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Pan Female Mistress, 46,  Hickory , North Carolina
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I am NOT looking for 24/7 at this time. It currently isn't something that I desire or am in a position to have. For all of you that wish that I hope all the best for you.

I AM seeking a submissive with whom I can develop a LTR with. This does NOT mean this is a live in postion at this time. It DOES mean I want one who knows his place and yet still remembers how to be a man. one with whom I can develop something meaningful. Are you out there?











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 Dominant Female


 North Carolina

 5' 8"

 200 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Transgender

Submissive Female

Submissive Male

Switch Men

Sub/Sub Couples

 Lives For:

 Body Worship


 Genital Punishment

 Knife Play

 Massage (Getting) (Expert)

 Pantyhose Fetish (Expert)

 Sensory Deprivation

 Stockings (Expert)


 Female Supremacy

 Lifestyle BDSM


 Art Galleries

 Fine Dining

 Museums (Beginner)

 Renaissance Faires (Beginner)


 Horseback Riding

 Anal Play


 Blindfolds (Expert)

 Breast Play


 Canes and Crops


 Collars (Expert)


 Electrical Play (Beginner)

 Eye Contact Restrictions (Expert)

 Local BDSM Community

 Fire Play (Beginner)


 Foot Worship


 Hair Pulling



 Masks (On Partner)

 Medical Play (Beginner)

 Mental Bondage


 Obedience Training


 Orgasm Denial

 Plastic Wrap

 Public Play




 Wax play



 Science Fiction

 True Crime


 Poetry (Expert)




 Classical Music


 New Wave





 Amusement Parks

 Antique Shows (Beginner)

 Beachcombing (Expert)

 Flea Markets


 Garage Sales



 Martial Arts (Beginner)

 Sailing (Beginner)

 Corner Time




 Outdoor Bondage

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Role Playing

 Speech Restrictions





 Card Games


 Puzzle Games

 TV News

 Beading (Expert)

 Photography (Beginner)




 Goth Lifestyle

 Alternative Music

 Country Music

 Eighties Music

 Electronica / EDM

 Hip Hop Music

 Industrial Music

 New Age Music


 Pop Music



 Rock Music


 Auto Racing





 Bar Hopping




 Curious About:

 Feng Shui

 Sky Diving





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Journal Entries:
8/31/2009 4:47:47 PM
Son has gotten a job and is moving OUT... I am getting My life back... I cant wait... YEAHHHH

8/6/2009 9:05:07 AM
First of all, your children are NOT scapegoats, DON'T use them as such...
Second of all, if you can't be honest, STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM ME...

7/3/2009 1:17:49 PM
why do people put pictures of toys on their profile? whats that prove, that they have toys? big damn deal anyone can buy them just about anywhere! Toys do NOT prove that you are lifestyle, they say that you MAY have a kinky streak. get a clue people!!!

6/19/2009 4:44:09 PM
why does it seem that some on here find it impossible to write ANYTHING in their profile... PLEASE be advised that what you write or dont write is another persons first glimpse of you...

4/30/2009 1:13:32 PM
I find it ironic that only sumbissives and slaves think they tend to find "jerks" on this site. Believe me boys and girls, it goes both ways. Even us Dom/mes find SUPPOSED Dom/mes, subs, slaves ect that are nothing more than time waisters.
I am a true lifestyle Dominate. Its not who I studied to become or decided I wanted to be. Dominant is who I was born to be and will be until the day I take my final breath.
As discouraging as it is to pan through the fakes and the flakes I keep on going because I know that somewhere out there, there has to be at least one sub/slave that fits ME. Eventually that person will come along and we will mesh like fine wine with the prefecte meal.
Until that day comes I keep looking, hoping and dreaming of what WILL be... it just takes time and patience... and if the Good Lord willing, I have...

I wish the rest of you the best of luck in finding your right "fit" so that you can have that ultimate happiness.


1/22/2009 12:19:22 PM
in the infamous words of Judy Garland, "Theres no place like Home". I will be heading that way Feb. 4th. Watch out NC, MsFire will be back!!!!!!!

5/7/2008 11:33:20 AM

I wonder where blantant lies have a place in HONORABILITY? I find NO honor in one that lies, cheats nor manipulates things or others.

