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| Trans woman, 56
Brooklyn, NY
This profile will be deleted soon. If interested, please go to: missey56
Have a lovely day. :-)
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One of the questions i often get here is, "what are you seeking?" or some variation thereof.
it's a very simple question, but the answer can be complicated.
i will try.
i am looking for an extremely Dominant Man or Woman for a loving TPE relationship. i am also learning all i can regarding Gorean lifestyle, which i am very attracted to.
i don't want to be anyone's equal.
i don't want to be submissive "just in the bedroom".
i want someone who has the ability to take complete control.
i want rules.
i want to do as i am told, and what is expected of me, day in and day out.
i am a service submissive, and i am a strong empath. i live to make others happy.
Yes, i am an intelligent woman with opinions and and ideas. i am well read, and i love good, intelligent conversation regarding everything from current events to science to music to cooking. i am educated and i know things.
And yes, i want to have fun with he or she who owns me.
i want to laugh and kiss and hug and do fun things together.
But all the while, i want to know that i am owned property.
i am ultimately obedient, for the right person.
The right person is honest. Always.
The right person possesses honor. Always. Being less than honorable is impossible, for them.
The right person has their property's best interest in their heart, all the time.
The right person doesn't need to proclaim who they are. Their patience, strength, honor and Dominant nature are all evident, at all times. It is an intrinsic piece of who they are.
They are mature, and never react impulsively.
They are strong, but never need to tell you that they are.
They lead. They teach. They inspire.
That is what i seek.
Someone who knows the true meaning of Dominance.
Because, at the end of the day, i am forced to confront what i am.
i. am. a. slave.
i. am. kajira. |
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Is it really and truly all that difficult to take a few minutes to read one's profile before You contact them, and avoid invariably saying something that reveals that you didn't do anything but look at the photo?
Yes, apparently.
It's not the end of the world, surely. But it sure does make the writer look lazy and foolish. |
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i think it is finally that time.
it is time to find my kajira.
i have dawdled, made excuses, lied to myself that that wasn't me, and let fear instead of the empirical evidence rule me, for far too long.
So, today begins my studies. it will be difficult. it will take some time. i might change my mind, even. And that will be okay.
i have mentors. Safe ones.
For now, that is all i need.
That, and desire.
One day soon, i will be permitted to say:
i am Kajira.
That is all.
Good day. :-)
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Far too many, especially men, meet me here, and soon after, want to meet at my place or their's. To which my response is:
Are You out of Your collective minds?
What would YOU say to your sister, grown daughter, or close friend if she told YOU that she met someone online, and invited them over?
i mean, seriously, people. Be real.
So, as a public service, that i know will not be read by many, and will be utterly ignored by a significant portion of those who actually do bother, here are my iron clad, no nonsense, non-negotiable rules for meeting people i have met online:
-We talk on the phone, at least once.
You need to call me from YOUR phone, either home or cell. Not a work phone. Not a friend's phone. Not a public phone. Not a "private" or blocked number.
Your phone. Your number or your name needs to show up when You call me. i have very sensible safety reasons for this, and i am not some crazy stalker lady. If it doesn't work out, i will lose your number right away.
if you have some strange paranoia regarding giving out your number, then it's quite simple: we will never, ever meet each other. Period. it's a deal-breaker.
-If the phone chat goes well, we meet in a public space for coffee, a drink, or a meal. Basically, a date of some sort, but a casual one.
-After that, if we are still mutually interested, and i feel safe, the possibilities are then endless.
This is not hard, folks. Unless you are dangerously consumed by instant gratification, and have the attention span of a seven year old.
In which case, i am completely uninterested, anyway.
Have a lovely day. :-) |
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i have come to realize that i am probably an Alpha submissive, which i find very interesting.
i am more interested in poly than ever, so there's that.
The two seem to be related. Just sayin'. |
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It appears that almost anyone can call themselves a Dominant, and think that gives them the right to be a rude and inappropriate loudmouth five seconds after they meet somebody.
No, I will not call you "Sir", or any other honorific. Not yet. I am happy to, once we have gotten to know each other a little bit. But if you begin by barking orders at me, you need to be reminded that you do not own me.
