Greetings and thanks for stopping by. I'm not actively looking for much more than folks to talk to.
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I like a girl who submits but isn't a doormat. Stupidity is the biggest turnoff there is . In subs I like independence tempered by loyalty. In a slave I like loyalty tempered by intellegence.
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I think the problem so many "doms" have is that they think they have all the power. True power in the D/s relationship is always permitted, and not taken. The idea of taking/giving power, or taking/giving control is an illusion which we cultivate to feed our desires. We take on parts which take on aspects of disrespect but to treat your sub with actual disrespect is to disrepect the gift of submission. You must, in daily life, cherish your sub, you must nurture their spirits. You must value their humanity and the gifts they give, or present to be "taken".

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The Dom and sub are equals in a partnership of mutual benefit - each has a role, to the outsider it might seem that there is a disparity in the structure of the relationship but, in truth, neither is superior to the other regardless of the nature of decision making power within the relationship structure. A person's worth as a human being is not set by the roles we choose to fill, though we can accentuate the value of our lives by finding the roles which suit us best.

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This doesn't mean I won't play hard when the situation calls for it. There is a big difference between how I treat one as a person and how I treat the same individual as a sexual being. There are behaviors which have to be placed into their niches and pulled out when appropriate. I would never hit a woman out of the context of the sexual relationship as a mechanism of contol through fear as there is a huge difference between play and abuse, and I feel that men who abuse women are the second lowest kind of scum on the planet.

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To reiterate though, I can and will play as hard as I need to and can get away with. I may love you and call you nice names during aftercare, but prior to that .... well...