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Pan Female Mistress, 40,  Oaks PA, Pennsylvania
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"So we shall let the reader answer this question for himself: who is the happier man, he who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on shore and merely existed?" Hunter S. Thompson

"I figured out it was a social thing,what women were allowed to do.
At a very young age, I decided I was not going to follow women's rules."
Joan Jett ****************************************************************************** Welcome to my profile page! My name is Miss Karen. I am a Female Dominant, 7+ years serious involvement in the lifestyle, who is also an attractive BBW lady. I love to talk about D/s and enjoy growing local connections with like minded people for friendships, outings, events, and munches within the Philly suburbs area. I have grown strong friendships with some awesome local folks via lifestyle groups. Outside of D/s I am a full time college student. I am working on a doctorate in psychology. In the future I plan to do counseling and specialize in the behavioral health needs of LGBTQ individuals. I dabble in writing and enjoy art and artistic pursuits. See my vanilla-y interests in my journal section. I also work and do various research internships. I am a very original person, I definitely follow the beat of my own drum. I love to laugh and have a good time. I adore gender fluid boys and transgender individuals in all forms and I think that they make very special, unique, subs. Also interested in developing a D/s dynamic with a female submissive. I love tattoos and edgy punk/alternative looks as well as rock-a-billy boys, feminine pin-ups, and retro/vintage clothing. Unique looking girls, quirky natural girls and geeky personalities also appeal to me. Honesty and respect are very important in my world and are also qualities I look for in people I associate with. My relationships: I am married and my husband has had fun being present or watching certain aspects of my sub's training if everyone is agreeable, and when I see fit. He is curious about bdsm, and supportive, but not as involved as I am--he is mostly vanilla but occasionally kinky. We are a loving couple with an excellent relationship. We have been married for 11 years and together for 15. He is my number one priority. I have an amazing younger cd mtf girl, allison, who accepted my collar in September of 2011 and she is wonderful and sweet. She moved in with us in May 2013 and we are now a poly household. It's working out very well. I am open to including a gf, tg or female sub who is open minded, low-drama and perhaps bisexual or bi-willing. Lesbian is great too. I will respect your sexual limits. Also open to playing with select others if a right fit. More about me as a Mistress, and what I like in a sub partner The mental side of domination is important to me I want to learn about my sub, find out what makes them tick--get in their head a little and explore all the good spots. I'm more into creative spontaneity rather than repetitive protocols in general, though protocols can develop with time. Safety is paramount and I crave to learn everything about a technique and become proficient before experimenting. I love toys and gadgets, and to combine different things into complex scenes that are both mental and physical. Seeing my partners arousal and reactions excites me. I like to get my way and I like to be amused. I strive to be innovative and am open to new ideas, and learning new skills and methods to accomplish my kinks. I relish control and I like to see my sub helpless. I prefer subs with strong fetishes and I enjoy responsive subs who get red, squirm, look shocked, or are verbal. I prefer to wear the cock in my D/s relationships. My D/s interests include (but are not limited to):
Sexual role reversal, Strapon sex. Topping. Dirty talk, name calling & pet names, teasing and denial. Spanking, paddling, flogging, whipping, discipline, tiny tortures, breast torture, cbt, cbb. Creative S&M. Medical play--invasive exams-medial gadgetry, needles and pokey things. Outdoor play. Sexual situations and games. Rope bondage and rigging, pretty knotwork; tightly wrapped saran and bondage tape--anything that binds tight and is inescapable. Predicaments. Body worship, orgasm control/chastity. Forced orgasms/humiliating orgasms. Controlling sexuality. Blindfolds. All kinds of Ass play--insertables, enemas. Objectification. Servitude and light maid/house service. I enjoy seeing my sub wearing whatever outfits I have picked out for them, or seeing them nude in bondage. I love it when someone's look and personality make sense and come together to create their own unique sense of style. I like my sub to be well groomed to my standard. Honesty and openness a __MUST__ in anyone I associate with. I am a very truthful, direct and straightforward person and I expect a similar ethic in return. I believe a sub has to be self-supporting and be able to drive to me. They must be motivated and willing to work at maintaining a D/s commitment. I have found in the past many people who want the fantasy of being a sub/slave, but cannot cope with the reality of up-keeping grooming, doing tasks, or other things which are important to me and which they initially agreed to. What a person can accomplish and tolerate in reality is more important to me than fantasies that are not realistic. I like intelligent people who can be social outside of D/s and who like laughter and good conversations. Ideally I enjoy long term connections with one or two subs, and strong friendships. I generally don't enjoy one-time, anonymous playdates. I am past the "try it out" stage and I don't want to waste my time with someone who isn't sure if they want to serve, or who can't maintain something equal to a vanilla friendship with me. I find the sensual side of domination very personal and prefer to share that with only individuals I know well. I am polyamourous and that type of connection is a possibility but is a slow process for me.

