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So if I take the concepts of authority and subjugation to its natural and logical conclusion and the submissive is under that authority then what does that mean for myself?
First of all I'll admit that the thought of giving a girl the "get your ass over here and suck my cock" order is fun, but that's all it is, fun. However life isn't always fun, and in the 24X7 relationship where any directive can come at any time sometimes you have a sub on their knees in front of you, looking for direction and looking to you to provide it. During those times "suck my cock, bitch" doesn't get anyone very far.
I read a lot of profiles here that say the dom's needs and wants come before the submissive's. I'm here to say that's utterly and completely false. I recognize that in any relationship that is sustainable the whole is greater then the sum of its parts. To that end my responsibility first and foremost is to the relationship, not my selfish needs and wants. My role in any D/s or M/s relationship is as a facilitator. My responsibility is twofold. First is to provide direction to the submissive and myself in order to make the relationship work. My second responsibility is to provide an environment in which the relationship can best grow and flourish. |
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Wow it just occurred to me that I haven't written in this for a long time. Yes, I am out of my hotel and have been happily in my place for a couple months now. Things are all together now and I'm happier then I've been in a long time.
Thank you to everyone who wrote me encouraging me throughout this process I appreciate it.
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I close on my house on the 6th. Time is running out on the hotel!
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I'm out of my basement and in a hotel for a couple weeks. Things could be better, but things could be a heck of a lot worse too.
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I signed the contracts today for my house. Can't wait to get in!
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I'm writing this to ask for the community's help. I hope I don't need it, but I want to ask anyway:
My roommate is giving up his house. He let me know late this afternoon that I need to be out on Jan. 31st. I know this isn't legal, that's not my primary concern at this point. I'm exploring all options when it comes to future housing and I thought I would explore this one.
Would anyone be able to put me up for hopefully less then a month.
Thank you all in advance.
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I want to wish everyone a happy new year and I hope next year is better then this one was. Again I'm greatful to all of my friends on CM and otherwise.
I think this year will be better then last. I'm finally in a big city and I got word yesterday afternoon that I'm pre-approved for a mortgage. Things are finally starting to turn around so it would seem. Still need to find the right slave that will want to serve, but all in due time.
On the note of home-buying is anyone here a broker? I'd like to find one that is kink-friendly if possible.
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Have a happy Thanksgiving everyone. I wanted to take a bit of time to thank everyone who I have met here and around this city. I do not know where I would be without the people who make this site great. Thank you to everyone who has written me and provided such good conversation.
Sincerely,
Kevin
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I'm done feeling sorry for myself. Onwards and upwards! I know I'm going to probably catch a lot of flack here, but it's time to change the subject. Am I the only one that feels like Obama is a snake oil salesman in Armani suits?
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Just feeling lonely tonight. Something is missing. I crave companionship, yet I know I'm not ready to receive it. Hopefully I'll get out of this limbo state soon. I'm just very frustrated.
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Would any sub girl like a date to the Zombie Prom and maybe some no-strings play?
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I've been going about this all wrong it seems. Sometimes I think that I've never had the privilage or honor of Mastering a girl. It's something I crave, but also something that proves elusive.
Now I enjoy playing as much as the next sadistic guy on here, but I have to ask myself why did it give me pause tonight when someone said to me "play is a reward for service?" Have I not been paying attention? Something so obvious, yet never put into practice. With that knowledge I'm a better Dom today then I was yesterday.
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Feeling a lot better tonight. Slowly gaining some confidence back. Maybe I'm not as rotten of a Dom or Man as I once thought. You have to make tomorrow better then today.
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To all my fellow Doms out there: Best $10 you'll ever spend.
http://www.prysmcreations.com/misery_sticks.html
You're welcome. :D
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So let me get this straight, men outnumber women on this site approx 10 to 1? No wonder so little of my messages are read. If you are reading this because I have sent you a message please understand that it wasn't a form letter and I wrote it because your profile genuinely intrigued me. I have a question, do women actually read profiles on this site? Maybe it's just me, but such a disparity isn't good for men or women. The good people who are on this site blend in so much with the wankers and wannabes that nobody ends up happy. The real men aren't being heard and the women can't sort through all the noise. It's a small miracle anyone hooks up from this site
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TIES munch was a lot of fun tonight. It's good to actually go out and meet people and finally be accepted for who you truly are. Good times!
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These relationships are the toughest to end. I know I have to move on, but it is so hard. Anyone up for some conversation? I could use a distraction
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