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New Year New Me New Attitude.
I have determined that this year is going to be totally different than the last year. I am tired of dealing with submissives who can't make up their mind and those that seem to want to top from the bottom. So I am about ready to redo my profile and make it clear concise and to the point. Which by the way I thought it already was but apparently there have been some misconception about what I will or will not tolerate.
I accept the blame for some of that because I have been very lax in some areas especially since the new job started and apparently I haven't been strict enough. I have also released some harboring preconceived notions about what a Domme is to be and how She is suppose to act. It's way past time for Me to be Me and do things My way. Something I should have done a long time ago. For those of you who keep up with My travel exploits keep an eye for the report of Arkansas visit last August. So far on the agenda for this year is Texas maybe in April, Michigan in June, Atlantic City in February, Kansas City in October and someplace between June and October of course. Any suggestions |
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Sometimes I wonder how people can jump to conclusions. I have decided that they just make up their minds about something and go with it. It would seem that when making these assumptions they let it go like a runaway train. It just keeps building and building steams until it crashes. Unfortunately when that happens more than one person ends up being hurt. |
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Wow I didn't realize it had been so long since I had put anything in here. But today I got another email asking about ginger root and it's uses so here is a brief description. taken from an article written by Sir Michael
Figging, anal play using ginger root, seems to be an art that is increasingly ignored. Maybe it's because there isn't enough information passed on about it or perhaps with the advent of fancy salves, chemicals and potions that can mimic ginger, lifestylers don't want to take the time needed to prepare for this activity. Either reason precludes a pleasurable and memorable experience. While there is still controversy as to the origins and reasons to figging, it is fairly well agreed upon that it dates back to the Victorian era. Mentions of figging can be found in some Victorian literature. Back in those days, the Victorians were a fairly bawdy, perverted, kinky bunch behind closed doors.
While it is a fairly easy technique to master, some care is necessary and proper preparation is required. So, let's delve into the world of ginger (or Gilligan and Mary Ann). Ginger, in its natural state, is sold as a "hand". For you non-gourmets, it's called a hand because it somewhat resembles one. The protuberances from the hand are called fingers. Unfortunately, many supermarkets now precut the hand into fingers and package them as convenience. Avoid using anything precut unless you've had enough experience to safely play with small fingers. Find a place that sells a hand. If the supermarket doesn't have any, visit any oriental grocery store. Buy the largest hand you can find and scurry it home. Keep the entire hand in a cool dry place until you are ready to use it. The sooner you use it, however, the better the effect unless you age it properly which I'll get to later. Now you are ready to cut a finger of ginger from the hand. Unless the fingers are very long, do not cut the finger off at the joint of the hand. Remove the finger by cutting down into the palm of the hand so that you get a long, uniform width finger. I like to use a finger no smaller than 4 inches. Longer is better. Take a paring knife or vegetable peeler and remove the brown skin. Make sure all the skin is off as well as insuring that all the bumps and knots are cut off and smoothed as well. Try not to remove too much meat underneath, as you want to retain as full a finger as possible.
Take your time and don't rush this step. As you work, rinse it under cold water periodically to help wash away pieces of skin. Ginger is fibrous and sometimes takes a little time to prepare properly. If you're into oriental cooking, you'll love the delicate ginger aroma that is released as you do this step. The smell is a great stimulus for the sub as well. It heralds things ahead.
