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I've decided to abandon my profile on CollarMe.com, but am excited to be part of a group called Fetish Noir. If you are new to the scene, and you are figuring out what feels right, and what feels wrong for you, I encourage you to check out Youve Uncovered The Card dot com, which will have a great deal of tips and resources. The 10 Kink Commandments:
- All activity must be safe (we do not cause true harm), sane (we
only engage in activity when we are clear of mind), and consensual.
- One must always be respectful of your partner’s safe word (red/yellow/green) and their hard limits.
- We only enter into activities after we have gained trust, education, and an open-mind.
- Always be polite and ask questions.
- Do not touch anyone else’s equipment without permission.
- We always must be clean, hygienic, and mindful of our own equipment.
- We will always be mindful of aftercare.
- We do not engage in humiliating and degrading scenes for solely our own amusement.
- We always protect one another’s anonymity from the harsh eyes of the vanilla world.
- And Most importantly, don’t forget to have a good time.
If you agree with these statements, repost them in your profile.
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I need a sub to do my dishes. I may be able to repay you with non-sexual BDSM favors. Any takers?
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Hi All -
After a 2008 of only playing with one person, I realized I need to bone up in the play department (no pun intended).
So this Saturday night, I am going to play, and play hard!
This Saturday night, I will be playing at Passive Arts Studios (http://www.passivearts.com/welcome.php)
Really interested?
Think YOU have/are what I am looking for?
Come to Passive Arts and say hello.
Don't be shy! I won't hurt, unless you ask me to. :)
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Beware The Uber-Dom
Everyone’s seen them. The Uber Dom.
A guy or girl that does not know when to turn off the Dom-side. Someone who wants a 24/7 relationship without any communication or mutual respect. Someone who wants absolute obedience from their partners without question. Someone who stifles, and even endangers the lives of their partners, because they have some kind of insecurity about themselves.
These are individuals, who because of their insecurities, use the BDSM scene to try and patch over the rough spots in their own persona, but they can never accomplish this because as the old saying goes, “You can’t love someone else, until you learn to love yourself.”
As a result, these Uber Doms move from submissive to submissive, without a care for their emotional well-being. They erect a persona, as to what they want the world to see them as, rather than what they are, because it’s safer to hide behind a wall. When you act darker, meaner, and angrier than you actually are, then it’s easier to put down a partner who could possibly make you feel inferior. Becoming someone who is darker than you actually are is just a way to build yourself up by putting others down.
On top of that, sometimes these people push limits just to see how far they can get. Some even go so far as to treat other Doms as a lessor Dom because they are women. I call that being UBER-DOM, and make no mistake there are some out there that act superior to all others simply because they like to mess with the flow, just to show they can. It shows they have something to prove.
Some get so caught up in their fantasies of being a big, scary, powerful top that they sort of lose perspective, like a Dungeon and Dragons player getting too caught up in the fantasy. Or passions override common sense, and people forget to be polite, or lose the ability to communicate effectively. Or they get so wrapped up in their own egos, ego trips, and self-important opinions, that when they get a taste of power, it becomes this addictive force to gain more.
Far too many Dom(me) classify themselves as such without truly understanding the psychology and responsibility of being in that role. The lesson here is about inexperienced or potentially abusive players in our circles as well, and it's up to the community (all of us) to educate, monitor, and communicate. Whenever someone gains a powerful position (be it kinky or vanilla) they can potentially abuse it. Just look at this local case http://www.lvrj.com/news/7714647.html
Some Uber Doms don’t even realize they’re doing it; but they need to ask themselves a few questions.
Did my sub want to do something that was in no way harmful, and I didn’t let them?
Did I isolate them from the rest of the world/community?
Has anyone called me an asshole lately?
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God, I am so bored out here in Connecticut. It's snowing outside right now, but all I wish I could do is get out there and get some play in.
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| Age: 24 |
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