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	We are a poly couple with open minds and open hearts looking for friends first. There was no place to put Bi=curious so the choices we made are not totally correct. I am straight , she is bi-switch curious and more willing to explore with the right switch woman, but leans more towards being submissive. hummmm....now that I think about i may do pretty well as a submissive to the right woman too. grin ............. update...slkeeper2002 seems to be a man positing and sending his wife's pics behind her back.* ............... There are also some letters in the journals that may be of interest to anyone giving us a serious look or just looking to see a mature persosns perspective on the subject of poly relationships.

4/22/2011 8:47:17 PM

Dated:	4/20/11 11:15 AM

No problem, I can respect that position.

Then would it be only you two women and your man not involved or there?

If you are up for a private one one one with her , then I will step back and hand this over to her, but your man is involved in any way, its only fair I am to the same degree, even if its just in the next room for safety or watching or whatever. It needs to be fair and equal whatever the case may be, or we must decline.

I'm sure you can respect this position. Correct?

4/22/2011 8:28:54 PM

I was once like you on the issue of poly. I didn't expect to change until it actually happened. I met a subbie girl online and it was amazing how close we fit. she was like the girl of my dreams in some ways and my best friend in others. We simply clicked. This is not to take anything away from my wife, who is the same way. So, there I was with two women I cared for deeply. It may have been different if she had been close by and not in another state but as it was an online relationship my wife supported it fully and thought it was rather cute how much I adored the sweet young thing. Then later my wife got into her own online fun of mostly posting sexy pics and ended up with like 1200 admires on a different site (Alt) Then she became friends with a few....then close friends with a couple of guys. Then built a real relationship with the man I now call a friend. We are not the swinging kind of poly that watches each other have sex or even talk about what they do in private. If it was another woman , I would love to watch *wink, but both of us men being straight it has no appeal to any of us. Being poly to us means feeling in our hearts that love is not a limited thing and we dont lose anything by loving more people, but in truth, we actually gain and richen our lives by it.

Try to listen very carefully to this question..... Do you love one brother less because you have a sister or another brother?

For us, that is the essence of what we are doing. Some people would find it hard to understand that I actually bought and did a fantastic job (if i say so myself...*smile) of remodeling a little house for him to live in not far from ours. He is paying us back and paying me for my labor buy purchasing the house from us at a fair market value, but had I not been openminded he would still live out of state and she would love him from a distance and i would have one less good friend in my life. I'm not thinking you ever will fully understand or is it needed for us to be friends. But I do ask you to at least give some thought to the idea that if you were attracted to me and we fell in love that my wife would support it and care for you and be a good friend to you.

I know I could have said it as not " you" and something more generic like "If i fell in love with another woman....etc"....but I wanted you to think on it in a more serious term to maybe help you get a real feeling for what we are doing. You say most of the guys you talk to dont want you making new friends on here and my guess that applies to your daily life as well. There is something to be said for protectiveness and not wanting to share...if.... sharing diminished the quality of a relationship. On the other hand there is the jealousy and insecurity that all jealously stems from that goes along with that and those are never good things if you look deeply at them. If we developed a meaningful relationship , I would never ask you to limit the number of people you write to or care about. Why would I, as long as how you felt about me was not hurt by it. It seems my ability to support you in having more people in your life that care about you would only make you care more for me ,knowing I had your best interest at heart. I would still care for you and protect you and adore you just the same as if you only cared for me.

Renee, ,we are are normal people who have decided to open our hearts and minds to the different realities of what life and love can be. We are kind, fun, generous and easy going people. I'm not saying now that I'm offering this kind of relationship to you....we have not known each other that long or that well yet, but I am offering you a real friendship and if you care to get to know us and hang out with us some, you can ask all the question you like and see for yourself how this works for us.

I may be an"older man"...ouch...lol, and even at your age( not long ago) had not opened myself to this idea fully so, I can remember and understand how it felt. But take it from an old guy* wink. Life is better if you let go of jealously and the crap that goes with it, even in a one on one relationship. Love , support, protection, happieness are all still there without jealously being needed to keep them. Trust me on this...I know....I live it

4/19/2011 5:29:04 PM

I think this reply I sent to a Domme who had taken a while to reply to my message ( she is hot and bright and funny and gets tons of messages) to her will give a bit of insight into what we (my wife and myself) are doing here. She replied that maybe we could be freinds but has no other intrest in us at this time, so I sent the following message back to her.

