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| Dominant male in the Los Angeles area. I'm heavyset but in good physical condition. I have all my teeth and all my hair.
I am not necessarily looking for a new submissive at this time. If something works out, that's great. But mostly looking for people to chat with about the D/s dynamic, and also just life stuff.
As far as the D/s piece, I'm not as interested in being a 'Daddy' despite my age (not interested in anyone under 18 regardless). I enjoy the power exchange dynamic. Not heavily into pain, though bad girls do need to be spanked. I am fond of big girls, BBWs and SSBBWs, though that is a preference, not deal breaker. I also sometimes like CNC and humiliation. It depends on the submissive.
One thing I've learned over the years is that people can be way too limited about what they are looking for "I only want a Dom who is between 5'11" and 6'2" or "Want a submissive who is into licking feet and being tied up and forced to watch reruns of Gilligans Island".
I think it's a lot more about the vibe, the connection. That said, there does need to be common interest. But there is a wide latitude. If you're wondering, drop me a line. Maybe we can have a little fun.
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And we're back! Been away for a few years now. Update my profile as well. Took awhile to get it approved. I think the censors thought I was looking for someone underage, so I had to revise it. Funny, because that is something that has never appealed to me. I mean, I have been "Daddy" in the past, but only to very grown up girls.
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Hmm. A single professional photograph from a female who is 19 to 25. Has a 30 word profile, no journal, and is promising to do anything I want. Yeah, I'm sure that's a real profile. Why would I doubt it? |
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Half the people who check out my profile are dominant males. What's with that? |
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What do your words mean to you?
I once heard someone say that all arguments eventually come down to a definition of words. I read things all the time in the D/s world about how you're not a slave your a submissive, you're not a submissive you're a bottom, you're not a bottom you're a 'kinkster', etc, etc. There is this assumption that those definitions have hard and fast meanings. But what I mean by 'slave' and what you mean might be slightly different. Don't let those differences mess you up. You know what you're looking for, describe it so that we're all very clear. Otherwise you may miss an opportunity because of a misunderstanding of your/his/her words. |
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I just recorded a relaxation audio recording that I've posted in my journal. It's primarily meant for women, but it's non-sexual and should mostly apply for anyone. If you're feeling tense, or having trouble sleeping, give it a listen. |
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Some advice for your profile.
I thought I'd share a little advice for your profile. I *know* this is really hard, and you get sick of the Masters and wannabe masters who won't take the time to read your profile. The thing that gets off putting is paragraphs and paragraphs of gripes and complaints about how much you hate it. How they aren't real Masters, etc. Here is the fundamental problem. The people who need to read that stuff, don't. So what does it do instead? It makes the Masters who are interested and take the time to read it wonder if you are just a constant complainer. And it's not the case of course. You're just *sick* of the crap emails. But it comes across that way. So what I would recommend would be this. Start out with a simple disclaimer in your profile, "Please don't write if you are out of state, not available, too old, etc, etc." Whatever you need to say. And leave it at that.
The Masters who pay attention, will respect that, and the other jerks would have just written to you anyway. I wish I could make them read your profile and leave you the hell alone, but alas.
My two cents. |
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Dark Backgrounds?
Something I just don't understand. The number one complaint that I see on CS is "You didn't read my profile". Then people put on a dark purple or red background in their profile or journal posts that makes it almost impossible to read with black text. Maybe it's some kind of test "If you're really interested, you'll go to the trouble to try and read it". Personally I think a light background will make it a lot easier for people to learn who you are. |
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My advice to all of you. Patience and flexibility. This is a small subculture, and it's hard to find the right match. A bottom isn't going to match well with a Master. A pony girl won't match well with a someone with a rubber fetish. And finding someone near you? Very tough. So be patient. The person you are looking for may not be on CS yet. But maybe next week.... Be flexible. You are never going to be able to check off all the boxes. Recognize the core things you must have for it to be compatible. But don't get too hung up on a little too short (or tall), too small breasted, not a complete painslut, etc, etc. It would be really, really too bad to miss out on something that's a 90% match. |
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I am very fond of participatory submission. It is one thing for me to put a dog collar around your neck. It is another thing for me to hand you the collar and you put it around your own neck. You see the difference?
That is why I would never shut up a submissive. Her verbal feedback, her acknowledgement of her submission is a big part of the experience. It takes it all to a deeper level. |
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We all live in a community that is really outside the mainstream. Consider that gay marriage is now becoming widely accepted. But not Master/slave marriages. That is considered abusive by many people who don't understand who we are or what we do.
That's why I think flexibility is so important. We are pushed off in a corner as being weird, deviant etc. And then some of us do the same thing to our own! "You're not a real submissive because, blah, blah, blah". "You're wrong about how you Dom because, this, that the other thing".
Remember there are 7 billion people in the world. Each has their own way of being. Just because you don't agree doesn't make it wrong. Keep that in mind before you pass judgement on the others you meet here. |
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