Collarspace.com

MaitreSteffan

MaitreSteffan - photo 1
MaitreSteffan - photo 2
MaitreSteffan - photo 3
MaitreSteffan - photo 5
MaitreSteffan - photo 6
MaitreSteffan - photo 7

Friends:
portia74LadyRobinMWaCursubmissivedollSunshineTX
atticusfinch68
A bit about me- I am a single het Dominant. I have dangerously deep blue eyes and sandy to brown hair. I am 5'10 tall, my weight varies from 165 to 180 lb. depending on my race schedule. Besides my kinky side, I am involved in endurance and outdoor sports. I am a Burner and have attended Burning Man as well as Flipside here in Austin. I enjoy the visual & culinary arts as well as a wide variety of music. Sorry about the dreadful photo, but I have a good job, message me for useful photo. I am a member of numerous groups-GWNN, SAS/M, OKB, Voyagers etc and attend several parties every month around the state. I have presented classes on electrical play and piercing at CTK's Stations of the Cross bash and electrical play for EROS in Houston. I have been asked to present on electrical play in the context of Medical Play for the San Antonio Dominant's group. I am looking for submissive females interested in real kinky play. I tend to have polyamorous leanings. I would prefer a comparable level of fitness and similar height to weight ratio in a long term partner. Belly button, nipple, genital piercings are a turn on. And the usual drug & disease free, no hard drinkers clause. Intellectual compatibility would be much more important than physical characteristics for anything other than casual play, though I am doing a lot of casual play these days. Sensation play ranging from light touch to heavy flogging & paddling is the cornerstone of my skill set. Bare hand touch, light to deep massage, scratching with finger nail/claws, fur feathers & other wild textures, rhythmic percussion with hands and tools, wax, nipple clamps, light to heavy flogging are what I typically lump into the sensation play category. The crackling arc of a Violet Wand, so much like a tiny lightning bolt, jumping from tip of a tongue to nipple tends to warm my heart. In this case the connection between the Dominant & submissive is not only metaphoric but a visible flow of energy from one to the other. The Erostek 312 & Tens are other Estim toys I use on occasion. Fire play is another possibility, the combination of visual, tactile stimulation, and the warmth, oh my! I frequently play with wands, Ove-glove and flash cotton. And of course, Devils Fire is another favorite for those who like to be rocketed into subspace. Cupping and other vacuum play are another possibility. I have single tail whips as well as various canes & tawses for those who prefer things on the heavy side. Rope bondage is another area of interest,particularly after Midori's incredible presentation of Japanese rope bondage at the 9th GWNN birthday bash. I was amazed at how much simpler the knots are than they look, but my climbing and sailing experience probably help. In 2001 I was one of the first class of apprentices to complete the SAADE Mentors Program. As such, I have been mentored by seven of the best Dominants in the Austin area. Regardless of what personalities and politics have done to the program since then, Involvement in the mentors program was an incredible learning experience for me! I am also a Toymaker. I have made floggers, paddles, slings, furniture & other toys. I have been building fucking machines, my first a 1/8hp-5" stroke machine was a copy of the blue toolbox on fuckingmachines.com. I have a sit on machine slowly evolving on the work bench now. Feel free to email me with any questions.
9/30/2008 1:47:16 PM
Hey kids,

It's been a while since I have posted here. I have been over at mostly if I'm online. 

I took a crew of 6 out to Burning Man and back. Incredible experience, it was worth all the prep.(still washing playa dust out of stuff so I 'm not quite finished yet)

I took a class in Resistance Play at Den of Iniquity. I had two great scenes at the dungeon at Den of Iniquity. The first was primarily sensation and impact toys. The second, I field tested my violet wand battery pack and inverter to great effect!!

Had hoped to play at the Temple of Atonement also, but they had already switched formats to Fight Club for the rest of the night(early am). There were at least two other dungeons I did not find!!

Over at The Orgasmateria, I took several photos of the Orgamatron's inner workings.  I have already purchased a similar industrial  vibrator and speed controller to build a knock off for Flipside & scene parties. (0-4000rpm 0-200 pounds forces)

I bought a set of 6 vintage violet ray tubes off of Ebay to replace ones I have broken recently. I broke the rake attachment at Burning Man.


About 140 pictures are posted in my Picasa.com gallery

6/4/2008 4:25:07 PM
Flipside was really hot, the less heat tolerant really suffered. I was camped way up the hill almost at the greeter station, which worked out well because the breezes were much nicer than on the playa area around the effigy.