Friendships with Dominants and submissives for camaraderie, fellowship, exchange of ideas are always welcome.
My Ideal Person: Cute, maybe bi-willing, female sub or tg sub, fairly local, for regular part time service. No drama. Be fun, pervy, masochistic, intelligent and dedicated.











 Dominant Female

 Oaks PA 


 5' 8"






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Transgender

Submissive Female

Switch Women

 Lives For:

 Anal Play (Expert)

 Body Worship

 Bondage (Expert)


 Medical Play (Expert)

 Spanking (Expert)


 Strap-Ons (Expert)

 Psychology (Expert)




 Breast Play


 Genital Punishment

 Local BDSM Community

 Domestic Service

 Massage (Getting)

 Plastic Wrap (Expert)




 Whips (Expert)

 Body Art



 Polyamory (Expert)

 Eighties Music

 Punk Rock Music


 Bar Hopping



 Canes and Crops (Expert)

 Chastity (Expert)



 Electrical Play


 Foot Worship


 Hair Pulling

 Housework Service



 Mental Bondage

 Munches (Expert)

 Obedience Training


 Orgasm Denial

 Maid/Butler Service

 Outdoor Bondage

 Pantyhose Fetish

 Public Play



 Wax play

 Horror Movies

 Science Fiction


 Heavy Metal Music

 Industrial Music


 Curious About:


 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Sensory Deprivation

 Vacuum Stimulation (Beginner)

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Journal Entries:
8/21/2014 9:22:17 AM
Open to meeting a TG, GF, or female subbie at this time for regular play, service and  friendship and if a right fit possibly becoming more with time.
No terrified newbies or game players.. be serious, be dedicated. Be willing to match my efforts at making it work and willing to have the best time of your life.

4/5/2013 7:04:13 AM

Though I am not in a hurry, I'd like to find a submissive, bisexual female or even lesbian female to play with. I would enjoy having a girl submit to me with all that that entails and develop a bdsm relationship with a woman.


A fantasy of mine is to have someone willing to play not only with me, bdsm scenes and sexually but to interact with my other sub and hubby sexually on my direction.  Its not a requirement,  but it would be an amazing bonus for me to have that control.  If a girl happens to be a lesbian and interaction with a male is a hard limit, I would respect that without hesitation and never push the issue. I realize that my fantasies are not universal and that play is best when trust is there and my partner's needs and values are respected.


As far as sexuality- Safety is always paramount, we have a closed circle here sexually and I intend for it to remain safe.


If you are a girl who is interested in my profile and local feel free to message me. I am still searching.

7/14/2011 4:23:28 AM


I am still with allison my cross-dressing girlyboy sub and she has moved in to my home and we are now a poly household.  She is still wonderful and our play is amazing.  Now hoping to explore my bisexual side and find a female sub to enjoy. Thus far I have a charmed life.. I have met some amazing individuals and found my niche as a female Dominant. Very Happy in this new year!




Its been about 6 weeks with allison.. and she is amazing! I feel very lucky to have met her she is a wonderful sub and she sends me to my Domme space almost instantly when we play. Feels like I have known her forever. She just fits so perfectly.


She's going away for a family vacation this week for a week... I might go through withdrawal!!


I'm so happy right now... wow.

It is possible to meet the right person(s) via the net. If you are feeling sick and tired of searching when your reading this, don't give up hope! May take a while to find, but a match is out there.

