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Looking for playmate or longer term subslave. Experienced and caring but strict attached Dom. Fit, attractive, intelligent and creative professional, loves controlling female submissives via bondage, discipline, humiliation, and hypnosis (to name a few).

I am married, and she understands my need for bdsm sex.

I seem to be addicted to submissive female profiles and can peruse them for hours. Ive played with many submissives and recently I am finding the slave nature to be particularly enticing. ves - For those interested, I enjoy online play using hypnosis. This makes online play very realistic. You can actually feel my hand swat your ass, or the leather cuffs around your wrists as if they were real. This makes for interesting possibilities and play. AND - it is always consensual and ethical.If interested in learning more - drop me a note.
4/29/2013 12:00:15 PM

Top 5 Regrets of the Dying.... or... I would reframe it ias:

Things I want as I LIVE

 

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

4.  I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish I had let myself be happier.

 

From: http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Top-Five-Regrets-Dying/dp/1848509995/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1367096226&sr=8-1&keywords=top+regrets+of+the+dying

4/3/2013 1:06:59 PM

Isn't it funny how limited our awareness is?

Think about it...the unconscious mind processes millions of inputs simultaneously,

While our conscious awareness can only handle 7 inputs at once... (+ /- 2)

So even though your unconscious is aware.... you conscious mind may not be aware of

which hand feels warmer than the other at the moment....until you shift your attention to it.

...And even feeling which hand is warmer...

...You have to shift your attention again to find out which hand feels heavier than the other.

And shifting again, you can notice sounds within the room you are in...

And there are sounds in the room that you may not notice...

And there are sounds outside the room you are in that you can notice....

And sounds you don't notice outside the room....

So there are sounds you notice inside the room and outside the room...

While not noticing sounds outside the room and inside the room...

All at the same time...

And you can be aware of your breathing...

Yet even as your awareness shifts to your focus in reading my words....

You continue breathing even without being aware of your breathing...

And you continue reading my words even though your attention may wander elsewhere...

And what if your attention was on the pleasure you feel in your body at the moment....

And how that is different than the pleasure you can feel in your body at another moment...

And you may also consider how the pleasure you are not feeling....

May be like the pleasure you are feeling...

And just by considering, you may be feeling even more pleasure than you were when you started reading this...

And imagine what you would look like...

if there were another you...feeling 10 times the physical pleasure....

What would that other you look like?

What would that other you be feeling?

What would that other you be hearing?

And let your awareness now gently move out of your body and into that you that is experiencing 10 times the pleasure.

As you settle in, notice where you attention wanders to first...

… and notice how good it feels...

… and where does you attention wander to next....does it move...

… notice what you see....

… what you hear....

… and what you feel...

maybe you can take a deep breath....and bringing these wonderful feelings back with you...

… shift your awareness to the here and now...

...and have a wonderful pleasurable day/night

4/12/2012 9:49:32 AM

Collarme is a great tool for meeting people.  Everyone seems to have their unique combination of needs, likes, cravings and turn ons.

It seems that there are some people for lack of  a better term, I'll call them emotional sadists, who will send a first messages with uncalled for vile, and then block the sub from responding.  I believe they are aroused by the sub's frustration and public response.  It seems every other profile and journal talk about this bizarre behavior, which is exactly the response they are looking for.  It gives them power (I guess). 

 

If you want to dissuade them...then don't respond publicly, ignore them.  This has the added benefit of making your profiles and journals much more readable and inviting.

8/30/2011 9:12:41 AM

This is an interesting talk on the Power of Vulnerability.   When viewed in the light of a D/s relationship, I believe there are some lessons we can learn from it. 

 

A major takeaway is that connection is a factor of vulnerability.  Is that new to submissives/slaves?   I've stated before that because of that vulnerability submissives/slaves live in a technicolor world of connection that is only seen in black and white by the vanilla.

 

One snippet that I'm chewing on at the moment.  "Shame can be easily understood as the fear of disconnection. Is there something about me that if other people know it or see it, that I won't be worthy of connection."

 

As I consider some humiliation and embarrassment that may be in a D/s relationship, I  understand (some) of how it is so powerfully connecting.  The humiliation begins and the fear of disconnection grows.  As the Dom/Domme is pleased, happy, shows acceptance, there is a deeper connection made.  Acceptance in spite of knowing a deep vulnerability. 

 

This is very powerful.

