't you?" "Yes, I guess I am." "Good, I'm pleased. I bet it hasn't gone down since the taxi." "Not really." "Most women are fascinated by erections, you know. The mechanics. The idea that they're responsible for it. Women are always looking at men, trying to see more. The way men look at a woman's breasts, I suppose. What do you look for, Michael? Do you like large breasts?" He felt himself blushing. "Not too large." She looked at his lap again, her eyes seeming to bore through his clothes. Finally she leaned forward and ran her fingertips over the bulge of his erection. "Let me see it. Just unzip and bring it out. And then I'll show you my breasts." Her request astounded him. She was so direct. She was so different from the girls and women he'd known. So forthright, so poised, so obviously at ease with sex. The idea of exhibiting himself to her excited him. No woman had ever made such a request of him. His face flushed, he carefully unzipped his fly, slid his hand inside his trousers and shorts and pulled his penis out into the air. The head of his cock was swollen, the shaft extending from his groin with a slight curve, the tip glistening with fluid. Andrea gazed at it. "That's lovely, Michael. What a lovely cock." She leaned forward, pinched the tip between her thumb and forefinger, squeezed it and gently pulled his cock in several directions to see it from all sides. Then she gripped the shaft, closed her hand around it as if to feel it throb. Finally she dropped his penis and kissed his cheek. "You're wonderful, Michael. Now it's my turn. Help me with my jacket and we'll get my breasts out where you can see them." He was amazed at what they were doing. The usual procedure was to kiss, pet, caress, furtively undress, often in the dark. Here they were sitting in her living room with his penis dangling out of his trousers and both pairs of hands undressing her. All the lights blazed in the room, the blinds open, although the apartment was on the fortieth floor and he guessed no one could see them. Andrea certainly didn't seem to care. When they finally had her jacket and blouse removed, he thought she looked lovely in her white satin bra. Her breasts were indeed large, the bra cups fully packed. "Kiss me," she said. When he kissed her, she slid her tongue into his mouth and kissed him hard. Then she pulled back. He thought she would unhook the bra and remove it, but instead she simply reached into each cup and pulled her breasts out to dangle them over the cups like heavy pale gourds. The erotic effect startled him and he almost came just looking at her. Her reddish-brown nipples were large, succulent-looking, extending half an inch from the perfectly round areolas. He thought they were the most beautiful breasts he had ever seen. She lifted her left breast in her right hand. "Suck this," she said. He bent his head and took the fat nipple into his mouth, and while he did that her hand slid into his lap to grasp the shaft of his penis and stroke it. Her breast had a sweet taste, and as he sucked and tongued her nipple he imagined he could do this forever, pass the rest of his life with Andrea's tit in his mouth. Eventually she made him move to the other breast, and then finally she gently pushed him away. "Now I want to look at you," she said. "Stand up and undress, won't you?" His face flushed, he rose and started undressing. * * * Andrea sat back on the sofa and watched him. She was pleased. Her intuition about him had been accurate, and now that their liaison was beginning, she felt a strong excitement. She hadn't had a young man as appealing as Michael in a long while, at least not someone who would be available whenever she wanted him. She watched as his body appeared, his clothes peeled away to be tossed onto a chair. His lean body excited her. She liked her men sleek and not too muscular. This one was indeed sleek, lean and lovely, his erect cock swollen and bobbing as he moved his body, the mushroom-shaped head almost purple in color. She thought his penis was beautifully shaped. He had only a slight sprinkling of hair on his chest, more around his genitals. When he was naked, she told him to stand still. "You're beautiful," she said. He blushed. She called him forward, smiled, stroked his thigh. "You're lovely, Michael." She ran her hand along the inside of his thigh, sliding her palm upward until her fingers just grazed his balls. His scrotum was full, round, pink. "I think we're going to be good together. Don't you think so?" His face flushed, he nodded. "Yes." "We'll have a lovely time, won't we?" She began examining her new possession. She