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| I’m very much focused on the master and slave relationship and it’s dynamic. However, how I view it, it isn’t what you probably might think, and therefore, what you might think of me. To start with, I don’t have a misogynistic view of women. I don’t believe women are inferior, just different, with weaknesses and strengths just like anyone else, deserving of respect, like anyone else that is owed that respect. My attitude towards this is not restricted to outside of a relationship. My behavior towards my lover would be dictated by how we desire it, in spite of the appearance.
Some would disagree with this point of view, but, that would imply that communications other than giving and obeying orders isn’t on the menu with slaves. I, for one, find such thinking suspect, at the very least. Without respect and communication, there cannot be trust, or a chance for love, and that will lead to abuse.
I don’t care to jump into a relationship; I prefer to date, getting to know someone, seeing if there is chemistry, and a potential future. To me, dating doesn’t involve much intimacy, other than things like kissing or cuddling non-sexually. While I have played without getting intimate, but, emotionally, such activities are empty to me. I’m not wired that way, preferring an empathic connection to my partner in order to be at my best, rather than mediocre. So, when I’m asked, I’ll decline to be a ‘service dominant’. It must be with someone I care about, having a connection, emotionally with, or I’ll feel it’s just pointless, or I’m being played.
My fetish list is probably not complete, and while I’m curious about some, I’m mulling over others.
While I’m open to possibilities, I’m more interested in making friends and building a social network with people that think along similar lines. If you find yourself interested, offer me coffee, or ask for coffee. We’ll hammer something out that’s sensible. Attending a munch with me would be ideal but, not required.
You might be surprised that I have interests outside of this lifestyle, and I don’t mind sharing.
Media: (Books, movies, music, games)
I prefer science fiction, but I’ve been known to enjoy other genres from time to time. I’m not a big fan of horror, but I’ll read or watch some decent erotica, drama, documentary and so on. I like the classics in science fiction, including some movies, but I find it hard to watch the grade B films. I’ve attended a few cons as well, but I haven’t done much in the cosplay arena, although, if given a choice, I may try to come up with a Peace Keeper uniform. I also enjoy dramatic Anime and Hentai as well.
Music isn’t exactly a passion, but I have some singles that interest me and they cover a wide range of genres. Too many to list, and really, it’s whatever the mood strikes me. I’m open to hear what someone might like to share with me, though. Just don’t be disappointed if I don’t get excited about music.
Video games are long the lines of science fiction first person shooters, but I have been focused on games like Alpha Centauri or Star Craft. These days I’ve been getting away from video games, mostly because they often get rather anti-social, or abusive. I can get interested in card games, but most I’ll have to relearn, or fake it.
Hobbies:
I enjoy working with my hands. Name it, and chances are I’ll be interested in taking a swing at it. I don’t consider myself an artist, but the activity is satisfying when I’m creating something. So far, I’ve worked with wood, plastic and metal. I’ve repaired cars and motorcycles, built, repaired and programmed computers and networks. I even like to teach about my active hobbies, including the lifestyle.
Active lifestyle:
I’m not as active as I’d like to be, but, that will change, given free time and scheduling. I used to be an athletic swimmer, and I’ll be getting back into that, along with martial arts, rock climbing, hiking, camping, hunting, target practice, kites, some sports, whatever I’ll have time for.
Education:
I’m constantly trying to learn something that has my current interest, so I’ll take classes occasionally, or do some self-study.
Community:
When I can, I help out at the food bank, but I might look for something else that is more in line with my education and experience, or not in line.
Privacy:
I’m protective of my personal space and my thoughts. I’m careful of giving anyone something that might be used against me. Respect and trust are the keys to gain entry. My net presence is quite low, so I can avoid being outed by those that are outside the lifestyle.
