Life isn't always easy or pleasant and so we seek out friends and new faces to hopefully improve our lives. In the case of BDSM it is an often warped, perverted, scary and sometimes hilarious journey, depending of course on your sense of humor and if you can't laugh, you're wasting my time!

The search for compatability amongst people of the BDSM lifestyle is not an easy one as it seems that many sites online have jumped on a bandwagon of sorts and brought S&M (sado/masochism) into the forefront of what's cool and trendy! A true lifestyler knows that's not what it's about. For those who have none or limited knowledge of what BDSM involves, it's a tough time or perhaps a wonderful time to inquire within and seek out those educated, practicing lifestylers who have *been there and done that and understand the concept of this life as being a constantly evolving journey with no boundaries as it is indeed, a journey into the mind of a much deeper and personal relationship between people.

Keeping an open mind is imperative if one seeks to discover, learn and practice the lifestyle we call BDSM. It is like no other. It isn't about kinky sex but sometimes involves it. It isn't about swinging but is often used as a label to cover such activities. It is NOT a blanket definition of anything outside the norm of sociiety sanctioned boy meets girl and gets laid activity and it is NOT about violence, mysogyny, criminal sexual behavior and it is NOT a new and exciting trend.
It's a lifestyle that requires truth and trust. if you know this and honor all that it is, we have something in common.

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That said, I may come across to some as standoffish, haughty, arrogant and/or a slew of other descriptives.
I'm not looking for play partners or dates at this time, no matter what one may think they have to offer, it just isn't going to happen or work right now.

I'm a masochist so I know and understand what hurts, what frustrates and what is fun by my way of thinking. I get offers frequently from those who would beat my ass, drag me around, torture and torment me physically and emotionally but..... it is a rare few who have ever been able to touch and pull that trigger that sets me off and makes me go *BOOM* I am picky, selective and have the will to say no. I don't fall to my knees in awe of one who wields whips and chains and those lovely sharp edged objects I so adore. I'm daring and edgy when it comes to play and I am educated enough to know that there are few who understand the complicated wiring of my type of personality. I'm too strong to be considered easy, sex in itself is not the ultimate goal or turn on for me and I truly lust for the male dominant who can fuck my mind first in order to get to the rest of me.
I am also one who can turn around on a dime and walk away when I feel used. I hate to see a potential relationship go bad but if I sense I am just a stepping stone for someone I will simply walk away and leave them to their selfish games. If that means I spend my nights sleeping alone and the welcome home greetings I get after a long day at work comes from my four legged room-mates then so be it. At least I will have the self-respect of knowing I cannot be had by users and can sleep alone without being lonely. I'm not desperate for anything or anyone. I desire friends who understand the mindset of the lifestyle of BDSM in my life.

If you aren't prepared to extend yourself in that most basic human way then please don't bother to contact me.