I am back after a long time away.  I am still looking for pretty much the same thing.  I have to say that I am more open to a LTR now than I have been in the  past although it is still not my number one goal.  It will come in time.

I try to be as honest as humanly possible with everyone,  especially my submissives.   I am not "Looking" for a LTR.  If it comes along and works out, that would be really great.  If not, I would be happy with a steady play partner.  I can not expect one person to fullfill all my needs so yes,  even after I start to train one submissive I will continue to look for,  meet, and play with others as is my right to do so.  I also understand that things get intense sometimes between and Domme and a submissive.   But I will not feel guilty because the preceptions of a submissive changes and they become more vested than they thought they would.  I will only be responsible for the emotional well being of my submissives in as far as it relates to BDSM play.

Again, I feel the need to clarify myself and what I am looking for in a submissive.  I require a submissive who can do demestic chores.  Wash clothes, mop floors and yes, even clean the bathroom.  I also need a submissive who is good at foot rubs, back rubs and oral service.  Being handy with a hammer and a screw driver is always a plus.  I also would like a submissive I can share vanilla things with too, such as movies and going out to eat.  Am I going to find one single submissive that can do all that?  I really don't think so, but that is ok.  I do not think it is realistic to think that one single person and meet all my needs and I am fine with that.  But it would save a lot of time if  the submissives that contact me would make it clear what they offer as far as services go.  I will proceed differantly with a submissive who is offering domestic service as oposed to a submissive who is offering personal services only.  I do have many talents.  Mind reading is not among them.  I suppose I must make out a list of questions for all submissives to make this clearer to me and so avoid any misunderstanding.

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It has come to my attention that there are a few things that I need to clarify.  If I tell a subbie that I want to go shopping.  That means that I will shop and the subbie will hold my purse and follow me around the store and give his opinion when asked.  I have a job and am independent.  I do not need or want a sub  to buy me anything.  The only thing you have to offer me is your submission If I invite you out to eat, I expect to buy, If you invite me out I expect you to buy.  That being said,  If I am seeing a sub on a regular basis,  I expect and christmas present, and birthday present and a valentine's day present.  Now,  flowers and candles will however earn you brownie points.  I hope this clears things up. 00 and by the way.  If I send you to the store for something,  I do expect to pay for it.  I am a Domme.  Not a Welfare case.

What is it with these submissives wanting to rush things-- you say hello and they want you to have a party invite 100 people and have you use.  What ever happened to getting to know your Mistress and what she likes-- not to mention having the Mistress getting to know the submissive and finding their triggers.. thats part of the fun-- and another thing-- you are sending me a message and I assume you want to make a good impression and you want me to respond in a favorable way-- and you are going to send me a picture of your cock---REALLY?-- news flash---I am not interested in the size of your cock!!!  Send me a picture of the size of your submission-- that will impress me

What I want?-- In short- everything-- I want a submissive who will learn my needs and personality. That way they will know how to please me without being told. I want a submissive with a personality. Someone who can carry on a good conversation. I want someone who understands that it is highly unlikely that one person can fulfill all my needs. Most of all I want someone I can form a bond with( I think we are all looking for that). Someone that will make my life easier not harder. And finally, I want someone who brings me flowers and candles. Is this selfish? Yes.  Am I worth it? Yes

Is it possible to have a bdsm relationship that really works in the long term?  Lets face it, it is hard enough to find compatiblity in the vanilla world.. then you and in the bdsm factor and what are the chances.. really. I guess I will find out.  Some people settle for a vanilla spouse and have a bdsm lifestyle on the side.  I don't think that is for me. I know we all have to live in the vanilla world but I don't think I should have to settle. I want it all.

I have meet some people in the lifestyle that refer to themselves as slaves.  To me that denotes the lack of free will.  I read a profile the other day from a slave describing the difference between a slave and a submissive. What I found interesting was, after a rather long description of the difference, she ended it by saying that it was her opinion and she is entitled to her opinion.  Well, in my opinion your not-- because a slave is not entitled to anything-- that is the point.  I wonder.  Have I missed something? I wonder.  I do like the term submissive better. It implies free will and the freedom of choice.  I want some one to choose to give me their submission.  I view submission as a gift.  While I have been know to play with slaves it is the choice that I value. To me it is a show of trust.  To me that is an important difference.

I have been giving serious thinking  to a 24/7 situation.  It could have its benefits. They would have their own income. And very trainable.  Just something I am thinking about.

I have been on collarme before without much success but decided to give it another try.  I would really like to find a nice community to be a part of.  To meet real people into the lifestyle. It seems to be easier said than done at this point.  But lets see what happens. We never know what the future holds.