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Some preliminary stuff We are a single person, despite the use of We. It is the royal We and you can watch the video called We and it for an explanation. Why We use the impersonal it for Our slaves is also explained there. If you cant watch videos on , message Us and Well give a link to where you can.
Master is a gender neutral term in the spiritual Ms community that We call home. We are female in gender and sex.
Everyone is welcome to contact, though We reserve the right to decline giving a response if We feel that is the best thing to do, though that usually only happens when Were being insulted, so be nice!
Were weird and We know it and We dont care if its cool. (But it is, so there!)
There are many things Wed love to have in a slave *an attractive het man who has a... *love of books, music, science and anime interested in being a... *wittol (similar to, but not exactly, cuckhold) with a... *desire for blood play and... *no desire for a Bitch Goddess, pegging, sissification, humiliation or an ultra feminine owner.
But none of Our egoic wants are the most important thing. The most important thing is how the slave fits into the household. Our household is different than the average you will run across on or in the kink community, in general. In order to fit, a slave should
Desire to be a part of and support a familial household dedicated to doing and teaching spirituality and healing.
Have an understanding of the necessity of surrendering a well developed, healthy, ego.
Have some sort of introspective or meditative practice.
Feel that the connection between Master and slave is a spiritual one.
Practice the Four Agreements and have the life philosophies that are required for such.
Thrive from living in a household that holds itself to a standard such that social niceties (apology, please and thank you) dont apply.
Have a real desire to be of service.
Have an internal motivation for service and obedience.
Notice that none of these say anything about sex, love, romance, gender, sexual orientation, etc. etc. None of those matter when looking at the household from a spiritual standpoint.
All of this is about building a household... a family in which We are the head... with a set of goals in mind. Weve taken the time to write it up all al like, so here it is (be awed and amazed!)
It is Our overarching goal to build a household of service, to each other, to our community and to the world. Each person has a unique role to play in this.We hope that, through the items found in Our Mission and Visions statements, we create a nurturing, comforting, and supporting Household for all those involved. By doing such, Our intimate goals encompass empowering each to reach their fullest potential in their respective roles through obedience and service.
The Mission and Vision Statements mentioned, while interesting, are long and probably boring to read. You can find them in video , though, in Our videos (or by asking for a link). Its slightly more interesting to listen to them than to read them. Weve been told We have a nice voice. -)
Obviously, spirituality is a major component Our life and We feel that being a Master is part of Our spiritual destiny and daily practice. Part of what We have to offer the world through the household is transformational Psychology, spiritual guidance and Our Masteryleadership of a clutch of other healers and leaders. To that end, We are Ordained through the Wisdom of the Heart Church, a New Age Metaphysics Church, have a PhD from the University of Metaphysical Sciences and are co-leading, with slavelliot, a vanilla eclectic pagan gathering called The Circle.
We are also active in Our community. We are a Co-Benevolent Dictator of MAsT Charleston, WV, the Social Media Coordinator for the Masterslave Conference, a Co-Producer of the first East Coast Butchmanns Experience, a presenter of BDSM, Ms and spiritual topics and... well, a bunch of other stuff.
If youve read all of this, We might be impressed! If youve skipped to the end... contact Us at your own risk. -)
Love and light to you!
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I've been spending a lot of time with the area's TNG group. TNG stands for The Next Generation and is a group for people 18-39...so I have a few more years. LOL The group is more fetish focused than my usual Master/slave and spiritual SM connections. But, for the first time in years, I can just show up and have FUN. It's really nice...as are the people.
I enjoy going to APEX things as well, although I don't show up at the parties often ('cause I usually go to TNG stuff or have a date or homework or just want quiet time). My friends in the Dragon Clan do a lot with APEX and so I enjoy things that they do.
I don't go to MAsT as I feel I should. I don't really know why I don't go...perhaps I'm just in a phase in my life where I want to have fun and/or "spread the word" about spiritual SM. The latter is very important to me.
I was recently invited to present at GLLA in August. I'm really excited about that as well as my girl going with me. I'll be doing two spiritual/ritual based workshops. Yay!
If anyone wants to keep up with me better, I post in my LJ almost daily. Same ID as here.
