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Hetero Male Dominant, 55,   , Minnesota
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I am here to find a woman/couple with enough submissiveness who is serious in submitting as a slave(s). I am serious about this. Im not looking for a girlfriend or friend with benefits or a wife.

I am also not looking for someone to live in my house and ruin my financial situation by sitting around and not contributing to it. That is called being a lazy leech. DUH!

I am looking for a slave woman. A female one. One that has been female her entire life. Possibly a slave couple.

Yes, I have been on this site for awhile. I havent found anyone lately. A few times that I have came close to a permanent situation. They just didnt work out. It happens.

Yes, I have experience and knowledge in the lifestyle and its activities. I dont lie about my age or experience or my interests or desires. Whats the point? It all could and would be found out in a relationship. I have been around enough to know that a relationship built on lies will not last.

To me, this is about living a lifestyle, not just about occasional play. Life is more than just sex. Therefore this is more than about sex. Owning a slave is about service, servitude, power, control, subjugation, submission, physical use, training, obedience, and yes sex too.

What I seek is simple a female/couple that will completely give of their being to become my owned slave. Willing to obey, serve, be open minded.

What do I have to offer in return?

House for her/them to live in

Training of her/them to serve me as I desire


Use of her/them in a variety of ways


An owner that cares for her/their physical, metal, emotional being

Chance to live life as she/they have wanted as a slave to a man

We are all individuals. If I am not for you, then be mature and move on. Keep your hateful comments to yourself. There is too much hate in the world today as it is.

However, if you are a female/couple between the ages of 27 and 55 and crave to be a slave to a man like me, then write to me. Tell me more about yourself. Ask me questions.

I also welcome respectful conversation with others.

Take care.












 Dominant Male



 5' 10"

 207 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Sub/Sub Couples

A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Breast Play

 Being Massaged

 Hair Pulling (Expert)

 Objectification (Beginner)


 Blindfolding you

 Canes and Crops

 Foot Worship


 Housework Service


 Orgasm Control


 Wax Play

 Comedy Shows

 Horror Movies

 TV News

 Political Activism

 Lifestyle BDSM


 Eighties Music

 Heavy Metal Music

 Rock Music

 Seventies Music







 Eye Contact Restrictions


 Massage (Giving)

 Obedience Training

 Spanking you

 Tickling (Beginner)

 Board Games

 Card Games


 Puzzle Games

 TV Sports

 Intellectual Discourse

 Paranormal Phenomena


 Country Music


 Hip Hop Music

 Nineties Music






 Coffee Shops



 Science Fiction





 Working Out

 Industrial Music


 New Age Music

 New Wave

 Punk Rock Music


 Show Tunes










 Latter-day Saints



 Curious About:

 Body Worship



 Corner Time

 Electrical Play

 G-spot Stimulation

 Rear End Play

 Erotic touch


 Sensation Play

 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Public Play

 Speech Restrictions

 Vacuum Stimulation



 Medical fetish play


 Female Sovereignty


 Opera Music


 Hard Limits:



 Computer Expert

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Journal Entries:
2/17/2022 10:24:17 AM

Still looking.

3/23/2018 5:49:30 PM
If you need money or don't have a job, then get a job. Show a prospective Master/Mistress that you can handle responsibility. Otherwise, why should anyone bother to give you the time of day?

11/30/2017 1:29:37 PM
Yesterday, someone sent me a message on here thanking me for my message to them. Furthermore, they inquired as to something specific that I had put in my message. 

I looked at it yesterday, but didn't have time to answer it.

So today, I had time to answer her message. However, I could not because she had disabled or deleted her account. 

Too bad for her. 
She will never know the answer I had for her.

That is life.

11/12/2017 7:56:23 AM
I turned 50 last Friday.  Still no slave or slaves. drat.

7/11/2017 10:40:21 AM
CS Chat is not working for me now, regardless of what browser I use. Java is the most current version.

6/14/2017 12:31:01 PM
I had been talking with someone for a few months. She had been planning to come fly in today. Using her money too "she" said.  But poof... her profile was deleted mid May. 

