I never thought I’d post an entry like this, but I feel compelled to. Don’t message me & ask to talk “just as friends” & then ask me off the hip if I have a cam….I do & no, it’s not for you to see. I’m not that easy, jeez people, Submissive doesn’t mean slut, unless that’s what -HE- wants me to be, after -I- find -HIM- & that’s for “us” then, not you now. Sorry to be so negative I just feel a little jaded tonight.

For all of those who have asked, yes my husband & exDom does have a profile on this site. He is a wonderful person & Dom. I am not going to publicly post his profile name in mine, simply because I don’t want to deter any young ladies from contacting him. I am not a jealous wife or by any means out to deter him from finding a lovely young neck to call his own. In fact, I encourage it. Even if him & I were to rekindle our relationship & he found a new girl for his stable, I would be very happy for him & take my place at 2^nd.

If anyone wants to know who he is, feel free to PM me & I might give you that information. I hope this makes sense! & thank you to all of you who have put up with my post surgery ramblings! I know I’ve been a little off over the past few days & I am still in recovery, but well enough to get back to the real world & life as it was before….or at least try! Have a blessed day & be nice to each other.

My situation is complicated, as my profile message might suggest, but as I look through the profiles here, & it seems like a lot of the users complicate things much more than they need to be. I see a lot of “don’t bother messaging me if” & “pass my by if” or my new favorite “if you are fake…” & “there are a lot of fakes on here” etcetera.

A lot of times I understand why one would want to write something like that in their profile, but more often lately it reminds me of high school. I remember there was this group of kids who accused everyone of being a phony or a fake or a “poser” as they were called back then. The term was eventually used so often, it was applied to many things & then it became un-cool. It was used almost as ammo to cover up ones own insecurities. I know many people who put disclaimers like that in their profiles are really just trying to weed through the B/S & that’s understandable, but I see sooooo much of it!

Is it possible to have that many fakes on 1 site?

So, with that being said, what is a “fake”? I understand that picture collectors & people only interested in cybering, will & should be considered fake, but if someone isn’t into a 24/7 situation, but they like to play, or have their kinks, & they are honest about what they are into/seeking, I don’t see anything fake about that.

What if someone is new to the “lifestyle”? does that make them fake? What if someone is trying to learn something new? Or maybe discover a new facet of society? I don’t think these things necessarily make them “fake”.

I’ve had a couple of profiles on here, while I was trying to feel my way through it all & one of my profiles was abandoned after a pretty severe accident, I couldn’t keep it up while I was recovering….while I maintained that one, I saw so many good people chased away from this site, because of the offenders, abusers & people who like to spit venom about how fake the newbie’s are. These people were looking to find their own place in this lifestyle, & just because it didn’t fit into what some people saw as “real” they were berated & forced to seek guidance elsewhere.

That is sad to me, simply because there are very good people here that can & are willing to help others. I know that you’ll find negativity & “fakes” all over the net, from YouTube to MySpace to Alt to CM, I know there are fakes, I just hope that we can learn to treat each other better.

& if any ladies in the upstate of South Carolina, I know of a very nice Dom, who is new to the scene, please feel free to message me, even if you’re not interested, Maybe we can be friends!