My Wish-list
He knows that this type of relationship is built out of complete honesty, an enormous amount of trust and deep respect. He knows that this must be mutual.
He also knows that trust is earned, respect can't be demanded, and my submission is a gift. A lot of Doms get mad at that, but the fact is, I don't submit to just anyone at anytime. I choose who I offer myself to. Sure, you could probably force me to submit but that's assault at best, and just makes you a bully. Submitting to you because I genuinely wish to please you just for the sake of pleasing you... that's a gift in my book.
He knows that this isn't a game to me, it's a relationship, probably the purest kind there is, with no secrets, no lies, no hidden agendas. There has to be a connection physically, emotionally and mentally, and lots of chemistry.
He knows I'm going to love him, that as respect and trust grow between us, love will follow...at least for me. At the same time, he understands that my emotional attachment doesn't mean I want more than what we have.
He gets that real life comes first. That I have a family and that as much as I want to please him as much as possible, as often as possible, their needs have to be met, too. I can't be a slave or have a 24/7 power exchange.
He gets that I have a job... a stressful one at times, and one that I take very seriously because at any given moment lives are at stake. Sometimes I'm going to break rank. I have to. He knows as soon as I am able, I'm his again.
He understands that I will do my best to keep the outside world at bay when we are together, but that I can't ignore any serious real-life call to duty that arises either.
He treats me as one of his most prized possessions. He uses me as he wishes, but shows his appreciation as well.
He respects my limits, but also pushes them...pushes, not breaks.
He takes his responsibility to me, and my safety, very seriously.
He understands that I'm one who needs after-care and coddling, especially after being used hard. That sometimes I go into subspace and don't even know it, that I need help coming back, and when I do I absolutely *need* to know I'm his good little girl and not some $10 whore he doesn't give 2 shits about.
He's not creeped out by the fact that I like having a "Daddy"... not that I want to be spoon fed and suck on a pacifier, but I love the nurturing and comfort that comes with being his baby girl.
He's patient, and flexible... knows that sometimes I may not be up for the task(s) he has in store for me, that I'm human and will make mistakes.
He's fair, he knows that punishment and forgiveness go hand-in-hand, that a long, lingering punishment will crush my spirit.
He'll get so far inside my head that he'll know me better than I know myself... but he'll NEVER use that knowledge against me.
He'll allow me to be me, to speak my mind without fear of repercussion.
He'll understand that I can be silly, and a smart-ass, and know that when I get that way I'm not being disrespectful, just playful and having fun, or maybe I'm just stressing over the current situation and have to blow off some adrenaline.
He may not always change his mind, but he'll take my thoughts (objections, suggestions, requests) into consideration.
He would be a Dom, not an arrogant @sshole (and there is a huge difference) and in doing so, In my mind, he'd be damn near perfect.