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Hello Lovely.

Do you have a name i can use to address you ?

okay...ouch!...lol

Well, maybe being seen as sensitive is not so bad, when afterall i was being careful to respectfully approach a Domme as a potential friend. I'm okay with that.*grin

I can understand how you would get lots of messages. I'm actually feeling pretty good that I even merrited a reply. My guess is, some dont. What my message didnt tell you and you didnt see in profile, yet, is that I'm not interested you as a submissive (as hot as that would be, in my opinion) but as a potential friend. So, I'm not at all dissapointed by the idea of that even if thats all we ever become. My best hope is that we become very, very good friends and maybe with some kind of mutual benefits and not nessesairly sexual one....(again as hot that I think that could be, if we did.) *grin again!

I'm not full of shit in that we really do lead a poly lifestyle. No, not swingers or bed hoppers or even part of the local "scene" but people who know that caring and sharing relationships need not be limited to only person for the rest of our lives. I've had a subbie girl before and she had a Master who are now loving friends. The benefit of friends is often that they last longer than lovers. The real trick is making the crossover and it lasting. I think its maturity and trust and the comfort of being secure that makes it work for us.

Looking at your pics and reading your profile gives me the impression that you are that kind of mature, confident person. I think you are the kind of person that would make a good friend to us.

I see no downside to trying to see if we can be friends with no strings attached.

Maybe ropes later, but only if you do the tying.

Something else you missed by not reading our profile...lol

Mstr S

* I think she may read it now. * grin

4/19/2011 5:27:12 PM

Thank you for sending the well written message. I don't mind it seems like a form letter and can see how retyping things is a waste of time. It tells the message very clearly and from what i see you two are very lucky to have found the joys of each other and real love and dedication.

We have some similar qualities and luck in finding each other as well. Neither of us smoke or do drugs. We are not swingers and do not have unprotected sex. I am the man of our couple and like you I do the work of searching out similar minded people. Im also the more kinky one and have great love of bondage and putting sexy women in various forms of it. My wife is more sensual and her erotic side come out best when stimulated. We've had one subbie girl from out of state we met a couple of times and still care for deeply one now long term male who has a gone from online Master to good friend of us both who has actually moved to Tn to be near us and we expect to be friends for life.( Note that we are both straight men and i use the term "friends").

As for your darling little slave/lover/ and best friend, I would like to assure you that if we become someone you would trust us to play safely and sanely and very kinky with her that we will cherish her as she or any woman strong enough to give of themselves deserves.I think she is a little darling from what the picture shows and can imagine her spirit is just as beautiful.

Now that you have responded, i will have my wife read the message and look over her picture again and we will wait to see if you reply again and if you have any suggestion on what your little darling would be comfortable with when and if you do.I would suggest exchanging some more pics and letting the ladies write some and see how that goes ,but I'm open to whatever they are comfortable with.As you can see from the profile pics , my wife is a very well built and petite woman herself. You can also see from the pic of her kneeling on our bed that we do have a collection of leather for bondage. We have several more items not pictured as well. I am quite handy as a professional hands on contractor and any kind of horse or bench or frame you would like to see your little doll tied/strapped to , i would be more than happy to design and build for her. We also have toys that would be sanitized on site while you watched to insure you they are safe for use as well as glad to only use only your own, if you prefer.As for photographs, We would expect you to respect our privacy and not take any showing our faces. Other than that and requesting the right to do the same in return I see no problem at all with us all enjoying the memories of the evert(s) in high quality photography. We could even exchange some of the faceless pics, if you like. I think you are about to see that besides being very good at dominating women in bondage and orgasm sessions, that I also have a pretty good eye with a camera too. Our lovely and very sexy hot women would most definitely look fantastically sexy together. I am quite sure of that.Again, thanks for your reply and hope to hear from you soon.

Mstr S