Its a wonderful feeling knowing who is the Better person, the more Honorable person, the more Trust worthy person.

I said congradulations in an effort to be kind, NOW I will just say that you are deserving of each other! Good thing they make velcro collars!

2/3/2008 10:47:53 AM
there are so many thingsin this life that are a prison... we sit and watch the world go by afraid in so many ways to be a part of it... a cell key would be nice...

12/24/2007 8:43:54 AM
I wish A/all a Very Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays of Y/your choice. May the New Year bring all that Y/you desire with much prosperity and happiness.

12/21/2007 4:30:12 PM
Living alone again, just Me and My two lil dogs... this definitely isnt a life I enjoy to say the least...

I will adapt I know but until that happens, I hope you are a masochist!!!

12/3/2007 4:59:59 PM
Needing someone with a truck to help Me pick a set of mattress and boxsprings. also help Me move some a couple pieces of furniture... message Me if you are about to assist Me in this...

10/8/2007 7:52:33 PM
What happened to submissives being exactly that, SUBMISSIVE? When did it become solely about the submissive? I will be the first to say that this lifestyle has to be a two-way street. BUT, since I am Dominant and looking for a submissive/slave, its going to be MOSTLY about ME...

If you have a problem with the way I see things, I suggest you pass on by.

10/5/2007 5:30:42 AM

we are finally moved and in florida... now to just get organized... I am so looking forward to hopefully meeting some of the people that I have talked with from the tampa bay area and becoming active in the area groups and activities... I am sure that stress relievers will follow... lol

9/29/2007 6:21:51 PM
all this stress from this move is giving me the need to release sadistic energies... I could really use a sub/slave bound up receiving the business end of one of My whips... I do believe it would be a safe word night...

9/21/2007 8:55:25 AM
although the move to florida is the right thing to do at this time, I am leaving behind a very loving sub. leaving him is one of the hardest parts.

Dear prissy, I just hope that you will wait till we move back to this area. if you find that you can wait just remember that you are a very special part of my life. I truely want you to be happy and know that I cant give you that being so far away.

9/9/2007 5:53:16 AM
Its a shame that the term metro-sexual isnt a choice on here, so many of U/us qualify!!

8/26/2007 1:24:52 PM
if you email Me be serious about this lifestyle and serving Me. take the time to read My profile so you will know what I am looking for. if your profile says you are straight and you dont tell Me otherwise in your email you are likely wasting both our time, I AM ONLY LOOKING FOR BI SUB/SLAVES!!!!!!!!!! not that hard to know if you are straight you arent what I am looking for. if you live somewhere besides within 100 miles be available to relocate, I dont do long distance domination.

all of this isnt that hard to understand. I am sure that if you try a little bit you can figure all of this out.

8/9/2007 7:13:46 AM
well, the female I had under consideration is no more. she is considering someone else. unfortunately the way she did it left alot to be desired.
a word of advise, HONESTY is EVERYTHING!!!!!

dont lie to someone that is considering you. if you are going to meet someone new, tell them that. its better than lying and losing everything you had gained with them. once trust is broken its hard to regain!!

8/7/2007 5:21:35 AM
Here it is again, one month till I have another year in this wonderful lifestyle. WOW what an awsome ride its been. This month makes one year that puppy has worn My collar and what a year its been.
puppy, if a relationship could be tried we know ours has, YET here we are. you are something special in My life.
I am still seeking that BI male to join our family. Sorry straight males, just looking for a bi male currently.
I also have My traci-gurl under consideration. so far all is good with her.
kwell, good luck everyone in finding what you seek. I hope you have all the luck I have had and happiness I have found.

5/22/2007 11:03:50 AM
I received this in My mail today and thought I would share it along with My response... this just goes to show how some feel, its not meant to belittle anyones opinion. The phrase "this lifestyle isn't sexually based" shows the most shocking ignorance of the very definition of BDSM. Which is in fact sexual satisfaction throught receiving pain or giving pain to others. Pain being defined somewhat broadly here. My reply... I suggest you do some research! BDSM,you will find,is sensually based, sex is a perk that many choose to be part of it. if you have been trained otherwise you need to find a new trainer. yes, many do find sexual release through the receiving of pain but that doesnt make it sexual. sensuality can bring great sexual satisfaction but is in of itself NOT sexual. also remember, we all have different points of veiw on what is sexual and what isnt. should a new sub be trained that a session HAS to end in sexual release? I say that if he/she is trained that way they are missing a great deal of what this lifestyle has to offer. My veiw point comes with 27 years experience not only as a Mistress but also as a sub. how many do you know that can say the same?

