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Well, things are not all that I had hoped they would be, and while unfortunately the one I thought had potential, turned out to be a dissappointment, I have no regrets. I live firmly by the mantra that "if something is meant to be.. it will", and while it is disheartening to have ones hopes shattered, it is a reality that does exist and one must not lament then pain that often accompanies dissillusion. Simply learn from it, and move on. "Argue for your limitations and they become yours".. (Richard Bach). |
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I am not seeking anyone at this time. I have pursueing a relationship with someone currently and I wish to invest all my energies with them. |
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Life is difficult, once we accept that fact, it ceases to be so. The same can be said for understand why no two dommes have the same viewpoint and ideology on what submission is to them.
I do not belive men are inferior pigs, who have to be forced into being submissives. Nor to I want a submissive who is not a confident and equal partner to me. (yes I said equal).. The key is understanding that deference is given to me, and my desires. (plus it helps if you have some masochistic tendencies).
I am amazed.. truly I am, at the number of men who only want to talk about "what they want and what they need".. so rarely do I hear, what do you want, need Mistress. I hear things like.. What would you like to do to me.. but not.. What can I do for you.
I will be honest and tell you, when I encounter that attitude, I immediately loose interest. It isn't that your needs, desires arn't important, but my interest in you does not revolve around them.
Please take the time to read my journals, my posts in the forums, and ask questions of value that are deep and thought provoking. Share with me some of who you are as a WHOLE person, I know how kinky I can inspire you to be, so there is no need to dwell on discussing it to death.
Before I will consider exerciseing my power over someone I must have interest in them outside of BDSM, and must have an intellectual connection with them, as well as a physical one. I'm not looking for casual play . I am only interested in serious commitment minded gentlemen.
Peace, Ms. Eden |
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I should clarify that my age preference for submissives is between the ages of 36-50 |
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Still plugging along in search of the one who is sincere in serving, and doesn't attach a myriad of caveats to his submission. I become more and more disillusioned with this site, as the message boards seems to have deteriorated in to slam fests, and for some reason I keep getting rude and offensive emails from people who want me to be thier sub. (NOT GOING TO HAPPEN SO PLEASE DON'T WASTE MY TIME ASKING) Bottom line, If you like what you read, and have taken the time to read my journal, profile & /or posts.. then drop me a respectful line, saying why you think we would be compatible and we can take if from there. Peace, Ms. Eden |
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Here it is Christmas eve, and as we think of those who are special to us it is important that we begin to reflect on the experiences of the past year. We must embrace the changes we have undergone, and the experiences we have shared and the lessons we have learned from each other.
Regardless of where we are on our respective journies our paths are all interconnected and interect at a myriad of points. Each crossing provides us with opportunities to learn and grow.
I wish Blessing to all who paths I cross with, and may Peace reign in our lives, and our world in the year to come. Much love, Eden
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Ok.. sorry to rant again. I hate having to list a bunch of do's and don't's but I'm afraid I must.
Do not email me if you havn't taken the time to read the thread 10 steps to impress a Mistress in the "ask a mistress" section of the message board. Sorry, but I'm just not going to respond to any hastely fired off emails that don't show a granule of depth or insight.
Also, I live in Houston, I can't relocate, nor do I have any desire for a long distance relationship, so unless it is possible for you to seriously relocate here, and you MUST explain how this is???, please don't waste my time and yours. (I value yours as much as mine)I'm sure your the greatest sub there is, but I'm just not willing to do the long distance thing. Full time in my life is just that... full time. Granted dating starts of casually, and full time is something that if the chemistry is there is the common goal so I will consider someone who is able to relocate.
Let's face the cold hard truth. Commuting one a month isn't enough and most can't afford to do more, furthermore, it is impossible to get to know me and serve me if your only in town for visits, and I don't have the time or patience for hours and hours of phone calls and emails.
Please think all these things through before you write me. BE A REALIST! Show me you have possibilities. Show me that you have what it takes to support yourself, and relocate, if you from afar. Sorry but I'm not supporting anyone.
Lastly, show me your intelligent, not just in kinky matters but in real life matters as well. I do not seek a "total slave", "doormat" or someone to just "use" those are a dime a dozen. Read my posts on the boards, read my profile, and my journal entries and demonstrate to me that your on the ball.
Sorry to have to rant again, I really am serious about this, if your not.. please pass me by and keep looking elsewear.