Enjoyed hanging out with my friends at the Temple Of Eros. Had a few good scenes in the temple. Had lunch over at the Cult of the Purple Taco twice, several friendly faces from the Austin scene there. It was nice to have a gluten free meal prepared by someone else. A few other Austin Kinksters were at Camp Spank My Ass.

Had technical difficulties with my mobile violet wand power pack.

Soaking in the creek was a nice diversion during the afternoons.

The burn began with hula dancers, then fire spinners. Next were about a dozen guys with arty large hats/helmets that fireworks were launched out of as they walked about the effigy. Then the regular fireworks show started, It was pretty impressive even for this jaded pyro at heart. They had some multi burst shells that created a more impressive field of multi staring effects than I have ever seen. The actual effigy burn was really late and anticlimactic with the fire men hosing things down several times.
 

Over all a great time, motivated me to buy a burning man ticket.


Email me for a link to pictures
5/19/2008 8:30:18 AM
Had a great time at Eros weekend before last, met a bunch of folks. The electrical presentation went well, the extra 30 minutes or so was nice I didn't feel rushed at all. Did Violet wand with a quite few folks at the party.

GWNN was kinda of small Saturday but I had good time none the less. I tested a new container I found at Ikea to hold my alcohol for fire play. Looks like winner the wide base and lid that seals worked well. Something about re-purposing Ikea/grocery store stuff for kinky use that just warms my heart. Did some needle play. Then a flogging /whip scene.

I'm in a frenzy getting ready for Flipside this weekend. I should have a mobile violet wand power pack set up tonight! I going to try to park the 'love bus' relatively close to Temple of Eros. Hope to see y'all there!



5/7/2008 7:28:44 AM
I'll be in Houston presenting on Electrical play at Eros munch this Saturday afternoon the 10th at Rudyards.  More Demos at the party that night

From their newsletter  'PS: This Saturday will also be special in that Stevil of Austin will be presenting a rockin' electricity demo during class, which I suspect will continue once the party begins. I didn't see his presentation, but I heard all the giggles and moans coming out of the room, and everyone was excited by it. He's got attachments you've never seen before, and it should be good.'

I had a blast doing the demos at Stations of the Cross, I will have a bit more time to talk and then set up more extensive demos with the party following than I did at Stations. 

4/27/2008 9:42:22 PM
Stations of the Cross was awesome, really enjoyed the presenters that I was able to see. Big thanks to Ken, Jan, & Mel for opening their home to all of us. Dan & Dawn kicked thing off at the munch on Friday with the keynote speech- needless to say I slept way past their closing speech at the closing brunch on Sunday morning.

My presentations went much better than I expected. I didn't get around to printing my notes or making handouts till Saturday afternoon & then realized I had no idea where my printer cables were stashed since I moved last. So I transcribed my notes on to paper and winged it. Ended up demoing needles on a number of folks from the audience. Charles loaned me some special violet wand toys to use on Wendy for the Electrical demo. She had some pretty impressive marks for such a short violet wand scene.

Phil 'Collins' did a really cool suspension scene on the inversion wheel, I got wrapped up in my classes and missed his second scene at the pillory out back. Charles's knife play class followed mine on the carport and drew quite a crowd. Picked up a few things from Cronus' electrical demo also. Ken did a great job of rounding up presenters to cover the gamut of kinks- from strap-ons to sacred sexuality.

4/24/2008 10:44:35 AM
I have not posted or stopped in here in a while I been swamped with real life stuff recently. I had a crown done at the dentist today & am killing time till I can talk normally again before going back to work.

I will be teaching Needle Play and Electrical Play intro classes at CTK's Stations of the Cross on the 26th. And on May 10th I will be doing the Electrical play class for ERO in Houston at their munch & probably a full demo scene at the party.

I did get to SA for the Kommon Bond party last Saturday. Was good to see Charles and the SA crew again. I did a pretty heavy needle scene, needle patterns on the breasts and 12 long acupuncture needles slid in just under the skin alternating from the left and right sides coming down the mons. Probably would have looked really cool If I had laced them with colored twine, but that would have been in the way ofall the poking, tapping, spanking, caning and violet wanding that followed. I was quite surprised by the two squirting incidents all that torment produced!! Squirting is pretty common when I use the Hitachi, first time with needles.

I was on the road again sunday and missed Leo's presentaion at the mtg.  Heard good things look foward to reading the notes.
3/27/2008 9:05:58 AM
Sorry I've been to busy to think about posting for while

Craziest thing I've done lately was a double fire play scene, two naked women side by side on a massage table.  Started with a violet wand scene for a warm up, I was working the fronts using the contact pad to electrify my fingers and with RB doing knife play(sparks arcing back into the knife) on the back of the pair. 