was thankful that so far everything was so easy. She knew what he wanted, he wanted to be touched; she could see the hungry look in his eyes. She made him spread his legs to make his balls available. She fondled his testicles, rolled them around with her fingers, tugged at the skin of his scrotum. His balls were large, which she thought a good sign. Her experience was that men with large balls were more virile than the others. She looked at the engorged cock, felt its firmness, then slid her fingers under his balls and lifted them, bounced them gently on her palm to feel their weight. Then she examined his penis more closely, stroked the large head with a fingertip, studied the thick shaft, the veins, the base of the shaft surrounded by a bush of hair. "Will you do something for me, Michael?" "Yes?" "Get rid of the hair down here. Will you do that? The next time you shower, shave everything off. I like it clean and bare. You'll do that, won't you?" "Yes, if you want it." "Now turn around," she said. And when he did so, she stroked his buttocks, admired their shape and firmness, and then she opened his buttocks with both hands and she looked at his anus. A perfect little treasure. So charming. He was a darling young man. She released his buttocks and ran both palms over them again. The skin was unmarked, not even a faint blemish anywhere. Firm muscular buttocks as smooth as marble. He reminded her of a Greek statue. "All right, turn around," she said, her hands releasing his buttocks. She rose from the sofa and started undressing. She unhooked her bra and tossed it away. She slipped out of her shoes, dropped her skirt, then quickly peeled off her pantyhose and panties. She ignored his eyes on the lower half of her body. Naked, she sat on the sofa again, raised her knees and opened her solid thighs to expose her crotch to him. Her full-lipped cunt, hairy and open, showed juices gleaming in the crack. She had plenty of hair; she did not like hair on her young men, but she preserved her own pubic hair because whenever she opened her legs like this it gave her a sense of wildness. She smiled when she saw the desire in his eyes, the hot wanting. He apparently wanted her hairy cunt. Now she intended to learn how good he could be, whether he could truly pleasure her. "You want to please me, don't you?" "Yes," he said. What she wanted was obvious. Their eyes met. He hesitated. Then, without a word, he dropped to his knees in front of her and moved his face between her spread thighs. * * * Michael's excitement was intense. He wondered if Andrea were testing him with this request to immediately service her like this. He was amazed how easily they had assumed different roles, Andrea dominant and he submissive. No cuddling, no tenderness, no hint of romance. Everything so direct and definite. The way she'd looked at his ass had almost made him come. No woman had ever been so direct with his body, especially not a first date. They were already so intimate, it seemed as if they'd known each other for ages. And they'd hardly begun, hadn't even fucked yet. They were still in the foreplay stage; this was all foreplay, exciting enough to make his heart pound. He reached between his thighs to find his penis and he started stroking himself. Her cunt was a jnngle, meaty, dripping, the hair everywhere. As he pressed his nose against her bush and licked around her clitoris and labia, he caught the strong scent of her sex. Sweat and vaginal secretions and a hint of urine. He loved it -- an entire day's worth of cunt. Gloria had been fond of having him go down on her after she'd jogged at dusk. He'd learned to love it, the musky taste, the smell of her sweat. Now he moved down a bit to get his tongue in Andrea's opening. Her cunt was drenched, her juices pooling between the lips and at the rim of her vagina. He licked and sucked, licked and sucked, loving the taste of it. Then, on an impulse, he slipped further down and swiped his tongue over the knot of her anus. He heard her groan, then he felt her knees pull up to make herself more available. She wanted it. All right, he would give it to her. He lapped her anus again and kept his tongue there. He started rimming her, circling his tongue around the ring, tapping it repeatedly, pushing his tongue at the tiny opening. She had her knees pulled all the way back to her breasts and he had a clear field. He knew all about this. Gloria had told him he was the best she'd ever had. Now he wanted Andrea to make the same judgment. When Andrea's anus opened, he thrust his tongue inside her and worked it in and out. She was masturbating