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......With a smirk, I can safely say that one of my few "guilty pleasures" in life is my openness and honesty about my lifestyle. Others may roll their eyes, and open their mouths in disgust, but to me, the absolute ability to be truly liberal in spirit seems to gain more of a "fan club," than opponents.

I was first introduced into "The Lifestyle" by complete accident-One of my best friend's roommates in college was both a Dom, and she was also openly gay in a mainstream and supportive environment. We talked frequently, and eventually it was more common than not for the two of us to be cuddled together naked, having our own philosophical discussions on life and sexuality-Encouraging each other every step of the way-In turn? We became 'apprentices' to each other.

That was over 10 years ago. Since then, I've lived both wonderfully kinky lifestyles, as well as "vanilla" existances. Truthfully? I enjoy the beauty of a good alternative relationship-From the simple fact that most people who embrace an alternate lifestyle tend to be the most creative, and intellectual people I've ever met, and sexual activity takes on much more of an adventurous and learning content than a simple activity; It becomes a raw passion and form of expression that only serves to grow, rather than flicker out and become entirely monotonous.

By day? I'm a high-pressured, Brooks-Brothers wearing sales exec. Many people would never know that I've performed onstage at Carnegie Hall, learned as a classically-trained musician, and currently perform in a punk-fusion band, or that I'm a self-trained photographer; That I love to have in-depth discussions, laugh, or outright act like a large child at times, or that I can restore both cars and historical firearms.

To me, being a "Dom" is a title that I've found more often overused than practiced; It's not hard to bark orders at someone, but it takes more than that to actually "know" the experience-I liken it to the same way I'd case harden a metal frizzen:

Even steel itself begins life soft and malleable, and through a heat-tempering process of adding carbon, it gains a glass-hard coating, yet remains quintessentially malleable and soft internally.

A good Dom ultimately makes a committment to his partner, and despite the inherent ownership, the committment is much stronger than typical "dating." In truth, from my experiences, I find myself mentally fluctuating between both roles, as I understand the person whom is trustingly giving herself over to me-By doing so, it ultimately allows me to gain that extra element of understanding, have that glass-hardness, yet my own ductility to love and nurture. Many true Doms that I know tend to be real romantics by nature, and I'm no exception! Can I quickly switch to a Sadist or Master? Of course. Flavor is a wonderful thing!

I've been recently single by choice, as I'm not one to compromise in life for the wrong person-Naturally, I'm ridiculously sexual by nature, and believe first in openness to oneself, as well as a grasp of imagination, sensuality and sexuality-From my own experience, however, I'm not keen on enjoying with married couples unless the right situation were to occur, and prefer either single women, or female couples. If nothing else, I'd like to expand my social circle and meet like-minded people, but if I can ultimately find a woman who can think along the same lines and is looking for something long term? Naturally, I'd be thrilled!

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2/6/2011 8:17:54 PM

......I can't seem to understand "why."

 

      I suppose that one of the benefits to 'throwing oneself on a site like this' is an opportunity for honesty;  Our "secrets" have already been spoiled by enrolling on this site-Let's face it;  We're not exactly conveying ourselves as living "PG-13" experiences on "Vanilla" sites!

 

      That said, if you're presently unhappy with your Dom, Master, Daddy or Spouse, Please, be real about it-And write as much.   If that's your situation?  I won't respond, as I've been through similar dealings, and found that once a cheat, always a cheat, as well as dealt with fictitious situations, but for the sake of saving time for both parties involved, have the common courtesy of at least being honest with your partner, yourself, and avoiding potentially hurting any friends, contacts or partners.   There are *plenty* of people on this site looking for sexual experimentation who will probably snatch your offer up-I'd just prefer something that's free of drama!

 

      Just my little corner of the world.


5/25/2009 5:59:26 PM
.......This is a bit amusing;   I guess that I'll go with it, not in the hopes of spewing pure bitterness, as I seem to read more often than not, but a simple touch on reality, according to the MagnumMaster.

       I've received a LOT of wonderful letters-For someone new to this site, I'm shocked by the wonderful reception I've received so far!

       While it's true that I'm on here for everything from friendships to true romance, I suppose that I'll simply list this as an "addendum."   Not intended to condemn, but to clarify:

       I can be extremely verbose when writing;  I'm a fast-typist, and my thoughts translate well to my fingers.    Consequently?   My profile *is* long, but hopefully worth the read!    Conversely, when I receive letters containing sentence fragments, like: ".....U R som1 Id like 2 no better........"

......I'll actually give you a shot.

      That said, however, if your profile reads like your response, or you don't post your photograph, I'll politely ignore your letter.   It's nothing personal, but more often than not, I've found that people with boring profiles have boring personalities.   In addition to that?   I was working on my doctorate when I quit school, so education is a turn-on, forgive me for looking for the same in others.  

       Such gems as: "I'm looking to explore the ____________ lifestyle (Domme, Sub, Slave, etc.....)   I'm not experienced.  Looking to meet new people.  Hit me up."

       Granted, we *all* were new to this lifestyle at one point-I joke around, and simply say that someone touched off my "freak" button, and I've been addicted ever since-That said, "Really?"   "No Sh*t!!!!!!!"   I thought we were on this website for G-rated experiences where we simply hold hands under soft moonlight............!"

       Talk about yourself!    What is it that you *really* want?   (Even just to try it one time!)   We're all friends, so shyness isn't warranted-Especially given the wonderful freedom of expression that we have!

       I also have to laugh over the "30-second-rule" people.     What exactly *is* a "30-second-rule" person, you ask?    We've all had them:
 
       You see that you have a new message.   You read it, click on the sender's profile, and then get up to do something, intending to respond in a few minutes-Maybe even a few hours, depending on where you are.  ( I work in an executive position, with my fancy marble and glass office-It's not exactly easy for me to compose a letter on this site with 40 employees walking by, but I can quickly glance at new mail!)

       30 seconds later, you sit down, only to find a venomous letter from the same person, condemning you for viewing their profile, and not having the courtesy to write them back.

       To such individuals, remind me to never bother-Patience is a virtue-Or to them, "Patience?    How long does that take?"

       Lest I forget!    I'll clarify:   I'm looking for heterosexual relationships, although I'll admittedly throw out a double-standard, and state that I've been with several bisexual women, and had two long-term relationships with my girlfriend *and* her girlfriend.   That said, I suppose that I'm politiely declining invitations from men.    Sorry!   It's just my preference!   

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 Age: 18
 Amsterdam, Netherlands