Again Damn near a month and no Updates. What is this world coming to?.
On Determination: Whatever possesses fresh subs and Dominants alike to believe that traits like Determination, Fortitude and Honesty are not universally required of any person that wishes to thrive in this world, please kill it like Baleraphon to Chimera. Yes these are all qualities of an independent person, no doubt there, but they are also qualities that every person should have found in themselves before they give or take power from another. It's easy to see how Determination can affect a submissive, if they are not determined to succeede in their labors they then they are determined to be disciplined further. However, in a Dominant, the same can be held true, if they are not determined to attain certain things from their submissives, then they are determined to loose their submissives to one who is. Such is the way of things.
9/29/2008 11:20:53 AM
On Goals: It is important in every person's life to have goals. This is further true for the world of D/s relationships. In the context of power exchange both Dominant and submissive should have goals to their roles in the relationship. A submissive's goals could be a simple as holding out when their Dominant orders them not to cum. Whereas it may be as deep as resolving their inhibitions completely and becoming the ever elusive true "no-limit" slave, ready and willing to do anything and everything their Dominant has requested. The same is true for a Dominant though it's generally easier to see their goals. But always remember that goals change, and as they change, so we must change and adapt with them. If we do not, then we only open the door for heartache and pain down the road for those we hold closest to us.
9/28/2008 6:20:02 AM
Updates coming soon.
9/14/2008 6:25:43 PM
Thank you Cora Cassandra Doulous, for nearly 20 months of everything.
9/5/2008 9:33:46 AM
On Discipline: It is important for a Dominant to have self discipline before they attempt to instill Discipline into their granted submissive. Many Dominants I have come across learn their Self Discipline through Martial Arts, Military Service, Meditation, etc... I find it very interesting to note that many of the other Dominants in question have learned their Self Discipline through preparing for life and death situations, and simply carry over the same intensity of re-training their flight or fight mechanism to their dungeons. I myself have recently begun attempting to reclaim some of my lost Self Discipline and find that like riding a bicycle it comes back like muscle memory. Maintaining it is the trick.
9/1/2008 6:56:27 AM
Will someone explain to me please, why it is that other Dominants attempt to subjucate or enslave me or my property, without disucssion to a scene. I find such attempts to be futile, and or insulting. This is not to say that the power struggle between dominants male/female, female/female, or male/male is not a luxuriously intense sexual exchange, but without prior discussion to such, is fully disrespectful. Such is life.
8/28/2008 3:32:17 AM
Wow a whole month without updates. Things have been busy here, so bear with me. Updates coming soon!!!!
7/31/2008 11:43:15 AM
On Discipline: So now that W/we all know about the various points of protocol and ways of acting that Dominants, submissives, Masters and slaves should have, we come to the thought of Discipline. I find that maintaining the discipline of another person is dependent on two things, the willingness of the person being disciplined, and the level of self discipline the person administering has. When these two come together, learning occus, but when they are found wanting on either side of the equation, things progress slowly or unravel. Case in point, take a Dominant who wishes his submissive to constantly be available for oral use. If (S)He does not reprimand her when (s)he resists, (s)he will not learn to be available, however if (S)He reprimands, but the submissive has no will to learn from such movements, no lesson can be learned. Discipline and Willingness must compliment one another to gain obedience.
7/21/2008 4:11:11 AM
On "the Rules": Ok, so i've been getting alot of emails lately about how my philosophy, or way of thinking seems to be rather unique around here (or at least unique around Dominants my age +/- 10yrs). It all falls back to the simplist of things, the rules. The rules are broad enough to encompas most everything, and narrow enough to guide, and I often find myself consulting the rules on most everything. The key points to the rules are Respect, Truth, and Choice, as I feel these are the cornerstones of any Relationship, and are the foundations of D/s. This is not to say there is a rule for every singlel action and occurance, but it is to say that by acting in accordance with a code of conduct, so many things are made easier, least for me, my slave, and in time my household.
7/14/2008 4:48:59 AM
Ok, so last night I made a hilarious mistake. At one point early during the day, I decided to take my slave without prior warning. Obviously my slave obliged, and it hurt so good. However, during one of her orgasms her teeth cut near the head of my cock, breaking the skin. I hadn't noticed as much during the heat of sex because of the condom and personal preference. Afterwards I applied a disinfectant salve to my cock, to aid in the healing process (gotta stay clean right?). 6-7 hours later, my slave crawls to me, offers her mouth for oral pleasure, and after i take my time to tease her, I allow her, both of us forgetting about the salve. The look on her face was pure disappointment, which quickly turned to laughter on both our parts as we realized that the salve did not taste nearly as good as the lube.
7/13/2008 7:03:43 AM
On Bondage: Recently I had a conversation with a submissive who made a blanket statement of "I like being tied up, but it takes forever." In that same open discussion a switch female responded "Tying up is for Lazy dominants, i like to see them work to control me." Now being someone who is rather well versed in both knots and locks (horray for years of martial arts) I can say that both are equally rewarding and tiring. To say that one has an advantage over the other is like saying the atlantic ocean is bluer than the carribean ocean, it's the same thing. I will say however grappling bondage is much easier to do 'on the fly' or when there isn't much time nor facility to preform a good ole rope trick. You decide...
7/4/2008 8:28:03 AM
I have recently gotten a compliment on my profile for simply stating who I am and what I'm seeking. I thank this person greatly, and remember that there truely can be a light in the darkest of nights.
6/24/2008 4:49:01 PM
On Sex: It is a well established fact that women don't need intercourse to be satisfied sexually, but why does it seem that such cannot be held true for men? Why does the stereotype of men hold true that they must have some form of their phallus inside a woman in order to be satisfied. C'mon guys, prove this stereotype wrong and find your true satisfaction, without a "shot in the dark."
6/20/2008 7:40:39 PM
On Pictures: Does it suffice to say that if you are looking for a partner in any lifestyle choice, that you must have a picture of yourself. To display a picture is to express that this is who you are, and your less likely to hide behind flowery words or tidhed comments. Better to have a picture to furnish upon request, and something shown, than to simply demand a picture with nothing in return. A picture, in internet terms, is a leap of faith and an expression of willingness to trust, and without trust there can be no relationship built between anyone.
6/19/2008 9:29:31 AM
On Vanilla and Discretion: Have you ever had one of those days where you think you're finally able to take a breath comfortable in your own skin and are suddenly accosted by someone who is vanilla or in the lifestyle for your choice, under the guise of being open to everything. It actually happened to me on the train, when I let slip a reference to a scene i recently had, and suddenly became the object of a barragement of how and why D/s is wrong. Despite the earlier statements of my fellow conversationalist being very open minded and willing to let people be who they are. Though we all must watch who we are it's nearly impossible to keep track of every little thing and keep it boxed. Ok rant over...
6/17/2008 6:27:56 PM
Pain is an alluring mistress. She can bring a person to her knees, and yet be ignored despite her most abhorent attacks. I believe pain should be used to enhance a scene, not be the sole purpose of it. If my slave is insubordinate or deserved of punishment, Pain acompanies the re-affirmation that the behavior my slave shown was wrong. If the opposite is the case and pain is used as a reward, then the slave is to revel in the pain. I also believe there are as many different forms of pain as there are wines in the world, and that each should have it's proper time and place.
6/11/2008 11:33:05 AM
So, recently i've been experimenting with new uses for rope. Though every use for rope has probably already been thought of and documented, lately i've been using heavy weight rope for thuds. It's rather effective because the pain creeps up from the skin after a few, whereas initially it stays just as a bounce. Combined with proper mental stimulation and body placement, it works well as an effective tool to posture training and objectification.
