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Hetero Male Dominant, 51,  Clifton, New Jersey
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Back for a few to see if there is anyone who interests me. If I am communicating with you, you seem interesting.

If you think its all about you and your pleasure we would probably also disagree on other important stuff.

Photos? Yes, I have many for you - not the public. Ask nicely.












 Dominant Male


 New Jersey

 5' 11"

 210 lbs



 Not Listed



Actively Seeking:

Submissive female

Switch Women

 Lives For:


 Musical Theater


 Spanking (Expert)

 Nutrition (Expert)

 Writing (Expert)


 Art Galleries

 Fine Dining

 Going to the Opera


 Horseback Riding






 Anal Play (Expert)

 Cane / Crop Discipline (Expert)

 Collars (Expert)

 Gags (Expert)

 Blogging (Expert)


 Liberal Politics  (Expert)

 Poetry (Expert)

 Boxing (Expert)

 Kick Boxing

 Tennis (Expert)








 Corner Time (Expert)

 Exhibitionism (Expert)

 Eye Contact Restrictions (Expert)

 Foot Worship

 Hair Pulling (Expert)

 Obedience Training (Expert)

 Orgasm Control (Expert)

 Role Playing (Expert)


 Whips (Expert)


 Political Activism





 Bar Hopping


 Local BDSM Community

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Journal Entries:
10/31/2017 5:44:38 AM
The Mueller machine is amping up into high gear and Trump's crazy ass will be gone one day soon if there is a God.

7/27/2017 9:31:31 AM
The number of fakes on here is astounding, but I have methods in place for draining the swamp, so before you even think about approaching me in your guise, please know you will be found out in warp speed.

7/15/2017 6:06:39 AM
Just updated profile to include a couple of photos so my chat acquaintances can have some sense of what I look like.  

I have come to realize that there are some really bruised souls out there (in here), and an equal amount of heartless predators ready to devour them, leaving an indelible "scorched earth" impression - not so easily erased.  And while they may swear off this lifestyle or disappear into a long hiatus, their true nature brings them right back here, a lot more cautious, callouses on the soul but not yet "wrecked".  

My 2 cents on Dominance... If your so-called Dom is not well versed in who he is and what dominance is, how can he lead?  Dominance is not about bossing you around, putting heavy restrictions on you and sharing you with others. If you're being sexually leased out to others you're not a submissive, you're a whore - sorry. I'm not judging, just stop calling yourself a sub. Get paid for what you do (as a hooker or porn star) - you're not subbing, you're exploring your whore-ism.  

A true dominant male establishes his own protocols, laws, rules, etc. based on his needs and knowledge of self and what brings him joy and peace of mind.  Anyone who challenges this statement of what dominance is is trying to mind fuck you into drinking the kool aid they drank. Finding the right submissive or mate is about finding one who equally finds joy, peace of mind, etc. in being the female counterpart in that "Life" they share together. 

Although I have read plenty on the D/s dynamic it was never about learning the protocols and lifestyle etiquette established by authors or passed down through the ages; it was about understanding my own nature and knowing what the dynamic should look like and discovering that I could/should have it my way (within reason) - and I do. 

On a final note, I have read tons of so-called sub profiles wherein they refer to themselves as the "gift".  While this may be true, do understand that in this environment where the swamp is filled with more than a fair share of ill-intentioned predators the real "gift" is a confident, self aware, independent thinking Dominant. Consider yourself lucky or blessed to find one.

11/11/2016 8:39:44 AM
Thank you to those smart cookies who voted for Hillary.  Not so much that Hillary was the perfect candidate - she wasn't.  What she did represent in this election, was the opposition to something far more horrendous, damaging, absurd and a major threat to the Democracy this nation has been striving toward embracing.  And though the election was lost to barbarism, I still thank you for restoring me to the realization that the glass remains half-full, and I am not alone in keeping a fertile fortress for the future. Thank you for bringing to the foont the conversation of whether the Electoral College system should be discarded; Hillary won the popular vote. Thank you for having the intestinal fortitude of those freedom fighters who came before us, some of them sacrificing their lives, gring for something much greater than what we got this past election day. 