Totally sucks. I had lots of plans for her. Pain and control and rough usage.  Like I said - totally sucks.

6/14/2017 12:29:14 PM
Question: one chance, one honest answer. You can ask me one question. Any question, anything, no matter how crazy, dirty or wrong it is. No catch.

5/24/2017 7:59:58 PM
All it pays to do on this website is to exchange messages and never plan on meeting ever. Because that doesn't happen on this site.  Never.  Those that say it does, I wonder about them.

3/27/2017 12:30:59 PM
I'm accused of misrepresenting myself out here.  How?  By putting down who I am and what I seek?  That I have a non-blank profile?  That I am leery of those who have a blank profile?  That all sorts of flags go up in my mind when someone wants to meet in private right away with no communication and they have a blank profile?

Get your jollies somewhere else jerks.

2/23/2017 4:40:29 PM
Well it appears that I really need to concentrate on my job search now the shock of no longer being employed has passed.

11/9/2016 3:03:59 PM
It's my birthday tomorrow.

9/7/2016 9:47:50 PM
last 3 weeks... reached out to 10 different "people".  Eventually they turned the conversation around to money.  Scammers.  Is that all there is here?

8/31/2016 8:50:40 PM
Okay, now this silly site won't let me send messages.  WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

8/17/2016 6:38:47 PM
What's the deal?  Cannot send pictures anymore?  That stopped working in the last few days.

8/3/2016 10:23:26 PM
None of the "females" that are submissive or slave here are real or serious.  


Many of you wouldn't know what an "custom crafted" or "original" message from someone was if the person writing the message stripped you naked, tied ya up, and wrote it on your body themselves.

I am serious.

So many of you place demands or conditions on what you allow a dominate (Dom,Domme, Master, Mistress, Top) to do to you that you really are topping from the bottom. 

Get real.

The dominate is supposed to be the one in charge. D-U-H.  Stop living in Fantasy Land and do some research on what the roles in BDSM are supposed to be.


If you are out here to take money from someone... get lost you parasite.  People who WORK for a living EARN their money.  GET A FVCKING JOB LOSERS!

7/18/2016 9:15:22 PM
They say 70% of female profiles on Ashley Madison were fem bots and not actual people.

So far, my experience on CollarSpace has a WAY HIGHER PERCENTAGE of female subs/slaves who are nowhere near the real deal.  Meaning  > 70% are frauds, con artists, spammers, kids making up stuff, other people not serious about finding someone.

I have my standards.  I will invest in the time exchanging messages to build up a relationship.

However, if you just disappear or ask for money start spewing forth a bunch of damn nonsense, I declare the right to call you out as someone misrepresenting themselves via their profile and abusing CollarSpace beyond what it is intended for.

I ask others to do the same.  And report their asses to CollarSpace as scammers.

6/4/2016 10:10:55 AM
CollarSpace seems to run better on Firefox browser instead of Chrome.  Even IE worked decently.

3/18/2016 11:52:01 PM
I've chatted this past week or so with 3 different women who I thought each were pretty down to earth, pragmatic, and possibly a goo fit.  A few days later and... poof. They disappear from CS.  

What the heck?

Discouraged and disappointed.  Will keep trying though.  Maybe switching to a paid serice would provide something real and not ghosts.

3/15/2016 7:39:14 PM
I had a really awesome chat and exchange of messages with someone over the weekend on here.  I thought we were going to chat again tonight.  I hope she shows.

** fingers and toes crossed **

3/8/2016 3:44:10 PM
Watch out!!!! There is a wide spread disease striking only dominants that makes them want to leave the lifestyle.  It is called: How-naive-do-you-think-I-am-itis.  DUH. lol

1/12/2016 9:37:18 PM
Why are all these switches looking at my profile?  I am NOT looking for a switch. My profile is NOT set up to indicate that I am looking for one.  I will never switch.

1/12/2016 3:28:44 PM
Rough day. Rough life.  No one the help balance things out.

1/2/2016 9:21:26 PM
I see that 2016 is just like the past years.... spend a decent amount of time and effort in writing a sincere customized message to someone.  

