Isn't it great the feeling of opening packages arriving in the mail? It's like Christmas, with all the excitement, and anxiety. I love it. Love it all and every time. Always love all the gifts I get, be them from sweet boys showing love, from naughty boys buying me toys they know I will play with, or from boys who know how pathetic they are and that they can't resist to get my attention, and the only way those little losers can get a little bit of my attention is by providing me beautiful gifts. There are also those bad boys that try to behave and be in line, and buy me gifts as an apology. Not to be forgotten are the cute boys that simply want to make me happy and will do everything they can to put a smile on my face. 

My mailroom loves you all!

"If you aren't having fun, you are doing it wrong. "

;-)

" A sub can teach you about the lifestyle without topping from the bottom."

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So I finally took that test that everyone else already did...
Sadist 96%
Dominant 96%
Experimental 82%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur 82%
Switch 75%
Masochist 64%
Bondage 57%
Degradation 32%
Submissive 21%
Vanilla 11%
Not much surprise in the result, I guess, except that I didn't think I would score that high as a sadist. Hmmm... interesting.

I've been following the forum (collarchat) every now and then, and it is quite sad to see how it seems to have a cohort of very active member who enjoy to be mean with new members arriving in the forum. It seems like people need to pass through this "new member sacrifice ritual", laugh of themselves, and accept rudeness as the most common thing. Every now and then, however, there are very good discussions and post out there. 

I guess no matter how old the internet gets, online forums will be always online forums. 

Gold medalist email of the day: 

"What's going on sweet heart I'm (...)"

Happy Saturday for you all out there too!

It's cute/interesting/funny/amusing/surprising to see the amount of messages I get asking for sessions or for how much I charge for an hour. 

Oh, I have so much to learn still. 

No, I'm not a pro-Domme.

I saw this video today at a CM member profile and loved it!!! http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/8325689/the-meeting?page=1

 Worth watching.

Awww... it is always refreshing to talk to men that self identify as submissive and, in fact, act as such. At least in email communication. That is a good start. And no, I'm not talking about the "Yes, Mistress", "I bow humble", "I kiss your feet", thing, that so many guys throw for people they haven't even talked with yet. But I'm talking about an entire demeanor, the way they talk, how they position themselves, how they pose questions, and what questions they make. THAT is what attracts me. THAT is what turns me on. The respect, submissiveness, and keeping it real.  

O Godiva, Godiva... I love your truffles so much.  
I got some truffles as a gift this week and just ate a few of them. 

I love chocolate.
I lose my control over delicious chocolate. 

I have to say, I like porn. Not that I think real life is or should be like porn, but I do enjoy watching porn every now and then. One of my favorite websites for that is xhamster. I also enjoy watching what other people find interesting, so I like checking their favorite videos. We can always learn one thing or two. 

For example, it was through porn that I learned about sounding. Which, by the way, I have absolutely no interest in playing with. Not at all. Anyhow, if you check my xhamster profile, you might learn one thing or two about me: http://xhamster.com/user/MadamK_NY

 

My "copy and paste moment". Today I sort of got carried away and replied to one of those pseudo subs that write random selfish messages. Anyway, I realized this message could be here for all the pseudo subs out there. (of course they won't read it anyway)Why you people insist in these copy and paste messages? 

Today I came across this wonderful text "For men: how to find a woman here" http://www.collarchat.com/m_1717756/mpage_1/tm.htm

I think every one on this site should read it. Well, here and in any other "dating/sex/relationship" site. 

People underrate the importance of filling a profile and adding pictures. Guys, you should definitely work on it. I'm sure many of you would be great candidates (for either sub or dom) but you just do a poor job on writing your profiles and, most importantly, on writing the messages you send to people. 

For each well-written email I receive, there are about fifteen or twenty that are just poorly put together (and mostly one liners). 

Anyway, go read the text in the link above. It's worth it!

One thing: don't lie to Me.

Not that I'm a person looking to find lies, and trying to see if I will catch on a lie, on the contrary. I tend to trust people until they prove Me wrong. 

With the fantasy that may come with the D/s world, people sometime mistake reality, possibilities, dreams, and wishes. It is perfectly acceptable to have dreams and fantasies, but I do not like when people mix reality with fantasy. If submitting is something that is part of your fantasies, do not talk and act as if this was something you would really do. Play clear with Me; be honest, open yourself, ask what you feel you need to, and be genuine. 

Probably because I am a new member at collarme I was inundated with messages in the past weeks. Most of them show that people haven't read My profile at all, and those I did not even bother to answer. Some others read My profile, saw they didn't fit My criteria, but still wanted to try their chances. Which is fine with Me. One can always try. Others fit My criteria, but only few seemed promising sub candidates; for those, I gave them a chance. 

Again I found that the fantasy and reality were mixed, and people say things they "think" I want to hear. People create stories, lines, and scenarios in their minds that they play (by themselves) as if they were real life. I am a real life kind of person (unless we are talking about online D/s, and I clear state on My profile that only Findom work online for Me). All I want to hear is what you want to, what you can offer, what you are looking for, and in what level of giving up control you think you are. I need to find out whether we might be a good fit. I will not waste My time with people that are not a good fit for Me. 

I have a job, a career, friends, and family. I have a life, yes. I'm sure you all do. And D/s for Me is something to be part of this life, and to be very real. I want to meet up with people that will be actually able to serve Me continually. I am not looking for sessions. If you want the pleasure to please Me, to obey Me, and to really submit to Me, then you will have to leave the fantasy world, and be ready to meet up in person, to deal with the logistics of getting us a hotel room when I tell you to, and have a reasonable availability to service Me. 

Let us keep the fantasy for when we are playing scenes and for when you are officially Mine. In the meanwhile, just be very real, honest, and don't lie to Me, no matter what. D/s relationships are all about trust; I want you to trust Me with your body and mind, and I will have to trust you. 

Decided I will move my previous journal entries to this new profile... and write new ones as well.