Values:
I place a high value on respect, honor and integrity. I suppose it might make me seem like I’m not a lot of fun, but I don’t enjoy seeing people abusing others, or gloat over their victories. I consider children the greatest treasure, but I don’t believe in coddling them. I consider polite behavior, from everyone, a lubricant, where people rub together socially.
I tend to be liberal, but sensible in my thinking, believing that cooperation and teamwork will bring the greatest results for the greater good. However, I believe that you cannot value what you have not worked for.
Something that I don’t value is the idea of sex for social standing or financial gain. I find such attitudes offensive. It’s just a business arrangement, not an emotional one. I won’t apologize for it, and it’s consistent with my preference not to play without an emotional bond.
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Looks like the prostitutes have come out of the woodwork in my area.
Just amazing, yet, SO stupid. I suppose that if it works, there are a lot of stupid guys out there too. |
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The number of fake profiles and active prostitutes in my area has basically exploded. It's just amazing. There was a time when collarspace was a resource for honest dating and discovery. Now? <sigh> |
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Dunno why I bother, really.
I guess the money in my region is too good to pass up. |
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It's been awhile, but I haven't had much to write about, and I'm not into excruciating disclosure. :)
Still searching, and dealing with events that I could do without.
I've sent out a few emails from time to time, but I never get a response. Granted, they're short messages, intended to just see if there is an interest. I just can't write out a long, involved email when all I am is just casually interested. Greater interest requires an investment in time and effort. A long email without much of that to start with just doesn't make sense to me. It's rather like sex. If it's casual, it's rather empty. You could get as much with masturbation and watching porn. Emotional content is null. |
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How to be 100% certain your dominant knows what you want.
FUCKING TELL US! |
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Four Steps to Finding that Magical Dom Who will Know How to Please you Without Even Asking
Step 1: Find a quiet place where you can sit down, close your eyes, and be assured of a few minutes' uninterrupted reflection.
Step 2: Take a deep, cleansing breath. Do your best to feel balanced and centered. Quiet your mind. Relax. Open yourself up to new truths.
Step 3: Now, repeat the following words to yourself, as many times as it takes, until you not only know and understand them, but you have accepted their fundamental truth:
There are no magical Doms. That motherfucker doesn't exist. People in books and movies aren't real. Real people have to go through the difficult work of communication, familiarization, and experimentation in order to determine whether they are compatible, develop trust, and ultimately find out how to relate to one another sexually in a successful manner.
Step 4: Once you have completed Step 3, and you have recovered from the shock and disappointment of the realization that fictional stories are, well, fictional, take comfort by repeating the following words to yourself, as many times at it takes:
Healthy D/s relationships can actually be much better than the ones in movies and books, because they involve satisfying adult activities like conversation, laughter, and self-deprecation. When you are not obligated to be magical and perfect, you are freed up to be human, which is much more fun. |
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Just created the chat channel #WhippingPost
Swing by and say 'Hi!', if I'm not away or sleeping that is.
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Let's play a game.
I ordered you to cunt polish my boots while I'm wearing them.
What would you do? |
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Okay, finally got a semi-decent camera that ISN'T on my laptop, and uploaded the latest pic of myself. Look! It's even got a time stamp!
I look a little greyer, but I'm told that's sexy. |
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I've come to the conclusion that while I'm not obese, I'm out of shape.
While I'll start taking daily walks to get started, it'd be nicer if I didn't have to do it alone, along with other exercise I'll be going after.
I don't have hopes that I'll recover my swimmer's body, but I'll aim for it as I rebuild my stamina.
I think I see why so many have weight problems. Weight control and body conditioning would work better as a team effort. |
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Here's a tip:
Get rid of the dinner plate.
Get a salad plate.
1/2 the plate is for veggies.
1/4 is for protien
1/4 is for starchy foods
Drink milk from an 8 oz glass or, drink juice from a 4 oz glass
You get only one serving per meal
You can't pile it higher than 2 inches
No sweets.
Cut your caffine to 1/3
Clear enough? |
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| Age: 60 |
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