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Let me start this by saying... if you are looking for a quick hook up, or a way to fulfill your online fantasies, move along. I am not interested and am intolerant of those types of men. Also, be local enough to be able to meet face to face. I don't waste my time with lengthy emails and hours, weeks, months of IM chats. Been there, done that, destroyed the t-shirt. Be serious and be real, or be gone.

I am seeking a male slave/submissive to share my life with. If the connection is right, I would like to find someone to share a 24/7 relationship. Someone who shares my interests in this lifestyle and wants to grow and learn. Someone who is sincerely interested in serving and pleasing. Someone who understands the meaning of a collar, and wants to honor it.

I enjoy the intimacy of BDSM, and I am actively exploring and learning new things. I have been involved with D/s for years, but have been enjoying the SM side of this lifestyle for over 10 years. I love bondage, from light restraints to total immobilization, wax, flogging & paddling, whipping, caning, and am learning fire play. I also enjoy CBT. Outside of the lifestyle, I enjoy travel, movies, sporting events, music and romantic nights at home. I am an incurable romantic. I also enjoy the public scene here in Denver and am a member of both The Enclave and the Denver Sanctuary. I am the founder of WICK'D (Women in Control of Kink & Domination - Denver Chapter). I have met some wonderful people in the Denver community, and am looking forward to meeting many more.
I also am a partner in a BDSM video production company. enclaveproductions.com.

My Ideal Person:
I am very interested in meeting mature men. Maturity does not necessarily relate to age, however, I am not interested in men younger than my sons. I look for honesty, intelligence, openness, a strong desire to serve, and a good sense of humor. When the play is over, I want someone I can enjoy spending time with. Body type is not that important to me, but the mind is. I like masculine men, and am not into sissies or cross dressers. I am not a strict or severe Domina, and as I have said, I am an incurable romantic.
I am also not what would be referred to as a severe sadist. I enjoy the loving and sensual side of this lifestyle. That is not to say I don't enjoy SM, but I do not engage in edge play. I am active in the Denver BDSM Community and have made some wonderful friends there, as well as people I have met real time who I have chatted with online for years. Good friends are as hard to find as good submissives. I treasure both.

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1/1/2008 9:08:40 AM

Happy New Year everyone! 

For a New Year's suggestion, I would advise any and all to read and get involved in the CM forums.  Yes, there is some BS there, as there is in all places, but, there is also a great deal of wonderful topics and opinions from some great people.  Please see the following journal entry for just one example.


1/1/2008 8:59:24 AM
This is cut and pasted from the CM forum.  Written by a male submissive, littlesarbonn, it is so full of wisdom, I chose to share it.  I thank him for putting this into words, and wish every submissive, male and female, would take the time to read it.

Thank you, littlesarbonn!

This is a response to something I was reading recently, from a submissive who was trying to figure out what he might possibly ever have to offer a dominant woman in hopes of her taking him seriously. So here goes.

Here's some advice from someone who's been around the block a few times (translation: my mommy still won't let me cross the street). :)

You first of all have to figure out what it is you have to offer. What separates you from the crowd? This stumps a lot of submissives, but I'll let you in on a few secrets that don't work, then we'll go into some things that might work. Keep in mind that what I state here may be helpful to some, but you should never by lying about your abilities in hopes of achieving something because you'll ALWAYS be found out, and you'll never get a second chance.

What doesn't work:
1. Anatomy. Pictures of, descriptions of, fingerpaints about, Van Gogh-styled carvings of exact representations of genitalia should be the first thing you NEVER consider one of your strong points. If you're writing to a dominant woman, she already has enough of these types of inquiries from guys that she's going to go through the roof with anger if you send her another.

2. Don't tell her your a dom who has suddenly decided to offer her the unique opportunity of dominating someone who is not a submissive. Unless she knows you are already and has harbored a secret desire to dominate you, because she knows you're a dominant she wants to break down, it's never going to work.
3. Lying. One lie and you're pretty much gone. You'll rarely get a second chance.

