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| Looking for a submissive or slave with a true service orientation. Someone who has the desire and ability to ultimately join my kinky family.
While I desire a 24/7 bonding, I do realize people have lives and obligations. Initially you must have a life that allows you time to serve. Ultimately our relationship should work towards you living with me and my current slave of 11 years full time. I expect that once you are allowed ask for my collar and are accepted, you will be expected to wear a collar 24/7. (It will be one that is not obvious if necessary for your life.) You must be poly. jealousy has no place in my life. If you feel jealous talk to me. It is a symptom of needs not being met.
I am a very unusual Domme.
First off, I am a deadhead hippy, burner, pothead with long purple hair. My natural state is happy and relaxed. I am almost always barefoot. However my Domme is always watching. I am a master of the art of understanding people very quickly, and as an empath I can feel what you feel. If someone serving me feels even a bit less desire to please me I will know instantly.
I have years of history working at, building and owning public dungeons and a kinky B&B. For many new submissives I was their first experience. I spent 15 years selling floggers and toys at fairs like the Folsom Street Fair and Kinkfest. I have a toy collection that is quite impressive, from floggers and paddles to steel collars and a metal cod piece.
Among other things I have worked for a professional ballet company and driven taxi nights in West Oakland. I currently live on disability due to bad knees.
I am incredibly sensual. I like to touch my pets. As such a long distance or online relationship does not work for me. If you really think I am the one for you plan a vacation to San Francisco. Something you would enjoy. Then while you are here we can meet for coffee. It is important to me you enjoy your trip even if we do not have a connection.
While I am now in San Jose the plan is to move to the Portland area sometime in the next 6 months. You will have to be relocatable, although I can be patient if it takes time to accomplish the move. We plan to purchase a little land, grow our own food, have an few online businesses and travel. Both I and my slave are very creative people. He is a photographer, I am a multi-media artist, a master of thought producing public theater and a writer. Anyone joining our family would be encouraged to explore the artist in themselves.
I believe that when it comes to a Dominant and a submissive the Dominant is the musician an the submissive is a musical instrument. You cannot play a violin like it was a tuba. My use and requirements of you will be what I need, but within the framework of who you are. I have been everything from a tickler to an intense sadist, depending on the submissive in front of me. The objective is for us to together make beautiful music together.
Temporarily I have an opening to trade play (flogging, paddling etc.) in exchange for help packing.
If you decide to message me please send a complete message. Include the name of your favorite flavor of ice cream.
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My definition of a polyamorous family. The important part of that phrase is family. I have lived a poly life for many years. We were truly a family. Each of us loved and cherished the other. We all slept in the same bed.
In any family sometimes everyone goes out together. Sometimes 2 might go out alone. This is how the social and sexual side of the equation goes. Each person has an individual relationship that may or not be sexual with the other and a relationship with the others as a whole. If one person has a need, chances are at least one of the others is there to fill it, if not both. |
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Text tells you nothing about a person. It is, at best, a listing of facts and phrases without embedded emotion or texture. You are not real to me until I sit with you over coffee and I can see your body language and hear your inflections. And the same should be true for you. Given a lack of other information the mind will assume either the best, or the worst. In this case you can build someone up on your mind and imagine them a perfect match. This is a mistake, it can cause you to miss clues that tell you that the person you are meeting is not who they seem. It can cause you to ignore your own instincts because you think you found the perfect person.
Be smart. Keep a open and blank slate in your mind. Pay attention. You cannot fully serve someone unless you know who they are, and not who you want them to be. Everyone is different and you are asking to serve a real person. Each has flaws and baggage. If you feel drawn to serve it should be based on who you are planning to serve.
It is exactly this text issue that has me tell applicants to come on a fun vacation and include a plan to have coffee with me. |
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Understand this. And I write this for information, there is no malice in these words. I live in the real world. Not a chat room. I do not have hours a day to message back and forth saying nothing. I have no interest in online play. I do not live in a fantasy chat room, do not try to entice me by "bowing" in your message or telling me what a worm you are etc. It just sounds stupid. Do not think "I will just answer her questions, it makes me more mysterious". No. Every post you send that is not substantive and complete wastes my time. Show me you have a brain. You are interviewing for me, not me for you. Tell me everything you think I would want to know. Remember my time is precious and limited.
Things I do not want to know. Your dick size. How you would service me for hours sexually. Who says you would ever earn the invitation to touch me? And who are you to tell me how you would serve me? Am I here for your sexual gratification? Do you not think you should find out what I want from you before offering a service?
Do not ask me what I would ask of you before we have even spoken. How am I supposed to know. If I decide to meet and speak to you over coffee we can discuss possibilities. First I need to know who you are. Anyone who can give you a litany before meeting you is not seeing you as a person, but a picture in their minds eye. The issue with that is it can be so strong, being an ideal fantasy, that the reality of the human person in front of you cannot compete with your mind's desire. You will feel let down. Keep your mind open, you can always say no. |
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If you have never served someone and believe you want to be abused, given no safe words and or be treated very badly with no choice, ask yourself this. If you were told to lock yourself in a closet for 24 hours with only 20 oz of water. No bathroom, no food. And then after you came out you were not allowed to clean yourself or bathe for another 24 hours.
No feedback, no watching over you. Just this abuse. You would quickly find the reality is quite different than the idea.
I am reminded of a slave who asked her Dom to dry rape her ass with no lubricant. The reality was QUITE different that her fantasy!
Be careful what you ask for! |
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It never ceases to amaze me how many who claim to be submissive want to take my time to "chat" before even saying hello. For the record, if I feel the need to chat with you I will tell you. If you want to say something, just say it. We are equals until I agree to allow you to serve me. Be respectful always, and let me know who you are, what you offer and what would be a deal breaker. No games, just real people. |
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