And to you others, the less educated and forward thinking among us, I thank you too. Thank you for totally F_ _ cking sh_t up!! Thank you for voting against your own interest, giving tax cuts to the rich so Trumps kids and their friends can buy more yachts to water ski behind. Thank you for virtually handing over the rights to a woman's reproductive organs and keeping the minimum wage frozen as the cost of living rises beyond your ability to make ends meet. Thank you for helping make the office of the presidency a global laughing stock and for anointing  a "First Lady" whose english sounds like the kind of spanish that you would not be able to order a taco with. Thank you for my new dilemma - Should I pack up and head to a Socialist country or just move to a red state and get rich selling "Snake Oil"?  I know where all the suckers in America can be found now.

2/28/2015 10:19:53 PM
Who can pleasure me with her mouth and ass without negotiating her pleasure first? Are there any bonafide servers out there? Let's see...

3/26/2014 3:14:38 PM

This is a complex venture, which requires an abundance of patience and LUCK to navigate all the obstacles that come with such a site.  


I understand that women/subs here must contend with the fact that this is a "free website" that any "Joe Blow" might hear about from a buddy promising him a dream where he can acquire an (inexperienced) woman who will do whatever he wants, whenever he wants and blah blah blah.  

That is the confusion these a-holes muddy the waters with, complicating the exchange/relationship we true seekers seek.  Unfortunately all you babes have to weed through a bunch of BS'ers in order to find a genuine Dom, with whom you may still have zero chemistry with - because "life is life" after all, but the journey is made that much more cumbersome and draining due to the opportunists trolling the site with bad intentions. Yeeeee!  Good luck babes! We ARE sill here in the haystack! Find us.


I know that we Doms have to contend with all the blockades and checkpoints the women we are communicating with have understandably put in place due to what I have stated above, and it gets tiresome as hell and draining to!!  The internet is very one-dimensional and not everyone is a good writer, or even those who are might not be in the right frame of mind at a given time, or suffers the awful mishap of being misread - ever get into a squabble over a misinterpreted text message?  The next step for many who find interest and intrigue from the sometimes "never ending" e-mails is the telephone or an "in person" meeting.  I keep my fingers crossed for those who make it that far.  This ain't easy!


My take...


9/29/2013 10:25:04 AM

I realize that I am not for most of the submissives  here.   I am bored by what I read in their profiles, though I may be attracted to certain physical attributes (mostly ass), but I am a cerebral dominant, turned on mostly by a sub who has discovered the portal through which her submission and intellect travel unencumbered by the "traffic jam" of doubt.  I have also come to grips with my own impatience for sculpting...


Something I read in a subs profile today inspired the following:


It seems there aren't enough of us "well balanced" men to go around. I am finding that some men are genuinely nice guys, while others can be any combination from the menu of "Un-refinement", which makes for Mike Tyson-ish behavior.


Most men's scales lean predominantly to either of the two dynamics and don't know how to be both strong and loving at the same time. Yes, these two characteristics can and should co-exist in a meaningful relationship.


I am an artistic mish mosh. I do a number of things in the arts, which rely on my ability to be sensitive and of a certain awareness.  This is the side of me that I offer in my public relationships. There exists however another part of me that is NOT separate from my public self, always hovering over (like an angel lol) that will not hesitate to shoot a swift kick in the ass of anyone (this means you too) who crosses certain lines and boundaries. I have always been this person.  I can be the Walter White of your worse nightmares when crossed or disrespected... but I am a loving, romantic, poetic, funny, blah, blah, blah... who could write the "Sadistic Manifesto For Dummies" if I put my warped mind to it.


I am not for everyone (Different Strokes!)


I am convinced that whether you are born into this understanding or socialized into it, it is/becomes a natural state of being for certain men and makes good sense.  We are not the same in our understanding or implementation of this dichotomy, which is a good thing. I just don't see either of the other two extremes existing in a vacuum with regard to how to treat a woman, or to view life in general. 


The D/s dynamic is very complex, but quite simple (contradiction... Not) and anyone who thinks himself a Dom should (in my opinion) possess both of the dynamics I mention above in order to be the proper Yin to the submissive's Yang. She needs your complexity to flow naturally, make sense at some point, and be evolving at all times in an intriguing, interesting manner. 


My two cents. 

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