In Peace,
Ms. Eden |
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Still happily plodding along lifes path. Had a few interesting emails, but nothing that has come to fruition. Thankfully I now have a wonderful houseboy who has managed to get my home in tip top shape. That has relieved some of the stress. Still searching for that life partner, submissive male who compliments me perfectly. (it's not the houseboy) However I'm content to continue looking. Good things come to those who wait.
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Sometimes I wonder if anyone actually reads these things. I had someone recently tell me I sounded "Frustrated" to which I replied. Not really, just picky.
I had another that I met recently tell me based on phone conversations that I was into to much pain for his taste. Now he was the one asking me what I like to do, and what turns me on in doing it. Go figure. I'm all about control, pain is secondary but it is a factor, I've never denied I enjoy inflicting it... provided it it erotic pain. I'm not into Pain for Pain's sake. That is a sign of a Domme who doesn't care. I care.. too much so at times. Anyway.. I'm still plodding along, ISO Mr. Right, who can live up to my high expectations and standards. If you think your him.. drop me a line and tell me why your feel your it.
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I seem to be having trouble conveying a few points via my profile, so I will SPELL them out.
1. I am looking for a full time submissive/slave lover/friend/partner for a committed LTR. I am not seeking switches, DOMs, or those who want to be broken down to a worm.
2. Until I find that person, I still play with other casually, but I am NOT seeking more casual play mates.
3. While I do not state and AGE preference.. I do have a few.. I am 37 with and 11 yr old.. I prefer males who are mature and settled into their career, not still in school and trying to find themselves. However I understand that comes at different ages for all.
4. I DO NOT WANT/DESIRE/ or NEED any online slaves. IF your not local to me, or not able to relocate comfortably with your employment and travel extensivly to me in the meantime while we get to know each other.. then it won't work. I am not relocatable.
5. If you can't follow the simple directions in my profile and journal and insist of filling up my email with snippets of one line emails that say hi, and can we chat.. The answer is NO.
It bothers me immensly the bitchy tone this conveys as I prefer to be sweet, but it has manifested out of frustration from the number of spaming. "do me" emails I get daily. But alas, I endeavor to persevere believing that the cream always rises to the top.
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Well the ones I was were considering did not suceed in impressing me as being sincere about having a relationship. So I continue my search. I thought I would share a few dating standards for those who are interested. Being the honest Person that I am I lay my card on the table as to what I expect, and deserve.
"In their new book, "He's Just Not That Into You", the authors have written a set of new dating standards for women. They want women to raise the bar for themselves. (Something I wholeheartedly embrace)
Standard-Raising Suggestions
I will not go out with a man who:
(a) Keeps me waiting by the phone
(b) Is not sure he wants to date me
(c) Makes me feel sexually undesirable
(d) Drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable
(e) Fears talking about our future
(f) Is married
I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me or who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.
Liberating Vocabulary (EYE OPENING)
Friend: A person who is your pal. What it generally means in relationships is he's just not that into you.
Busy: Busy means I'm the President of the United States. I'm an astronaut and I'm on another planet. I'm in a really successful band. What it means in relationships is, yeah, I'm just not that into you.
Bad boy: A bad boy is just a bad boy. Stay away. If you're dating somebody that's a bad boy, that's just your fault. If you say "my boyfriend's kind of a bad boy," I feel bad for you. If you say, "I like bad boys" well, then I don't feel bad for you. If you say, "I like things that don't work." Okay, good for you. Generally, guys with low self-esteem aren't worth the trouble. They're just not.
The Dog Pound
Question: So how do you screen for dogs? Answer: You just don't let him be a dog. Your standards are so high you don't let him be a dog. You can't be played if you're not playing. What I want to say that is so key for everybody to get. Nobody—even if a dog has been a dog. He has been head of the pound. Head of the dog pound. If he meets the right person, he will change his dog pound ways. He just will.
Question: How can I tell if he thinks I'm worth it? Answer: If the guy thinks you're worth it, he will do whatever is necessary if he thinks you're worth it. All the guys are nodding. Because he raised the bar and he wants to raise the bar to meet you where you are, if he thinks you're worth it. If he doesn't, then he doesn't. He's just not that into you. And you—we all—should have another standard.
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"If I didnt define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other peoples fantasies for me and eaten alive. - Audre Lorde" |
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I am currently considering and evaluating a few males as a potentional submissives, while I have yet not made any firm decisions as to their place in my life, it is limiting the number of contacts which I can make. I will still try my best however to reply to intelligent well thought out emails. If you are wondering why I didn't respond to your email. It is because of one of the following reasons.
