I have been in this for 40 years, and I have met some great people over the years. Many wonderful subs of various levels of Kink. I am a sadist at heart. I can dial that up or down depending on the partner/sub. I do have limits to my level of sadism, if you're curious just ask. I have always kept the ideal of even in the craziest scene, there has to be safety. I grew up on the East coast, still trying to find a place here on the west coast. Public play used to be my thing when I was younger, but I have found I like more of an intimate place. I have my own playroom and love to host. It makes it easier than packing up all the rope and toys and what not.
I have a bit of a different vanilla side. I am married, and we have an open relationship practicing ENM. Early on she tried to get into being a sub, however, she has not a submissive bone in her. Pro tip, never let someone force themselves to try to be a sub. It's a train wreck LOL. I did find a submissive that I checked all of her boxes and she mine. Sadly the days of being able to do more than be platonic are long gone for her. She actually encouraged me to find a much needed play partner. I am different, and many of my subs have mentioned it. The different was amazing for them.I have been told that sessions seem to have this different level of intensity with me that some aren't used to.
