Guess what, I am not going to receive an email, write you back in the next email and arrange for you to come to my dungeon and have a hot scene!   nope.. I want to negotiate, find out what makes you tick, what are your needs, are you compatible with us,  and then, if I am still interested, we will meet in a vanilla situation eg. coffee shop.  If after meeting you face to face, I want to pursue something further, then I will take you into service.  I don't want online, and I don't want endless emails but I do want to get to know you a bit.

I am not interested in casual play, I want long term.  I want to know who I play with, and form lasting bonds with them. Why is it, when you say you are polyamorous, people think you want to play with everybody?

If you want a scene without bothering to let the dominant get to know you, THEN PAY A PRODOMME. They provide a service and you can get what you want.

I am not a pro. I do this for the love of bdsm, because this is how I am wired,  not for money. I pick and choose who I play with and I do as I choose. If you are not willing to put in time.. then cough up the money to a prodomme.

Happy New Year! 2014 is going to be a special year for Me. Is it going to be special for you? Decide what you want from 2014 and go after it! Stop thinking about it, stop planning, and make it happen. If you want to change your kinky life, take steps you need to.

Merry Christmas to you, and may all your kinky dreams come true!

I want what I want. I dominate as I see fit. I have been told that I am both too strict and not strict enough. Guess what? Too bad!

I rarely raise my voice, and will often say please when giving a command. It does not mean that I am merely asking.

I do not expect to have to explain my actions. If a sub does not dress appropriately for a scene, and yet I still want to scene, I will wear street clothes. Why the hell should I put on my leathers when the sub has not dressed appropriately?  Several times this has happened and subs have not been told why. I believe it wont have to be explained to the right one.

If I am truly pissed at a sub/slave, I do not scene, I send them home. Again, the right one will get this.

Service is not always fun for the slave. Why do so many think it always should be?

I do not play openly in vanilla public. I believe it is incredibly inappropriate to subject somebody to my "kink" without their consent.

Another first Wednesday in the month! My partner Maitre Pierre and Myself have been the "expert guests" on the cjad radio show Passion with Dr. Laurie Betito each month for the  since last December!  It is an honor to be able to help dispel some of the misconceptions people often have about our lifestyle. We love when people call and we get to "meet" them during the show.  If you have any kinky topics that you would like to hear discussed, drop me a line and I will see what we can do!!!!

If you are not local and available on weekends, then don't bother me. If you dont want to provide service, go to a pro and pay for it. If you want a one-time thing.. go to a pro. If you want an ongoing relationship, want to serve, to give up control, and KNOW you are a slave at heart, then where have you been?

Long cold winter nights are always better spent in the spa, beside the woodstove's crackling fire with a roped slave bringing a rum and egg nog!

After a month long vacation, We are back. Relaxed and ready to again take on the world! If you are one of those who messaged while I was away, write back to Me if you feel the same way and things have not changed. As always, I am looking for a good fit. A slave that fits into the everyday life in a non-intrusive way. Are you wanting rituals and to be tasked on a daily basis? Are you ready to give loyalty and devotion to dominants who merit it? Does just thinking of being helpless in bondage make  you excited? Do you crave being controlled? Write me and tell me what you could do for us. What are your qualities and why we should pick you.

I dont have time for those who THINK they might want to be dominated. Nor do I have the time or inclanation for one timers. I will not meet or agree to dominate you until I have exchanged some emails. If that is too difficult for you.. go to a pro-domme who will only ask you for money.

if you want an answer....Ask not what I can do for you, ask what you can do for Me!... Send more than a one-liner, and answer with more than a one liner...dont tell Me you know it all cause of a previous domme, not all dommes agree on bdsm! I want what I want.. not necessarily what you're last domme wanted.. 

recently I was told online that only professional dommes are real and proper dommes! Isn't that like saying only whores can fuck well? lol

Why do so many people think that if you are poly you are looking for a kinky one night stand? We like to have longterm relationships with our slaves, the majority of our slaves serve for several years. I find that the intimacy and level of "worship" just increases over time making things get better and better. Some seem to think it is the thrill of new that is the thrill worth having.  Yes, exploring a new submissive or slave is fun and exciting, but when you get to really know how the brain thinks, well then the possiblities for exciting plays.. are endless!

Lately, I have been getting replies from slaves and subs who already have a dom! If your dom wants to share you..great.. but not with Me. I wont be under the control and limits of another dom/me thanks. A submissives limits are one thing.. limits set by their dom/me is another.   Sorry if you cant handle your sub by yourself, I am not interested.

If you are not positive that this is what you want.. THEN FUCK OFF and leave Me alone, don't waste my time. This is NOT a fad for Me, it is the way I am wired. I am not like many who enter and leave the lifestyle in two or three years. I dont want to help you or be with you during your "kinky phase"

Ok, here is a recent picture of Myself in fetish wear.  I do love to dress the part and walk the walk.  Especially when the walking is done in boots!

I try My best to be tolerant of others and their kinks. Afterall, diversity is what makes the world go round! Lately I have had two ts girls that have both contacted Me and insisted they were born as  biological females. I guess their kink is to pass themselves off as such. I am not impressed. Lying to Me is never acceptable and trying to use Me to get their kinks in this way is.. not consentual!! It is a shame because I quite like ts girls but not when they are liars.  If you contact Me, show Me the courtesy of being honest. I give you that and want it in return. 

Presently We are searching for honest male or female submissives with the ability to serve Us regularly on weekends. Experience is not important, in fact sometimes it is preferable to have a submissive with little experience rather than one with  preconcieved ideas on what is the correct way to serve a dominant. News flash! All dom/mes do not like the same things!

well I finally put up a new picture after the new one disappeared! It's a vanilla pic but I have not had pictures taken of Me in leathers for a couple of years! I am usually the one taking the pictures when I am in leathers and not the other way around. This picture is only a month or so old. I think I am going to set up a little photo session soon and see if I can get some good pictures of the dungeon and Myself and Maitre Pierre. Will post soon.

Fall is a week away, school has started and the bdsm community always seem to wake up this time of year. My guess is that with the kids back in school and summer vacations over that people decide they now have the time to devote to bdsm. I am getting discouraged with this site as I seem to get a lot of one-liners, and when I find submissives who seem promising.. well they turn out to be a dud! I was stood up for the first time in my entire life! We met and all seemed fine but when it was time to come and play.. a no show!!!!! and was not even polite enough to send a short note. Another wrote Me and seemed a good match but was too busy to negoiate a meeting.. wtf? Thankfully I am not a new domme, and have been blessed with many excellent and devoted submissives so I know this is not the norm. If I was new.. I would likely throw in the towel. Ok.. enough rant. Got a new gag last week and i am pleased to report it works like a charm.. although I think he liked it a bit too much!!! i have just ordered a bigger version that should be appropiately uncomfortable! yup.. life is good and the "bdsm season" of fall is just beginning.

Fall is almost here! I love this season. The world seems to wake up to kink every fall and become active. How great is that? Actively looking for submissives who want to serve and help make Our lives easier! Do you have the desire, time and weekend availability? If you dont, dont waste My time.

Summer is almost here and Mistress Catharine presently prefers a submissive who shares her love of gardening. Mistress Catharine is also interested in cbt, bondage and discipline.