Then what?  El poof-arino.  Gone.  After having a profile out here for a nearly a month.  Why should anyone even bother with this site at all.  It should be shut down because it is all filled with frauds, fakes, posers, thieves, swindlers, jerks just out here wasting time.  Probably cops out here too trying to trick people into meeting an underage person.

No one else is serious out here is what I am concluding.  No one cares. No one searches for a serious connection in the lifestyle on this site.  Because of that I call this site a fraud.

Life sucks alone.

12/20/2015 3:48:16 PM
This place seems to be an ever expanding wasteland.  Who else agrees with me on this?  If you do, please add this text to your journal here.

12/8/2015 5:31:06 PM
The world is a dark cold and lonely place.  The people here are liars, thieves, scammers, pretenders, and outright FRAUDS.  Their hearts and minds are colder than the world is.

12/6/2015 7:34:12 PM
Is there anyone serious about the lifestyle out here?

11/25/2015 2:54:54 PM
I wish everyone in the U.S.A. a Happy Thanksgiving!

11/7/2015 9:52:35 PM

9/3/2015 8:10:45 PM
It seems that somewhere around 79 of 100 women out here are fakes, frauds, phonies, time-wasters, pretenders, scammers or outright thieves.

I would guess that about 20.5 out of 100 women here really aren't a fit for me nor me for them.  I respect that and leave them alone.

That said, that leaves about 0.5 out of 100 women that I think possibly could be a fit.  I spend time composing messages for them.  

I've noticed that few of those messages that I send ever get replies. As a result my messages have become more basic and plain.  I mean, why put a ton of effort into something when the other person is not even going to be polite enough to reply? let alone even read?

I know you gals are swamped with messages.  But geez. Even a blind squirrel stumbles across nuts once and a while.  And if you reallly are searching, why not try reading more messages and responding?

I've gotten some nice lines of communication open then peter out after awhile. Something didn't work out. Oh well.  Still I am quite put off by people claiming to be submissive or even slaves that are unattached to not even read messages sent to them. If you're not going to make an effort, why not take down your profile and leave this site to those that really want to make a connection?  Seriously. Have some consideration.

7/23/2015 8:20:45 PM
Wow this week has gone by fast!

7/12/2015 9:10:31 PM
I cannot fathom the amount of lies and untruths that exist in peoples' profiles out here.  Do they really think we are complete idiots?  Do they think that every single email that I send them is an electronic version of a form letter? Do they really think I will send money to someone I don't know at all?   

All this really hurts those that are here to find a genuine connection.  Why?  Because f the massive amount of those phonies, frauds, thieves, liars, and pretenders the only sane reasonable course of action that men can take is that every profile out here falls into one of those horrible categories until the person attached to that profile can prove they are not one of those.

Pictures and movies are not proof.  They are easily copied/stolen.  Willingness to build trust over time and eventually phone and/or cam.  After that, with more communication... an in person meeting can take place.

4/23/2015 8:07:37 PM

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96% Dominant
93% Master/Mistress
88% Sadist
79% Daddy/Mommy
73% Primal (Predator)
70% Experimentalist
68% Bondage Giver
62% Brat Tamer
61% Voyeur
59% Non-monogamist
51% Pervert
45% Exhibitionist
43% Primal (Prey)
11% Vanilla
9% Degradation Receiver
8% Brat
8% Girl/Boy
4% All-Rounder
4% Bondage Receiver
4% Masochist
4% Submissive
0% Slave
0% Switch
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3/17/2015 5:57:08 PM
Is there anyone real out here?

3/11/2015 8:58:34 PM
Ya know, you all make it very easy on here for a fella to hate ALL women.

3/11/2015 5:53:53 PM
Why does it seem like that I am the only one that is serious here and the rest are not? I mean... jeeez!

3/7/2015 10:35:45 AM
I really like this one:

1/25/2015 7:43:11 PM
Wow.  TwinsFest for the Minnesota Twins was fun to go to once again. :)   First time since 2004 being there.

1/22/2015 7:31:34 PM
I wonder if she knows the jolt of power I feel when I see her in the house with only her collar on.  

