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Seeking a petite, reasonably fit woman who is service focused for a real-time, live-in position.
As the name is more of an allusion to the character in the novel by Daniel Defoe than the movie with Cary Grant, I find myself searching for a woman who can fulfill the dual role of personal assistant as well as personal companion within the context of a D/s power exchange relationship.
Now, there is actually quite a lot I could write here about who I am, the life I lead, the adventures I've had, etc., etc. However, whatever I write here are simply words on virtual paper. I could say anything, make up anything, pretend to be anyone and there's nothing to prove or disprove any of it here. It takes real interaction over time to find out if someone is congruent between their words and their actions. In the end, it will not be what I say here that will have you choose to willingly kneel before me to accept my collar. It will be my actions and their congruency with my words, my integrity if you will, that will lead you to that decision.
Ultimately, I must leave it to you to determine your own beliefs about what I write, whether it is here in the context of this profile or perhaps in any correspondence I share with you personally.
To begin, I am a man in my prime. I've listed my age here as 45; but, in all honesty, the number of times this mortal coil has made orbit around the central star of our solar system is a rather poor gauge of practically everything that really defines me as a man. My experiences in this life have shown me that there are those who have lived many more years than I and yet have achieved so little in wisdom and life experience so as to be almost juvenile in their thoughts, feelings and beliefs. And then there are those that are so young and yet have had such experiences in so short a time that their understanding of the world around them and their relationship to it astounds everyone around them; at least those who are willing to stop and listen with an open mind.
I'm sure you've met both kinds of people yourself at some point in your own lives.
In my own time, I have lived a lot of life and experienced and accomplished so much, that sometimes, I am lost in wonder at it all. And yet there's another part of me that reminds me to get off my ass; that there is still so much more to experience out there: mistakes to be learned from, challenges to test myself against, a world of wonder to be curious about and explored.
I am a man who moves through the world a bit differently than most. I simply do not live in a world of rigid personal limitations. I've let slip the shackles of social conformity and blind obedience to beliefs about what is actually possible in life. It's not a personal war of me against society nor is it that I embrace anarchy (I'm too ordered for that nonsense). It's just that I am awake and aware enough to know that my path and my experience of this life is mine and mine alone to choose. In the end, it is all about making a decision and following through with it. I've found that there is no such thing as a "bad"decision. There is also no such thing as a "good" decision. There are only actions and results. If you took action and got what you wanted, it's a success. If you took action and failed to get the result you wanted, then it's simply a mistake and you take a different action with the aim of still achieving your goal. You only fail when you quit.
I am selective in who I allow into my personal circle and I have no problem in putting those aside who bring a "no can do" attitude to my table. I also do not allow those that are actually close to me to unduly influence any choice I make as to whom I add to that circle or whom I dismiss. I promise, you will not always understand why I associate with someone; but, it's not really for you, nor for anyone else, to understand.
I know who I am. I know what I want. And, I know where I am going.
My question to you is: are you open to discovering for yourself if I'm the kind of man whose lead you want to follow?
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Took a little break to fly out to San Diego and buy an "old skool" truck for my business.
It was a great 2000 mile trek across the country; but, having my girl Friday along would have been much more fun! |
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Answering a few questions:
Q: Are you married or in an otherwise committed relationship?
A: No.
Q: Do you have any children?
A: No. I have no children of my own.
Q: Will you post a pic?
A: Not on this site. I do send a photo with correspondence though.
Q: Are you looking for a slave or a submissive?
A: I'll be honest here. It's been my experience that a woman will self-identify with whatever label works for her and her personal understanding of what that label means to her. How you self-identify isn't really that important to me. What matters is whether you are willingly obedient to the person you've chosen to put yourself in the hands of. I do tend to use "submissive" as an all inclusive term.
Q: You talk in your profile about being free of limits. Does that mean you don't respect a submissive's limits?
A: Actually, what I said was, "I simply do not live in a world of rigid personal limitations." The key word here being personal. Specifically, what I perceive as my own personal limitations or self-limiting beliefs. Most peoples' limitations are actually more fluid than they realize. Also, a person's limits are only realized within a contextual situation.
Now, in order to answer your real question, I believe it is important to understand what a limit really is first. To clarify, I'm discussing "personal" limits, not the limits of physics. A limit is the boundary between where you are comfortable and where you are uncomfortable. It is the little voice in your head that says, "me, not me," and is a function of your persona. Limits are strongly tied to your personal beliefs about the world and about yourself. For example, public speaking is still most people's number one fear or limit. The truth is that if you can actually speak then you can speak in front of an audience of any size. The "I can't do thats" and the "they'll thinks" and all the hundreds of other excuses as to why you can't do it come from a rationalization of your underlying fear which is based on your discomfort and so you retreat back across your "limit" back into your comfort zone. "Whew! See! Not me!" And so, it remains "not you" and a limit. If on the other hand, you accepted your fear and had the experience anyway, you would have the opportunity for growth, learning and a new understanding of what is really possible for you. Your boundary would move out. Even if it was only a tiny amount, it would still mean a bigger world for you.
That being said, If my "Friday" were to express that bondage was a hard-limit for her; I would respect that hard-limit. However, that does not mean that my "Friday's" limiting belief about bondage could not change based on her experiences with me and the established level of trust between us; in which case for her a hard-limit becomes a soft-limit which is open to exploration. Everyone's limits change with greater self awareness and understanding within context.
Q: What about SSC and RACK?
A: These acronyms for Safe, Sane & Consensual and Risk Aware Consensual Kink are attempt to convey that activities that are outside of the "norm" of accepted sexuality are not actually abuse. I take my responsibility as a man as well as a dominant partner very seriously and safety is paramount. If you've chosen to accept my collar, you have given your consent to be led by me in whatever direction I wish to take you within the confines of the agreement between us. You will have a "safe-word" as well as a "caution-word." But, again, it is my responsibility to keep you safe weather you chose to use your "safe-word" or not.
Q: What kind of Dom are you? Like, are you a Daddy Dom?
A: I stay away from limiting myself with labels like sadist and daddy-dom. It has been my experience that each submissive is unique in her wants and desires as well as her personal limits. Some identify as "littles," some as "pets," some as masochists, some as slaves and on and on and in any number of combinations (eg. masochistic "pets"). It is my responsibility as a dominant partner to discover her wants and desires in addition to the areas that I see that she needs growth in order to be the best submissive she can be, if not for herself, then for me.
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| Age: 43 |
| Nashua,
New Hampshire |
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