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| i had a photo up but I'm living in a small redneck town that I am unfamiliar with. i won't put it back up Until i'm confident that i won't be targeted for hate by putting a photo on the Internet and saying "here i am, i'm in your town, and i'm transsexual."
i'm rather shy and am unlikely to be the first to message, but i reply personally to all messages i receive. i also usually prefer for the dominant to decide if they want me or not. If i show up on your "who's viewing me" it's my way of saying hi in a subtle and submissive (non-intrusive) fashion.
You know how with many dogs, you often don't really have to hit them or spank them to punish them, just yelling at them or talking to them in a stern voice is enough to make them sad enough to act as discipline on its own? That's me, i'm the sub/slave who genuinely wants to please. i don't need to be hit, and simply knowing that i did wrong is usually enough to discipline me. i correct my own behavior so long as i know what kind of behavior is expected of me. That's what i have to offer in a relationship: true obedience, submission, dedication, and loyalty that do not have to be coerced.
Dominants who feel they must rely on inducing stockholm syndrome to obtain the loyalty and dedication should look for a submissive elsewhere. Trying to induce stockholm syndrome on me has an effect opposite from what's intended. To get my loyalty and dedication, you need only treat me like you value me. That is feed my self worth, make me feel wanted, and i'll give you the world.
First off, i'm into D/s, not S&M. I'm interested primarily in Dominance/submission, not so much in top/bottom. i'm not interested in people who casually confuse the two, i made that mistake before and the relationship didn't work. Being a bottom doesn't make you a submissive, nor does being a Top make you a Dominant. Don't get me wrong, i'm perfectly fine with scening, play, and whatnot, but i'm more into power exchange and control than being kinky. To me, kinks are the icing on a cake, but like any good cake, it should be mostly cake.
i've been doing BDSM for my entire adult life and very nearly half of my whole life. For most of that time i've spent it as a submissive.
i have no physical preferences in a Dominant, tall, short, male, female, trans, cd, tv, doesn't matter to me as long as the Dominant can accept me for what and who i am. To such a Dominant, i offer few limits: nothing illegal, nothing that would risk the need of outside emergency medical treatment, no knife play, and nothing having to do with biological waste products (be it human or otherwise).
My interests are too varied to mention. Basically if something falls outside of the above limits, i'm probably into at least trying it; that is assuming i'm not already experienced in and ok with it.
i've recently taken up an interest in doll play, though i don't know too much about it at this time and would like to learn more... i'd also like to try being a little at some point.
i speak English, a little Tsalagi (Cherokee, though forgot most of it since i haven't spoken it since i was 4), and a little Japanese and i would like to learn more.
One more thing, body modification of the sorts usually thought of for trans folk, females, and submissives, even some of the stuff on the more extreme end, it does not scare me away. It is not something i seek, but it doesn't scare me away either. Once i'm owned, my body belongs to my owner and they can do with it what they please. One thing that i'm curious about is having something done that permanently forces me into a submissive or slave role. That could be something as simple as being tattooed in a manner that forever marks me as a slave, or something more physical like being forced to always wear high heels until i can't walk or stand without them, thus preventing me from ever being able to run away. Mind you, this isn't something that i'm asking for, it's just me typing out random ideas to show the kind of range of i'm fine with. The idea is to get across the fact that i really am a slave and really would allow my owner to do anything they want to me, that is short of kill me. i'm not a doormat and i will protect myself, but if i'm owned, they've earned my trust enough that i'd let them change my body like that.
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If you want me to respect you, don't be disrespectful. i afford everyone common courtesy and respect until they act in a contrary fashion toward me. Your right to demand anything of me, before i've submitted to you, ends at my right to block you for whatever reason i see fit.
Titles are granted, not taken. If you've taken a title for yourself, rather than me giving it to you, then the title is empty and devoid of meaning. The only titles i grant to dominants from the start are Sir and Ma'am. If you want a higher title than that from me you have to earn it. i might be a slave, and i might be exceptionally submissive, but i have standards. No amount of belly aching or chest pounding is going to make me respect you.
Besides, isn't the respect of someone who respects themselves better than the respect of someone who has no self worth? |
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What is it with people on CollarMe always confusing being a top for being a dominant and being a bottom for being a submissive? i'll spell it out for anybody who's confused.
Dom/sub (pick one)
Dominant = The person who gives the orders.
Submissive = The person who takes the orders.
Top/Bottom (pick one)
Top = The person who does things to the bottom. Also known as the giver.
Bottom = The person who has things done to them by the top. Also known as the receiver.
Now that you've picked one from each dichotomy, combine them.
A dominant top is someone who gives the orders and performs the actions. "Lay there, place your hands behind your back."
A submissive bottom is one who takes the orders and receives the actions. They're the ones who get bound, gagged, etc, and do as they're told.
A dominant bottom gives orders, but receives the action. They'll say "tie me up," "drip hot wax on me," "spank me," etc. As you can see, they're being controlling, even though they're the receiver of the action. These are often accused of "topping from the bottom" but that in itself is a confusion of top and dominant. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a dominant bottom, as long as they realize who and what they are.
A submissive top is the one who takes the orders, but performs the action.
There, i hope that's cleared up. Now, hopefully when i ask someone "what do you offer as a dominant" i won't get a list of things they offer as a top. Being a top is perfectly fine; i am a submissive bottom after all. It's just that if someone doesn't grasp the difference between being a Dominant and being a Top, then i cannot respect them. i've been in far too many relationships where i was neglected and abused because the person couldn't tell the two concepts apart. |
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| Age: 20 |
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