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| Most people look at me and they see what is on the surface, I am a veteran, a businessman, and a bit of a hard ass. I have lived a hard life that started with a tough childhood, and it is because of this that I have a pretty thick skin; but a rare few have seen what is behind that, someone who is caring, romantic, who has a good heart.
I will use the ogre's are like onions analogy here, the more layers you peel away with me, the more you will see.
I am very strong, very smart, well educated, very driven and motivated, I have been fortunate to live a very full and exciting life, and with that has come a great deal of experience that most men many years my senior will never get to have.
When it comes to relationships, I am someone who does not jump in or fall in love easily or quickly, but when I do I take it very seriously. I do know the difference between love and lust.
When it comes to the kink side of things, I have been active since I was 18, been a part of a few different communities in places I have lived around the country. I am by no means a novice or a newbie.
What I am looking for is a yin to my yang, I find that I am at my personal best when I have a submissive lady in my life that I am serious with and that we can do much more as a team that I can on my own.
I am looking for a lover and a best friend, someone who I do not grow tired or weary of, someone I can spend my day's with.
As I said before I am a romantic at heart, I love giving and getting affection, I do have an oh so sweet side that only the right girl can bring out of me, and it is when that part of me gets what it needs that I am happiest.
I am not all soft however, there is also the part of me that is a disciplinarian who will punish my girl when she misbehaves, and no, giving me the sad puppy dog eyes hoping I will forget all about it isn't going to work!
What I have to offer, is a solid D/s based environment, safety, security, and something that is real that I would hope leads to a loving relationship built on teamwork and earned mutual respect.
What I am not: I am not the guy who is going to put up with games, I am not the guy who is going to be your personal piggy bank, not to say I won't take care of my girl, but I am not your sugar daddy or personal ATM. I am also not abusive, if you are into being punched or slapped around, I am not your guy, not to say I can't get a bit physical and anmialistic when getting kinky, but there are few things in this world that bother me more than people who are physically abusive to those smaller than them.
To further illustrate my point on this, I am a large man, I can lift in excess of 150 lbs with one hand, and I am a fighter, I have the spirit of a warrior, in fact I was in the military and I have always believed in protecting those weaker than myself, that it is only a coward who uses their size to harm and intimidate others and my feelings on this stem directly from that rough upbringing I mentioned earlier.
I also will not cheat, I hate cheaters, I hate liars, I hate thieves, usually all three come in the same package, I have no use for them, nor will I be any of them. In fact sometimes I am too honest for my own good. I will tell you exactly how I feel about something, and more often than not, I will not sugar coat it.
So what you will find in me is a good honest man who you can depend on.
Now as for what I am looking for in you, I am big on faces, if I can't imagine myself looking at your face when I wake up every morning, if I can't imagine you sitting next to me in the truck and smile, if I can't imagine you kneeling before me looking up at me in a way that shows I have earned your respect and trust, then I just can't do it.
In a woman I am also looking for someone who takes care of herself, someone who likes to be pretty, who likes to dress up. I will happily admit I have a thing for short girls in corsets and tall high heels. Something about it just does it for me, especially when they will cuddle up to me in a way I know they feel safe (this just makes me feel really damn good, it gives me the warm and fuzzies)
At the same time I need someone with a high kink drive, I am an experienced player, I really enjoy having a woman in hard bondage and making her cum all over the place before fucking her silly, and I do have a large appetite for it, which means if you can't handle my level of kink, it is not going to work out. Don't get me wrong here I am not saying I can't handle someone who is new, just not someone who is too apprehensive and closed minded to try new things.
As far as the relationship dynamic, to be bluntly honest I am looking for a submissive wife type, I am looking for a relationship that is built around teamwork that is going to last a long time preferably the rest of my days. I have had my fun as far as variety goes, I'm looking for the "one" who I can work with towards a great future.
Don't mistake this however as me being ready to settle into being an old fuddy duddy, I love going on adventures, I love going new places, trying new food, I love to travel, and I really want someone to share the experience with.
Ideally my misses right will be the type that does not want to be used but who does want to feel like she is of use if that makes sense. I am not offering a girl an easy ride where I will give her everything she has ever wanted, in fact there will be a good deal of hard work on her part, but it will be hard work that comes with a reward, respect, admiration and love, and most importantly knowing that her service has been productive towards something good and meaningful.
I view D/s relationships as though they should be built on a partnership where you have one person who is dominant and a leader, the other a submissive and more of a follower, but I also firmly believe that being submissive does not equal being useless, in fact far from it.
Personally I think a relationship can not be successful unless it is built upon mutual respect for each other, and that respect is earned over time, not demanded.
If you have made it this far, well then thank you for taking the time, I know it is a bit of a read, and a bit scattered at parts, but I am trying to be as honest and upfront as I can because I am looking for something real, and if this sounds like what you are looking for too, go ahead and drop me a message and lets see if we make the spark that starts a fire.
Also please note, I did take the picture of the horses that is my profile picture, but they are not my horses, I am a photographer. I do however want to have some horses someday, they are amazing creatures.
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