 

As I read profiles it is strange to see that a "fear of vulnerability" is often the thing that keeps people from connecting. 

 

Enjoy!  Hopefully you may learning something.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o&feature=player_embedded

3/30/2011 7:59:38 PM

I bet this company would provide this service for your Collarme profile.

 

http://www.aolnews.com/2011/03/28/new-company-promises-to-give-you-a-pretend-facebook-girlfriend/

3/3/2011 12:40:59 PM

I wonder if any of these profiles end up on CM. 

 

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2011/02/22/exclusive-militarys-persona-software-cost-millions-used-for-classified-social-media-activities/

3/1/2011 7:44:47 PM

Everyone experiences hypnosis differently. Some find that as they notice and focus on their breathing that they can feel a calm begin to grow inside them. And as they continue to notice their breathing, they can carefully notice a deepening relaxation with every outbreath.

 

And you can easily understand that relaxing is as simple as watching a sunset and feeling the quietness of the scene envelop you like a warm blanket. As you imagine the quiet of a beautiful sunset, notice the feelings in your body and find where do you feel the most calm? Because everyone is different and feels a deepening calm in different places. When you find it, you can mentally spread it all around until the calm deepens and covers you.

 

And I wonder if you have noticed, how when you are relaxed and getting comfortable, you can find a place in your body that you can relax just a little bit more; and you can get just a little more comfortable. And as you relax just that little bit more, I wonder if you realize how much easier it is to learn as you continue to quiet your body and mind.

 

You may notice that the more you can enjoy your own mental quiet, the easier it is to momentarily, mentally let go of your body and let yourself float. Some people really feel themselves floating and experience a very pleasant detachment from their body.

 

And as people relax deeper, they find their imagination becomes much more vivid and powerful. And the more you relax, the easier it is to imagine anything. And if it's right for you, you can imagine now the feeling of pleasing your Master or Dom, as it grows inside of you. As it continues to grow, feeling more and more wonderful, notice where in your body that you feel it first. And as it continues to grow to the most wonderful experience, notice where in your body it's the strongest. Take a moment and enjoy that feeling.

11/16/2010 10:15:07 AM

The right words can have such a powerful effect on the mind, body, and sex.  The right phrase at the right time can send you to wonderful places.  The same word to different people will always have different meanings...which is why I like this quote so much.

 

Words differently arranged have different meanings, and meanings differently arranged have a different effect. -Blaise Pascal, philosopher and mathematician (1623-1662)

11/10/2010 9:31:48 AM
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I was encouraged by an engaging submissive to write this journal. The following is something that can be read, and imagined vividly, and if you have a good imagination, it will provide you with a short mental vacation.

 

In the following I have you imagine vividly being bound, hooded, and describe sensory deprivation. I realize that a hood and sensory deprivation are not for everyone, so if this is appealing, then read on.

 

Take a deep breath and as you exhale slowly. For just for a few minutes, let your thoughts focus on this journal only. And know that no matter how relaxed or into subspace that you go, if your attention is required, you will always be able to SNAP OUT OF IT immediately and be COMPLETELY REFRESHED AND ALERT. And all effects of the hood or bondage will be completely gone.

 

So for now, focus intently on my words and prepare to imagine vividly. Let the outside distractions fade into the background like soothing ocean waves, which allow you to enter a deeper subspace the more they continue.  And know that if your attention is required, you can snap out of it immediately.

 

As you continue to read, imagine that you are naked, bound spread eagle, and wearing a hood. And you can continue to read, even though the hood, blocks out all light, and the gag fills your mouth. You can breathe easily and comfortably through your nose. You may notice the thick collar around your neck that holds the hood inescapably in place. 

Notice what it's like to be bound naked like this.   Notice how you feel.

In this imagination you may find it more exciting to know the person that has bound you, or you may like the excitement of not knowing. This is your imagination so you can make it which ever is more exciting to you.

As you feel the texture of the hood on your face, and it's restrictions, you notice how much more powerless you feel. And maybe having sight and speech taken away from you adds to your excitement. You can move your head and feel the collar that is comfortable but snugly restrictive. If you move just right, maybe you can tell if it is buckled or locked on. Either way, you are securely bound and there is no way to open it.

As you notice the perfect darkness, and the tight full gag, you may notice that you have ear buds in your ears, that also block out all sound. And you can let yourself float into a deeper subspace with the darkness and silence.

