I have been in the lifestyle for several years. I lean more towanrds DOM would be open to "Switch " to a life mate. This is not required but I would be openb to it.I believe in close and intimate "after care" Intimate not necessarily being sexual! holding caressing stroking etc. I ride a Harley,shaved head,a few tattoos,don't drink,smoke, or do drugs. I am a good Man and would go to the ends of the Earth for the rught mate. I am also open for casual play but I don't jump right in without an interview to discuss limits,joys and fears. I live in the East Bay about 10 miles southwest of Napa. I will be more thasn happy to send a pic if interested. I am 5'10"/225lbs (about 20 pounds overweight) shaved head/blue eyes/work hard and play hard/have a great sense of humor, I have had my share of lifes ups and downs and want to do more of the "ups"