now. He could feel her fingers rubbing her clitoris above his nose. He continued working her anus as her knees started rocking. She groaned, trembled, gripped his head with her hands and came on his face. As he felt her anus clutch his tongue, he pumped his cock to a climax and spurted on the rug. * * * They lay naked together on her bed, their arms around each other. Only a small lamp lit the room; an old blues melody came drifting in from the living room stereo. "How did you know I'd like that?" Andrea said. She lay with her face nuzzling his armpit, her hand closed around his soft penis. She thought his skin tasted like candy. "Like what?" "The ass-licking. I don't know what else to call it." "Analingus." "Yes, analingus." "Rimming." "Yes, that's better. How did you know I would like it?" "I guessed, that's all." "Well, you're a good guesser." She tugged at his penis. "What about this? Are you going to get hard again?" "Yes, I think so." "Let me suck it. Come over me, straddle me and I'll suck you." She turned on her back and pulled a pillow beneath her head. He quickly climbed over her, straddled the upper part of her body and dangled his penis over her face. She opened her mouth and took him, sucked hard on the head, swirled her tongue over the underside of the shaft. She felt him hardening in her mouth. She clutched his buttocks with both hands, squeezed the firm muscles, then searched in his crack with her fingers until she found his anus. His pelvis jerked forward when she penetrated him, his cock filling more of her mouth. She pushed her finger inside, twisting it to widen his anus. Then she added another finger and began fucking him. When his penis was hard, he suddenly pulled out of her mouth, forcing her fingers out of his anus as he moved off her body. "I want to fuck you," he said. "All right," she said, She'd hoped he would come in her mouth, but she decided to let him have his way this time. He obviously needed it. Their first fuck. She raised her knees and opened them in invitation, and without delay he moved between her thighs, used his hand to guide his cock inside her cunt and started fucking her. It wasn't that bad. These days she never liked being penetrated that much, but he had a large rigid cock and it felt good whenever his shaft grazed her clitoris. She gripped his thrusting body with her legs and thighs and she held on until he came. After that they both fell asleep. There was no more sex that evening. She had a busy schedule the next day, and she sent him home before midnight. * * * After that first time, they did not see each other for nearly a week because Andrea had to fly out to Los Angeles to manage a deposition in an important case. Michael was actually thankful for the time alone, time to think about things. He was beginning a new phase in his life and it required an emotional adjustment. He had never had an affair with anyone like Andrea before, not someone with that much power over his career. He prayed nothing would go wrong, that Andrea would not ruin things for him at the firm. But of course there was also the other side -- that Andrea might help his career enormously. When Andrea finally returned from California, she was quite casual with Michael in the office, no sign of their special relationship. It wasn't until the afternoon that Andrea came to his office and handed him a set of keys. "These are keys to my apartment. I've got work to do here, but I'll try to be home by seven." She handed the keys to him and abruptly left. Michael was happy. At least it meant that Andrea trusted him. He finished his work at the office shortly after five o'clock, and he went straight to her apartment. He slipped his shoes off and relaxed awhile on a sofa. Then he decided that Andrea would not mind if he showered. He washed thoroughly, especially his anus and as far inside as he could reach with his finger. He remembered how much attention she'd paid to his ass and he wanted to be clean for her. Remembering the sex with her excited him. After he finished his shower, he put on one of Andrea's terry-cloth robes and left the bathroom. He switched on the television set in the living room and watched an hour of a news channel. It was nearly 7:30 when Andrea at last arrived. Michael rose when he heard the key in the door, and then Andrea stepped inside, smiled at him, and closed and locked the door behind her. "Hungry" Andrea asked as she tossed her briefcase and purse on a chair. Michael nodded. "Yes, I am. I had a shower. Is that all right?" "Yes, of course. I'll order some food after I shower and have it delivered." Then she looked