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DsDomCplNC
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| Submissive male wanted
to build a cuckold
type relationship
A few points to make real quick.... I'm NOT looking for or interested in the following:
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Married or attached men. UNLESS....you're wife/gf is willing to meet with me and give her understanding, input, and blessing on your seeking a relationship with a Dominant woman.
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A online/cyber or phone domination relationship. Boring!!!!
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A 24/7 live in situation.
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Anyone living in another country or more than an hours drive away. (Unless you are able to frequently be here in person to have an actual relationship with.
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Play only relationship.
Ok, now that those few things are out there and in the open I'll tell you about me and what I hope to find here on CM. I'm married, a mother, responsible, realistic and have references from others I've met from CM. My husband is very aware, is a Dominant himself and gives his blessing for my being here to seek a D/s relationship with a submissive male. He is involved and will be present at any given time. However, he will not be having any kind of sexual contact with you. He's not bi nor is he curious. Nothing wrong with bi guys. I personally love bi guys ! And he has no issues or problems with bi guys either. He's just not wired that way.
We're hoping to build closed poly type D/s relationship. Some may have heard or know about the "N" or "square/quad" configurations when it comes to poly relationships. If you haven't, ask me...I'll give you my spin on them.
I'm a bbw, a wife, a mother, sarcastic, caring, demanding, loving, understanding, and I can be moody, I know, I know... a typical woman. Ha ha. I'm looking for that guy that is the whole package. Smart, reasonable, responsible, kinky, caring, giving, submissive by nature and not just in the bedroom, enjoys being of service to his dominant, open and above all else, honest and trustworthy. Someone I can share my interests in and out of the realm of the whips and cuffs.
My hope is to find a like minded male who can kneel and beg me for more (or less ;) ) just as easy as he can hang out and have dinner together as a group or he and I alone. This means a relationship. One that includes sharing one anothers lives and being a part of each others lives. You can worry about your money, when you use the bathroom and how you drive to work. Micromanaging another person holds no interest to me whatsoever.
Things I enjoy: movies, swimming, reading, writing, crafts, backgammon, cooking, shopping, tickle fights with my son and so much more. I'm more of a home body than a clubbing type of woman. Though going out and dancing the night away now and then is fun too. When it comes to the kinky fun stuff you can see what I have listed in the interests column here on the profile. If your most favorite kink is one I've listed as a hard limit or vice versa then we have no reason to even try to begin to know one another in regards to building a D/s relationship. Friendship? Absolutely, but not a personal relationship on a Domme/sub level. Everyone has limits or at least everyone sane has limits. I have mine, you have yours and hopefully they coincide.
Our couples profile here on CM is DsDomCplNc and my husbands profile is DomLookn4freak. I can be reached and exchange messages here. However, the chat feature here does not work on our pc. Face shots of yourself and a phone convo will also be expected sooner rather than later.
The Mrs.
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When I give my trust to someone and have it handed back to me in a shitroll.......it's a bit hard to swallow.
With that being said the young man I had under consideration and had given my collar to showed his ability to be both honest and trustworthy very shortly after accepting my collar to be abilities he had not mastered in his life.
It's been awhile now and I'm starting to put my tippy toes back into the water and searching for another male. My husband and his girl are continuing to build their relationship and it truly is a beautiful thing to behold. Yes, I have of course questioned if this lifestyle is something I need or do I think its just something I think will make things better. Fact is, with or without this aspect of life....I would miss it. I/we could deal, be content enough, and flourish BUT doing without would not be what would make us most happy. So!!! My search starts again. Though sometimes I feel it is truly a perpetual search.....I do so hope that I am proven wrong! |
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So far so good! Smiles....enjoying getting to know this young man. He's so close! It's wonderful to discover someone that is a fit AND they live right down the street!!!! |
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He came over for dinner last night. Yesterday was his birthday as well. No, he didn't get any birthday spanks. Pervs! Not yet anyway. This was only the second time he'd been in my presence. C'mon! He is very eager to play...as am I. But I want the foundation there before anything like that takes place.
Things look good so far. I'll start his training later this week. Rubbing hands together......
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We had a wonderful first face to face meet today. As silly as it may sound to some he did everything exactly as I said. He told my husband earlier today while they chatted that he may arrive early to our designated spot and get a bite to eat. When my wonderful man told me this I said for him to tell my prospect to not eat until we got there as I would probably order my fav bagel the establishment offered, therefore that I would eat with him. When arrived I walked up to the counter wondering where the cashier was. My husband said....behind you. I looked and there he was.....the boy...that I had been talking to for around a week online and on the phone.