Then we moved down to the massage table.

For those of you who have never seen fireplay- Visualize two guys applying thin stripes of alcohol with a wand, then lighting with the flaming end of the wand, then the free hand sliding over the skin to put out the flame.  The sensation begins really cold from the evaporation of the alcohol to really hot once it's lit then back to the body temperature from the bare hand putting out the flames, the whole cycle takes about ten seconds. Repeating over and over moving from shoulders down to feet and back until you hear some garbled speech vaguely resembling 'master may I cum now' and then start over again.  Don't try this at home, no one was hurt or burned and normal speech returned after 30 minutes or so of recovery.
3/2/2008 8:36:14 PM
Well as weekends go this one averages out the last few great ones. Was way too fatigued and allergied out most of the weekend to really appreciate it.

Drew some of my own blood drilling holes to finish a project. Left my phone in the house after cleaning up the mess and missed the call from a possible play date. Was way too tired when I was finally done to rush back to Austin for the Voyagers party, so I went through the motions of attending the SAS/M munch and coffee gathering after.

Would probably have crashed already if not for the stunning Thai meal I had before leaving SA (had enough fire to finally clear my sinuses so I could breathe right again) Duck in Panang Curry, Tom Yum, Whole Fish under Thai chilies, Mangos & Sticky rice

Have a Rolfing scheduled for tomorrow afternoon, it could be a long week....


2/25/2008 9:51:29 PM
South Plains Wow

Great parties, felt tired and run down most of the weekend from the work week and late arrival Thursday night but we still managed to close down the dungeon two nights in a row.  The dungeon was set up in the guest rooms of the entire 21st floor, was nice to take the elevator rather than a shuttle home.  I was too busy playing to see a lot of the great scenes going on.  The voyeur side of me missed seeing the vast expanse of simultaneous play from the Sanctuary and Inquisition parties of the past.  They ended up not using the fire table I brought for the dungeon,  it would not fit in the freight elevator, oops.

Midori was ever so hot!!  The Asian rituals was interesting food for thought, Rope dance was hot not sure how I’ll work it into a scene. Want to build a bed of nails after Hardy’s side show SM presentation.  I will be digesting the more spiritual aspects Master Skip and slave ricks presentation for a while.  The concepts of Mastery as a vocation and his integration ring true but may be interesting to implement.

Got out and did a little Dallas over the weekend- Had lunch at a Pho house Friday and caught the forth Friday munch before heading to party.  Saturday had lunch at a Japanese restaurant and squeezed in a trip to Elliot’s after the classes.  I pick up 100ft coils of ¼” Teal and Maroon rope amongst the other goodies I found at Elliot’s. Will probably cut them down into 50’, 25’,25’ each for more manageable sceneing.  We had a late breakfast at Café Brazil- finally a decent cup of coffee.  I was relieved to get some tasty food in for a change-  I have been living on salads and struggling with the no gluten diet my doctor has me on.

My back is letting me know I should have got help dragging the table and stuff into the house last night.

2/11/2008 12:12:59 PM
Last week was pretty crazy, my doctor thinks I may be have a gluten allergy. So for the next month I need to limit my diet to eating gluten free food(no wheat, barley, rye based foods). This is already getting interesting. I am hoping that this will be the key to getting my energy level back and for ankle to finally heal so I can start running again.

On a brighter note, I got the email informing me I was successful in scoring a pair of tickets to Burning Flipside on Memorial day weekend!!

The weekend was blur went to Sea & Mistress Kayla's presentations Friday night(found myself eating a cookie and cake oops). Completed a few errands on the way to the Ero's Mtg in Houston. Did a bit of shopping at Ikea- found some draw pulls that will make great electrodes and some tie down points for the kids rope ladders that will repurpose nicely.

The Eros party was lightly attended because of the LUEY festivities. We stayed till a bit after 4 chatting with Jean and Clay in the living room. Really looking forward to hooking up with the Eros crowd at Flipside- should be a blast!! They will have their dungeon set up in a dome.

Stopped and worked on the bus before heading back to Austin sunday night. Just walloped by allergies since I've been home today.


2/3/2008 8:40:02 PM
Was really nice not go out of Austin for a change, I almost didn't know what do on a Sunday night that didn't involve a drive back home and a late night load of work cloths laundry.

Did some needle play here at house and hit the Voyagers party Saturday night. Seconded for a friends fireplay scene, We were 'guest performers' in the line up for the second half of a  lesbian trio's scene in the corner bedroom. The visuals from this one will stick with me for A while!!