1. You didn't follow the instructions set forth in my journal, Read the thread on 10 steps for impressing a mistress in the forums for more detail.
2. You fired off some one or two line sentence that didn't impress me
3. You took the time to write but it was impossible to understand as it was so poorly written, and full of misspelled words.
4. I simply just didn't see anything that interested me, nor did I see what you brought to the table other than your horny self. |
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If you wish me to respond, please take the time to compose an ORIGINAL and well thought out Email. One liners, or one or two sentences are a waste of my time, and will no longer be replied to. Only serious, NON-Married males should bother with contact me. If you don't know what to write, then start with the following:
1. Tell me what about my profile caught you attention, and how that fits with what you are searching for.
2. Explain to me how you are going about your search, and how serious and commited you are to obtaining it.
3. Explain to me breifly the events in your life, that have led you to believe that you are submissive.
4. Illustrate to me that you are sincere, respectful, devoted, and intelligent.
5. Explain to me how you feel you can serve me, and how your submission will enhance my life, and how you hope my dominance will enhance yours.
And PLEASE.. do not use things such as W/we. and UR and Str8... Good grammer is by far more impressive, as well as a tasteful photograph. I do not need to see how kinky you are as I know full well how perverted I can make you.
In peace,
Eden |
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Thus far I am enjoying the message boards. Please take the time to read my posts if you wish to know more about how I think. I'm meeting some interesting people from here as well, an have been pleased to see that the majority I have had contact with are seriously looking for a commited D/s relationship, and are not just wankers looking to get off.  |
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ok. in the larger scope of things, While I've had lots ofintital contacts, most of which havn't held my interests very long. I should point out a few things. I'm not a pro-Domme.. hence I don't just "have sessions" in fact the whole term sessions means that you don't get that this is a way of life for me. I also don't just play with anyone who asks me to, or offers themselves up carte blanche without getting to know me on a personal level and vice versa. This is one facet of who I am, you have to impress upon me that you are a multi-faceted individual yourself, capable of intelligent thought, and human emotion. Make me laugh, be witty but respectful. Don't assume I just sit around all day waiting for the perfect submissive to waltz in and sweep me off my feet. Be Real, and Be honest, and Be YOURSELF! |
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Well, the profile is up and running, and thus far I've been please with the contacts I have received. I must say that some of your are impatient, and assume that I'm am desperate or willing to settle for any offers, I assure you I am neither neither. I have others in my life that are important to me and that serve me, however only on a limited basis as I am cognizant that they are not "the one".
It never ceases to amaze me how some people expect a response to email that simply say one or two sentences. Please.. if submission is somthing that is really important to you, it pays to invest the time into well thought out correspondence that at leasts alludes to your character and your long term goals.. not just your fantasies. Anyway.. I digress.
It remains to be seen what the future holds. :) |
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Better yet, here it is:
Loving, Balanced, Emotionally Stable Lifetsyle Dominant, who enjoys the sexual and physical torture of intelligent, submissive men.
I have been active in the lifestyle for over 10 years, and Simply put.. What you see is what you get. Not into pleasing everyone fantasy of what BDSM or kink is all about. (This isn't a game that get played it needs to be basal core drive for you to serve and please) I'm Balanced, and stable, and I could care less about the public scene. (While I do participate in it, it is not something I live for) Did that for 10+ years and I don't need others approval to Validate me. I'm a safe, sane and consentual person, with a sadistically sexually wicked side. I enjoy sexual contact with my subs immensely, However it is almost always sadistic.
I am NOT seeking any Casual Playmates, or married, and recently divorced ones either. I only seek serious Partners. Those who are capable of becoming fully integrated into all aspects of my life, both kinky and not. It's the big "C" word, so if commitment scares you then keep browseing. I am a full-figured, curvacious, exceptionallytall Woman, Who often times is Not "dressed to kill" as in the photo. While I enjoy dressing up, I don't parade around the house in fetish attire. you should be wise enough to understand that I have balance between the Mistress and the Woman, and have integrated both personas into my everyday self, and both are always present.
What I seek is someone who is a partner as well as submissive to me. He must be intelligent, stable, and able to balance the realities of every day life with things of kinky persuasion. Impress me with your intelligence and your sincerity please. (I can not over emphasis that enough) I'm not looking for someone who wants me to cater to their fantasies and fetishes that reward comes from catering to mine.
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Since my profile is still pending, email me and I will send you the text of it. |
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