A deep voice begins in your ear buds that tell you to “Relax.” Inside your hood and subspace it sounds like it comes from inside the center of your head. “Relax and breathe, …. relax and breathe.... and enjoy the deepening subspace.”

 

The voice continues.

“Notice which wrist is the snuggest and yet comfortable in the leather cuff. Feel how the leather encircles your wrist. Maybe you can tell if it is just buckled or locked in place as you feel for clues. And notice how the strap tightly pulls your arm to more securely bind you. And you might tug on it slightly to test it...and now feel the deepening excitement of being helplessly bound. And helplessly exposed as you realize how powerless you are.

 

Shift your attention now, to the other wrist and see if you can feel the thickness and weight of the leather cuff. And as you test this cuff with a pull, relax, and feel yourself go even deeper into subspace.”

 

The voice continues and it's as if the words become more and more powerful the more you listen to them.

 

“Notice which ankle cuff is pulling you open the most, and feel your openness and vulnerability. And as you feel the cuff encircling your ankle, notice that it is secured tightly, and that your sex is so vulnerable. Test it with a pull, and relax deeper, going deeper into subspace and realizing more and more how powerless you are at this moment.

 

Go deeper inside and feel the other ankle cuff.

Notice how thick the leather is. Notice how tightly the strap pulls you open. And as you realize how open and vulnerable you are right now, you will go even deeper into subspace, feeling all the walls of resistance crumbling away. Is that a good feeling? Does it help you go deeper?”

 

And the voice tells you, “Go inside and notice your arousal and sexual energy now. Notice how it is growing. Maybe you are already very aroused or maybe it is growing gradually. Notice how your sex is beginning to be more and more sensitive to my voice...and to my words. And the more you listen to this recording, the more sensitive to my words you become.

 

Realize that as you are bound naked, unable speak, unable to see, unable to hear anything but my voice, and how easy it is to let go and surrender. And how easy it is to surrender and be aroused.

 

Feel now, as if it is absolutely real, as I apply a nipple clamp to your left nipple. Feel the squeeze, pressure, pain, pleasure. Notice the feelings after it's on, and notice how these feelings directly affect your sex. And maybe you'll notice that you are more aroused than you were just a minute ago. Now, notice how it feels when I put the clamp on your right nipple. Feel the pressure, the pain, and the pleasure and feel your sex becoming more and more aroused.“

 

You are unique and enjoy your own unique pleasures and fantasies. Take a moment and imagine and feel what you would like to happen next. Do it now. When you have completed it....continue.

 

If you enjoyed this trip into subspace, then write me a quick note and maybe let me know what you would like to happen next.

 

Take a deep breath and feel wonderful as you SNAP OUT OF IT COMPLETLEY, being unbound, unclamped, unhooded, and able to see and talk easily and comfortably. Maybe stretch your arms and if you smile...then I'm glad I wrote this.

11/4/2010 12:30:44 PM

Who would have thought mother nature was into kink?

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mmarsupilami/5081885214/sizes/l/in/photostream/

1/7/2010 9:16:01 AM
Sex begins in the mind.

Submission is a mental process that resonates through your body and your sex.

How do you know when you are about to let go of control?  Does it  just happen naturally without thought, or is it a process?  If you imagine yourself surrendering deeply, what pictures do you see?  What do you hear?  What do you feel?


It is different with everyone, you are unique.   What do you notice first or most as you begin to let go and surrender as completely as you are able?  With me, a Dom, I'm driven to understand this.  Perhaps it is my mental orientation that to know and understand completely is to control completely.

When did you realize that submission is your natural expression?  You undoubtedly realize that it is a combination of your natural desire to submit and the experiences that have further shaped you. 

If you imagine your surrender as water traveling down a mountain.  It follows the path that is natural to it.  After years,  this path becomes deeper and deeper which means your submission is more and more a part of you.  Maybe where you used to think about submitting, you just do it unconsciously now.

There are downsides to this submissive nature.  you may be more vulnerable to those that would use you without giving back.  You may accept (unappreciated) abuse more than most.  Beyond these hurdles, you are able to forge a deeper relationship.  Your surrender allows you to experience a technicolor of feeling and meaning in a black and white world.  And to a Dom, your submission is the most beautiful and desirable thing on the planet.
Sinwritten
 
 Age: 24
 Cameron, Wisconsin