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Well, lets start off with the disclaimers and get them out of the way.
Disclaimers
- I am not single. I am married with a family. And they will always come first.
- I am not the master of all I see or lord of the universe.
- I am not famous or well known - in the community or otherwise.
- I have not been living this lifestyle all my life.
- I do not know everything there is to know about BDSM.
- I'm not a Dominant that you can train to treat you the way you want to be treated. I believe the submissive sets the limits but the dominant determines where/when/how/what we play within those limits.
- I don't have a lot of free time. I have a job, a house, a family, kids. That means I spend a fair bit of time online, but it doesn't leave a lot of time for meet or play. Certainly not several times a week, or even out to the local club every weekend.
If any of those things are what you need in a Dom -- move along now.
About me
- I am still learning - and probably always will be. I don't claim to know everything or have all the answers.
- The wife and I are both interested in BDSM, but have no intention of making it part of our marriage. So, we both play with separately, and we're both ok with that. But, anyone involved with me has to accept that wife and family will always come first.
- I'm definitely Dom. That side of me just comes out too naturally. I could bottom a scene to learn a play-style or for experience, but it isn't really my thing.
- I lean slightly more into the D/s part of BDSM than the S/M. For me, the S/M is a fun extension of the D/s, but the D/s is primary. ie - I could do D/s without S/M, but not really interested in S/M without D/s. And, the same applies to sex. D/s is incredibly hot and erotic, and lends itself easily to sexual games. But again - could do D/s without the sex. I'm not interested in sex without a D/s relationship.
Who I'm looking for
What I must have in someone I'm considering being involved with:
- Female. While sex isn't a requirement for D/s or S/M, it would still be an unusual situation for me to want to Dom or Top a male.
- Submissive. Switch might be ok, but I'm not interested in playing switch myself.
- Age 25 - 45. I might stretch those limits some, but again, would have to be an exceptional person.
- Someone interested in exploring all aspects of the D/s relationship. I'm not looking for just kinky sex, or someone to beat on occasion (although no problem with those being part of the whole package....). I want someone who is also interested in the submission and service side of the relationship.
What I would like in someone I'm considering being involved with:
- Someone near Atlanta. Although I might consider a long-distance relationship if the right person struck my interest. And, "near" is relative. I don't have the time to meet and play every other day, or even every weekend. So, a short drive to get together once or twice a month might be ok.
- Someone with similar outside interests as me. I want someone I can enjoy hanging out with as well as playing with. I don't want it to be uncomfortable silence unless we're always "on"
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