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I've been involved in BDSM for about 12 years now. I'm looking for someone who is serious about a bdsm relationship... relationship, not cyber, not playing, I want something longterm. That means that its going to take you a long time to get to know me before anything happens. If you aren't willing to put in the time, that's okay, move along.
The two most important traits to me are intelligence and diligence. Please don't send a one line message or a stock message that you send to every other woman on here as well. Tell me something about yourself and your bdsm history, but most of it make it real, and make me see the person you are. If you aren't willing to make an effort in your message, then I won't bother making an effort to reply.
I'm single, but only halfheartedly looking for a relationship right now, but if the right person comes along that might change.
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And only slightly better than the one-liner is the form letter. The form letter is something that you have obviously taken time to create, but isn't written to me. Instead it's a generic letter that you can resend over and over to every woman you contact on here. There is nothing specific to me in it at all. Sure it gives more information than the one-liner and lets me <sorta> see your personality, but at the root of the matter it suffers from the same fundamental flaw. You didn't care enough about me to put any effort into your message.
Here's the bottom line... if I can tell you didn't make an effort in writing me, I'm not going to make an effort to write you back.
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Why do you guys think that a generic one line email is going to work? I get flooded with them and all of them are pretty much the same. All it tells me is that you couldn't be bothered to take the time to put together a real message for me. How is your one line message going to stand out from the 50 other one line messages I get? Cause I'm not gonna go look at all of the profiles of every person who messages me. You've got one chance to catch my interest, to impress me. I just don't have enough time or effort to be a detective and investigate the mystery of "you" for each and every message I get. So don't email me and just say "Hi" or "Hey I'd like to get to know you." or "Check out my profile" Think of this like any other situation where there are a lot of guys who all are trying to get the same thing, like applying for a job. You don't expect to send in a note saying "Hire me" and get the job. Or to send in a resume that says nothing about you but tells the person to go talk to your past employers. No. You send in a resume that tells them about you, about your skills and how you are a good fit for their company, and about why you want to work there, what you like about their company and why it fits in with what you want to do. I'm not saying that you have to apply to be with me, what I'm saying is that there has to be some way for me to choose out of all the people messaging me. And quite frankly, someone who puts in time and effort and says something real and interesting is really going to capture my attention.
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| Age: 29 |
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