I was discussing things the other day and the idea of information privacy came up.  I had noticed that many people freely give out their email accounts, Skype accounts and some even their cell numbers.  I personally don't have an issue with others releasing their information, and I will, depending on the individual, give out mine.  What I did find odd was when someone asked me if I didn't like them.  I asked them why the though I didn't like them.  They said it was because I wasn't asking them for their cell number, email, etc...  I was taken aback by this slightly.  It seemed odd to me that I would need any of this information.  I can find the person in the chat room, they aren't my sub, so I can't think of any situation that would arise that would require me to get a hold of them.

So this begs the question, why does a relationship in an online chatroom have to progress to "real life" contact through personal information exchange when there is no D/s dynamic.  Or, you could ask an inverted version of that question by asking, Why does not asking for personal information mean that someone doesn't like you?

Part of me also feels that, given the troll-induced predatory actions of the men in the video chatroom that it is safer for me not to ask for this type of information and wait for it to be freely given.

Maybe I'm over simplifying this and that's why I'm confusing myself.

Okay, I'll try and put this out there in as simple of terms as possible for those narrow of mind, or intellectually deficient...

Just because someone does not want romance in their D/s relationship does not mean that they are looking for a relationship devoid of affection.  I can love my submissive, I just choose not to be in love with her.  You love your family, but unless you are from KY, you don't go around marrying them.  You love your friends, but unless you are Hugh Heffner, you are sleeping with them all.

Back in the late 80's and early 90's, we had an acronym, YKINMK.  That means, Your Kink Is Not My Kink.  IOW, just because I don't fall in love and don't want to marry my sub doesn't make me any less valid than if I were to say that you are a pretender because you cannot draw the line between BDSM and love.

We are all different, what any one person wants is what that person needs, not yours.  It is your job to find what fits you and get the hell off the backs of anyone who is different.  Believe me, I don't care who you are, I can find some obscure part of this kink that you aren't into, and then I'll tell you, you are a fake.  Lets just get back to doing what we like, having fun.

This has been your monthly Rodney King community service message.

Okay... I guess there is just a lot of stuff annoying me tonight or it's just really damn late and I need to sleep.  But come on people.  Take 2 seconds to proof your profiles and correct spelling and punctuation mistakes.

I'm sorry, but it is a huge turn off when you can't even spell properly.  I know that the educational system in the USA is for shit (don't get me started) but at least (yes, it is actually 2 words) take a little personal pride and fix the obvious ones.

I don't care how sexy your picture is, how nice your breasts and ass are, if you spell like a retarded monkey, I will think of you as a retarded monkey. 

And, given the time differences...

We're off to troll the subbies, the wonderful subbies of Oz.

(if you miss the reference... oh... nevermind)