I walked over smiling and gave him a hug. he and my husband shook hands and I said I'll be back in a minute, I'm going to order my bagel....(I love this place and their bagels.lol.) He actually waited until I told him to go ahead and eat. Seems simple enough but it also shows a willingness to be controlled. Such a small act....but it speaks volumes. The jist is I enjoyed meeting this boy...can you tell? He thinks I'm beautiful and wants to be mine..... time will tell as they say.
I'm a happy woman tonight. Good night CM world! My hope is that each of you find that "one" they seek!!! |
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Wow...there really are not that many women on this site!
No wonder you guys act like a dog with a bone when a woman is receptive to talk with you. |
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Hello CM world!
We're meeting with a younger submissive male this weekend. I've spent several days this past week talking with this young man about goals, desires, needs, limits, expectations, and so forth. My husband has also chatted with him a bit and they seem to have a good rapport as well.
He's made a point to make himself accessible to talk with me when I am available. Getting up early since that is what my free time allows for. He is actually able to converse about more than the lifestyle, talking of our past, our goals in life, laughing and joking.
I hadn't thought all that much about even considering someone under the age of 25. Just goes to show we all can be surprised by what we find out about someone when we take the time to put ourselves out there and ask those much needed questions.
I so hope that my husband will soon find his girl. He is such a wonderful person. Patient, good lord he puts up with me people! A fantastic lover, not just of the body either, but of the mind and the heart. He is a treasure that the "right" girl will be lucky to call her Dom, her Master, perhaps even her Daddy.
I personally can see where SOME of the aspects of his being a Daddy Dom would be a good fit for him. I can say that from our own discussions that the role play of a little girl, someone under the age of 18 or 19 would probably wig him out. Just my thoughts. |
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I found this link on a fellow Female Dominants journal here. I applaud the content wholeheartedly!!!!
Any male that approaches me would do very well to read this entry. Then read it again.
If he does not feel that he can be or is this type of male....then honestly I will lose all interest in him quite hastily. I will learn from him quickly enough if he is or not on my own!
http://www.sultry-leather.com/DommeLook.html
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If she.......
...says that emailing back and forth is annoying to her and she offers you her yahoo id to talk in a more real time way.
Then you may want to think carefully about downloading yahoo or messaging her there if you already have an account.
If she........
...says that she's usually only available in the morning hours to converse.
Then you might consider going to bed a bit earlier at night and setting that alarm to wake you up a bit earlier so you can be online or available to talk on the phone with her.
In other words, hear what she is saying to you. Understand the reason why she is giving you such information. She's interested in you! She's giving you out of all the others the chance to learn about her. Show your interest back! Show your willingness too!
If she.....
...says that she is looking for a relationship and not just play.
Then you should not under any circumstance try to make everything contact with her about your dick!
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The 70's
People, this kind of stuff can't be made up! Our lifestyle knows no boundries. No limits. No time limits. Rihannawhatever her name is was only the latest to produce and she certainly will not be the last.
Stevies spanking lyric as written and or performed by Frank Zappa. You tube it people.
His name is Stevie Vai
And he's a crazy guy
Last November,
I recall,
He needed a spanking
He decided then
A female specimen
Would be excitin' for a night
To give him a spanking
Laurel was her name
She came to Notre Dame
He told me just the other day
He oughta be thanking Her for the spanking
She was large and soft
And she beat him off
Made him drool upon his dork
And gave him a wanking
After the spanking
Hair brush!
Oh! What a hair brush!
(Its not that he requires grooming! Guys with light blue hair never do!)
Then she did explain:
There's another game
That we can play with this device,
And then a banana!
It was slightly green
Vapors in between
Rising up to fill the room
And cook the banana
She said it was dry
Stevie won't you try
To drool a little drool on it
And grease the banana
Later in the dawn Laurel carried on
She got right up and dressed herself and
Ate the banana |
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Just a random thought.....
I absofuckinglutelyloveit when an and Englander says tosser......grins.
Makes the Harry Potter lover geek inside me giggle. |
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How to attract this dominant woman:
Be real
Be sincere
Be willing to show that you are interested......often
Be more than your fantasies
Be available
Be able to put yourself outside your comfort zone now and then
Be........
a man for fucks sake!
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My tired, cold, and achy feet.
Looking forward to oils, warm hands, and a soft eager mouth to sooth me........
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How refreshing to speak with a man that is both submissive and sure of himself! |
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I'm baaaaaaaaaaaack!!!!
Updates and availability to get to know others and reconnect with friends varies. Message me and I'll respond soon.
Mrs. |
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A long overdue update.
I'm doing fine. Back to work and loving that part of my life. Though that being the case my time is topsy turvy when it comes to availability. More than that though our pc is down and purchasing a new one just isn't THE most important item we need at this time.
So, be well all of you. I/We are not gone but we certainly are taking a hiatus of sorts for the short term.