1/28/2008 2:08:12 PM

This was posted on a few lists today:

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2008/0125081dryer1.html

Next time a Dom/Domme tells you that he or she has not had any training, needs none and is safe because they have done it all before safely, reread this..

1/28/2008 12:23:32 PM
Wow another weekend has come and gone. Hit the CTK munch Friday night at Bagpipes Friday night. The waitresses there have inspired a whole fetish for me- their mini kilt uniforms were aptly described as ‘Like a little school girl outfit from the sluttiest catholic school on earth.’ by Big Daddy on the CTK List.

Saturday went down to San Antonio for the OKB rope meeting and later in the evening Play party. Ended up leaving the rope meeting in search of excedrin and sudafed. It took a little while for those to kick in.

Ahh the party, started out with a needle scene on someone else’s slave. I did paired groupings of woven 40mm acupuncture needles on the breasts and a trio of 25mm acupuncture needles on the mons. These were tapped, twisted, pinched, and pushed back in until we got to yellow about an hour or so later.

Scene two with the lovely subinsa71, I started with a rear arm bind based on the dragon fly knot from a two knotty boy video and built a torso harness upon that foundation. I used primarily the red, purple and steely gray ropes that I dyed a few weekends ago. Hopefully she will post the pictures. Did a good bit of open hand spanking then flogging before the atmosphere was ruined by the competition between hard edgy real scene music and poppy gwen steffani seeping in from adjacent rooms. Gwen Steffani for play music now that really is sadistic!

(I sought out and purchased two pairs of wireless headphones on Sunday to hopefully prevent future scene interruptions)

Scene three happened somewhat later after I found unattended Ipod belching GS and revised the mood. Touch, heavy touch and then knife play.

Charles cooked up some fresh venison sausage patties that revived me enough to keep going. At least I am hoping it was venison …

Scene four started out as a VCH piercing jewelry change, I removed a barbell and replaced it with a captive bead ring. I had issues with getting the ring properly tensioned to hold the bead securely. If you have ever had an open ring catch your clothing, you would remember! The ring closing pliers I brought had the bead holder tip which made them really hard to use with the ring in place. Charles was kind enough to assist in fully testing the completed installation, which has good. After all of the open hand spanking previously my hands were pretty tired. That was pretty much the end of the party at 5:30am, not to bad for an evening that started with a quest for excedrin and sudafed

1/21/2008 1:53:18 PM
Pretty bizarre weekend, really weird energy, was it really cold or has the cedar fever has toasted my internal thermostat as well my sinuses.

Was prepared to teach flogger making on Saturday after noon, but it didn't happen.

Loading for the party, a blade I had been fitting and polishing slide out of its envelope and poked me in the sternum. F@^& I will be touching up the tip on that one.

Joined the OKB crowd for dinner and then the GWNN party. I wore my black shadow tartan wool kilt for the first time. I originally bought it for a holiday trip to the NYC, ended up never getting up to the teens and it's rarely cool enough here to even think about it.

Had hardly buckled the kilt before scene negotiations began. Started with rope breast bondage, worked into body harness. I was trying to copy a 2knotty boy's rear arm bar bind but it didn't quite come together, so I redid it as pair of extend double column ties at the elbows and wrists. Played through the evening with knives, canes, needles then all of a sudden the lights came on and it was time to go home.

Other than getting to a yoga class on Sunday I'm not really sure where the day disappeared to, maybe a time warp like what happened at the party.

1/13/2008 10:30:15 PM
Not a particularly kinky weekend for me, the cedar pollen surge has given me persistent headaches. I skipped both the SAADE mtg and GWNN munches. I missed all the fireworks at GWNN which was fine by me.

I did dye three batches of rope that can be seen if the pictures were approved. The first was two packets of purple dye with 100ft of 1/4"(new) and 3 or 4 shorter strands from rope bag, looks pretty good though the dye did not completely penetrate the new rope. The second batch contained the strands in the middle that I added into the pot with a cotton vest and a single black dye packet, nice steely blue but not very black. The vest looked much better when wet, it is still in the dryer now. The third pot was two packets of scarlet dye(the brightest red I could find at the grocers). The old rope from my bag looks great. The new rope has a candy cane effect from the nylon and polypropylene mix. I might have to put it away till the holidays next year! Lesson- try to find all nylon or cotton rope for dyeing, because polypro and polyester will not take regular dyes.

I added a violet wand and fucking machine photo for your inquiring minds. I had hoped to start mixing down some scene music cd's to use at the South Plain's parties. Seems like I blinked and it's midnight before a work day.
1/6/2008 7:33:10 PM
Its been a while since I posted. Had a great time at Ero's New Years party. The fireworks were incredible!!

