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No longer seeking. I have everything I need for now. Thanks to all!
I am NO LONGER seeking a personal or an LTR.
NO dominant men, no switches.
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Although my chosen profession is domination, I am NOT looking for clients on this site. I am looking for a LTR with ONE special, personal submissive. I seem to be having a problem getting potential "mates" to understand that my current career has nothing to do with my search here. It seems there are more than a few "dominants" who are deceiving sincere submissives purely for financial gain. That is not my intent, but I must be upfront about my job since it seems it's a problem for some either because they have been burned or because they can't see past jealously. Being the personal submissive to a pro domme does have it's emotional hurdles, but there are amazing perks as well. *wink*
That being said, I will entertain using you for video shoots should you volunteer, IF you meet my criteria and can submit a picture ID and sign a release form.
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A recent reply to a self-proclaimed "service oriented" submissive who admitted that, in the end, submissives really were selfish and mostly thought with the wrong head -
So you're saying don't ask you to put a bright spot in my day or serve
me once a week to ease my burden atleast for a couple of hours.
Obviously, without a promise of a reward for your efforts, it's not of
interest to you.
I'm
not sure how you can justify being a service oriented submissive when
it's quite clear a deserving, intelligent, giving domme has a use for
you and you turn her down.
Good luck in your search. One day, a
patient, well-balanced submissive will be there for me on the occasions
when I just need a like-minded soul with a giving spirit to help out
and play totally free of the outside world. I guess it just won't be
you.
Ms Julee
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I need to rant! I ask what you seek in order to determine if we are atleast on the same
page regarding a D/s exchange. Makes no sense whatsoever to "dominate"
someone sight unseen or expect a sub to automatically be willing and
able to provide what I need. Most can't or won't but are willing to pretend just for the chance to meet.
I
have various chores and errands that a regular, trustworthy, confident,
competent submissive could do for me. If what you seek is simply "play"
or an exchange based on YOUR particular fetish or desire, then I can't
use you. I don't have time to cater to the particulars of each and
every "sub" who messages me and I suspect neither do any of the other
dominant women on here. Hence, we ask what it is you seek. Play on a personal level should come as a natural chain of events as you get to know each other.
Since when do you engage a woman to discuss intimate details in a sexual context even before you meet just so you can decide if she'll get your rocks off for you, unless you're paying for a service? No vanilla gentleman would. Why is it so many men on here think it's not just ok, but perfectly within their right to expect not only an answer, but for her to "play it out" on the first or second meeting? And telling her you NEED to be locked in a cage always when not in use or MUST be naked when doing chores (What about taking out the trash or running to the store?) is almost always a sure sign you aren't being realistic.
I
will get a message from a "sub" stating that he's more than willing and
able to submit. As soon as we meet (which for me juggling schedules and
spending time back and forth giving information and answering questions
via internet is no easy feat), I get an earful about how his
ex-mistress did it this way or that way or I am given the smallest
detail about HOW this "submissive" wants to submit (i.e. always naked,
chained to the wall when not in use, only when his wife is out of town,
yadda, yadda, yadda). Then there are those who are licking wounds from
previous bad relationships who project onto me and accuse me of abusing
them if I so much as ask them to repeat what I said because I want to make sure they heard it all and got the instructions right.
What
I need is someone I can rely on. Someone who is interested in getting
to know me by helping me with things I cannot or do not have the time
to do, but nonetheless need to be done. Dog needs to go to the vet and
then the groomers. Car has a flat tire. Door needs to be re-hung or
faucet in the kitchen needs a new washer. Or I simply need someone to bring me a drink, rub my feet and participate in some interesting conversation at the end of the day.
Are you truly
looking for a position as a SERVICE oriented submissive or trying to
fulfill a fantasy? It's a legimate question considering the time I've
already invested in no shows, unrealistic expectations and unstable
thrill seekers.
Ms Julee
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The
definition of worship is quite different for each individual. In
addition, the sexes tend to fall into two different groups of
definitions. Many submissive men tend to think (with their winkies of
course), that worship is sexually oriented and a means to an end
(orgasm). Not all, but many think this way. They assume what they find
most stimulating and satisfying sexually is naturally what their
Dominant will define as worship also. In most cases, that is SO not
true.
Dominant Women, since they are in control and responsible, must
always be thinking and carrying the weight of the decisions and
ownership of the relationship. What is then most important and
gratifying to Them is ANYTHING that a submissive can do to lighten that
load. When the submissive is genuinely focused on doing whatever is
necessary to keep the relationship alive by offering to do everything
he can to remove stress from his Dominant's life, She will be freer to
focus Her attentions on Her submissive.
Assuming here that we are talking about a Dom/sub relationship
where each partner has already communicated their desires, are in
agreement with the general terms and wish to work on long term
development.
Men are most interested in play when they are in the presence of
a Woman they adore or desire. Hence the cliche "thinking with his
little head." In general, a Woman is most interested in knowing FIRST,
that a man can be trusted to care about Her as a person, not a desired
object. They therefore start off on different planes all together!
A man's need for sexual gratification can and often does quickly
become another source of stress for a Woman. It must become secondary
in a man's mind if he is to keep the attention of a Female long term.
Most definitely not an easy feat. It takes trust in his Dominant's
ability to read him and respond positively when appropriate. He must be
strong in his resolve to truly serve Her by listening to and responding
to Her definition of worship.
What many men fail to take to heart is that tending to what a
woman needs (by HER definition, not his), will ultimately give him way
beyond what he desired in the first place. Whether he thinks cleaning
the floor is a sexual turn-on is of no significance. Regardless of his
inability to see the connection between doing the laundry and intimacy,
he must be able to give that decision to his Dominant without question.
If he finds the Woman of his dreams, his patience, strength,
honesty and willingness to listen and respond will reward him, give him
purpose, and fill his life with the knowledge and satisfaction that he
truly worships his Dominant Woman by HER definition.
Ms Julee
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