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Dom / Domme Couple, 56/40,  California
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MissAxois Redhead2bowned

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Last Online:


 Dom / Domme




Primary Partner:

Gender Identity:










 5' 8"

 150 lbs



Secondary Partner:

Gender Identity:










 5' 2"

 120 lbs



Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Submissive Male

Switch Women

Switch Men

Sub/Sub Couples

Friends Only

A Poly Household


 Fine Dining (Expert)


 Travel (Expert)

 Bicycling (Expert)

 Camping (Expert)

 Hiking (Expert)

 Martial Arts (Expert)

 Running (Expert)

 Tai-Chi (Expert)


 Biology (Expert)

 Chemistry (Expert)

 Intellectual Discourse


 Polyamory (Expert)


 Bird Watching

 Coffee Shops



 Climbing (Beginner)




 1950s Household (Expert)





 Computer Expert

 Gourmet Cook

Yes, this profile is on the longer side; if you can’t be bothered to read it (and we’ll know if you haven’t) it’s a sure sign that you’re not what we’re seeking.   We’re J&C; we’re a highly stable (drama free for two decades) couple whose relationship was designed from the outset to incorporate others in the context of relationships predicated on power exchange.  We’ve had some success in this regard over the years (including via collarme, as might be inferred from our profile name), acquiring assorted friends and partners over the years that now form a sort of geographically scattered network that extends beyond North America.  We’ve returned seeking something fairly specific; while past experience suggests there’s all manner of worthwhile people to be found here we trust you’ll appreciate that we have our reasons for restricting our search.    In the vanilla world we’re financially fortunate and can choose how we spend our time.  We’re both highly active polymaths possessing multiple advanced degrees; we have a ridiculous number of projects on the table at any given time, would rather be outdoors than in and prefer exploring, learning, inventing and creating to sitting around in front of a television. We make our primary residence on our ranch in the mountains of Northeastern California but have cause to frequent Reno, the San Francisco bay area, Phoenix and Austin on a fairly regular basis; it would be fairly easy to come up with an excuse to regularly visit SoCal or the UK as well.   In the less-than-vanilla world we’re both exceedingly capable dominants with decades of experience.  We believe that the assumption of control implies the assumption of responsibility, which results in us being quite exacting and yet not being stereotypical beaters or screamers – it proven far more effective to provide reward for appropriate behavior, creative corrections when necessary and to provide whatever training is required to see that a submissive is capable of meeting our specific needs.   As noted above, we’re seeking something quite specific: a service-oriented bi female, bi male,  a m/f or f/f couple (you may identify as any combination of submissive, slave or switch); for reasons we are willing to elaborate in subsequent correspondence we have a strong bias toward established couples.  By “service oriented” we mean precisely that, individuals who are willing to provide service across a wide swath of life; while sexual objectification and use is quite likely an eventual component of service it in this case it’s decidedly a small component.  While it’s obviously easier to incorporate people whose existing interests and skills are aligned with our interests and needs we’re quite prepared to provide appropriate training to the right candidates, which means there’s a significant opportunity to gain new (and perhaps somewhat uncommon) skills.   While our existing relationship structures demonstrate that we do not consider the quality of a relationship to be a function of geographic proximity the positions that we’re hoping to fill do require that relocation be at least theoretically possible in due time.   You are probably not a good fit with our needs if:   -       You are allergic to cats, dogs or children. -       You think “service” means sitting around doing nothing while waiting for a little mildly kinky sex. -       The thought of breaking a sweat disturbs you -       You require television in order to survive -       You have issues keeping commitments.   We are in no particular hurry to fill these positions; we prefer to negotiate initial terms of service prior to introducing sex or kink into the mix and will require multiple trials before a contract is extended; unless otherwise negotiated we expect to fully keep those in our service during the term of their contract and to mutual negotiate contract renewal as necessary.

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Journal Entries:
2/26/2018 9:12:32 AM
After two seemingly intelligent individuals walked away with the wrong impression it's perhaps useful for us to provide some clarification:  We belabor "service", particularly in non-sexual contexts, not because we're seeking someone to perform domestic tasks, but because (1) there's much more to life with us than just sex and kink and (2) we've had a number of occasions where people turned up and expected us to clean up after them.

Be a functional adult, have interests beyond sex and kink and be something more than just a bedroom submissive and we'll get along fine -- and you will, we assure you, be oversexed in the process.

11/4/2017 2:41:48 PM
The bugginess of this site has achieved entirely new levels.

9/16/2017 5:33:47 PM
Extraordinary claims require extraordinary proof.

One of the odd fixtures of this place are the non-consensual role players, that is those people whose profile represents them to be something other than what they are.  One common manifestation of this are profiles purporting to be of assorted celebrities (although we hasten to add that not all such profiles are fake; we actually spent several years involved with such a person who we met here).  