at him in the robe and made a gesture with her hand. "You don't need the robe, you look better naked." She left him standing in the living room and walked to her bedroom. He removed the robe. Her demeanor made him nervous; she seemed almost irritated. Had he displeased her? Or maybe she was being her authoritative self. Maybe she would ease up later. He felt strange being naked in the living room. He walked over to one of the paintings and studied it. Then he just stood there and waited for her. When Andrea returned, she wore a maroon caftan that completely covered her body. She looked at Michael's belly and smiled when she saw his pubic hair was gone. "Ah, you've shaved. Good. Keep it that way." She took his penis in her hand and lifted it. "But you still have hair on your balls." "I was afraid I'd cut myself." "All right, I know a place that will do it. I'll take you there sometime." She took him in her arms and kissed him. "Did you miss me?" "Yes, I did," he said. The sensation of her arms enfolding him was wonderful. Still holding him, Andrea stroked his naked buttocks as she gently kissed the side of his neck. She slipped her fingers into the crack, found his anus and rubbed it. "I thought about you a great deal," she said. "And I thought about you." "Did you masturbate thinking about me?" "Yes." His head lifted as Andrea continued kissing his neck and throat. Then she released him and stepped back. "You look so delicious when you're naked. Show me what you did when you thought about me. I want to watch you masturbate. Sit in that chair over there and show me what you did. But don't come. Don't come unless I say so." Her request excited him. He sat down in the arm chair, and when she told him to drape his legs over the arms of the chair, he did that also. He was totally exposed now, his cock and balls and anus exposed to her eyes. Andrea sat down nearby and gazed at him intently. "Go on," she said. He slid his right hand over his belly, took his cock in his hand and started caressing himself, stroking his penis slowly. The lust in Andrea's eyes excited him. Gloria had made him do this. How strange it was that Andrea wanted it also. He felt his cock throbbing. He'd been aroused all evening, but now it was much worse. Andrea had told him not to come without permission, but if he continued like this he would not be able to control himself. "I'll come if I keep doing this," he said. "All right, do it. Make yourself come. Show me how you shoot it." Hearing her talk like that was too much. Groaning, he frantically stroked his cock until he started spurting. His hips jerked as the sperm shot out of the tip of his penis to splash on his chest and belly. He wilted in the chair, his eyes closed, his heart beating rapidly. When he opened his eyes again, he found Andrea leaning over him with a towel. She wiped the sperm away and kissed him. Then she tossed the towel on the floor and she opened a small box. "Here, let me put these on you," she said. "I bought them in Los Angeles." Small gold-plated nipple clips. He watched her fingers as they tugged his right nipple out before clamping it. Then the left nipple. His nipples tingled. Andrea took hold of his hands, pulled him to his feet and kissed him again. "I suppose I ought to order our dinner now. Are you still hungry?" "Yes." "You look adorable with your nipples clipped like that. Tres sexy. Do they hurt?" "Just a little." "The clips will make your tits very sensitive. You'll see how nice it is." She slid her hand around his waist, then dropped her hand down to fondle his buttocks. Her fingers slid into the crack to caress his anus. "I thought about your ass a lot. I had fantasies about doing you here, fucking you. Has anyone every done that to you?" "No." "We ought to try it. You might like it. Would you let me do that? I promise I'll be gentle. Would you let me do it?" "If that's what you want." "Yes, I want it." He said nothing. He leaned against her and closed his eyes. He felt her squeezing his buttocks. The idea that she wanted his ass excited him. He suddenly understood how a woman felt. He felt feminine, receptive, with a desire to be penetrated. * * * The delivered dinner turned out to be better than expected. They sat in silence at the candle-lit table, sipping wine and eating a tender Vietnamese chicken dish. Except for the fact that he was naked, it might have been an ordinary dinner shared by two ordinary people. Actually, Andrea had hardly touched him with her hands for nearly an hour; only her eyes did the touching, her eyes constantly on him, on his face, on his chest, on his hands. After