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It's all about Me. If you can remember that, you're already ahead.
Creative Intellectual Sadistic Top sharing a body with a sweet, caring, goofy female - that's me. I'm not mainstream at all and have no plans to be. Self-employed, no kids (no desire for 'em), more or less GenderQueer in my own special way, and eternally Punk Rock even when I'm listening to Big Band Jazz music from the 1920s. (If you are really Punk Rock you'll know what I mean. If you aren't, it's ok.)
I didn't check off anything on the BDSM Checklist of Interests because I hate those lists. If we are interested in each other as people, I'm confident we'll make something work. That said...
The sensation tools I use most are those with which I was born: fists, hands, nails, teeth, knees, feet (well, boots, really), etc. I don't use many other implements, but some. I'm a Bully. I lurk in school hallways and playgrounds, waiting to beat you up and slam you into the lockers. hee hee.
I like service quite a bit, especially if you are really good at bootblacking. If you aren't service-oriented it's fine. But I AM NOT, so don't expect me to be a Service Top for you. I don't swing that way, dollface.
In addition to bootblacks, I also love puppies. Puppies! And bodyguards. Sure I can handle myself, but it's so much better if I don't have to and you can do it for me. One of my favorite nights out was when I went to one of the NYC S/m clubs with a bodyguard. I didn't beat him up. He was simply there to keep unwanted elements away from me, and to clear a path through people so I could get through.
I've been beating up boys for about four years now. I'm good at what I do. What I'm not good at, I avoid. I want to hurt you, not damage you. Very different.
I'm looking for all sorts of relationships - I'm poly - so show me what you got!
Before I moved to VT I was VERY active in the NYC S/m and sex scenes; not only the straight scene but the Queer and Trans parts, too. TES, MAsT-MetroNYC, Leather Invasion, Leather Town Hall, LSM, NYBoys of Leather, SPAM Party, Submit Party, Folsom Street East, Leather Pride Night, Pride Parade, etc. Helped run TES-Fest 2006 and Leather Invasion. Nearly all my social interactions in NYC were with Kinky Queer Sluts - and not just in the dungeon but in general.
I go to NYC about once a month for business purposes.
Kink is a big part of my life. I don't feel comfortable when I compartmentalize.
I'll be up-front here: I'm really picky and I don't suffer fools, gladly or otherwise. I find a very small percentage of people I meet are worthy of entering my realm. It's not a matter of being better or worse than others, it's just about knowing what I want.
Here's how you can get in good with me: introduce yourself politely; be smart, sweet and funny; show some interest in me as a person; have good boundaries; learn how you can contribute to my enjoyment and what you can do for me.
Here's how you can get ignored by me: skip the introduction and jump right into what you like and what you want me to do for you; objectify me as the facilitator of your fantasies; bore me; be a sexist or homophobe; be ashamed of your kink; be in a relationship and hide your kink - and me - from your primary partner.
Got it? OK! I look forward to hitting you. :-D
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Oh, and while I'm having fun ranting...
(I knew there was some purpose to a bad mood)
... profiles with pictures will get responses. Those without won't. You can send a message with a picture if you choose to not post one with your profile, but I need something to go on.
And I don't mean of your ass or your chest or your package. I mean your face. Duh.
Looks are important, but not necessarily in the way you might think.
I have to be assured you have an admirable appearance, and it looks like you know how to take care of yourself.
It's not about weight or height or hair or gender or whatever. It's about the way you choose to present yourself.
That's what either makes you attractive, interesting, boring, or yucky, at least in my book.
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I'm no fan of the "No Child Left Behind" nonsense, but I will say there's a distinct lack of reading comprehension in the world today. Or is it just on this Website?
I make it pretty clear in my profile how I would like to be approached, and how NOT to approach me.
But some of you still don't get it.
I'm not looking for an instant scene, without even knowing you. I'm not looking for an instant relationship of any variety.
Be friendly and interesting. Show an interest in me as an entire person. And if it works out, then you may get yourself beat up by this Bully Princess.
But you may not. And you certainly won't by immediately assuming I'm interested in whipping you, spanking you, Dominating you, or seeing a picture of your ass.
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I was thinking about this the other day...
In all my years of being an "out" kinky person, I've come across this annoying situation more than once: the idea that Dominants have to be "on" all the time. And if we are not always "acting Dominant" then we aren't "true" Dominants.
Like we are supposed to be robots. Dominant robots.
The thing is, most of the time I could give a rat's ass less what anyone is doing as long as they leave me out of it. If I am in a situation where someone needs to be under me, then I'll make it clear and deal with it/him then.
And what does "acting Dominant" mean anyway?
I think a lot of people in the S/m world - especially those with more on-line and fantasy experience and less real-time experience - imagine that all Dominants wake up barking out orders, riding crops in hand. That all we want to be is severe all the time, to every submissive we meet.
That's objectification, and I can't participate in that. If anyone gets objectified, it's boys, and only through consent and prior arrangement.
Here's the deal: I have a Dominant side to my personality, and it's natural. I don't "act it" into existence, just as I don't act being friendly, smart or funny into my existence. I am just that way, except when I'm not.
I don't expect every submissive person to fall to my feet just because. In the grand scheme of things, we are really equals, in my opinion. (Some S/m-ers will disagree with me, and that's their right.) It's way more fun to work into it, to inspire a submissive to get under me, so to speak.
I expect a certain level of politeness and composure, but I also give that out. My Mom brought me up right.
I don't hit people without consent, and I don't Dominate people without consent. There's no fun or challenge there for me.
Dominance is an intimate act.
I may be a big ol' slut, but I do not get intimate with just anyone.
The two people in this world I've beaten the most, and continue to smack around, are dear friends. One of them has a more subservient manner toward me than the other, but the other can get pretty subby toward me, too. Especially when I am hitting him and he is in head space.
The thing is, when we (my bottoms and I) are together socially - at the movies, coffee shops, restaurants, just hanging out, etc. - the D/s and S/m dynamics aren't very obvious. Sure these guys are polite and helpful, but I'm that way toward them, too. We are chums.
I like it that way. Not that I'm ashamed of my kink and want to keep it hidden outside of the dungeon - au contraire - it's more about my freedom to be myself with these men. My complete self: friendly, aloof, silly, serious, intelligent, goofy, etc. And that's what I expect from them: honesty and authenticity.
My kink isn't a compartmentalized portion of my existence. It's who I am. It's integrated within the rest of me, and in all of my relationships, whether they be D/s or S/m or vanilla or platonic or romantic or anything, I have to be myself.
And that's what I expect from you, too. So if you can't keep up, stay home.
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| Age: 26 |
| Second Life,
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