After you have the skinned root all smooth and nice, you now have to perform the tricky bit. With the paring knife, about two-thirds of the way down the root carve a concavity around the finger. This will act as a retention device. Similar to a butt plug where the sphincter locks around the tapered portion of the plug, the concavity will do the same thing. As I said this is just a brief excerpt from his article. You can find the entire article by googling "figging"
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Well I am back from My adventures in St. Louis. I had a blast. Had My first opportunity to use ginger root on a submissive and all I can say is wow. she went into subspace almost immediately. I will definitely be doing more research on the art of figging. |
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Life is so good for this One right now. I have a dear friend who has been found by her One. I have found Mine and a roadtrip is on the way come next Wednesday. I am so loving life. If anyone knows of a good leather craftsman near the Dc area please let Me know. |
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For those who read this Writers journal be prepared for things to heat up just a tad. But I digress. I am sooooo excited I will be leaving for St. Louis in 15 days. For five lovely days and hopefully I will be able to get together with some of the lifestyle friends I met there. |
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Well I am back from spending an absolutely lovely weekend in South Carolina. It has been over 5 years since I was in Columbia and many things have changed. But one thing that hasn't is the heat. It was HOTTTTTTTTTTTT. I wore the least amount of clothes that I could get away with. But despite the heat I had a blast. Next trip: Atlantic City in August. |
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What to do when you find one whom you think would fit your life perfectly. But due to issues that they have to deal with they aren't free to offer themselves to you. Does One wait patiently and hope that once the issues have been dealt with that they will come to You and build something that so many seek but never find. OR do You move one and hope and pray that there is another out there that can fill the void that the special one left. Decisions, decisions, decisions. Do you tell them that You will wait for them to resolve the isssues or does that add pressure to them. |
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To A/all who live in the Detroit MI area. I will be visiting there soon. Can you please email Me the name of some decent reasonable hotels. Would be very much appreciated. |
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Greetings E/everyone I hope that everyone is having a lovely year so far. Personally I have made a decision to actively seek the one that is to serve Me and My House. I'm looking for My alpha. Hoepfully he/she is out there somewhere. |
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How to get a response to your email
I just wanted to share a few tips with submissives and slaves on how to ger a response to your email.
Most Dominants are not going to respond to one line emails like the one I received this morning which only said hello queen bows. So here is a few tips that will get you a response. Some of these can also be found on the message boards under ask a Domme
1. Make it personal. Use the Dominants name. Otherwise We wonder if you just sent out to every Dominant that came up in your search.
2. Make it worth reading. Tell Us something we can't find out by reading your profile.
3. Don't send pictures of your private parts unless they are asked for. Most Dominants want to know the person first.
4. On the otherside of that coin. Have a picture on your profile or have one that you can send with the email. There is no excuse these days you can take a pic to the local pharmacy and have it scanned to disc or get a disposable digital camera.
5. Don't write a book. While We want to know about you leave something for Us to ask. Most Dominants get at least 5 to 10 emails a day. If one is too long it wont' get the attention it deserves.
6. Last but definitely not least. Be honest. Time is the one thing you can't get back once spent. So save both the Dominant and yourself some time and don't claim to want something you aren't sure about. I recently spent two months emailing a submissive back and forth all for nothing. Because he got scared when it actually came time to meet and called it all off. So if you aren't sure about what you want or if you only want online be real about it. The Dominant in question will appreciate it in the long run. ANd if They aren't interested maybe They have a friend who would be and will pass along your name.
That's it for today but I reserve the right to make changes and additions as they come to mind. Now have an absolutely lovely day.
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******ATTENTION*****
I am currently seeking a submissive to assist Me in getting a website set up. your only responsibility will be to maintain the site and make changes as I request them. This can be solely online. ONly apply for this position if you are serious and please have some samples of your work.
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Becoming a Mama to a boi
You know life has a way of surprising you. Every now and then when you aren't looking for anything the fates have a way of putting just what you need in your path. Or when you think you have found what is the best for you life shows you differently.
I have been gifted with the presence of someone very special in My life. I never even thought of the roll a boi would play in My life. Matter of fact if you would have asked Me six months ago I would have told you strictly femmes for Me.
Then one night in lesbian chat strolls this boi. I took one look at hys profile and thought hmmmmm. Then a very special person told Me to come to the chatroom because hy was in there. For that I will always be grateful. Thank you princess. From that night forward it has been a lovely journey with sothernyte. Where it will lead W/we do not know but it has been a marvelous journey thus far with My baby boi. W/we have so enjoyed learning about each other and look forward to the continuing journey with all the detours and curves.
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This post is dedicated to a wonderful submissive that I have had the pleasure of meeting and spending some time with. howie you are truly a natural submissive and the little time W/we spent together was very nice. you are a wonderful conversationalist and that is an art that is much appreciated. If you ever need a reference please feel free to use My name. |
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Ms Cece's thought of the day
It's better for someone to think you are ignorant than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. |
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As I sit here this morning purusing profiles for lack of anything better to do I often wonder why so many submissives and slaves do not include any information about themselves. I see pictures and general info that is required when setting up the account but nothing else. Personally I like to know about a submissive before I contact them.
On the other hand I have also find submissives that write a really great intro for profile and have excellent letter writing skills. Though I may not have much interest at first writing skills will make Me take a second look. The time you put into your profile and intro letter is an indicatior of the time and care you would put into any time of relationship.
Just a thought |
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