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I will fill this out in greater detail later... You will understand before reading this that these beliefs are my own and I am more than entitled to them. I do not impose my beliefs on others. In the past, the kinds of women who tend to like me best happen to be submissive - and disclose this to me before I have even a chance to bring it up with them. We humans, organic machines, each process input differently. I am not telling you how D/s relationships work. I am telling you how they work and what they mean to me. It is inappropriate at best to correct me on my opinions or beliefs, although I don't discourage you from trying.
For me, it is about the bond. People have long known that relationships forged in extreme circumstances are stronger, notwithstanding people's 'chemistry' playing a large part. I like being extreme, exercising verbal and physical dominance to a woman, and then the serene feeling from comforting her afterwards. Considering the elements of my ideal relationship, we would see each other free from the facade of makeup and grooming. Her worshiping me after a long day when I am far from presentable; me seeing her in tears, a face distorted as I spank her red delicious apple bottom. I love that. Seeing our true animal selves. Then when we clean up and put on the cocktail dress and dinner suit to go out, we really appreciate each other that much more. But this isn't the element of the relationship I like most. I love slowly destroying boundaries... and I do not mean limits (although that helps). My ex girlfriend and I (in a non-BDSM relationship) could talk about anything. Popped each other pimples, went running together, I'd tweeze her eyebrows on occasion. Those kinds of boundaries are what I want to destroy.
Even in my vanilla relationships in the past, I can't help but biting girls, especially their lips. Forceful heavy petting and squeezing a girls entire body against my own have always been favorites. Mild choking... or really holding a girls neck and keeping my lips half an inch from hers as I caress her and as she tries to kiss me I retreat slightly... forcing her to choke herself on my stationary hand in order to touch her lips to mine... to be very specific. In more BDSM relationships I tend to like the full spectrum of female submission. Anything from barely sexual maid play, to physically abusive play. I like hair pulling and tossing a girl around like she is a doll. I like when a girl is playful, bouncing around and resilient to my throws and pushes, and it is more like a game and she is smiling and laughing but dare not speak or protest. Maybe she keeps trying to kiss me and I keep pushing her away but she is persistent. I like then a girl is in tears, makeup running down her face, with a low rumbling cry like an american classic car idling, and I keep pushing her further. Verbally destroying her, or physically abusing her, and with each hit or lick comes an outcry. I also like daddy play. But its not in the top 5. I'd like to act out this video I saw recently of a girl whose dad walks in on her dancing infront of a camera in a miniskirt and he freaks out on her, throws her to the bed, yelling at her. I like grabbing a girl by her hair, and if I am lucky I'll find a girl who has martial arts training, or is interested in taking a class with me because I would love to fight for real. That's another fantasy that isn't top 5. I also like to be possessive, but also need someone capable of possessing. I have had threesomes before, they were amazing, and while I would never turn one down, they just aren't for me. I would love to try a situation where a number of girl worship me, but am sure that orchestrating that would be time consuming and unstable.
I like to hit once or maybe twice more after the safeword... just so its clear that you don't really decide when it ends ;-) That can't be a problem for you. It also can't be a problem for you that I don't want this kind of thing to be known among my friends and family... to an extent I guess I should say. In public, we show no signs of our BDSM nature, we get along great, we are the couple people want to be like because we are kind of fresh and sarcastic with each other... we are playful and adorable. If we are hanging out with friends, maybe I ask you to get me a beer and I slap your ass as you leave. But then maybe when you get back with the beer you lay down next to me and put your feet in my lap and tell me to make myself useful and rub your feet. It is give and take. But it is extremely comfortable.
I like single malt scotch. I used to smoke, but quit. I do enjoy the occasional cigarette. I develop very strong passions for hobbies for short periods of time. The only thing this is not true for is women.
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