Not yet.
A true Dominant is patient. He or she waits until there is a mutual compatibility, comfort and a rapport established before asking that some rules be followed. A Dominant who knows what they are doing follows protocol that stresses common sense and patience. They know that this isn't about just barking orders and demanding a level of respect and obedience that they have not earned, yet. If you have rules in place for me to write to you, or get to know you, that's fine. State them up front like a mature adult, not like some petulant child. Don't scream at me in CAPS.
Tell me what you expect, it's what i want and what i need.
But do it without the demeaning names. If that's what you like to do, there will be plenty of time for that. The initial meeting online is for finding out if one is compatible with another.
Calling yourself a Dominant does not mean you own me.
In truth, it does not mean anything.
My obedience comes with a price, and the most important aspects of that price, at least initially, are maturity, patience, and just a little bit of class.
If you behave like a narcissistic lunatic, i will leave the conversation.
If You demand that i take my clothes off, or perform any sexual act on myself, and i barely even know Your name, You will be blocked.
If You think you simply must(and this one is overwhelmingly for men; women don't seem to do this) send me a photo of your pride and joy, Your genitalia, please, please....think again.
Almost all men have penises. Believe me, 95% of them are perfectly nice. i understand that You have a special bond with Yours, and that You are extremely proud of it. If i am in a relationship with You, i will grow to love it as much as You do. But sending a girl a penis shot one day after You met her reveals a serious lack of self-control.
And to me, a Dominant person is ALL about control. i am supposed to admire and look up to You for leadership. If You behave like high school kid, none of that is going to happen.
i am sorry about the rant. I grow weary of children masquerading as Dominants.
Have a lovely day. :-)
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If one is trans, and has their search set for those interested in trans individuals, one will often be sent profiles that assume, apparently, that she is cis, gay, male, a cross dresser, or any combination thereof.
The rightly accepted fact that who one is and who one wants are separate things seems to be lost in a pile of assumptions and annoying judgments.
It is a frustrating thing, and it is coming from those who really should know better. Not the individual members, as i begrudge no one their likes, but the site itself.
Just sayin'.
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Something else i apparently must make clear: Although i love a good, hard spanking, and a little tittie torture is a fun thing, that's it for me, folks. i am not a masochist. i am not into extreme, horrible pain. i have met and talked to sadists, and the nice ones, the honorable ones TELL you they are sadists. The rest of you narcissists who are not nice sadists: Shame on You. And You can't hide it. i will know. |
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How is it possible to claim to hate something, while claiming to be a "beginner" at it?
Just wondering out loud. |
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Someone just sent me a note telling me he was very interested in getting to know me. When i thanked him, and expressed some concern at the long distance between us, he sent another very nice note. So nice, and so well-written, in fact, that i decided to put aside my concern, and my general feelings regarding long distance.
So, i wrote back. promising we could talk more, at least.
He had blocked me.
Now, i have seen everything here.
Apparently, there really is no limit to the bizarre people and the bizarre behavior on this site. |
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My comments about long-distance relationships are on my profile for a very good reason, and i am pretty firm about them. i am never, ever going to live anywhere else but the city in which i currently reside. Never. i am very happy here, and i work here, as well. i am not looking forward to a relationship, no matter how wonderful the other person may be, where phone calls and missing them most of the time, and hoping we live in the same place someday soon are what make up the majority of the time in the relationship. i do not want to do that. Please don't tell me that You "spend a lot of time in NYC", You "have relatives here", or "come here on business a lot" You need to LIVE here. All the time. If You think that's unreasonable, okay, then it is. It's how i feel, and i'm allowed. i also do not drive, or own an automobile, by choice. i want a relationship where i can visit the person i am with after work, spend my weekends with them, and make spontaneous plans to do things together.
Seriously, unless You already have definite plans to live permanently in NYC, very soon(or in the metropolitan area), i just don't have the desire or the wherewithal to do what would be required. If that's a personal failing, so be it. |
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| Age: 23 |
| Sheffield,
United Kingdom |
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