Mrs. |
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Do NOT approach me with your laundry list of fetishes!
Do let me know who the real you is on the inside!
Do NOT write me messages asking if you can serve me!
I'm not a cartoon for you stroke your hard cock too!
Do NOT think for a second that this is all about one person or the other!
I am a whole person.
Woman first.
You'll eventually be allowed to see the Domme if you can behave as a whole person in return. |
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Like many here, I'm finding that the fantasy far outweighs the reality when it comes to the individual. Where are the guys that are actually looking for anything real time? Where are the guys that are more interested in learning who SHE is versus the guys that are looking for what she can make him feel from moment one?
Do they actually exist? |
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Whilst exchanging messages with another potential a few days ago I wrote the following in response to his question of what I thought a cuckold was and how I saw bring a male sub/cuck into my marriage would look and take place. I thought this was a pretty good explaination to the same question I've been asked by several both here and on that other site we're not supposed to say the name of on CM.
You're certainly not the first who has asked how my bringing in a male submissive to have a cuckold type of relationship would actually take form in my life and what his role would be. And I certainly hope you have about 20 minutes right now to spend reading this long ass reply here. lol I'll explain what I believe a cuckold relationship to be. Which I'm sure I won't include every variation or possible feeling evoked. But you'll certainly get what I'm saying, hopefully. And then I'll explain how I would like to incorporate that type of relationship into the relationship I wish to have with a male submissive that I am searching for.
I believe the "truest" definition of what a cuckold relationship consists of is actually when a married woman has lover(s) without her husbands knowledge. Of course, like just about everything in life, people have their own definitions and takes on what cuckolding means and can or can't, should or shouldn't consist of.
In the Bdsm lifestyle I believe the most accepted definition is when a Dominant woman is married to a submissive male and still has Dom/bull/lovers with the husbands knowledge, blessing, and sometimes participation. Often this includes his being chaste or kept in denial for long periods of time. He may never or rarely be allowed to have sexual intercourse with his wife. And certainly never allowed to have other lovers of his own. His orgasms are quite literally owned by his Domme wife. This, of course, can also include his being required to wear a chastity device or work on the knowledge that he can only cum with her blessing/permission. The male sub/cuck is completely devoted in all ways to his Domme/Cuckoldress wife. Other elements that could be included go on and on depending on the couple or who you talk to.....be it that the sub male is present, he partcipates, either with interaction between the cuck and bull or the cucks full attention being on the female dominant, or his only watching.
I feel, that this type of relationship is built on many things. Love, respect, dedication, suffering, devotion, selflessness, (and yes, selfishness...to a degree), denial, joy and dominance and submission. But most of all I feel it's a relationship that has a bond unlike any other I have experienced. I'll speak on that bond more in a minute.
The cuckold type of relationship that I am most interested in having is very much the same as I have described above. Only my husband would be my "bull" lover. My submissive would be the one being cuckolded. I still very much want and need to have that relationship with my male sub/cuck that a married woman would have with her submissive cuckolded husband. Hence, why building a relationship is so very important to me. I want to love my boy. I want his imprint in my life. I want to share my life with him. And I certainly want all these things from him. His love, his submission, his participation in my life, and mine in his. And lets not forget the type of sexual relationship that is involved. With the bdsm overtones, the acts, and the mind set that comes with that involvement.
So to sum all that chatty stuff up. I see, say for instance you (if that comes to be) to eventually become my submissive "boyfriend" (for the lack of a better word) who I also cuckold on a regular basis. Sharing our lives, caring for one another, involving the sexual acts that are discussed between yourself and I, the relationship evolving and growing.
The bond I speak of isn't just one sided. And I certainly do not feel that the dominant woman is the only reaper of rewards either. Yes, she certainly is given her cake and encouraged to eat it too. No doubt about that. She has an adoring man who sacrifices his most basest of male needs to see that ALL of her needs are met. She is his most important...his top priority. This is, of course, a big draw for a lot of women. And admittedly for me to. But there is also the release, the permission, the adoration that comes from the dominant woman to the submissive male as well. He's accepted fully for his wonderful submissive self. He is validated and given a type of permission (maybe permission isn't the right word here....words are floating around in my head and it's tough to grasp the right one at the moment :P ) to be his true self with her. That his submission in act and personality is celebrated by her. Truly she is the yin to his yang. They complete one another.
You and I would continue to get to know one another. We'd talk on the phone. You'd meet my husband and myself. (I'd love to have it so that my boy and my husband would actually like one another as people and have enough in common to hang out and not feel like it's an uncomfortable mess.) You and I would date. Build that relationship! As things would grow, after discussions, thoughts being shared, intimacy shared.....the relationship would grow into the D/s and cuckolding.