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The picture that is my main photo was taken by Sean-Michael Bryce of smbryceart dot com as part of a gender awareness project he is doing called DiverCity (a deliberate misspelling of diversity). That project can be seen at genderdivercity dot blogspot dot com. The sign I'm holding says, "Army of me," which is commentary of how individual I feel, especially when it comes to my gender identity. I am biologically female, but when I talk about ME and the Self, I am genderless.
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Book Update:
I have books! We've been struggling with the printing process and so I
have both new and "used" books. The used books are actually new, but
have enough imperfections in the covers that I don't rightly feel I can
sell as new.
So, new and used copies are available through me using paypal...signed. New copies are also available through Amazon (Manual Creation
), unsigned.
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For those watching for the book announcement: I have received the books, BUT, there's a printing problem and so the publisher and I are having to have them done again. Hopefully next week! |
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It's official! The contract has been signed and so I'm a real, honest-to-god author. The book should be out by the end of February. A little later than I had hoped, but I'd rather have it done well than rushed.
The title of the book is:
"Manual Creation:Defining the Structure of an Ms Household"
Fire
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I'm writing a book...AND...I'm in negotiation with a publisher about it! I've gotten such positive response about my household manual that I've written a book explaining how to create your own, using mine as an example. The publisher has asked that I take it down (i.e. remove it from online), so it is now no longer available. Sorry for the inconvenience, but I'll post more about where to get the book when everything is ironed out! Go me!
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Good news! I've been accepted into a Graduate program in Mechanical Engineering. I'll be moving to Phoenix for school in August of 2007! Go me!
Master Fire
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Someone asked me why I am not looking for romantic love in my Ms relationships. They also wanted to know if it was ok for them to be looking for such. I thought I would share my answer.
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To answer your question about if it’s wrong for you to want
romantic love: of course it’s not. you just have to decide exactly what that
means for you and then choose accordingly. you also need to look deep within
yourself and really, really ask WHY
you crave it; do you want it as proof that you are worthy of love so that you
can feel worthy of your own love or do you want it as a reaffirmation of your
knowledge that you are already worthy?
The rest of this is my explanation of why I, personally, don’t
want or am not looking for, romantic love in my Ms (or actually any of my) relationships. It is rather
in depth and a bit lengthy.
If you asked my slave girl anne if she was loved and
cherished, she'd say, emphatically, “YES!” even though we are not sexual
partners (she’s het) nor do we have romance. Cherishing and truly loving someone,
for me, is totally different from “romantic” love. But, honestly, this might
all be a difference in semantics between you and I.
First, you have to understand that every person has the
Prostitute archetype in which we will “sell” ourselves to ensure some kind of
basic security. For women, this usually means exchanging our bodies for
financial security. Now, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, especially if we
are aware of what we are doing and are doing it out of a willing desire. The
problem arises when we do it because feel a duty to participate in the exchange
(marital right to sex, for example) or are desperate to keep the relationship
at any cost in order to feel secure in ourselves (a husband buys his wife
expensive gifts with the unspoken rule being that he gets sex). Looking for
outward love and approval to tell us that we are worthy of love will always
lead to disappointment; at some point the other person will do something that
puts a dent in that assurance and we begin to self doubt again…and our whole
reason for being in the relationship then is undermined. This negative exchange
of love is what I have experience and witnessed romantic love to be, time and
time again. It doesn’t mean that’s really what it is, that’s only MY perception
of it. So, the first point is that, often, romantic love is based on the desire
for someone to tell us we are worthy of being loved rather than us knowing from
within that we are worthy.
Second, if you go to dictionary.com and look up romantic, you will find that about half
the definitions relate to idealism:
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Romantic love involves the idealization of the relationship and
the other person. I’ve heard time and time again someone say, “Master is
perfect” or “Mistress is always right.” I roll my eyes when I hear these. While
we might really, fervently desire these statements to be true, they simply are
not. The slave expects themselves to NOT be perfect, as we see in the desire
they express in being punished and corrected; they get to have the benefit of
the doubt. On the other had, the slave expects the Master to be perfect. This actually
pisses me off; it’s really not fair of the slave to think such as it puts the
Master on a pedestal from which he or she WILL fall. The slave is setting us up
for failure and since the slave is often seeing the success of the Master and the
romanticized relationship as an outward sign of their worthiness, they are sabotaging
themselves as well (we all have the Saboteur archetype, too, but that’s a
different conversation). So, the second point is that romantic love idealizes
the relationship in such a way that it is doomed to fail.
