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Hetero Male Dominant, 44,  SanDiego, California
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I love minds and mischief.

If you’re my type of submissive, you know there is nothing hotter than a thought, a presence, an intent, crawling into your most erogenous of places.

Learning who you are, seeing all of you, and embracing the broken as something to celebrate.

That sense of will commanding your mind to follow just as surely as my fingers through your hair. Each word, each action, placed just as surely as each digit. The hand cupped around you skull can cradle and support, can reassure and hold just as much as it can grip, rip, tear, scare and fling you around the room. And knowing you can do it doubly so.

I love minds that crave and stretch them for all the stimulation on offer.

I love the readers, the writers, the travelers, the musicians, the thinkers. I don’t judge for what music matters to you so long as music moves your soul and sends it soaring.

For myself, I’m an Englishman in America, everywhere I travel opens my mind up to wonder. I’ve been to the majority of your National Parks.Taking a motorcycle through all 48 contiguous, I’ve sweltered in the humidity of New Orleans, felt the relief as the Smokies dry the air, dodged forked lightning in Toledo, got to know restaurant owners in Nebraska and submissives in the Dakotas. I’ve met mothers and sons riding in Alabama, a young man and his dog on a motorcycle in Pensacola and felt the cold of the pines as I rode out to the the bridge from Something In The Way in Washington State.

Guitars represent dreams to me, they are always there when I seek solace, they scream for me when I can’t scream loud enough myself. Rob Zombie to Massive Attack to Lacuna Coil to Simon and Garfunkel, BB to GnR, live music is my church.

Life is there to be eaten is big, enthusiastic bites. Submissives are there to be celebrated with the same glee music evokes. If I can dive into a mind more nuanced than a great novel, I’m in heaven. If I can have a grin on my face as I surprise her with the unexpected, even better still.

I have been around the scene for a while. I have earned some experience and I’m humble enough to know I’ll always be earning more - delighted, in fact, to know there will always be more to discover. Getting to teach, to share, to watch someone grow and discover just how incredible they are is my opiate.











 Dominant Male



 5' 10"






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female


 Lives For:

 Mental Bondage (Expert)

 Obedience Training

 Intellectual Discourse





 Breast Play


 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Genital Punishment

 Being Massaged

 Domestic Service

 Fire Play

 Hair Pulling


 Placing you on a leash


 Sensation Play

 Outdoor Bondage

 Public Play

 Sensory Play

 Spanking you

 Speech Restrictions (Expert)





 Blindfolding you

 Body Worship



 Canes and Crops



 Electrical Play

 Local BDSM Community

 Erotic Hypnosis (Expert)



 Modern Primitivism


 Orgasm Control

 Maid / Butler Service

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Suspension Bondage


 Wax Play






 Corner Time

 Foot Worship

 Role Playing



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Journal Entries:
9/21/2022 9:55:38 PM

I'm into realistic medical play.

I'll leave you ignored, in a corridor, for a couple of days. All while racking up thousands on your credit card.

The pandemic's been tough. 😈


4/14/2022 2:17:29 PM

Socrates wrote, The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.”

Another way to look at it is that anyone who thinks they have achieved great wisdom clearly hasn't attained the wisdom to realize how little they still know, and are likely unworthy of the title wise.

I love that idea. I think it's capable extending beautifully for the scene.

If I ever tell someone they should trust me, rather that show someone who I am and hopefully inspire trust through my every action, I am probably undeserving of trust.

If I ever tell someone they should respect me, rather that show someone who I am and hopefully inspire respect through my every action, I am probably undeserving of respect.

If I ever claim to be a Master, having mastered myself, my ideas, my tools, it is likely I am simply displaying my deep unawareness of the more than a lifetime's worth to master.

Of course, they executed Socrates for what he said about wisdom. So, to all those Masters, who demand trust and respect, who have little cliques who award each other leather. I'm sure you totally deserve all you demand. Hopefully that didn't sound too sarcastic. The British accent makes everything sound that way!

3/6/2022 7:49:51 PM

I'm English. Where the language comes from.

Dominant is an adjective. It describes a thing. As in, "The dominant person."

It commonly gets shorted into noun form, as a thing unto itself. As in, "The dominant slapped some knowledge into the illiterate."

To dominate is a verb. It's a doing word. You use it like, "He dominated the test." "She dominated the opposition." "The dominant dominated the submissive."

When you find yourself writing the words, "I am a dominate," what you are actually saying is, "I am an illiterate twat who doesn't know the difference between a verb and an adjective or noun. Now please ignore that I can't apply enough thinking to use the language without hurting myself and please trust me with your safety instead."

Should you find yourself writing, "I am seeking my ideal dominate," what you are really saying is, "I am not seeking a literate disciplinarian as they would be forced to beat me until all of their toys broke."

As an Englishman, it goes without saying that the above is presented with hyperbolic sarcasm. But if we're struggling with nouns vs verbs, trying to explain sarcasm is unlikely to go well.

2/15/2022 9:01:34 PM

I like that former submissives know they can depend on me when they really need me.

Today may have gone a bit far.

~phone rings~

"Hey, what's up?"

"SWAT wanted me to call you."


"Yeah. My son is off his meds and holding me hostage. SWAT got called."

He was in no place to follow SWAT directions. She was too upset that they were going to shoot him. They were upset that she was too upset to follow directions and help them deescalate it. So they asked her to call someone she felt safe talking to.

And so now I can add Hostage Negotiator to my list of experiences.

2/14/2022 5:56:09 PM

The only people I judge are judgmental people themselves.

OK, and people who've asked me to judge them. But that totally muddies the nice, clean quote. ;)

I have kicked around this scene of ours for long enough that I remember when YKINMKBIOK was plain survival. Before the web got into every home, if you knew a few people in your area, who were into kink, you clung to them. It didn't matter that I was into the mental side of things, into D/s, while one of them was into sploshing, another into male masochism and the third was into vinyl. That there were three others who were just as weird as me was AMAZING.

The huge growth of the scene, that we worked hard for, has been a huge blessing. But it's also given us so many others, that we can find so easily, it's easy to slip into judging others because, well, we'll have plenty of friends left. Don't like the way they do rope? Let's label them as wrong or dangerous. Squick over diapers? Let's call them freaks and borderline pedophiles. Don't like the way they do heavy mental play? Clearly abusers! And look how much better it makes our insecure selves feel about ourselves that we've managed to tear down others!

That's not me. I can't do it. I'm not into Daddy/little. I'm not into diapers. Fifty Shades isn't my BDSM ideal. Mind you, I'm not a huge fan of O, or Gor, either. But I love that others are! I love that you freaks and perverts have  so much passion for the things you love. I think it's amazing, the really strong relationships you build around your interests. I am so deeply, deeply, happy that you can find peace in who you are.

Your Kink Is Not My Kink But It's OK. It's more than OK. Not for me, but I love that it works for you and good luck to you!

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