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| Experienced Dominant with High Standards. I enjoy my current play partners and am not looking for additional partners at this time, just to see who is out there in case anyone truly deserving of my attention is within radar. Newly relocated. I am extremely choosy about responding to messages and chat requests. Very few men know how to talk to a dominant woman properly. Do your homework before messaging me if you want any chance of a reply. Yes, the picture is really me. If you want to know more about my interests, experience, or wickedest fantasies, you are going to have to crack through my BS-filter by writing in a manner that captures my attention, piques my dominant sensibilities, and tickles my intelligence.
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My goodness how time flies. I have been very busy with my awesome new job, and although I have been reading my email, I have not spent much time responding to messages. I've not spent much time socializing either, but that will change when the job settles down!
I'm impressed with the messages here this month. Great submissive guys do exist out there, and it seems many of you have written to me. For that I thank you. Some nice compliments, some wit and humor, some real voices coming through the screen. Excellent.
To the few I have replied to, you are in very high grade company. However do not view yourselves as in a competition. Relief of boredom and pure enjoyment of conversation and discovery is the goal here. I warn you again: getting pushy about *anything* is your fast ticket off my radar.
It sure rains a lot here! |
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124 messages now. New messages are dropping off a bit but I have been afk over the holiday, and that means fewer wankers sending me their standard intro because my picture isn't popping up on the front page.
In this last group of 25 there was one worth responding to, and two others that appeared *not* to be cut 'n paste messages. Another two were the terse, "hi, can we talk?" variety. Oh yeah, and a couple overeager "did you get my last message? Are you *at least* going to write back?"
Hint: If I didn't respond to you the first time, tacking on a demand isn't going to tip the scale.
My mathematical mind wonders what the return rate is of the typical cut and paste versus the message that responds specifically to the profile and nothing else. My measure of a successful return would be a conversation -- that is, more than two or three messages from the person contacted, in which a pleasant running dialogue takes shape.
Of course for me, the return rate is cut'n'paste, 0%; interesting, completely personal message, about 25%.
One of the few bitter-toned messages asked me essentially what I am looking for here. It seems my profile description was too vague. Another offered some veiled advice that I should perhaps not even be here since the process seems to be such a "pain" for me.
Well dearies, I daresay I am doing better than you are. Two weeks and two solid prospects, plus a great email conversation with an old friend. And I don't sit here for hours on end scouring for someone to write to. I'm getting, among the chaff, exactly what I am here for: entertainment and the occasional conversation.
No need to specify what I want beyond that, because it has to start there anyway. If you can't get me into a friendly, fun dialogue, you don't have a snowball's chance in hell of anything else. So take that as your goal. Not just for me, but for anyone worth being with.
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99 messages as of this moment... I'd say 30% interesting or fun to read, and 3% that were worth responding to. That's really not a bad ratio. It's a whole lot better than on a few other sites I've tried.
And of course, some of the 70% brought a modicum of entertainment value, 'cause I do enjoy ranting and making a spectacle of the clueless-but-well-meaning.
I've also connected to a couple of buddies from times past. All good.
It sure rains a lot around here. |
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As expected, there was a rush of messages once my picture got approved. I don't even think it's a terribly good one. It makes my arms look like toothpicks! I have more meat on me than that.
Anyway, five days and seventy messages later (not counting bostonredsox, who, once his first profile was blocked, promptly wrote me using the second one, and got that one blocked as well), I still have not found one that really stands out.
Women are starting to write, though. Perhaps there will be a breakthrough there.
A few men have written multiple times, and one was even dumb enough to say "I noticed you read all three of my emails ... " then asks about an interview (I wasn't aware I was offering a job), an INSPECTION (oh yeah, that's my job, satisfying male fantasies, just send me your ideas and I'll pretend they are mine so you can feel dominated) ... *and,* a "test of worthiness"!! (Ditto on the rent-a-domme service... and how's everything at this table? Did you find everything you were looking for today?)
Opening your mail doesn't automatically mean I read it. And reading it wouldn't automatically imply interest! What were you thinking?
The weather has been excellent, and other things are going well in life. Have fun everyone. |
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I am beginning to receive a greater proportion of decent messages, alas, they are all still from men. None that really spark my interest enough to respond personally, but I do appreciate hearing from a few of the many intelligent submissive people out there. Total of 20 messages in the first 60 hours of the profile, and I haven't even been online more than a couple of hours.
Oh, BTW, 20th message was our friend redsox asking again, "so are you going to respond to my HUGE email?"
My answer to that ought to go without saying.
I think I'll instate a rule here.