Third, and this is where our biggest difference is most
likely to come into play, I am a poly person. I do not feel that there is one
person out there who could meet all my needs. I honor those who are monogamous in
their thinking, but view them as willfully accepting the things they must give
up in order to maintain the relationship with a single person. In my opinion,
this is actually, again, setting up the relationship for failure and the reason
why we have so much adultery in our society; for whatever reasons, if a thing
breaks down in a mono relationship (such as sex or play or the Ds dynamic), we
find that a basic need isn’t being met. This leads us to search for it
elsewhere, often behind the backs of our sole (not soul) mate. I think this is
wrong; I would much rather have my mate come to me and say that they have a
need that’s not being met and ask if they could look elsewhere for it. I won’t
deny that I would be hurt, perhaps terribly hurt, but I’d rather it be done
honestly. My third point is then, if we agree to give up all but our most basic
needs, and even some of those needs, in order to have the romanticized relationship
with a sole person, when the other things, even small things, fail, as they are
apt to do at some point, it’s the proverbial straw and the relationship then
can fall apart. The nice thing is that, if we are careful and choose wisely, we
do not give up so much that there isn’t the chance that we can truly deal with
what we DO give up in order to maintain a relationship with a sole person. We
really can “mate for life”. I just happen to think that scenario is exceedingly
rare. I much prefer to have a relationship based on unconditional
love. I accept the flaws in those who are in an Ms relationship with me and I
desire that they do the same. I feel these relationships can be much more
common, if we were really honest with ourselves about the whole thing. Be aware,
however, that having unconditional love doesn’t mean having an unconditional
relationship (to quote Lucky Albatross). At the very least, we each need to
have boundaries in place to avoid being put in, or seeking out, a negative
relationship. So, even though I might love someone, I can acknowledge that how
they act or where they are in their headspace at the moment has a negative or
harmful effect on me and remove myself from the situation or even the relationship.I’m betting, but I could be wrong, that what you desire in
your quest for romantic love is one in which the Master is sweet and kind to
you and lavishes attention and such on you. These activities, to me, are not
romantic love; these are expressions of appreciation for having someone special
in my life. In other words, they are expressions of enjoyment and gratitude. I
want and need to give and receive these things, too. They are given in order to
reaffirm the person is of value, but should not be viewed as THE sign that the
receiver is worthy of love. First and foremost, we should have love, and
compassion, for ourselves. So, for me, this means that while I will (and do) love those
in my household, it will not be the happy-go-lucky, wistfully beautiful ideal
love of romance. It will be what I see as “real” love in which we accept each
other as we are.
I hope some of this has made some kind of sense. If you
would like to read more about what I expect to get and give in this kind of
relationship, have a look at my Household Manual. http://geocities.com/master_fire_maam/HouseofFireManual.htm
Master Fire
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I've had several people express an interest in the spirituality of SM. I have a file that has links in it, if anyone is interested. Collarme doesn't allow links in journal entries, so the following lists subjects, titles of articles, books and leather events I found helpful. You should be able to search the web using the subjects or titles to find the items. Or, email me and I'll share my list with you in private.
-----Spirituality subjects in general
--Totems and Native American Shamanism, especially Sunbear's Medicine Wheel.
-----Other Shamanistic paths, such as Celtic.
-----The modern primitive movement, in particular Fakir Musafar.
-----Chakra and energy work, such as Reiki.
-----Archetypes, in particular, those as described by Myss.
-----Master/slave Articles (google the titles):
--Heart of Master - Master Steve Sampson
--Heart of slave by Master Steve Sampson
--Qualities of a Realized Master by Master Skip Chasey
--Officer Wes' Personal Journey of --Leather Heart and Spirit by Officer Wes
--Spirit and Leather Info by Officer Wes
--slavery is/not by slave david stein
-----Events:
By far, I recommend the APEX Academy in the Butchmanns Tradition:
-----Other events that have heavy spirituality tracts:
--Master/slave Conference in DC
--Together in Leather, Charlotte, NC
--Southwest Leather Conference, Phoenix, AZ
--South Plains Leatherfest, Dallas, TX
-----Books:
--The Velveteen Rabbit
--The Little Prince
--The Way of the Peaceful Warrior
--Sacred Journey of the Peaceful Warrior
--Sacred Contracts
--What To Say When You Talk To Yourself
-----If you have any other questions, let me know. I'm happy to talk to you!
-----Fire
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