8/23/2006 11:28:07 PM
OK, My newest blast on this site and lifestyle, ready? THIS LIFESTYLE ISNT SEXUALLY BASED!!! sex is a perk people! if you are only in this lifestyle for sex you are in it for all the wrong reasons as far as I am concerned. I do realize that some of you folks are bedroom Doms and subs but the bedroom doesnt constitute a lifestyle. THAT My friends is a sexual preference. It becomes a lifestyle when it is part of who you are and the way you live your life. thats not to say that you dont have to be "vanilla" in some aspects of your daily routine. I am sure My mother probably wouldnt understand the four chains attached to My bed either, although she does know I make toys. I am sure she knows I use them but finds it hard to admit to herself that her "baby" enjoys chaining people down and flogging the hell out of them. to Me the most important aspect of this lifestyle is honesty. that means if you are a bedroom Dom or sub just say that but dont try to pretend that you are lifestyle when you know that outside that bedroom door you are basically vanilla.

8/8/2006 8:26:36 PM
I realize that some people arent in a position to participate in this lifestyle in real life. as a result they use the net to do what they can. I though am NOT one of those people. I am a real life Mistress with real life submissives. one I am soon going to be living with the other lives within 35 miles. I only participate in real life. please dont email Me asking to be a cyber sub. I am being nice here. dont push Me to being a BITCH!!!!!

7/30/2006 4:02:13 PM
Ever feel alone in a world full of people? Todays not a good day for Me. I truely hope that no one else feels this way today or any day that follows.

7/28/2006 4:38:13 PM
I would have never thought that it would be this hard to find a female that is wanting to serve a Mistress! I know she is out there waiting on Me somewhere. now if I only knew where.... lol

7/19/2006 1:06:35 PM
hello E/everyone. I have been away for the last week. I have been spending time with My alpha slave on his boat. What a WONDERFUL week it has been. I look so forward to finding a female slave to join O/our family. I have no doubt that she too will enjoy all that life has to offer with U/us.

7/7/2006 10:44:34 AM
So that all know this. I run My house as a family which all know T/their place in. This type of D/s household doesnt work for everyone but it does for Me. I think this is something that needs to be considered before thinking that you would like to contact Me about serving. Also, not only am I seeking a beta male I also wish to find a female slave for My house. if interested let Me know.

6/26/2006 9:15:14 AM
ok, I just had major brain lock. if you had an email from Me and it says that it was deleted please message Me. I deleted the wrong mail. Oh well, No One ever said that all Dom/mes were perfect. We are just to be treated that way. well, only if its deserved cause some of Us are jackasses.

6/19/2006 10:11:26 PM
ever wonder why some people on here have a screenname that says "slave" but then claim to be submissive? honesty should carry through even to a persons screenname. either you are a slave or you arent a slave. make up your mind people!

6/15/2006 9:28:16 AM
I am taking another short hiatus. this time for a much better reason. My youngest son is in the process of joining the National Guard. I am taking time to be with him before he leaves for basic training. I am still here when he isnt home so if you email Me have patience. I will answer when I am online.

5/30/2006 10:25:17 PM
just a quick note to say "thanks" for all the support and encouragement I have received from friends that I have had for a long while and from the new ones I have met during this troubling time in My life. I have always believed that angels come in many forms, this has just reaffirmed that belief for Me.

5/26/2006 9:05:25 PM
Life covers many plains of travel. There are the good days, days that just are and then there are the ones that just plain suck. Today is one of those that just plain suck. There's no real reason for it, it just is. The good thing is that there is always tomorrow and it always holds the possibility of being better.

2/16/2006 11:09:02 AM
as soon as I find a picture that collarme will accept I will have My photos back up. guess having a knife in the picture is a "no-no"

2/16/2006 5:49:34 AM
Yesterday was not a good day for Me. My cat, a very loving "george" got ran over in front of My house. I will miss My friend and bed partner greatly. I will never forget you My furry little companion.