4. Passive-aggressive behavior. No one likes this. I've been there myself in the past. Took years to get rid of it.

5. Taking yourself way too seriously. In MOST cases (not all), you really need a sense of humor about things. I was once cleaning a bathroom for a dominant woman I was really trying to win favor with, and I didn't know the first thing about the word "dilution", so I poured half the bottle on the floor and created the stickiest situation a submissive can ever be in. She was in the middle of doing a very long session and had left me alone. So, for four hours, I kept trying to figure out how to fix this mess I made. When she came out, and I completely expected her to yell at me and throw me out, she asked what happened, I told her, and she started laughing (in a good way). Surprisingly, I did, too, because for four hours I was convinced this was going to be the worst encounter ever, because I really liked her. Everything turned out okay. Sure, I had to still make it right, but at least she told me how to do it (fortunately, I'm a bit smarter about such things today than I was back then).

6. Playing games to get what you really want. Way too many do this. Don't. Be honest. Tell her what you're seeking. If it's what she thinks is something that might interest her, it will work out. Sometimes, she'll not be all that interested but now that she knows, she might one day use it as some kind of leverage with you or way of rewarding you, or something to keep from you forever because she's mean and vicious and...and...oh sorry, was getting kind of excited there.

What you should do (what you really asked):
1. Assess yourself. What do you know how to do? Are you great with computers? Can you put them together blindfolded (don't tell her that because she just might have you do it that way)? :) Are you great at massage? Have you been trained to do something she might find useful, like research or legal issues? Can you cook? Do you detail cars? Do you fix cars? Everyone has things he or she excels at. Find those, and you have something she wants. Cunnilingus is NOT the kind of skill you want to advertise. Nor is full body worship or sex.

2. Use common sense. If you were her, what would you want? Read what she writes. Does she complain because she can't find a good cup of coffee? Find her a good cup of coffee. Or be able to make one.

3. Remember that she's a real person. Too many submissives fail here. Miserably. They treat her as a goddess or some untouchable persona, and while she may warrant such admiration and respect, keep in mind that she's also a real person. Should you ever interest such a woman, remember that she's probably a lot more comfortable in her fuzzy slippers than she is in high heeled boots and full dominant regalia. Some guys can't get beyond that, or they pretend to but really are just fetishist in nature.

4. Figure out what you actually want from her and see if that somehow coincides with her desires. I'll be honest with you. I rarely pursue anyone, mainly because I spend a great deal of time finding everything out about her I can, and then I try to see how I would best fit into her life. If I don't see a fit, I generally don't make contact. I realize that I don't want to be there if I'm not going to be useful, wanted and needed.

5. Learn as much about her as possible. That at least shows you that you're really interested in her and not in just some generic dominant woman. This can backfire on you, however, as I discovered when I really went out and discovered everything I could about a woman I was interested in some years ago. I found out what she was studying and read all of her interviews about what she was seeking. I did this to determine whether or not I was right for her, and I came away from that research convinced that I was. During our first encounter, I sort of freaked her out, probably leaving her thinking I was some kind of stalker. So be careful about how you do it. Know her well enough to find out if you are compatible, but don't go overboard enough to scare the crap out of her. It didn't get that bad in the example I used; but I certainly realized it could have.

< Message edited by littlesarbonn -- 6/22/2007 4:00:35 PM >


11/12/2007 11:27:00 AM

Heart of Master

... is an individual born with a spiritual sense of presence and connectedness. No one can make an individual a Master except that individual his or herself — in their own growth process, becoming centered and growing into a state of connectedness in the universe. A Master is an individual who feels incomplete without the love and service of an individual with heart of slave.

A Master may or may not be involved with SM. A Master has a "special connectedness" in the journey of spirit, that they allow the slave’s heart of to "share". Many Masters do this sharing without knowledge and direction, without purpose or goal, and sadly — sometimes without trust in their own intuitive spiritual nature. It is also easy to confuse the sexual and spiritual aspects of Mastery — though these are closely related and overlap in the most intricate manner. A Master without this connectedness can do best by loving and nurturing the heart of slave, but provides at best a poor signpost of direction.

