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I've selected a lot of types of people i'm "actively" seeking, but that doesn't mean i'm looking for them all at once. I put "Switch" because i'm not really what i think of as a "Sub." I'm more of a Bottom - i like to have some things done to me, to explore sensation, sex, and to a certain degree power exchange - and to reciprocate, if my partner desires it.
I am not a pain slut, or really any kind of slut. I am poly, sex-positive, and do not think sex is a bad or dirty thing at all. I like sex and would like a lot of it.
I do have a local play partner, but i am actively looking for someone & something more - possibly even a primary relationship... At the very least, someone who is looking for a heart-to-heart connection, to hang out together, get silly together, explore darker corners of our psyches. I need to find someone who wants to connect on both the vanilla and kinky side, share time, thoughts, friendship ... and sex.
I prefer loving, positive, rewarding submission, when i do submit. I am not a "Bad Girl" who needs to be punished, but a very very "Good Girl" who enjoys the privilege of being used, fucked, and occasionally flogged. I respond extremely well to affection, intellectual stimulation, and physical touch. I love textures, both smooth and rough, and many kinds of touch, both soft and hard.
I am a naturally happy person. Don't know where my darker urges come from, but i have had them all my life - maybe it's a kind of balancing function. But i'm ok with them, and look on it as just one more thing to enjoy. I am honest, sincere, goofy, LOW DRAMA, and look for others who avoid drama also. I have stayed friends with every partner i have ever had. Once we are friends, you're pretty much stuck with me :) (even if the relationship does mutate from lovers to pals).
My big, red, hot button topic is "Trust." If i don't feel i can trust you, i have no interest at all. If that trust is broken, things end right there. I am not into bondage and objectification because i hate myself, want to be abused, or am somehow broken. I love it because it is one of the most pure, concrete expressions of trust that i know, to put oneself in a position of ultimate vulnerability, and let someone else - for awhile - use one's body, and control one's pleasure.
I know others are into this scene for other reasons, and i make no judgements - i would detest a world filled with no one but copies of me (although i have to admit, one or two clones WOULD be fun....grin). But i want to be as clear as possible, so that people who want to play in other ways won't waste your time or mine on a dynamic that would be unsatisfying to us both.
I am also, in every sense of the words, a big, fat geek. I work in the computer/internet field, in a computer-related field. I am a strategy boardgamer. I like SF and am an inveterate reader. I also collect obsure/cancelled SF shows - many of them British, and often rather cheezy. Someone who would watch Blake's 7 with me would be a real plus! I also collect comic books, although my tastes run to the independents (think "Love and Rockets," and "Strangers in Paradise" rather than things like "Spiderman" or such). What i do read of mainstream comics are the more out-there types - like Sandman. I did enjoy a run of the Rogue spin-off of X-men, a decade or so back, when one of my favorite artists drew it sometimes... but these days it's mostly webcomics. Since SIP ended, i haven't been into a comic shop much.
So... if all that hasn't sent you running screaming, if you are local, and willing to share, and get to know me first before expecting much of anything, and don't mind BBWs, drop me a line. I'm mostly on another board (that this profile won't let me name, apparently), not here, to be honest. It rhymes with Met Wife. But i have heard a lot about collarme and just thought i'd at least poke my head in.
To be honest, it would be nice just to make some more local, kinky friends, as i've been doing an AWFUL lot of driving lately, just to have a kinky community to hang out with.
PS: i LOVE hot tubs!
PPS: i am looking for two roommates for my house in Vallejo. Please be self-sufficient, kinky enough to have a kink-friendly home but vanilla enough (at least outside our walls) to not scare the neighbors. Fellow Geeks, computer nerds, boardgamers, or just nice people willing to live with same, actively sought! Good price and includes all utilities, including internet! (de rigeur, of course!)
~mae
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