2/14/2006 3:08:45 AM
Happy Valentines Day E/everyone

2/13/2006 4:09:06 PM
No matter your hearts desire, it takes more than one to make a relationship work.

1/2/2006 12:36:25 AM
I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday. I didnt find the slave I seek under My tree this year but I know he is out there waiting to be taken. I have been talking with a very good potential slave though. time will have to show what is to come so I will be wait for Her. I have purchased a new home close to Charoltte and have been working to get it ready to move into. wheres a decent, hard working slave when One needs him? hopefully I will be moved by the middle of January. so far I have found much promise in 2006. hopefully this year will continue on this positive note not only for Myself but for all who believe in tomorrow.

12/25/2005 3:04:43 AM
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to E/everyone.

11/26/2005 1:57:40 PM
good afternoon. just wanted to let everyone know that I havent take My picture off My profile, just updating it. pictures will be back soon with the help of the collarme

10/14/2005 9:43:54 AM
Never let it be said that Dominants dont make mistakes. I have recently been played by one of the best I have ever met I guess. After a year of talking to someone that I thought was true and had come to care about very much, I find out that I am one of several. To the ones that were messaged as a result of this I want you to know that you were picked by Myself and if you are still interested let Me know. to the ones that arent I do apologize for the intrusion. MsFire

9/9/2005 10:03:40 PM
Are there no REAL subs or slaves out there anywhere? All I need is one male although two would be nice. If you are real and want a REAL Mistress send Me an email and take it from there.

8/31/2005 5:07:19 PM
I am in the charlotte area until Friday morning. where are all the sub/slaves from this area that have said they want to meet Me. if you are reading this and you are serious about meeting Me you need to send Me a message. W/we can see about arranging a meeting.

8/20/2005 6:08:08 PM
This journey is very long when One travels it without the one that is to serve Them with love and devotion. It seems that My search has gone on forever and at times My patience grows very thin. Its at those times that I have to remember that there is only one that can truely serve from their heart to Mine. So, My journey continues, alone for now. Somewhere out there is the one that is Mine and will be for always. Don't ever give up Y/your dream of finding Y/your O/one.

8/2/2005 9:56:12 AM
I am still seeking the one that will serve Me from the heart and out of true devotion. are you out there? I am real and live this lifestyle daily not on a weekend kinkfest. if this is truely the life you want to live feel free to contact Me. lets see where things can go.

7/24/2005 1:38:40 PM
I find it rather funny that so many on here proclaim to be slaves but once You tell them what is expected from one that will be Your property. they either just disappear or they think You are crazy. I have news for all you "slaves", if you are a slave you will do as you are told. a slave has no rights. if you want rights and the ability to make choices, either be honest with yourself about you actually being a submissive or try to pass yourself off as a Dominant because its not working you trying to say you are a slave!

7/3/2005 1:11:06 AM
just so everyone knows. I currently have a gliche in My computer that I am waiting to have fixed. as a result I cant use any chat programs. this includes the one that is on site. so if you send Me a chat invite and I dont respond I'm not being rude. I just really dont enjoy being booted for trying to chat.

6/28/2005 2:58:09 AM
this is just one Mistress's opinion, Mine to be precise! sometimes I sit here and read profiles from different people. no certain area or position in the lifestyle and I have to wonder, do part of Y/you truely have a CLUE as to what Y/you are either asking of someone or offering to Someone. check Y/your profiles and take a good reality check on what it says. thats for Y/your own safty and sanity, not Mine!

6/23/2005 4:17:12 PM
One would think that with all the subs and slaves listed on here that One could find a slave that truely wanted to serve real time. if you are either a slave or a sub with slave tendencies feel free to contact Me. whats the worse that could happen? possibly making a new friend at the least?

6/13/2005 4:05:35 AM
Purgatory ROCKED. I hope some of the locals at least were able to come out. the next event is in August. hopefully you can come then. that theme is Super Heros, whatever shall I be??? I'm open to all suggestions as long as they conform to NC laws or at least get close.

