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Hi
We are an experienced Dom, and a beautiful sub, my lovely jane. We are in a LTR .
Although she is still experiencing all that this lifestyle offers she is wonderfully adventurous and very keen. She is my 'blank canvas' that I am introducing everything to :)
Its turning into a wonderful journey with shared fun and fullfilment.
We would also like to expand our circle of friends in the 'style' I think the scene is more a 'style' of life, rather than a lifestyle. Unless of course you own a castle! we are making new friends along the way and we are always keen for new experiences.
I am happy to advise others on the basis of mutual respect and we are comfortable to play amongst and with others in a safe environment.
I have 'Introduced or trained' several submissives in the past. Please be advised that I consider everyone unproven until they prove themselves real. This may sound a tad cynical but I and others, have been proved correct in this way of thinking, time and time again. I am now in a relationship that is for the long term which in the real world means all the vanilla things in life too. You don't get the frozen peas in the supermarket whilst your partner is in her "full pony girl rig", mind you ...??
We are interested in meeting people with their feet firmly on the ground and who understand the benefits and mutual pleasures of this "style" whilst understanding it's limitations in life. Those with a tenuous grip on reality need not respond.
Good luck and life to all.
Monte & jane x
Our Ideal Person(s) are all genuine people in the lifestyle who have respect for others and whom we can respect and trust. We also I like to keep it select and private.
That doesn't rule out a munch or fetish fair/club visit but I am very 'one step at a time'. we are keen role players. There are many great people in the 'style' and sadly some complete Pratt's, beware the 'I know it all' and 'everyone else is wrong' types. We am particularly interested in meeting those who have a real passion for life but who also realise there is another day to day world out there.
If you are someone who is keen and enthusiastic yet with your feet still on the ground we would be delighted to hear from you, be you a novice or an expert. Life and this style can be combined very successfully
I believe in our modus operandi ... Amoungst other things it contains these dozen points ....
1: Above all else, my submissisives health and well being comes first.
2: I Never underestimate the healing power of a cuddle :-)
3: I know she is more fragile than she might show, I therefore like to fuck her hard but love her tenderly
4: I am patient. Until I enter into a relationship with a submissive, I have no more right to order her around than anyone else. I take my time and give my partner time to get to know me ..... To like what I am and the possibilities for us both, that it represent
5: I try to remember to be modest. So many in this world are not. Life gives us all a chance to shine .. and chances to look a fool :)
6: I am open minded and open to new ideas and suggestions. Although as the top I am a considered to be the teacher in D/s and SM, I will always learn from my submissive, no matter how inexperienced. I am willing to learn from others. I will consider all input, even from those with a totally different perspective from mine. The decision whether to adopt any idea rest with me and I understand the responsibility of that.
7: Communication is all. I am responsible for finding out basic, essential information about my submissive, such as experience, limits, likes and dislikes, and their desires. I clearly agree roles, rules, limits and the like. I do not take for granted that my submissibe instinctively knows any ground rules.
8: I am forthright. If I lack knowledge or experience in an area that my partner would like to experiment with, I tell them so. I will then make the effort to learn more about the area concerned, so that I can then confidently lead them in that experience. Safety is always the first concern, taking priority over all else.
9: I am realistic. Its better for me to end the scene with my partner wanting more and not wishing there had been less! I remember that power, control, and sensitivity are important keys, not just the intensity of the situation.
10: No matter how hard or how softly we have played. The aftercare of my submissive is important.
11: I know that my sub or bottom deserves attention. I will always make them feel wanted and desired.
12: One size does NOT fit all :)
Just a thought :)
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