3/9/2010 10:22:54 AM

Don't waste my time if you :

- are looking for one-time playdates with a variety of Dommes.
- are in a relationship that requires you to hide your bdsm activity
- cannot serve one full day, or evening, 2X a month
- are overly masculine if you are a boy (musclebound, full facial hair you won't shave etc)

- refuse to shave legs or armpits if you are cd or a girl
- do not find female plus size bodies attractive
- are looking for a sugar momma
- are unwilling to participate in strap-on play in some form -oral or penetrative
- want a Domme who is heartless and cruel all the time

9/18/2009 11:25:29 AM
I get allot of messages and I do like to respond to 95% of people who write to me. People who have read my profile and are seriously seeking or looking for a friendship connection.   I dont come on here everyday.. so your mail may sit a while in my inbox.  Once a message is a few days old it seems that many of the profiles associated with people disappear or become inactive.
If I see that a profile is inactive or frequently inactive, I dont respond to that mail.
So, I guess the moral is... If you really want to hear from me (and probably other dommes as well) hang in there! Don't take off so quickly.

5/4/2009 11:16:27 AM


Mid century modern furniture and collectibles/archicture, interior design--atomic fabrics, pin-ups and pin-up photography, amateur photography, making wine & wine festivals, beer-- micros/imports/artisan brews, cooking-I'm a foodie, cake decorating, Cadillacs--esp eldorado, classic car restoration. Camping. Writing, reading, creative thinking. Flirting. BBW fashion, retro high fashion, fashion in general. Spending time with friends--entertaining. Vintage fetish art, BBW art and photography. Tattoos. Intelligent conversation and debates, Music, concerts and local bands in small bars. Vacations and day trips. Board games (I always win..haha), card games and video games. Actual shopping and window shopping. Gardening, organic food, going green(using natural products). Movies--film noir, 60's sci-fi, 70's car chase, classics, and all kinds of modern movies as well...accompanied by popcorn with sea salt and real butter. Oh and I love wonder woman!

4/20/2009 8:51:25 AM
What I desire is a local sub I can get to know well and play with regularly like once a week, for a long term connection and possible collaring with the right person. I'm married so my D/s relationship with sub is not my primary relationship, though my hubby knows and sometimes participates. It's not practical for me to seek someone who needs to relocate, wants a full time exclusive relationship, or has to travel far to get to me.

NO cyber requests.  I don't do online play.

4/16/2009 9:35:19 PM
I have recently started having a shibari workshop at my house on Monday nights with 6 people including myself, attending as students to a Philly-local  shibari master.
It has been really great and I apparently I am a natural and a quick learner!
I am really pleased with how my rope work is turning out and I think I have found a new branch to my bondage fetishes. Hopefully we will be rigging suspensions in my basement in the future!

3/5/2009 1:29:19 PM
People who approach me for friendship: this RARELY and I mean VIRTUALLY NEVER includes occasional domination, you getting to touch me, me spanking you or any exploitation of me for your kinks.

Definition of friendship-- Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.

3/25/2007 8:02:24 PM

Just a few thoughts to throw out here on the difference between pro domination sessions and non-professional servitude..... pro sessions and the personal choice to be a slave are two different things. When a submissive goes to a pro, the sub is in charge. He presents a list of requests and the domme fulfulls them. It's the business of fantasy fulfillment by the hour. If  a sub  is expecting a woman to be his free pro-domme then she is in service to him.
If the submissive is making the choice to hand over power and control to his Mistress, then he isn't in charge. He willingly gives that up. It may look the same from the outside, but it's entirely different from the inside.

3/16/2007 9:29:05 AM
I thought I would list some other things about myself and what I like.  I am very straight forward, honest and expect the same from you.  Here's a pet peeve--Don't make me tell you how to approach me--think about what you are saying and how you are saying it! Be polite, don't beg my attention, read my profile! Be as respectful to me as you would asking any lady for a date. Don't waste my time with cyber requests.  I chat to get to know those interested in RT play or friendship only. I like intelligent conversation and expect you to be a friendly, open person who I would enjoy having coffee with and talking to casually.

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