I'm most into D/s wise: tease and denial, orgasm control, forced masturbation (is it possible to force a man to masturbate? hmm..), ass play, oral worship ie foot/ass/pussy, floggers, crop, blindfolds, gags, light to mod bondage, light to mod cbt, humiliation, some service as in bath attendant, chores, errands, etc. and of course cuckolding.
I have all kinds of hard limits. I think everyone should by the way. Mostly the extreme stuff and or things that I feel are more role play oriented or things that I would consider to be so are on my hard limit list. For example: children, animals, blood, illegal acts, forced femme or anything along that line, puppy/pony/baby/age play, needles, medical play, and I'm sure I'm forgetting something there. But those are things I won't budge on. Absolute no no's and off limits with me.
Perhaps this well answer a few questions for those who wish to understand how I feel a cuckold relationship can still be had when the dominant woman is married to someone other than the cuck.
Happy searching!
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Aaaaand....of course, I now have more time during the day with a schedule change with work. lol Never fails. So, I'm now online more often. A lot more often then the last few months. Let's talk.
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I feel I need to relay some info here. I am not online much during the week. Between my hours, my family and my other responsibilities trying finding the time and the gumption to sit down again at the computer during the week to spend even 30 minutes online does not happen all that often. Now this does not mean I do not have time to be adding another person in my life. It simply means that I need that person either here in front of me or even on the phone. I can talk on the phone and do other things at the same time. (Get your minds out of the gutter boys!)
If you begin contact with me here and wonder why I do not respond to a message for a few days....now you know. Once I find that I have an interest in someone you will very soon receive a phone number by which to contact me on. If talking on line, exchanging a few messages and then moving the conversation to the phone is too quick for some. Then to be blunt, I am not going to be interested in you either. I seek a Female Led relationship. And to me this means that I set the pace from the beginning. I will always take your thoughts and needs into consideration but only one can drive this car....and that will be me.
Now for you boys that live far away. I have to say that it has been my experience that these contacts very rarely lead to anything other than conversation. Which is fine...but for the reasons outlined above...it's not even going to be an in depth friendship. But it will only be a sort of friendship regardless. |
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So often I am asked what I am looking for here....
Why does this question always either make be think Duh!!! or Ummm?!?!
This being a BDSM networking site it goes without saying that I am seeking an alternative type relationship. Or perhaps kinky play for a ongoing basis. Maybe even a hook up now and then. Right? Well, for me the first is the answer. I am seeking an alternative type relationship. So, yes, a relationship. Lets talk about this for a second. The type of relationship that I most seek is a female led relationship that consists of true regard, trust, honesty, affection and yes, even the kinky fun stuff.
To me a relationship consists of many activities, thoughts, expectations, needs, wants, abilities and on and on. It also means there is a connection. Well, several actually. Mental, physical, emotional, intellectual, moral, sexual, and again, on and on.
I really do tire of receiving so many messages that consist of basically...."Spank me and fuck my ass...PLEASE!" What the hell? Now and then one finds his way to my profile here that seems to have the right mentality that I seek....then....poof. Again, What the hell? I do not ask for money, I do not ask for presents but I do ask for reality. Honesty. Self knowledge. Committment. All these things. I, for one, would think that your average adult would be able to not only grasp these concepts but would also be looking for the same in a partner in crime.
If reality suits you just fine AND you live close enough to pursue an actual in person relationship....send me a message.
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Warning: Complicated Woman Ahead
Shocking! Oh so shocking! A complicated woman! Say not!!! Oh, but tis true, I swear it!
Now what exactly makes this female so very complicated?!?! I will tell you!
I'm sweet, easy to smile, enjoy giving pain, being in control, live a polyamorous lifestyle, enjoy cuckolding submissive males, but not interested in the least in sissification, swift to be understanding and get my knickers in a twist when I feel I am dealing with misleading individuals or have been given misinformation, speaking my mind, and I expect honesty above all else and give it in return!! I expect to have done what is said will be done. Thoroughly enjoy chastity but adore commanding forced masturbation with clean up by the sweet boy afterwards. Love giving humiliation but don't wish to damage another's psyche. I smile and oftentimes giggle a bit while performing cbt or impact play. Love the soft sensual touch mixed with the pleasure of pain.
And more than anything I'm patient with the individual but impatient as hell for this search to be over!
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Time and again I'm asked how can I hope to find a "real" cuckold relationship if I am already married?
Is it really so hard to comprehend that the one "twue" way is not everyone's way?
Really?
It's pretty simple children. One female dominant, one male submissive, one bull. Who really gives a damn who is married to whom?
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The chat feature does not work for me. Either send a message here or try to reach me at dsdomcplnc on yahoo.
Mrs. |
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| Age: 33 |
| Milton,
Pennsylvania |
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