Had a really good scene at the Voyagers Party, started with Violet wand, moved through some rough body play to a heavy flogger finish. Worked up quite a sweat at the end in spite of the draft coming from the patio.

Experimented with using a tube in the wand and grounding with talons on the other hand, to multiply the number of sensation opportunities. Enjoyed networking with a few other electrical players after the scene.

Big thanks to the hosts !!
12/27/2007 12:12:34 PM
The holidays have been interesting, one violet wand tube casualty(no injuries it did not survive the tile floor), and the standard level of family drama

With Christmas done!! I'm looking forward to easing into the New Year

Picked up a section of 'glow in the dark' rope yesterday, pulled it out the washing machine at lunch today, Ahh the possibilities
12/22/2007 1:23:36 PM
The SAADE Christmas party was pretty mellow, not a whole lot of play going on, but spent time with folks that I don't usably get to catch up with.

The location Allure is one of the nicer place spaces I've been to lots of room and well set up for this sort of party.  And the drive was reasonable for a change! (though using the hot tub after OKB's party will be hard to beat)
12/17/2007 8:18:15 PM
Had a good time at the CTK Christmas party last weekend. Was doing a one on one shibari demo for John and jane, when jane notices something moving on the bed where our rope was piled. Upon investigation I find that mel's cat has been sneaking up on the bed and stealing our rope, pulling the pieces back under the bed.  I guess as scene hazards go I can live with that one!
12/10/2007 8:10:35 AM
Wow blinked and another weekend has shot by... Had a great time at OKB's party, was late arriving due to some other commitments so I missed out on some of the earlier play.  I arrived to find susan had arranged for me to do a needle play scene.

Then demo-ed some basic rope harness technics for John.  Ended up with multi-colored karada harness that went down to the ankles, functionally it was a rope web mumification.  I took pictures with subinsa71's cell phone, if she likes them, she may post them.

I think it was about 3 when we put up the rope and headed to the hot tub.  I really like play spaces with hot tubs!!  Thanks again to our hosts for the evening.


12/4/2007 8:36:08 PM
Have not posted in a while, did a suspention
scene at the Eros party over the holiday weekend. I think subinsa71 has two pictures posted.

Other non real life events absorbed my last weekend....

Looking into next year, sent in my South Plains early registration
11/6/2007 8:35:57 PM

Did a rope harness on subinsa71 at the Erotic Decadence Halloween, got quite a bit of attention.  She has a picture in her photos. It was the first time I had a chance to use the blue and teal rope I picked up at Elliot's during Beyond Vanilla.  Will have pick up more next trip.

10/21/2007 7:17:37 PM

Geat weekend, back to back Halloween themed play party's.  Caught up with a bunch of kinksters I had not seen in ages! 
9/30/2007 8:11:59 PM

Just back from Beyond Vanilla, great weekend. Had our own dungeon in our suite, cross and massage table. Caught a few classes(bitting, cutting, motorcycle safety/art of anticipatory service, missed a few kept running to old friends). Saturday night, had a medical scene demo of catheterization using a sterile hopital catheter prep pack in our suite. Then Malik gave us a preview of his Sunday whip presentation, I think he played four people before he went to the main party. Got out the violet wand toys and demoed the wand and devils fire to some new folks. Bought some great teal and blue rope at Elliot's hardware on Maple, emptied both spools(only 30' pieces just enough for a karada harness, will have to get back for more). I'm allways amazed at what I find there amongst the normal hardware, some how I doubt the stores out in the 'burbs are as well stocked as Maple street store. Found this little plastic citris knife gadget that will rock for sensation play $1.50. Charles had to grab few of the wartenburg wheels, oh excuse me they are calling them 'stitch spacing tools' at $6 a piece. If you get up to Dallas, stop in at the original dom's depot

Need to check my calender to see if South Plains is going to fall on a free weekend.

9/16/2007 10:20:14 AM

Wow what a weekend, great music at ACL followed by a GWNN party.  And my buds from OKB in San Antonio gifted me an OB/GYN exam table.  Gounded plugs on both sides for the Violent Wand and Hitachi.  Looks great next to the autoclave, will have to dig up the rest of my exam room stuff from storage.
9/5/2007 8:00:11 PM

Wow, just returned from Burning Man, what an experiance,  had an incredible time.  Endless stuff going on...

On the kink side of things out there I caught Tomfoolery's advanced rope bondage class at Arachne's Web
penieljones11
 
 Age: 33
 North East, United Kingdom