I understand, as was mentioned by one of the more decent responders yesterday, that some might enjoy the kind of humiliation I provided to Mr. redsox by blasting his message in my journal. However, I don't think being BLOCKED is what any of you have in mind.
If it seems that you return to my profile and have not read my journal, I will block you.
If you send me the same message twice -- not counting those accidental sends that sometimes happen, which I can see were sent the same minute or maybe the next -- I will block you.
I am not going to "check in" with you to make sure, or give you a "second chance," or make an "exception" for you because you are extraordinarily sincere, cute, smart, successful, desperate, submissive, well-hung, talented, etc. etc. etc.
You'll just get blocked. End of chance.
Stoopid is entertaining for the first one or two, after that it becomes not just annoying, but disheartening. I'm not here to do that to myself.
With the current trickle of fresh, decent, interesting, make-me-smile messages, there will eventually be one that catches me enough to write back. I am certain you people are out there.
And then who knows. |
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I have been asked where the picture is. Being approved, I assume. Collarme takes a while to approve pictures. I have only been here less than 48 hours, and it's a weekend. Be patient. |
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Settling in nicely, somewhere in the great Bay state. I thought I'd report in about the first ten messages I received. I got three while setting up the account preferences, another four while writing the profile text. One more before I logged off an hour later, and one overnight. The tenth came as soon as I logged in twelve hours later. Just in case anyone is curious about these things. No prospects, of course.
oops, another came in just as I was writing here.
oops, another before I could write another word. More on that one later.
Oh, man I just got a REALLY funny one. I'll have to write that one back. Yay!
OK, so back to statistics and awards. I'm recreating the spelling an' punctuation for y'all to see.
Most insincere: a message from a male dom saying "i'm sub, can we talk"
Briefest: "hello, am i your type ?"
Stupidest: "Do you have any travel plans to istanbul?"
Four were actually decent, but not interesting.
Most annoying: this award goes equally to three submissive men who sent the well known "bulk" or "cut and paste" type messages. Lots of info about themselves, how attractive, smart, etc. they are, their email and/or IM address, how they got interested in BDSM, what they do for work, BDSM experience ("I tried a session with a pro Dominatrix and I loved it!"), vanilla interests in great detail, even pets. Lots of claims of how serious they are, how real they are,etc. etc. etc. Often some cutesy stuff like "All right here goes nothing" and "lol"s and things to make it sound like this was just written off the cuff. Uh, not.
YAWN.
Here are the absolute worst lines in the absolute worst one -- bostonredsox11 please fix your old standby cut-and-paste message so it isn't quite so over the top BORING and ANNOYING:
"I did get to read a lot about you"
Uh, there is next to nothing about me in my profile.
"I am picky when it comes to women"
A. you must be, if you send out bulk messages to bunches of them on collarme.
B. that really sets you apart, of course.
C. I imagine the truth is more like, you're desperate for anything new.
"My parents have been married 34 years I want what they have...I know you don't hear that from a guy too often and if you do it sounds like a line but I am serious"
A. It IS a line, especially in a message like this.
B. Most men DO want a happy LTR, and you hear that when you talk with them over a period of time, you know... a conversation?
C. Again, your attempt to set yourself apart fails and is laughable.
D. Learn to use punctuation.
"I did sign up just so I could email you"
It appears you joined collarme on 1/8/07.
"I hope you write me a novel back"
Gee, not too demanding of a domme, are you?
"I do have a picture I can send but I don't know how through here"
You own -- what did you say, five businesses and two homes and have two degrees, and you ALSO point out how successful you are (a domme never could have surmised that of course) .... and yet you "don't know how" to click a button that says "upload picture." We have a word for this kind of claim where I come from. It's a "LIE." (See also the I-signed-up-just-to-talk-to-you line).
Dominant Ladies, is this not CLASSIC male blundering?
No messages from women yet.
The "more on that one later" I promised is this -- bostonredsox11 wrote again (this time as bostoneredsox77, with an updated age, one year older -- 30 -- I guess you keep two profiles going?)
Anyway, he was asking what I thought of his "HUGE email!" HAHAHAHAHA! "Did I peek your interest do you think you could have a use for me" Here we go again -- Learn to use punctuation, learn to spell.
And yes, I did have a use for you. As a bad example to others. If you want to further amuse me, go ahead and try to explain yourself. I promise I won't ever personally email you. Or, run along and try this on someone who is not experienced.
Ah, that funny message is from someone who knew me on another site. :-)
As I wrote this, two more messages came in. Nothing promising there either, but at least they weren't cut and paste emails. Have a great weekend everyone.
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