I wonder if feels the excitement that I feel when paddling her flesh.  

I wonder what goes through her mind and body when I unexpectedly interrupt her domestic chores and enter one of the holes she has given over to me.

I wonder if my sucking and biting all over is enough by itself to send her into subspace.

I wonder where she is.

1/22/2015 4:26:30 PM
Ya I have been here on CollarMe/CollarSpace for awhile.  Not finding much for people with realistic expectations what it means to be a slave.  Realistic... meaning based in the real world and not in fantasyland of the internet.  Grounded in the real world where each one of us lives in when we are not on the internet.  

I'm not Bill Gates or Warren Buffet... neither are 99% of American men. So to me, that means 99% of American men looking for someone else will by the very practical need have the other person they meet to also work a job to contribute to the increased cost of having two people instead of just one in the household.  Practical.

Also, as a Master of any female I have as a slave, I will require they obtain health insurance.  Sure it is the law to have that.  Beyond what the law dictates, I think requiring health insurance demonstrates that I care about my slave and her well being.  I just am like 99% of people out there that I don't earn enough money to buy her health insurance as well as mine.

So there. I'm just being practical about things.  I don't live beyond my means.  I won't start living beyond my means simply to have a slave.  Slaves contribute.  Fakers just take take take.

1/19/2015 6:56:52 PM
Hmmm.  I thought that I may have found someone on this site that is a good fit for me.  Now I am not sure after getting the silent treatment.  Now I feel quite a bit like I was led on.  ** upset **

1/7/2015 3:21:19 PM
Ahh.. Wintertime in Minnesota when consensual (or not) electrical play also includes static discharge from one walking across the carpet and touching another person.

1/6/2015 4:20:30 PM

12/31/2014 10:07:18 PM
Happy New Year!

12/29/2014 8:45:11 PM
Seriously... This site makes me laugh.  All of the alleged submissives and those wanting to be slaves.  

Get real people.  

A slave has no power.  A slave cannot dictate what is done to or with her.  

Slavery is a Total Power Exchange with the Master/Mistress having all of the power and slave having none.

12/25/2014 12:51:55 AM
I wish a Merry Christmas to all out there.

12/20/2014 12:04:57 PM
Well Friday was an okay day.  Saturday has been nice s far. :)

12/18/2014 6:36:57 PM
Did anyone ever have one of those days (or weeks) where you feel mean?  Yup, I mean stupid people came out of the wood work in large quantities. Ugh!

12/1/2014 3:24:42 PM
I am the real deal here gals.  How real and how realistic are you?

12/1/2014 3:23:53 PM
Down to 235.

11/2/2014 3:14:08 PM
"DELETE UNREAD"...  ya know... if you don't give others a chance to communicate with you, you are not giving  yourself a chance to find someone.

9/6/2014 8:08:05 PM
If wishes were fishes.... there'd be no room in the ocean for boats.

7/25/2014 11:25:34 AM

7/22/2014 3:59:17 PM
It gets frustrating out here.  I should know.  But I keep on trying. I will achieve my goal of having a slave again.

5/12/2014 3:08:45 PM

Do you consider yourself extreme?  Then try answering some of the messages people send to you.


The messages that I send each are crafted individually and are sincere.


Again... if you consider yourself to be into extreme things, try answering those that take the time to write individual messages that don't harass you.  For CM that is extreme.


4/12/2014 10:56:17 PM

You know... there are a few thing I've discovered about life in my 4+ decades on this planet. The following are just some of them.

1) Life is too short.  Move or die waiting.
2) Trust is earned, not given. I ask how I earn people's trust. I do it by putting in time with them and being honest with them and helping them out.
3) One cannot wait for something to happen. You have to make stuff happen that you want in life.

I am real. Always have been. Especially so on CM and in my pursuit of my honest desire to own a slave.

4/4/2014 5:06:32 PM

I see a lot about pain or sex mentioned on profiles of gals on here.  However, one thing that is rarely mentioned in their profiles is service or servitude.  I wonder why that is.  I mean if one claims to be wanting a slave position in a relationship, doesn't that necessarily include service to their Master as well?

