I work in the corporate world although do not consider myself a 'professional' as such. I'm the common man in many respects and don't wish to play the game of corporate ladders nor social climbing. I'm somewhat a non-conformist. Nevertheless I am sucessful within my work (19 years with a leading company) and managed to balance corporate life with the more alternative aspects of my lifestyle and interests. Which outside of BDSM is mostly in terms of music and the way I view the world.

I enjoy the little, and not so little, rules and expectations that form as part of a D/s relationship. Physical stuff is great but I desire a moderate level of control outside of the bedroom (or specific play scene whereever that may be). In daily life in general I don't exercise control as intensely because I believe we all need to relax and enjoy life, but I do expect the rules we've negotiated to be followed.

I can tend more to the extreme within BDSM play if my partner is similarly minded - extreme in terms of physical or mental or both. Whether we play hard or not I am a loving and caring man and love the hugs and kisses and close times just as much. I consider myself level headed, a good communicator, well organised and reliable.

I am open to the possibility of relocating someone to Wellington if we both felt very strongly about an ongoing relationship with each other. To be honest Wgtn has always been a difficult area to find female submissives. I am unable/unwilling to relocate as my career is here and I love Wgtn too much to be anywhere else. I/we would take it very carefully and seriously if someone was to relocate here on account of me.

I currently live alone in a large flat on Cuba St. I have been part of the Wellington BDSM group The Endorphin Society since it formed February 1998 with most of those years on the TES committee.

About you...

I seek a female sub/slave/girl who is honest, loyal, kinky, and truely desires to serve. I do need a submissive who is mature mentally. Age isn't a huge issue as my earlier relationships were with women older than me, then I had two relationships with partners 7 and 13 years younger respectively. My most recent partner is about my age which is a bit of a shock, heh heh! Some of the more recent relationships have involved me being more of a Daddy/Mentor/Nuturer kind of Dom, but every person and relationship is different so nothing has to be set in stone. Even though there is a serious side to D/s relationships we both still need to relax and have a laugh each day :) But it can be fun to suddenly get serious and put her in her place (evil grin).

I don't like to get into too many specifics about what she is or she'd be, be it physical or anything else - but naturally there are some things to note. I've found in the past that people can happily end up with someone who might have not been the sort of person that they originally had in mind! I've certainly not been able to predict the sort of partners that I've had relationships with. There's been some definite opposites in some ways.

The only things that come to mind are that I much prefer caucasian skin & features, and medium-to-large bustlines, but that's about it. It's really more about whether she is 'ready' to enter (or re-enter) this world.

I have a lot of time and affection to give my partner, and that relationship (assuming the person is my primary partner as opposed to a friend/play partner) is always more important than just about anything else in the world. So I need someone who will feel similarly, and can organise to have a fair bit of free time for us to spend together. So if you've got dependant children or a lot of other committments due to family and other things then it's going to be a bit of a push unless you are prepared to prioritise your D/s relationship quite high.

I'm happy to talk about anything general or answer specific questions about myself or BDSM, so I hope to hear from you.