dinner, he helped her put the dishes in the kitchen sink, and they left everything for the day maid who would arrive in the morning to look after the apartment. Andrea escorted him into her bedroom with one hand stroking his buttocks. She found his anus and pushed the tip of her finger inside. "Are you sure you've never had anyone in your ass?" He protested, his face flushed. "I'm not gay." "I know that. But sometimes men like it." "I said I'm willing to try it." "Kneel on the bed then. The first time is the most difficult and I can be more careful when you're kneeling. We'll need some lubrication." He knelt on the bed, assuming the position he thought she wanted, his head and shoulders down, his knees wide apart, his rump raised and offered. Was he really doing this? He felt as though he were in a trance, as though she had some special power over him. He was a virgin; he was offering himself to her. He was at ease with her taking charge. It excited him to know she wanted him, excited him to be passive like this. He'd learned that about himself with Gloria. He liked to be passive. He heard Andrea getting ready. He did not want to look. He kept his eyes closed. * * * Andrea used one of her smaller dildoes, a smooth blue cock fixed in a harness. She was pleased at how easy Michael was, how far she'd brought him along. This was only their second time together and she already had him kneeling on the bed waiting for her to take his ass. With most of her lovers, it took a great deal of coaxing. How delicious Michael was. He wanted it, of course; if he hadn't wanted it, he would not have agreed. And she knew from experience that once they started this he would come to love it more and more. She had seen it happen with other young lovers, young men who enjoyed being penetrated, enjoyed playing a feminine role. And she adored doing it. She was thrilled that she and Michael had come to this point so easily. He was certainly special. He looked so lovely kneeling like that on the bed with his hips raised. She would open him gently, get him used to the type of fucking she liked. When she finished attaching the harness around her hips. she greased the cock thoroughly with lubricant, her hand stroking over the entire length of the shaft. Then she approached his raised ass and squeezed out some lubricant into the crack between his buttocks. "I'm getting you ready," she said. She pushed the jelly into his anus, first with one finger and then with two fingers. When he groaned, she reached underneath with her free hand to grasp his balls. "You like it, don't you? Yes, of course you do. I knew the first time I saw you that you'd like it. Come if you want. If you want to come while I'm fucking you, do it. Use your hand and stroke yourself. Just enjoy it. You'll see how good it is." Then she lifted the dildo and carefully pushed it into his ass with a series of short jerks of her hips. He made a sound of discomfort only once. When she was all the way in, her belly against his buttocks, she slid her hands up and down his smooth back. "Is it good?" He groaned. "Yes." "Just relax. Relax and let yourself go. You have such a nice ass, Michael. I want you to come." She pulled out slowly, almost to the tip, then pushed forward again. She adored the way his anus stretched like a round mouth around the shaft of the dildo. She slipped a hand underneath the phallus and found his hanging balls, held them with her fingers as she continued stroking. "It's good, isn't it?" He groaned again. "Yes." "Are you masturbating?" "Yes." "I love fucking you. It's very exciting for me." Now she quickened her thrusts, her hips pumping as she worked the dildo in and out of his ass. Each time she slapped against his buttocks, the base of the dildo pummeled her clitoris. She would come soon. But she wanted him to come first. After a few more strokes, she gripped his balls more firmly. "Come on, Michael. Come for me. Shoot your spunk while I'm fucking your ass. Come now." He groaned and cried out and groaned again, and she watched his body shudder in the throes of an intense orgasm. That's wonderful, she thought. She continued thrusting, grinding her clitoris against the base of the dildo, her body finally jerking as her cunt exploded in an orgasm. Later, as they lay together in bed, she said: "That was lovely, Michael. Was it good for you?" He lay on his back with his arm covering his eyes. "Yes." "It was good for me too. Better than anything. If you want me to have real pleasure, let me do that when I want it. Will you?" For a long moment he said nothing. And then he sighed. "All right." -- End -- 