3/29/2014 5:33:50 PM

If you were a cookie and you would be a whoreo, please contact me.  LOL

2/5/2014 1:32:57 PM

All current leads are dead.  Back to square one.  Are there any females out there serious about being a slave in real life and NOT just talking about it?

2/5/2014 1:31:56 PM

She didn't respect that though.  Loser.

1/15/2014 6:55:26 PM

I have stolenwhorewife under consideration to become my slave. Please respect that.

11/24/2013 3:11:14 PM

Down to 240.  Was 300 three years ago.

10/28/2013 5:04:39 PM

REALLY am in the mood to flog and cane someone.

8/22/2013 9:24:43 PM

I am still on my long journey to find a female slave or two.

6/2/2013 10:13:01 PM

I am now an uncle twice over! :)

5/21/2013 8:32:02 PM

People who live in glass whore houses shouldn't throw phallic shaped things made out of stone!

5/9/2013 3:47:15 PM

Well maybe not.

5/2/2013 7:06:20 PM

I am really clicking with someone on here after so long.

3/21/2013 7:30:58 PM

Want a pic of me?  Ask.  There are two reasons why I don't have one up -- one is to keep my face from being discovered by coworkers or future co-workers.

3/18/2013 7:32:54 PM

I am here.  I am real. I am serious.  Are you the female I seek to enslave?

3/14/2013 8:29:32 PM

I am man, hear me ROAR!

11/18/2012 8:09:33 AM

Love the rubber bone in her pretty mouth.

11/10/2012 5:32:41 PM

birthday today. yippie I guess.  lol

11/3/2012 9:11:44 PM

Why does chat no longer work for me?  Grrrr at CM.

11/2/2012 8:00:06 PM

Back online after a nasty disk drive failure.

8/5/2012 4:32:50 PM

Ya know females... it is hard for you to find someone if you do not read, let along answer messages that men have sent to you that express their sincere interest in you. Geez.

6/11/2012 8:30:13 PM

So many LOSERS out here and so few real females seeking enslavement that UNDERSTAND what that means.

6/9/2012 7:09:45 PM

Ya know, I see profiles of professed slaves or submissive females that claim to be lesbian and also claim to be seeking extreme usage.  Wouldn't extreme for a submissive lesbian be use or ownership by a man?  I'm just saying here, think about it.

5/31/2012 8:01:18 PM

Where are the women out here?  All I run into are phonies!

5/14/2012 10:27:24 PM

I'm real. I have experience dominating women "in the flesh" so to speak.

3/1/2012 4:11:14 PM

Traffic accident at lunch. Ugh.  I though life was messy before! LOL

2/19/2012 7:16:00 PM

It is simple economics people.  If I take a slave, there are additional costs to keeping them.  Should I have to bear all of those costs by myself?  NO.


There is additional food that needs to be bought so the slave can eat.  That makes additional dirty dishes that need to be washed and she needs to bathe daily also.  So there is an increase in both water usage and consumption of natural gas to heat the water.  Since I want my slave naked or nearly naked while in the home with me, the heat during the winter has to be kept warmer.  Oh yeah, lets not forget the slave will sometimes be sick with a cold or flu or infection or sprained ankle or something.  Thus an increase in medical costs.


Since I am not rich (I would say more than 99.5% (995 out of 1,000) of the people on CM are NOT RICH, my need for any slave of mine to financially contribute to the household is NOT UNREASONABLE.


I have a decent full-time job, but there are bills to pay. I am not lazy or a bum. So don't accuse me of being that without having the facts.

10/21/2011 8:12:37 PM

I wonder.... does the size of a tramp stamp indicate the degree of tramp she is?

10/17/2011 5:03:40 PM

Nov. 10th.... birthday coming up (again). This concept of having a birthday every single year is a bit overblown isn't it?  LOL

10/10/2011 8:07:52 PM

Have been chatting and exchanging messages with a well mannered submissive slut.  Her attitude and experience and candor have been very refreshing!  Definitely someone I wish to continue exploring a potential relationship with.

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