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	I'm honest, intelligent and creative when it comes to dreaming up scenarios and think exploring with someone is the most interesting part....not repeating the same old scenario over and over. I'm ultimately looking for someone to explore all kinds of fun things (BDSM and beyond) together. I'm interested in someone that's willing to explore their fantasies and mine. I want to trust someone and earn their trust. I want a partner. I may be interested in some short term fun play in the right circumstances. Maybe finding a good slut to use....maybe with others? Who knows.... I enjoy administering a good spanking, the occasional flogging, and slipping some nipple clamps on as part of some sensation play and mind fucking...however, if you are a pain slut looking for constant beatings, I am probably not the right fella for you. I like a good torment. The long slow march towards the flash behind your eyes, the teeth-rattling muscle spasms that rack your naked, bound, flesh....but not before you beg, not before you promise all manner of wickedness. I am quite confident in my ability to provide a satisfying time for my compatible partners and they should be as well....or at least willing to learn....corrupting the innocent is unbelievably hot. Short-term or (preferably) long-term...I don't understand why you can't enjoy the short-term while looking for the long-term. You don't stop driving your current car while saving for another. As long as everyone is honest and communicates...it's hard for someone to get hurt, at least not emotionally. http://yourwantonreflex.tumblr.com/

12/17/2010 5:43:59 PM

I guess there is no such thing as common courtesy. So be UNcommon and show some.

It's not just here. I have found this on other websites as well. A price of doing business on the internet I suppose.

I don't message a lot of people. In fact, I can go months between initiating a conversation with anyone. I'm kind of similar in real life as well. I just typically don't start conversations.

When I receive a message, I try my damnedest to reply in a timely fashion....even if I am not interested. I did this even with a woman I found attractive and interesting, but there were things I consider as deal breakers in her profile as well. I wrote her back and told her I found her attractive and interesting, but these other items were a deal breaker for me. I even admitted that my deal breakers probably make me an asshole. (Actually, those are probably not in the top 5 reasons I'm an asshole, but that's not important right now.)

What is so difficult about telling someone "thanks but no thanks."? I mean take the compliment for fuck's sake....and give a little back with some fucking grace.

I'm not sure if honesty is even that important in these cases (and I am more often than not, what you would call honest-to-a-fault). I would recommend it, honesty is a truly liberating force for all involved....imagine never having to think "what if?" or "what was that all about?" or "what did I tell them last time I tried to cover my ass or not hurt their feelings."

It's pretty simple actually. Here, I'll even write you a standard reply that you can use as a form letter.

Hey!

Thanks for your message. I really appreciate it when someone finds me interesting/attractive enough to take the time to message.

You seem like a great person, but just are not what I am looking for right now.

I hope we both can find what we are looking for soon!

Take Care and Be Safe!

There ya go. Cut and paste that bitch. Maybe one day you can send it back to me. But that's not necessary.....you can just send me a "Fuck off, asshole!!" and I'll be infinitely more happy then no response at all.

Of course, this is not about the ubiquitous "UR HAWT, Wanna fuck?" or "I got 8 inches of steel for you to ride baby!" ( I do too by the way....but I need to know when you want to ride it, because I keep it in the garage and it gets a bit chilly during the winter.)

Those message can be met with silence....though I think it would be much more fun to send "ABSOLUTELY! CALL ME ASAP!!" and then block them immediately. They'll try to contact you for days just to tell you that you forgot to give them your number.

Anyway, that's my current ramble.....

Take Care, Have Fun, & Be Safe!!

☆MockStar☆

4/15/2010 9:40:38 PM

Eighteen year old Dom(me)s and subs.

Wow.

I'm not sure I even knew there was a BDSM community when I was 18. Although I must have because I had watched many Real Sex episodes on HBO. That's pretty minimal exposure and I certainly was not considering it at that age.

So it's interesting to me how many (for lack of a better term) youngsters are in the "scene"....and how many of them (mostly subs) claim to have years experience.

They may or may not have that experience, but it's kind of scary to think of who is introducing these youngsters and if they may be preying on their inexperience.