Whew~ Thanks for the story... "Andrewseeksbbw".........BTW: MICHEAL MINE is the writer- HIS STORIES CAN BE FOUND ON LITEROTICA.COM

I am addressing this to you because I am given to understand from your profile that you may be seeking to acquire a male slave to engage in none sexual, service oriented labour as your legitimate owned property.

WRONG -

ANOTHER SUB THAT DID NOT READ MY PROFILE!!! HELLO ...."SEX WITH SHOES"...

One sub boys "WISH" list...

ohhhhh how i wish i had You to tell me what to wear and how to dress, what to eat, how my hair should be, where i can go and not to go...mmmmmmm

WOULD LOVE TO HEAR WHAT YOUR "WISH" LIST WOULD BE.....

Question:  What turns me on?

A mans "SMILE"....

A hairy chest ....

An alpha man surrendering to my ass...

Watching my man with my feet in his hands....

You are a B.I.T.C.H. Beautiful Individual That Causes Hard-ons. 

Thanks!  I love being called - Boss.... Bitch, is too cute!

A little subby asked me the other day  " what I needed"...Huh, I didn't have to think hard on that one at all............:)  I don't "need" anything....

I don't need a boy -I want a man!

I don't need a man - I want one!

I don't need a sub man - I want and can take an alpha man and make him my bitch!

I don't need a maid - I want a man that is happy to be of service.

I don't need a  toe sucker - I want one!

I don't need an ass kisser - I WANT A P.A.L - Personal ASS licker!

And the list goes on..................

It amazes me how I am "everything" you ever wanted... and I am "exactly" who you have been looking for... yet you have never had a conversation with me, laid eye's upon me, let alone stood in front of me, or better yet kneeled at the back end of me to whiff the sexy aroma of my feminine fat ass!..........You know NOTHING about me.. Please.... don't be so silly with your bullshit comments and suggest that you do!

I love golden showers and eating ass like crazy so please contact me asap!

Really? Are you effing kidding me?!!! Like you're the ONLY ONE here that wants to eat a fat ass like crazy! Wow..

     Wow, another "smart" kid......lol 

Snow has locked me in all day today...  Ugh what's a girl to do...hmm, I'm feeling like "Betty Crocker"... gonna be making some yummy.....

Enjoying the cold weather, and cooking up a mean dish of my grandmas favorite and very delicious Lasanga and some very yummy Custard bread pudding.... 

Enjoying the weather.... Snow, snow, snow... Would be nice to have heated floors & a true slave with a passion for feet & ass worship...(wink) A girl can still dream...

Question asked - "What is a BBW"?

Answer: Big Bossy Woman!!! 

Again..........let me stress if you're not interested in BBW = Big Beautiful Women or Big Bossy woman..

DON'T SEND ME AN INTRODUCTION LETTER...  

Had a great evening with my sexy new friend DeviousFemdom and her cute subby hubby. Looking forward to spending more time with both of them.. (wink)

Another exciting night planned for Ms. Eve... Thursday, I will be meeting with a very sexy and devious Domme and her little subbie...

Had a Hallo - weeny of a good time last night..It was all about the "treats".. No tricks to be had..(wink) I know someone that is going to have a 'HARD" time sitting today..... boo hoo huh?

Ms.  Eve,

Thanks again!  I love it!  That is great advice.  I hadn't thought of the letting her control the radio and letting her pick the air conditioning setting.  I will most definetely let him see all of this.  And I love that answer about giving respect if he questions anything.

Wow yes, little justin will learn a lot from this, almost subconsiously. 

I love you praising me by the way, it almost makes me feel like I am serving you in a way. :)  I do think I am being a good uncle for both Her and him.  Of course it empwers her as the superior Female, but this will hopefully lead him into life of happy subservience to a woman later on. 

By the time he is dating Girls he will already be emotionally trained to be submissive to them.

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Am very happy to help.. Am alway's up for teaching the young ones how to embrace their dominance..

Good job!

Met with another local domme. What an amazing woman! It looks as if I need to look into starting a new little group in town. Some subbies and slaves really have it too damn good! I firmly believe in chastity training and using a much needed cock cage! Women get your boys in a cock cage.. No matter how big or small the penis, it is so worth it!!!

Got an invitation to a "Hallo-weeny" party... Ugh, What should I wear!!! Any suggestions??????????????