this goes back a ways :) i started fairly young doing things to my self .. and never new about this life style ..now that i am older and have been in it for the past 10 years or so .. ive grown fond of it ... to the point that vanilla sex does nothing for me at all ... ive had pro domes two of which set my world of fire with excitement ... a mistress that i help in learning the ways . she went from a first timer to hanging people from the ceiling the correct way ..in the rope art part of this lifestyle ... i took her from haven't had sex in twenty years to squirting...she was 61 with her first squirt :) ..we grew apart and went separate ways... its been a year since ive had a mistress .... a few play times here and there  just haven't found the right connection yet again . i do attend the local munches ....when possible .... public play is ok ...i do like my private play as well ...  i came on board here maybe to help me find another like minded mistress...sub..or switch that enjoys there play time .... if your a newbie thats ok  been there done that...with good results... if your a sadist or major masochist i feel there a lot more for you to learn than beating some one black an blue ..but thats not saying that there are not  those out there ... there are ... im just not one of them.... there are some hard limits with me ...we do not cross.... there other limits that pushing is ok ....i do believe in safe words....  i am ssc/rack/ccc .... for those of you who do not know what  these are ( safe,sane, consensual; risk aware  consensual kink and or compassionate consensual ) mainly to me its about common sense  agreeing on degrees of people safety ;adult consent and no std's