SM activities can be one tool to allow a slave to completely let go of any limits or blocks in becoming connected with their heart of slave. SM without love inhibits the spiritual growth of the heart of slave — and is simply brutality. Pain without direction becomes a "lost journey" for the heart of slave.

The most advanced and spiritually connected man of Mastery whom I have ever met is a man named SlaveMaster. He has developed his training process to a rare and exceptional quality. I strongly encourage any unattached man who has heart of slave to consider applying to him for direction and training. His articles have appeared in The Leather Journal and other magazines.
— Taken from a talk given by Master Steve to OCLA.




        

Heart of slave

a slave ...

... is an individual born with a slave spirit. No one can make an individual have this spirit; nothing can be done to create this state in an individual's being. No one trying hard or wishing for this sense of spirit can develop it within themselves, and no Master can cause it to occur. A slave is an extraordinary human being who is born with this slave spirit — as much as they are born to breathe, or to have gifted talents like design or music.

A slave is extraordinary, rare — and most often confused until they discover their slave spirit heart. Most slaves wander through life feeling unfulfilled — as if they have a "dark hole" in their spirit — a hole that can be temporarily filled with an abundance of sex, work, addictive behavior or other whole-life-consuming factors.

slaves often have a sense of the spiritual (some become clergy), but feel this sense of spiritual awareness to be disconnected from their desire for a Mastery/slavery relationship. A slave has a right to feel joy and pride in their slavery and in service to a Master.

In their confusion, many slaves interpret Dominance as Mastery; SM as completion; or fetish focus as the fulfillment of the "dark hole" in their spirit. Many can find enough fulfillment in these areas to develop a sense of “wholeness” (often a quiet longing exists; although for what, the slave doesn't know).

Heart of slave can be actualized only when the spiritual journey occurs that connects this "dark hole" in the spirit, first to the whole spirit, and then to the universe. It is a process of a painful and trusting leap of faith that causes this connectedness to occur — a truly spiritual journey. Heart of slave can only be complete in service to a Master and it is within this service that the spiritual journey occurs. slavery is not about a "hard dick or clit experience,” although hard dicks and clits happen and are enjoyed.

slavery is the completion of a spirit in search of "connectedness" in the universe.

— Taken from a talk given by Master Steve to OCLA


1/28/2007 8:24:50 AM

You know... I read a lot of profiles from men who appear angry because they come across so many women who are not honest, don't really know what this lifestyle is all about, are lonely or bored married women looking for some online excitement, are gold diggers just looking for money, or are new and try to pretend to be the "big bad Domme" without a clue.
Well, guess what?  There are as many male fakes on here as there are female ones. 

Why do men contact a woman, say all the things they think she wants to hear, "You are perfect for me!" "I would relocate to be with you!" "Let me serve you and be your slave!".... exchange emails... chat... talk on the phone, sometimes for hours... then when they are pressed to meet, "POOF"... cut off all communication, and slink back into the abyss of the Internet? 

Why can't the men have the decency to say "I have changed my mind." "I am scared and not ready for this." "I am no longer interested."?   No... they just cut off communication... often times with dates set to meet... and run.  It amazes me that common manners and courtesy are so rare on here.  All I can assume is the conversations are nothing but lies.  They have no intention of ever really meeting, and just like the online game of pursuit.  As soon as they are faced with making it a reality, it scares the hell out of them.  Or, they are married, lie about it, and have to run when faced with someone real who wants to meet them in person.

MEN:  If this is all pretend to you, at least PRETEND to have the manners and class to fake a stupid excuse for not meeting someone before refusing to answer emails and/or IMs or changing your screen name and moving on to your next conquest!!  Some of us are into this realtime, not pros who want your money, and are honestly looking for that connection and chemistry that can bring a lifetime of intimacy and intensity only available through the M/s, D/s and BDSM lifestyle.


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 Age: 20
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