I guess that is the real danger....inexperience. When I think of older folks getting involved, I picture a bit of life experience behind them....less naivete. But that returns us to my previous point on how people think D/s relationships are another whole animal and don't apply what they know about the world to meeting and courting people in the "scene."

While it is the subs we usually think of, Dom(me)s should be worried about their inexperience as well.

Another human being is giving up control to you. They are placing their safety in your hands. They are mentally opening a pathway into themselves that can leave them profoundly vulnerable.

The trust being placed in you should not be taken for granted. Progress slowly and know the attachment that can form.

It's a lot of responsibility.

Some folks go willy-nilly through the relationships and have nothing but success.....I believe those people are the exceptions rather than the rules.

Of course all of this is relative to the intensity and degree of commitment in the relationship.

Basically.....use your head. Take some time to consider your relationships. Not only for safety and security, but for the closeness and intimacy that you can share.

☆MockStar☆

4/6/2010 7:50:46 PM

I still find it odd that people treat a D/s relationship as if it is completely and utterly a whole different species than a vanilla relationship. They'll jump in and out of relationships without building any relationship.....or think there is a guidebook that tells you how long you will see someone before there is a collar involved or a list of universally agreed upon definitions for sub, slave, bottom, top, master, dominant.

My philosophy is that two people have a relationship (even inside a poly family there is an individual dynamic between each pair of people). This relationship grows and is defined only by the people involved in that relationship. Their comfort level with each other, understanding, and roles change and shift as their experiences together shape and form their relationship. They may attach words to what they feel for each other that describe it to them and no one else....and that is all that is necessary.

A relationship lives and breathes. It ebbs and flows.

Sometimes, it even withers and dies.

But this is all true of the relationships of vanilla people, kinky people, Americans, Canadians, blacks, whites, men, women, and even children....

So it seems silly to me to think that there will be something different simply because there is a D/s element to the relationship.

So I seek a relationship...that will live and breathe...ebb and flow.

☆MockStar☆

4/5/2010 12:39:14 PM

So I just started on this site, though i have been on FL and Alt for a bit now...and at least friendly with the scene for nearly a decade.

I have in the past, taken it upon myself to warn sumbissives and tell them they need to setup a safety net for themselves when meeting "doms" or anyone really.

I even required that a sub that I met over the internet had a person to call for safety measures to during our first few playtimes.

All of this was without knowing of a single instance of someone being harmed or taken advantage of from my circle of friends.

Within reading less than 15 profiles of submissives on this site I have found someone who claims to have been basically kidnapped and raped and another who dropped in the middle of nowhere and possibly removed from her home.

WHAT THE FUCK?!?

Ladies and gents....you are engaging in activities that touch the darker side of human nature. This can be a wonderful release and an awesome expression of those feelings without doing real damage, but it can also land you in precarious situations where real danger is a breath away.

Don't simply "think they're OK" or "have a good feeling" about a play partner.

PROTECT YOURSELF!

Have someone call you at regular intervals and have codes for whether you are OK....for example "Everything is good." means send Rambo and "Everything is fine." means everything is fine.....

I know this interrupts playtime...but, who cares....you are in the process of building something anyway....the next time should be better anyway.

The person you call does NOT need to know the specifics if you can't bear to have them know you're kinky, just that you are meeting someone new for a date.

Also.....ask for references...most people in the scene have someone they have played with....or someone who has seen them play.

Go to a play-party with them....these are public and you are not as vulnerable.

Dom, sub, master, slave, top or bottom....your safety is YOUR responsibility ALWAYS.

Anyone who does not agree to your levels of safety comfort are not the right person for you.

I would NEVER endanger someone's safety or ability to ultimately feel safe behind my need to get a nut or to Dom.....and neither does ANY competent, worthy Dom.

It is part of the relationship.....to protect and keep safe those who have given themselves to dominants.

Trust is to be earned, not given until someone proves they are not worthy of it.

So go out, have fun, and PROTECT YOURSELF.

Don't even trust me on this...talk to other people....I'm just some asshole on a website....