6/4/2005 9:50:40 AM
in the last few days I have been able to find peace in a bad situation in My family and have come to terms with what has to happen. as a result of that I have found pieces and parts of Me that had gotten hidden. I am ready to start a search again only this time I can search with an open mind and an extended view of what I am looking for. I will say up front and above all else I expect a slave to be a slave. when I speak I dont intend to repeat Myself nor raise My voice to get something done. so, if you choose to email Me be ready for Me to find out if you are a slave or if you are a "wish I was" slave. the later I dont WANT or NEED!

5/31/2005 1:52:08 PM
as much as I need a male slave in My house I think right now I need to give up My search for a while. I thank all of the great subs and slaves that have emailed Me wanting to serve. when things here get settled I will resume My search. I hope everyone finds all that they seek in life. MsFireKitty

5/25/2005 1:51:28 PM
patience isnt a quality I have when waiting on something to happen. I do however have patience in training a new slave. now if I only had one to train.

5/2/2005 6:03:39 AM
it seems that again one that swears to be a sub/slave has been a big disappointment. strange how when the time draws near the true self comes out. the gamers here are worse than any I have seen. whether you know it or not, when you play this game and its a full D/s household you effect more than the One you are speaking to. wise up boys. life is going to pass you by without you having your dreams fullfilled.

4/12/2005 7:40:59 PM
I have found the male slave I was seeking to serve Myself and My mate. zildjain1971 will be coming for his first visit shortly. this will be the first step to him moving to NC to serve Us. I am proud to have found My new pet and to have him serve in My home. he is everything I have sought in a male slave. Hurry home My pet.

4/7/2005 11:59:59 AM
Almost forgot! Saturday April 9th is the 3 year anniversary of Purgatory, an event thats held in Charlotte, NC bi-monthly. I think all of the sub/slaves in this area should come out. you are promised a great time. If you decide to come out you can find Me and Mine upstairs in the vendors area. See ya there !!!!!!!!!

4/7/2005 11:52:38 AM
With all thats been going on lately in My home there has been some changes within Myself. I am still a very loving Mistress but I have a different attitude towards certain things now. I can and will love the one I take but that one wont be allowed to find the depth that My Mate or the female that was Mine did. Yes, even Dom/mes hurt when a collar is removed. I hope that My writing this in My journal isnt misunderstood. Its just the way it is and the way it will continue to be in this house.

3/30/2005 4:03:34 PM
I have learned several new things about taking a sub lately. ONE, you never take a sub into a poly household that isnt sure they can deal with others. they never can! TWO, you dont take one that hasnt been in a loving D/s relationship thinking that You can show them how to love in a poly relationshio. that doesnt work either! So, from here on out I will make sure to check out any subs that I am wanting to consider to the very best of My ability and then some. But, life goes on!!!

1/9/2005 11:48:38 PM
a couple things have changed since I last made an entry. to start I have released My alpha after 4 years of service. the reasons arent important in this forum. as a result of that I am either seeking one sub/slave that is bi and young enough that in time he could possibly be mated to her or, seeking two sub/slaves. one that could possibly be mated with her in time and another that is bi and in their 30's to serve My Mate and I. I do wonder if anyone that fits either of those bills are out there. MsFireKitty

8/10/2004 6:17:38 PM
In the short time I have been on this site I have encountered some wonderful sub/slave and them some that haven't been so true to this lifestyle. I am seeking a sub/slave to serve Myself and My Mate. The one We take wont have access to My female slave. everyone will session together for the most part but she is mate to My alpha and is NOT for casual use. If you are messaging Me because you are attracted to or thinking that you will be allowed sexual contact with My female, move on by. she is Mine and and has been hand choosen for My alpha and no one else will touch her. if you are interested in serving Me and My Mate feel free to contact Us. O/one never knows what may lay ahead.

8/4/2004 2:32:47 PM
In the short time I have been on this site I have encountered some wonderful sub/slave and them some that haven't been so true to this lifestyle. I am seeking a sub/slave to serve Myself and My Mate. The one We take wont have access to My female slave. everyone will session together for the most part but she is mate to My alpha and is NOT for casual use. If you are messaging Me because you are attracted to or thinking that you will be allowed sexual contact with My female, move on by. she is Mine and and has been hand choosen for My alpha and no one else will touch her. if you are interested in serving Me and My Mate feel free to contact Us. O/one never knows what may lay ahead.

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