"So we shall let the reader answer this question for himself: who is the happier man, he who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on shore and merely existed?" Hunter S. Thompson

"I figured out it was a social thing,what women were allowed to do.
At a very young age, I decided I was not going to follow women's rules."
Joan Jett ****************************************************************************** Welcome to my profile page! My name is Miss Karen. I am a Female Dominant, 7+ years serious involvement in the lifestyle, who is also an attractive BBW lady. I love to talk about D/s and enjoy growing local connections with like minded people for friendships, outings, events, and munches within the Philly suburbs area. I have grown strong friendships with some awesome local folks via lifestyle groups. Outside of D/s I am a full time college student. I am working on a doctorate in psychology. In the future I plan to do counseling and specialize in the behavioral health needs of LGBTQ individuals. I dabble in writing and enjoy art and artistic pursuits. See my vanilla-y interests in my journal section. I also work and do various research internships. I am a very original person, I definitely follow the beat of my own drum. I love to laugh and have a good time. I adore gender fluid boys and transgender individuals in all forms and I think that they make very special, unique, subs. Also interested in developing a D/s dynamic with a female submissive. I love tattoos and edgy punk/alternative looks as well as rock-a-billy boys, feminine pin-ups, and retro/vintage clothing. Unique looking girls, quirky natural girls and geeky personalities also appeal to me. Honesty and respect are very important in my world and are also qualities I look for in people I associate with. My relationships: I am married and my husband has had fun being present or watching certain aspects of my sub's training if everyone is agreeable, and when I see fit. He is curious about bdsm, and supportive, but not as involved as I am--he is mostly vanilla but occasionally kinky. We are a loving couple with an excellent relationship. We have been married for 11 years and together for 15. He is my number one priority. I have an amazing younger cd mtf girl, allison, who accepted my collar in September of 2011 and she is wonderful and sweet. She moved in with us in May 2013 and we are now a poly household. It's working out very well. I am open to including a gf, tg or female sub who is open minded, low-drama and perhaps bisexual or bi-willing. Lesbian is great too. I will respect your sexual limits. Also open to playing with select others if a right fit. More about me as a Mistress, and what I like in a sub partner The mental side of domination is important to me I want to learn about my sub, find out what makes them tick--get in their head a little and explore all the good spots. I'm more into creative spontaneity rather than repetitive protocols in general, though protocols can develop with time. Safety is paramount and I crave to learn everything about a technique and become proficient before experimenting. I love toys and gadgets, and to combine different things into complex scenes that are both mental and physical. Seeing my partners arousal and reactions excites me. I like to get my way and I like to be amused. I strive to be innovative and am open to new ideas, and learning new skills and methods to accomplish my kinks. I relish control and I like to see my sub helpless. I prefer subs with strong fetishes and I enjoy responsive subs who get red, squirm, look shocked, or are verbal. I prefer to wear the cock in my D/s relationships. My D/s interests include (but are not limited to):
Sexual role reversal, Strapon sex. Topping. Dirty talk, name calling & pet names, teasing and denial. Spanking, paddling, flogging, whipping, discipline, tiny tortures, breast torture, cbt, cbb. Creative S&M. Medical play--invasive exams-medial gadgetry, needles and pokey things. Outdoor play. Sexual situations and games. Rope bondage and rigging, pretty knotwork; tightly wrapped saran and bondage tape--anything that binds tight and is inescapable. Predicaments. Body worship, orgasm control/chastity. Forced orgasms/humiliating orgasms. Controlling sexuality. Blindfolds. All kinds of Ass play--insertables, enemas. Objectification. Servitude and light maid/house service. I enjoy seeing my sub wearing whatever outfits I have picked out for them, or seeing them nude in bondage. I love it when someone's look and personality make sense and come together to create their own unique sense of style. I like my sub to be well groomed to my standard. Honesty and openness a __MUST__ in anyone I associate with. I am a very truthful, direct and straightforward person and I expect a similar ethic in return. I believe a sub has to be self-supporting and be able to drive to me. They must be motivated and willing to work at maintaining a D/s commitment. I have found in the past many people who want the fantasy of being a sub/slave, but cannot cope with the reality of up-keeping grooming, doing tasks, or other things which are important to me and which they initially agreed to. What a person can accomplish and tolerate in reality is more important to me than fantasies that are not realistic. I like intelligent people who can be social outside of D/s and who like laughter and good conversations. Ideally I enjoy long term connections with one or two subs, and strong friendships. I generally don't enjoy one-time, anonymous playdates. I am past the "try it out" stage and I don't want to waste my time with someone who isn't sure if they want to serve, or who can't maintain something equal to a vanilla friendship with me. I find the sensual side of domination very personal and prefer to share that with only individuals I know well. I am polyamourous and that type of connection is a possibility but is a slow process for me.