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| I don't want to waste your time or mine so ...... if you're into inflicting pain or humiliation, bondage, exhibitionism, TPE, etc and/or aren't looking for a long term committed relationship then we're not going to be a match. If none of that applies, then do please read on ......
I'm fun, creative, articulate, intelligent, reliable, and am looking for someone with whom I really click on a social, intellectual, emotional and sexual level. I have a reasonably senior professional job and am used to making decisions and being in control in my work environment. In my personal life I enjoy relinquishing that control and love to please. I have come to appreciate that this is an essential part of me and can no longer be a relationship 'desirable'.
For many years I have loved being involved with sexually assertive guys but it's only recently that I've recognised this as enjoying a Ds dynamic and started exploring what this means and where my boundaries are. I'm currently single, but when I am in a relationship the Ds dynamic is always there, sometimes in the background and sometimes in the foreground. For me a Ds dynamic is a private thing known only to us and those we choose to tell. This makes effective, open and honest communication a very important part of a relationship.
I find intelligence a huge attraction and my brain is definitely my biggest sexual organ. It's hard to put into words the detail of what I'm looking for, but in general I would say that I love sparky curious intelligence, a friendly smiley approach and a lively interest in a wide range of things. If we meet and 'click' then that's a great start. I'm not looking for someone who thinks Ds is just about our sex life, but rather someone who understands that we will be on a journey together and that this dynamic is something which allows us each to be the best version of the person we already are. The vanilla side of a relationship is very important to me - the right person for me needs to be my best friend as well as my Dom, and I've learned from previous relationships that for things to work we have to want the same type of life (both vanilla and Ds) and that's about lots of everyday things.
I'm almost 6' tall, very curvy, and love to wear heels so it won't surprise you to read that I like tall guys. I have longish blonde hair and brown eyes. I'm 52 but am constantly told that I look a lot younger (only you can decide!). I have a history with younger men and seem to relate best to men in their late 30's to mid 40's but have met men in their 50's who are much younger at heart. I don't have a face photo publicly visible on here for professional reasons, but if we connect I'm happy to send you one.
I'm interested in the arts (music and film in particular), politics & current affairs, history, good food (dining out and cooking), good wine and good conversation. I am a great believer that two people should find a relationship which is right for them rather then fitting themselves into a socially accepted norm, so if you have a slightly unusual lifestyle it won’t necessarily be a problem.
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