At the moment there's a profile of such a person rolling around on this place.  It's a little problematic because the semi-high-profile individual in question whose photos were used is underaged until November of this year, but given that it was relatively clear from the start that the person behind the profile wasn't the person being represented we didn't bother to report it (although there's the whole nagging thought that it might be a LEO trolling for people).  Instead we decided to play with our food for a while in order to see just how insane the claims and behavior might become, and they didn't disappoint. Sadly every cat eventually has to put their mouse out of misery; in this case claiming that they'd spent the night at home with one of their parent's (!) slaves when the press was abuzz with the person in the photos attending three pre-Emmy parties was just too much to pass up.

Collarspace:  Not the best place in the world to find someone for an actual relationship, but that doesn't mean it can't be terribly entertaining :)

9/2/2017 12:03:08 PM
There's something vaguely jarring about having someone's height listed in CM and weight listed in pounds.  

8/31/2017 1:39:39 PM
While this place has long had a reputation for flakey software we seem to have taken a step into an entirely new plane of race-condition bugs:  increasingly we're seeing other people's notes on profiles that we're viewing, along with other people's flag settings. Leads one to wonder what else is going astray in this mess.

6/23/2017 1:05:23 PM
That moment when the joyous state of an empty inbox has finally been obtained!

3/30/2017 10:48:08 AM
Apparently if one doesn't respond to messages in what the correspondent deems a timely fashion it's cause for a diatribe.  Helpful hint to the party in question:  Demonstrated patience is part of the screening process; thank you ever so much for self-selecting yourself out of consideration.

3/5/2017 12:43:47 PM
Voice verification shouldn't be that difficult a concept for people to grasp, and yet...

3/24/2016 10:18:22 AM
Occupied.  Focused.  It's a good thing.

12/31/2015 10:43:10 PM
Either there's a disturbingly large number of single women with teen-aged children who have been "raised in the lifestyle" or this place has become a hotbed for trolling by law enforcement.  Either would be unfortunate for a place like this, but to save time:  if it involves someone or something that can't give consent, we're not interested :P

11/11/2015 6:42:03 PM
It's perversely reassuring to find that behavior around this place is unchanged since the CM days.

11/7/2015 6:21:56 PM
That always amusing moment when a "female" signs a male name to "her" message...

10/24/2015 7:44:28 PM
Sending a chat request before establishing an email conversation first is a certain way to have said request ignored.

10/23/2015 7:35:11 PM
A minor but important edit was made to the profile regarding singles; it may be worth a re-read if you previously read it and felt you didn't qualify.

10/14/2015 4:24:37 PM
It has come to our attention that a clarification is in order.
Our preference for couples is found in the desire for stability and past experience that suggests that singles tend to want to morph their relationship with us over time into something resembling a marriage or partnership -- something that we do not desire and cannot accommodate.  That said, we are willing to entertain a single in service to us provided they can convince us that they are sufficiently self-aware as to understand both the benefits and limitations that come from entering into our service.

10/9/2015 12:29:35 PM
Meh.  Familiar names and faces.  While it will be nice to catch up with people from the past it's somewhat disappointing to find that people haven't found what they were seeking.

10/9/2015 12:28:44 PM
A few notes on engagement:

- If your profile is blank and your initial message is only a sentence or two in length don't expect a response; we see a fair amount of traffic and time is our most precious quantity at the moment.

- By extension, while we'd like to acknowledge every message we simply can't.  If we end up deleting your message unread it's an indication that your profile and a hover-over of your message was enough to satisfy ourselves that we're not a fit.

- If we don't have time to generate a proper reply but have taken interest we'll send you a brief message to that effect.  Again, we're not blowing you off, it's just that we want to both acknowledge your message while reserving time to give our reply to you the attention it deserves.

- We all dictate our respective process.  While we certainly appreciate why others may want to do things like hop onto Skype before even telling us the first thing about themselves our lack of time makes such a request unreasonable.  Present us with a reason to engage and we will do so.

10/9/2015 12:21:35 PM
It looks like we need to start a FAQ.

Our focus on couples is informed by past experience wherein singles always ended up wanting to be partnered with us.  While service to us has a substantial vanilla component that includes travel, fine dining and outdoor adventure this should not be confused with partnership, and yet it almost always ends up being the case.  Our hope is that by seeing that the slave either has no relationship interests whatsoever or has their own primary relationship that this issue can be avoided in the future.

We have no need of your money, but if financial slavery is something that's craved we're willing to negotiate something mutually acceptable.

While we're quite good at cuckolding it's not a requirement; if it's something a couple desires we're happy to provide it; if it's not we're not inclined to enforce it.

There may be zero or substantial sexual component to service, depending on what is negotiated; consequently if you're sexual orientation is toward only one gender it's not an issue -- again, sex and how it manifests is a small component of this.

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